Rings off and hidden keys

[Mikey477 46]

One particular couple my wife and I swing with always have a specific rule before ever start having sex with them. The rule is that my wife and I are required to take our rings off, and give it to them to hold on to. They also take their rings off, and they end up placing all four rings in a drawer. 

 

Occasionally, they would also ask for our car keys. Of course, wife and I always oblige to their request for our keys. But, they would actually hide our keys somewhere in their house, so wife and I couldn't get to them. It's basically their way of saying that my wife and I are not going home after the swap and will spend the night at their place. The only way we were going to get our keys back from them is swing with them that night, sleepover, have breakfast the next morning, and then swap again in the morning. After morning swap, then wife and I can get our rings and keys back.

[SJBluebirds 195]

That's kind of creepy; it's like your property is confiscated until you comply with their demands.  Or worse, you're being held against your will if you don't want to wait for them to return your keys.

 

And it's just weird.  When we have vanilla guests stay with us we don't confiscate keys.  I don't know anyone who would ever do that; why would it be any different just because you happen to play with them sexually?

[njbm 2,898]

Are you playmates or hostages?  We would go home immediately. 

[Mikey477 46]

13 minutes ago, njbm said:

Are you playmates or hostages?  We would go home immediately. 

They and us are playmates, not hostages. 

[PeterJ 959]

3 hours ago, Mikey477 said:

One particular couple my wife and I swing with always have a specific rule before ever start having sex with them. The rule is that my wife and I are required to take our rings off, and give it to them to hold on to. They also take their rings off, and they end up placing all four rings in a drawer. 

 

Occasionally, they would also ask for our car keys. Of course, wife and I always oblige to their request for our keys. But, they would actually hide our keys somewhere in their house, so wife and I couldn't get to them. It's basically their way of saying that my wife and I are not going home after the swap and will spend the night at their place. The only way we were going to get our keys back from them is swing with them that night, sleepover, have breakfast the next morning, and then swap again in the morning. After morning swap, then wife and I can get our rings and keys back.

This comes across to me, Mikey, as a power dynamic. They assert their control of the event and of you two. And as you frame it in your post, you and your wife seem to like it that way, Or at least are fine with it. 

[lcmim 1,086]

If someone(S) pulled that stuff on us we would be gone.

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

I concur with others; if that happened to us, we would be gone. We don't take our wedding rings off when we play. They stay on. Swinging is part of our marriage, not something we do outside of our marriage. Removing the rings is like saying "this doesn't belong in our marriage". That, and the reality that the rings disappear? Our rings have immense emotional importance to us. If they were lost or taken we would be devastated. The keys bit is just icing on the negative cake. No way, no how, not happening. We decide when we leave, not another couple.

[Mikey477 46]

5 hours ago, PeterJ said:

This comes across to me, Mikey, as a power dynamic. They assert their control of the event and of you two. And as you frame it in your post, you and your wife seem to like it that way, Or at least are fine with it. 

Well, wife and I are fine with it. 

[oldswinger64 112]

Everyone has different things that they enjoy, or that turn them on. The important part is to find people who fit you and your partner.  This works for you and for them.  Then that is great!

[Baconheads 437]

On 9/24/2024 at 12:48 PM, Mikey477 said:

They and us are playmates, not hostages. 

How hot are they?  And how hot is the sex?  Is it worth the potential drama?  What if you had a babysitter to get home?

[Mikey477 46]

7 hours ago, Baconheads said:

How hot are they?  And how hot is the sex?  Is it worth the potential drama?  What if you had a babysitter to get home?

They're not super models, but they are quite attractive. The sex with them is always enjoyable to my wife, myself, and the other couple. Haven't had drama with them yet, so not really worried. We drop our kids off at our parents place.