Do you try to keep your kinks a secret?

[Anon321 521]

In our hotwifing (well, hot-GFing) lifestyle, we are at a place where the rules are very simple; if my GF consents to it, it's fine.  Obviously a lot of the guys she fucks are good friends of ours.  They were either my friends, her friends, friends we met together, etc.  Obviously we engage with strangers as well but that isn't related so much to this.

 

Anyway, what I've noticed over the years is that some guys, especially some of my close friends, have requested to keep some of their actions or kinks private between them and my GF.  Of course early on my GF was a bit hesitant to divulge all of the information as she felt awkward or bad about it but ultimately she does.  Nowadays she pretty much just opens up to me about everything, which is how we like it.  However, I told her early on that I would never tell any of my friends that she told me about what they did or what they requested to do if they asked her to keep it private from me.

 

Have any of you tried to explore your kinks, fetishes, etc., this way while trying to also keep them private?  Do you actually think the person wouldn't divulge it to their SO?

[lovefest04 698]

I'll chime in.

 

Our 45 year relationship is partly based on our open, honest and complete divulgench (is that a word) of information. There are only a handful of things that friends have asked me not to share and sometimes I don't. I tell folks up front if our conversation gets into delicate waters, that I share almost everything with my wife. I won't go running to her to tell her things, but I won't lie when asked. It's worked really well for years.

 

My opinion, and that's all it is, is that the activities completed during 'hot'GF'ing' would be open for complete disclosure. In fact, that would be some of the hottest shit out there. I love to hear of her escapades, it's part of the game.

 

Sounds like you're having a great time and I see no reason why she should keep anything in that space private.

 

 

[lcmim 1,081]

Simply put: What is said to one is said to both. If you do not want that do not put it out there.

 

The confidentiality of what is between us is absolute.