Accidentally saving a marriage

[Mikey477 42]

There was a couple my wife and I occasionally swing with that had trouble in their marriage. They were a good looking couple, in their late 30s, and they already had 3 kids, when we first starting swinging with them. At the time, my wife and I had no idea they were going through trouble, we just assumed they were just ordinary newbies. After 2 years of swinging with them, they actually opened up about their marital problems they had before, but now they're a happy couple again.

 

Now, long story short about their marital problem was, the husband and wife weren't spending a lot of time together, the husband focused a lot of time in his work, the wife focused on their kids and work, vacation became rare for them, and their sex life was "meh". One very sad moment in their life was when it was their anniversary, and they did nothing to celebrate it at all. When they began swinging with me and my wife, they started spending more time together, like going out to dinner more, taking time off work more to be with family, or even just going on a hike together as a couple. And of course, they even told us that their sex life gotten way better since they started swinging with us. 

 

Now, would y'all be surprised if y'all accidentally saved a marriage through swinging? Because my wife and I were pretty surprised, but very happy for them.

[lcmim 1,077]

I wonder if the swinging is the operative Factor here. 

Someone once said something to the effect of if you want to be successful hang out with successful people and do what they do. 

We have had the experience the people's marriages have been helped in one way or another by hanging out with us. I think that is largely because they modeled some behaviors that we have that we think of as just good marital hygiene. 

If you are married and happy about being with your partner and having fun to boot that can't help but rub off on people that are around you. 

 

 

 

 

[njbm 2,856]

Swinger couples often have good decision making ability. Deciding when and with whom to play requires executive decision making skills. 

[bbarnsworth 2,634]

I can fully imagine this happening, though it hasn't happened to us (that we know of). There was one couple we almost played with that played with another couple right before they were to meet up with us for a play date. That first time playing caused the wife to leave the husband, and that was that. Some time later, my wife and I played with the jilted husband in a MFM.

[couplers 4,553]

20 hours ago, Mikey477 said:

their sex life was "meh". .. When they began swinging with me and my wife, they started spending more time together, ... their sex life gotten way better since they started swinging with us. 

The sex lives of our poly family has never been "meh," but believe me, sharing among ourselves and especially playing outside the family is incredibly exciting.

 

And it hits from both sides - having more than one sex partner yourself and knowing, watching the other (or others) you love being pleased and satisfied by another sex partner can only increase your love and desire for them. 

[Numex 2,347]

I've told the story many times before but to repeat, before Daniela and I got married she had relationships with many married men. Her motives were complicated and she did it for her own satisfaction as well, but primarily she got involved with these guys to help their marriages. She listened, gave them psychotherapy, pointed out all the good characteristics of their wives, bought gifts for the husbands to give their wives, performed sex acts they never got at home and fucked their brains out. And from what Daniela has told me, these marriages improved. To me it's actually pretty simple - getting good sex from Daniela improved their mood so they were nicer to their wives.