Insecurities

[Kittykat77 1]

Looking for advice and tips on getting out of your own head. My husband 41 and myself 34, are about a year into the LS. Looking to do a full swap with our friends and playmates. However, I am one of those unfortunate women who have a difficult timeg when it's someone new. The other female we intend to swap with does not. She cums very easily, ie piss play, tossing salad etc. My insecurity comes with swapping and my husband making her cum through various ways, making me jealous that he can't do that for me. He is a very giving man and always make sure I get off first. But I will admit , he has mentioned, he wishes I could get off from piV more Instead of always having to go down on me. We have tried different positions, toys, etc., but it is still hard for me and I have to be in just the right position, toy, clit stimulation to get off during piv. We have soft swapped with them and had a great time, but I am worried for how I will feel after a full swap. My husband is supportive and says we don't move forward until I feel comfortable, but I just don't know how to make myself feel more comfortable and not insecure. How do I deal with my insecurities And not compare myself to other people?

[njbm 2,896]

Relax, maybe have a drink first if you imbibe, and ride the pony. The fun of swinging is that everyone is different and it is up to the new partner to figure out what makes their partner feel good. We have both encountered partners that rang our bell and we have rung some bells, too. Some encounters have been unsuccessful, some boring. That’s the voyage. We hope our partner is fulfilled, we hope we are. If not, maybe next time. We don’t keep score, it’s not a competition. Have fun!

[TnA83 314]

Since you have decided to go full swap, have one of the men inside you, while the other, or the other girl, go down on you.  There are various ways to accomplish that, but I suspect that you will like the results!  Maybe you will even learn how to bridge the gap and be able to cum with only PiV, but that's not guaranteed.

[oldswinger64 112]

My wife never came during swinging.  It was all foreplay for when we were alone afterwards.  She also never cums with penetration.  Everyone is different and just accept who you are.