The lost art of the handjob

[Skhan 54]

Ever feel that a great handjob is lost in all complexity of swinging hookups?  Sometimes I am in the mood just for a great handjob, but the wife feels cheated if I don't cum inside her.

Besides, she gives lousy handjobs. 😅 

 

Who makes handjobs a big part of their sex lives?   Any special handjob techniques that you like to share?

[njbm 2,822]

My wife is the Picasso of hand jobs. When other men have trouble reaching an orgasm, I tell her to pull out her secret weapon to bring things to a conclusion. Works everytime, like Colt 45.
 

I can think of two couples in the recent past who asked to play with us again and I attribute it to the guys looking for that handjob. 

[Numex 2,332]

7 hours ago, njbm said:

My wife is the Picasso of hand jobs.

Nice, but the perspective can be strange.

[couplers 4,447]

I haven't done a handjob to completion (ejaculation) since high school.

 

17 hours ago, Skhan said:

the wife feels cheated if I don't cum inside her.

That's me, and true for any guy I play with. 

 

16 hours ago, njbm said:

When other men have trouble reaching an orgasm, I tell her to pull out her secret weapon to bring things to a conclusion.

If a man is trying for his second or third O and having difficulty, I get him on his back and mount him. My pussy and moves usually do it.  More often in encore circumstances, the problem is getting and keeping it up.  My secret weapon then is my mouth.  No erection needed, but usually it creates one.

 

 

Edited August 30 by couplers

[Half MT 194]

The first penis, first sex was a handjob I gave a boy I liked. I didn’t know what exactly to do so with help of his hand he came all over the place. Wanting him to like me and wanting to stay a virgin I continued giving him handjobs. Resting my head on his belly I learned what he liked and we would laugh after the mess we made. Somewhere I graduated to blowjobs, I vividly remember my first blowjob know all the signs of what was about to happen. 
I didn’t think men want handjobs now except as part of a blowjob or when they masturbate. I need others to tell me if the men just want that. 

[Jersey Shore Couple 126]

My wife and I enjoy watching and warming up with some porn from time to time.  She particularly enjoys the glory hole and creampie videos while I prefer the MFM and mature ones.  While watching she always strokes me until I’m hard and starting to drip some pre cum.  I’m usually playing with her tits and lightly pinching her nipples.  Once we’re nice and hot it’s play time….but I’m not sure that she’s ever stroked me off with just her hands.  If so it was many years ago at this point.  

[Skhan 54]

3 hours ago, Half MT said:

The first penis, first sex was a handjob I gave a boy I liked. I didn’t know what exactly to do so with help of his hand he came all over the place. Wanting him to like me and wanting to stay a virgin I continued giving him handjobs. Resting my head on his belly I learned what he liked and we would laugh after the mess we made. Somewhere I graduated to blowjobs, I vividly remember my first blowjob know all the signs of what was about to happen. 
I didn’t think men want handjobs now except as part of a blowjob or when they masturbate. I need others to tell me if the men just want that. 

I wouldn't want handjobs exclusively, but if the gal knows what she is doing, and has good lube, that hand can apply pressure that the pussy or mouth can't.

Some of the best ejaculations that I've had came from woman who knew the art of the handjob.

[Half MT 194]

38 minutes ago, Skhan said:

I wouldn't want handjobs exclusively, but if the gal knows what she is doing, and has good lube, that hand can apply pressure that the pussy or mouth can't.

Some of the best ejaculations that I've had came from woman who knew the art of the handjob.

I’ve only been with a few men and none wanted me to do that since I was younger. I don’t understand the lube part. 

[Skhan 54]

3 minutes ago, Half MT said:

I’ve only been with a few men and none wanted me to do that since I was younger. I don’t understand the lube part. 

LOL...the men do!

Many woman think they can just jerk on a guy's cock. Unlike woman, men don't exude lubricant.  Dry jerking can desensitize the penis .  Hand plus lube = ecstasy.

 

[Half MT 194]

1 minute ago, Skhan said:

Hand plus lube = ecstasy.

Do you bring lube, what kind? 
The men we met never asked me for a handjob lol 

[Numex 2,332]

9 hours ago, Skhan said:

Hand plus lube = ecstasy.

 

9 hours ago, Half MT said:

Do you bring lube, what kind? 

That's what's great about oral and pussy.  Both are self-lubricating.

[couplers 4,447]

On 8/30/2024 at 5:30 AM, Half MT said:

I graduated to blowjobs, I vividly remember my first blowjob know all the signs of what was about to happen. 

I remember my first blowjob as well.  In retrospect, it wasn't done well, but I got the job done and it felt like an accomplishment for me.  A graduation.  At the time, knowing what was to happen was from him masturbating himself (I did assist) after playing with my tits and finger fucking me for a couple of weeks after we started dating. 

 

So that first time, did you swallow or spit?  I swallowed because other girls had discussed it and said it was impolite not to.  Not only did I want to show him I knew what to do, I wanted it and had taken tastes of his ejaculate before when he had masturbated.

 

It sounds so silly now, but this was in junior high. 

[Skhan 54]

21 hours ago, Half MT said:

Do you bring lube, what kind? 
The men we met never asked me for a handjob lol 

LOL..whatever you have available.  Lotion, baby oil, KY Jelly,...even spit in a clinch.  One girl kept spitting on my cock in the car.

[njbm 2,822]

59 minutes ago, Skhan said:

LOL..whatever you have available.  Lotion, baby oil, KY Jelly,...even spit in a clinch.  One girl kept spitting on my cock in the car.

Hawk Tua!

[lov2party 19]

2 hours ago, couplers said:

I remember my first blowjob as well.  In retrospect, it wasn't done well, but I got the job done and it felt like an accomplishment for me.  A graduation.  At the time, knowing what was to happen was from him masturbating himself (I did assist) after playing with my tits and finger fucking me for a couple of weeks after we started dating. 

 

So that first time, did you swallow or spit?  I swallowed because other girls had discussed it and said it was impolite not to.  Not only did I want to show him I knew what to do, I wanted it and had taken tastes of his ejaculate before when he had masturbated.

 

It sounds so silly now, but this was in junior high. 

I don't remember any blowjobs when I was in jr. high, handjobs yes, my own hands

[Numex 2,332]

4 hours ago, lov2party said:

I don't remember any blowjobs when I was in jr. high, handjobs yes, my own hands

If I had gotten one then, I would have definitely remembered.  The closest at the age was an assisted handjob.

[couplers 4,447]

20 hours ago, lov2party said:

I don't remember any blowjobs when I was in jr. high

Giving or receiving, you remember your first.  Our jr high class went to 9th, so it wasn’t like we were middle schoolers.  And most of the girls were dating boys a grade or two up, so they had expectations.  It was drilled into us how babies are made, and to avoid that so we used all the workarounds.

 

When I started dating Red (yeah, the same guy in our family) I was in high school, he college, and I got myself to Planned Parenthood. 

[lov2party 19]

23 hours ago, couplers said:

Giving or receiving, you remember your first.  Our jr high class went to 9th, so it wasn’t like we were middle schoolers.  And most of the girls were dating boys a grade or two up, so they had expectations.  It was drilled into us how babies are made, and to avoid that so we used all the workarounds.

 

When I started dating Red (yeah, the same guy in our family) I was in high school, he college, and I got myself to Planned Parenthood. 

I was just being silly, no disrespect at all, envious for sure. And, I definitely remember my first blowjob, still very vivid after all these years!

[couplers 4,447]

42 minutes ago, lov2party said:

no disrespect at all,

None taken, I enjoy a snappy back and forth.

 

43 minutes ago, lov2party said:

I definitely remember my first blowjob, still very vivid after all these years!

Interesting how that is.  First time sexual experiences usually are in the poor to ok range, yet they're memorable. It's not unexpected.  Just about anything we do the first time isn't that great, even if you become great at it later on. Think about it: riding a bike, swimming, kicking a soccer ball, we were pretty bad at it and it wasn't much fun the first several times. Sex is the same way: you have to learn the skills, what to to and what not, develop proficiency. Waiting and not doing doesn't make it any easier later - just read some of those articles about women (and men) who waited until they were married at 25 to have sex - things don't usually work out.

[Skhan 54]

3 hours ago, couplers said:

First time sexual experiences usually are in the poor to ok range, yet they're memorable. It's not unexpected.  Just about anything we do the first time isn't that great, even if you become great at it later on.

LOL...for the first time they don't have to be great to be memorable, just have to be done!   When I was that age, I would corn hole a goat if he stood still.