Attending event may pay off.

[njbm 2,871]

Last week, my wife and I attended a vanilla cooking demonstratioņ for swingers. There were three rows of tables to sit on in. We chose row two. I didn’t want to sit in the first row, too close to the action. The third row too far. 
 

As people filed in, they made a beeline for row one and three. It was sort of embarrassing. People did anything not to sit at our table. Ever see in the movie Animal House where kept putting the nerds on the porch? 
 

Finally, a Hispanic couple that did not get the memo sat at our table. They contacted us after the program and we may go out. We are having lunch Wednesday with a couple that saw us there, but didn’t get to meet us. Friday we are meeting a couple that signed up for the program, but were unable to attend. 
 

While we sat alone in our row, I thought this program was a bust. But it looks like we played it right!

Edited October 28 by njbm

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,389]

A cooking demonstration for swinger's?  How did you find such an event?

[njbm 2,871]

Friends of ours in Florida are generous enough to organize these types of events. Last winter, we attended a dinner out with about 30 people. They hosted a hotel takeover, but we were still up north. They post these events on SDC, which is popular in Florida. 
 

We prefer to meet at vanilla events, rather than sex clubs where you get down and dirty right away with strangers.  We like to meet, get to know what makes people tick first. 

[njbm 2,871]

I asked the host if the chef knew we were swingers. He didn’t tell the chef, but the chef seemed to figure it out. 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,389]

43 minutes ago, njbm said:

I asked the host if the chef knew we were swingers. He didn’t tell the chef, but the chef seemed to figure it out. 

Based on the attire of the guests?

[njbm 2,871]

2 hours ago, hunterdonNJcpl said:

Based on the attire of the guests?

Based on attire of some guests ( 40DDDs hanging out, several people knew each other and gave traditional swingers kiss on lips. Hearty laughter at sexual innuendos. 

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

Three remarks. 

 

1. The success of such "vanilla life" events for the swinger community should be noted. Lifestyle cruises are mostly vanilla experiences in the company of like-minded people. There is clearly a market for ordinary experiences in extraordinary company. 

 

2. Swingers like being in the company of other swingers for many reasons. Part of it is authenticity and candor. Part of it is that LS people are generally happy. Part of it is the fantasy of imagining being with this or that couple in some other setting, typically with fewer clothes and rather more horizontal. 

 

3. Such vanilla events for non-vanilla people are, as the OP so nicely illustrates, low risk and high reward. The risk is the time. There is the possibility that there will be no follow-up. The reward is that there might be a "why don't we get together for drinks or dinner?"--along with the benefit of not having to guess whether their pictures or profile match the people who will actually show up.