Tips for a Better Performance

[Jersey Shore Couple 128]

So many times I read here, and elsewhere, that it's not about the size of the male's package but how he uses it.

 

Maybe the community here can offer some suggestions for inquiring minds as to how to better use what 'he' has to offer? 

 

For me, and in my experience, foreplay is everything....once you get her hot...and wet...it's pretty easy to close the deal and give 'her' at least one good orgasm.  BUT.....there are a lot of guys, in particular, that may be looking for more clarity and some suggestions from those experienced in the lifestyle. 

 

So, any suggestions or directions to offer??

Edited September 29 by Jersey Shore Couple

[Juan234 17]

It’s a Groucho Marx moment that if I answer a big dick matters most, you answer I am terrible in bed.  And if I answer that it is better to do a good job, you then welcome me to the little dick club. 
 

I am sure the boys can offer advice, but when it comes to size, it is just the tip of the iceberg.  The ladies are the ones that rule here.  And each woman can need to orgasm through different stimuli.   For example, in the film “Porn Star: The Legend of Ron Jeremy (2001)”, the protagonist claims some women can only orgasm through clockwise clitoral stimulation, while for others it is counterclockwise. For small vaginas, there can only be small penises.  Accordingly, a tight vagina feels nice, but a loose one also signals anything goes and can let loose a MILF fantasy.  We tend to be so self-conscious. 
 

At the end if the day men are visually focused and women are more into foreplay.  Why are women like ovens?  Because you have to turn on the heat before you put in the meat.  What you have got right is a wet vagina, its play time!

 

My take is that the largest sexual organ is the mind.  If you can have intense conversation, or fantasies, then the physical follows. 

[couplers 4,551]

2 hours ago, Juan234 said:

The ladies are the ones that rule here.

You are correct that in one regard, women have it easy.  If a guy can't get hard and keep it up, it's his fault.  If the woman he's with isn't aroused, doesn't get wet, doesn't orgasm, it's his fault.  (Although the guys in our house are lucky, we women are easily aroused and orgasm.)

 

Further, men fret far more about the size of their dick (length, thickness) than women (or men) are concerned about the tightness of her vagina.  You never hear a guy complain that a pussy was so loose that he couldn't orgasm.

 

Finally, when a woman goes a second time with a fresh partner, time to celebrate sloppy seconds.  When a fresh woman gets a man who has just gone a round with another woman, however, even if he can do it there's little to no cum.

[oldswinger64 111]

The most important sexual organ is the brain.

[AdamGunn2 370]

For both my wife and I, one of the happiest things about swinging is trying to understand what a partner - particularly a new partner - is willing to do, is wanting to do and is hoping to do.

 

From the very first moment of the meet, a good lover - and we've both had dozens (in her case scores) - excites you, incites you. This works both ways. If your partner is looking forward to the first unbuttoning of a shirt, the unzipping of a zipper, you're halfway there, and all you have to do is keep going.

 

How do you do that? Look for clues - they are there! A touch of a shoulder, a quickening of a breath, a fiery glow of the eye - these are all signals that your prospective partner wants you to go further. 

 

Yes, each person is different - and on different nights, each person might be different from the night before.  It's up to you to discover their wants, to incite them to sexual fervor. And for you, the reward is their completion.