Women explore more than men?

[BillyandDebbie 301]

Debbie was invited with me to meet three couples at a house dinner party. Two of the couples were already friends, the others were very new to the lifestyle. 
Our play is limited starting with real friends who introduced us to playing and a few others we met over the last few years. 
My observation, men play with women, women play with both. I am comfortable being naked with men and women, I just don’t have and desire to touch, kiss or have sexual contact with another man. No attempts by the other men we met. Conversely every woman including Debbie has gone all the way. I watched Debbie the first time with our friend. She hesitated in most things she did, kissing, getting undressed and the oral and regular sex she had with our friend. The big hesitation came when her girlfriend guided her to touch and then do oral to her. Later Deb and I discussed her feelings. 
At our latest meeting one woman was doing this for the first time while the rest of us became voyeurs. It made me wonder how women handle doing this the first time and why every woman we met has done this. Is it expected in swinging for women to play with the other women? What do women think that first time? Deb said she didn’t think, she did that first time. She had a more difficult time with a woman she met the next time. She told me it’s easier with a woman I was with first. 

[AdamGunn2 370]

With 15 years as swingers, my wife never sought out girl/girl play.  A few - very few! - times a woman would approach her and Mary would let her kiss or perform oral on her. But she never ate a woman out, or started a F/F situation. Many times she would tell the other woman she wasn't interested, one time when the woman wouldn't back away Mary got a little aggressive with her.  It never hurt our swinger encounters.

 

The rule of swinging is the same as that for drinking wine:

    If you don't like what you're drinking, don't drink it.

    If you like what you're drinking, drink more of it.

[Numex 2,347]

We've never encountered this situation. Daniela has been with girls since she was a girl and first became sexually active. All of the women that we have played with since becoming a couple have been bi to some degree, like being eaten out by a woman but not eating other women.

[cplnluv1 856]

I am not the best one to answer, we searched for bicurious women, women who wanted to try something new. A few of the men were curious too, something we had no interest in. 

[ROCKlandCpl 445]

I explored more. During the lockdown we talked about what are we going to do being together 24/7. I can’t remember what brought up swinging it was Rocky started searching swinger sites I think. He found a couple where the woman was bi and asked me if I could do it. 
What I remember was sex with no kissing because of Covid. Rocky and I were excited to do this, secretly I was scared like hell. Looking back I don’t know how I did it but I am happy I did. Why not?