Rings off and hidden keys

[Mikey477 52]

One particular couple my wife and I swing with always have a specific rule before ever start having sex with them. The rule is that my wife and I are required to take our rings off, and give it to them to hold on to. They also take their rings off, and they end up placing all four rings in a drawer. 

 

Occasionally, they would also ask for our car keys. Of course, wife and I always oblige to their request for our keys. But, they would actually hide our keys somewhere in their house, so wife and I couldn't get to them. It's basically their way of saying that my wife and I are not going home after the swap and will spend the night at their place. The only way we were going to get our keys back from them is swing with them that night, sleepover, have breakfast the next morning, and then swap again in the morning. After morning swap, then wife and I can get our rings and keys back.

[SJBluebirds 197]

That's kind of creepy; it's like your property is confiscated until you comply with their demands.  Or worse, you're being held against your will if you don't want to wait for them to return your keys.

 

And it's just weird.  When we have vanilla guests stay with us we don't confiscate keys.  I don't know anyone who would ever do that; why would it be any different just because you happen to play with them sexually?

[njbm 2,932]

Are you playmates or hostages?  We would go home immediately. 

[Mikey477 52]

13 minutes ago, njbm said:

Are you playmates or hostages?  We would go home immediately. 

They and us are playmates, not hostages. 

[PeterJ 981]

3 hours ago, Mikey477 said:

One particular couple my wife and I swing with always have a specific rule before ever start having sex with them. The rule is that my wife and I are required to take our rings off, and give it to them to hold on to. They also take their rings off, and they end up placing all four rings in a drawer. 

 

Occasionally, they would also ask for our car keys. Of course, wife and I always oblige to their request for our keys. But, they would actually hide our keys somewhere in their house, so wife and I couldn't get to them. It's basically their way of saying that my wife and I are not going home after the swap and will spend the night at their place. The only way we were going to get our keys back from them is swing with them that night, sleepover, have breakfast the next morning, and then swap again in the morning. After morning swap, then wife and I can get our rings and keys back.

This comes across to me, Mikey, as a power dynamic. They assert their control of the event and of you two. And as you frame it in your post, you and your wife seem to like it that way, Or at least are fine with it. 

[lcmim 1,096]

If someone(S) pulled that stuff on us we would be gone.

[bbarnsworth 2,667]

I concur with others; if that happened to us, we would be gone. We don't take our wedding rings off when we play. They stay on. Swinging is part of our marriage, not something we do outside of our marriage. Removing the rings is like saying "this doesn't belong in our marriage". That, and the reality that the rings disappear? Our rings have immense emotional importance to us. If they were lost or taken we would be devastated. The keys bit is just icing on the negative cake. No way, no how, not happening. We decide when we leave, not another couple.

[Mikey477 52]

5 hours ago, PeterJ said:

This comes across to me, Mikey, as a power dynamic. They assert their control of the event and of you two. And as you frame it in your post, you and your wife seem to like it that way, Or at least are fine with it. 

Well, wife and I are fine with it. 

[oldswinger64 126]

Everyone has different things that they enjoy, or that turn them on. The important part is to find people who fit you and your partner.  This works for you and for them.  Then that is great!

[Baconheads 455]

On 9/24/2024 at 12:48 PM, Mikey477 said:

They and us are playmates, not hostages. 

How hot are they?  And how hot is the sex?  Is it worth the potential drama?  What if you had a babysitter to get home?

[Mikey477 52]

7 hours ago, Baconheads said:

How hot are they?  And how hot is the sex?  Is it worth the potential drama?  What if you had a babysitter to get home?

They're not super models, but they are quite attractive. The sex with them is always enjoyable to my wife, myself, and the other couple. Haven't had drama with them yet, so not really worried. We drop our kids off at our parents place.

[KatrinaandDriverX 138]

It seems to me to be one of those things that seems fun and playful, until some puts an 'eye' out. It strikes me as an odd bit of role playing taking rings off. Yet, if oyu want to feel 'single' again, know yourself out. If everyone agrees and is on on the joke, to each their own.

 

For us, we'll stay for breakfast of our free will.  Morning sex, can be, literally and figuratively, on the table. Which I have done (just once)  complete with the  'powdered sugar' treatment.

 

 

Katrina

 

[couplers 4,817]

On 12/22/2024 at 1:42 PM, KatrinaandDriverX said:

It seems to me to be one of those things that seems fun and playful, until

... until someone gets knocked down, knocked out, or knocked up.

 

[Fundamental Law 2,940]

Ummm…no thanks…we’ll show ourselves out. 

[couplers 4,817]

31 minutes ago, Fundamental Law said:

…we’ll show ourselves out.

A guy once told me during sex that he was into discipline.  So I made him stand in the corner for the rest of the night.

[Numex 2,492]

On 1/19/2025 at 6:12 AM, couplers said:

I made him stand in the corner for the rest of the night.

Deprivation is harsh discipline. 

[TandDlooking 3]

Not often, but a few times we couldn’t wait to get the hell out of there after sex.

[WesternSwing 521]

Ummm. Yeah... No.

 

Those rules are HUGE red flags for me. Creepy, controlling, and borders on kidnapping. To each their own, but I would have ended the night right there and blocked them on the swinger's site.