UKinterestedCUCK 1 Posted December 1 We have been together for over 8 years, and my whole life I have been turned on by sharing. We have roleplayed many times, and have dicussed it when she is tipsy, and even fucked in front of a friend of mine who was "asleep" on our coach when we were all drunk (but he was too much of a pussy to make a move.) But, the reality always feels out of reach. I am desperately seeking an experienced guy, who knows how to chat up a woman, who I can put in touch with her (with a valid reason) for you to push and prod and see if you can make progress. I believe you will, if you can keep it excusable, and plausibly deniable, in terms of her doing "nothing wrong." If you are interested, at all, please reach out with a little backstory on yourself. Discretion is a must, but this is very genuine, and very serious. Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,717 Posted December 1 10 hours ago, UKinterestedCUCK said: push and prod and see if you can make progress. In my opinion, a better way than having another man push and prod your wife into having sex is for you to have a talk with your girlfriend when you are both stone cold sober. Tell her how much you love her and that it would make you happy for her to enjoy sex with another man. Make it about her, not you. Most importantly, let her decide who she would like to be with: man or woman, dear friend or stranger. And the situation that would make her most comfortable: you there or not; at you place or an hotel; a one-off or an on-going relationship. Let her find her pleasure and your joy will follow. Best of luck and keep us updated. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
hunterdonNJcpl 1,422 Posted December 2 12 hours ago, couplers said: ...have a talk with your girlfriend when you are both stone cold sober... While i agree this is a good recommendation, there is also something to be said for having this sort of conversation after a drink or two. Just sayin 🫢 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,717 Posted December 2 21 hours ago, couplers said: when you are both stone cold sober 8 hours ago, hunterdonNJcpl said: there is also something to be said for having this sort of conversation after a drink or two. Yeah, perhaps I should have left that part out. Quote Share this post Link to post
hunterdonNJcpl 1,422 Posted December 2 We're not lushes. We're never "the drunk couple" at the party/club. But i think we would have never had the courage to dive into the LS if alcohol wasn't involved. Well, at least I wouldn't have. My wife was way more relaxed than me back in the beginning. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,717 Posted December 6 (edited) On 12/2/2024 at 8:03 AM, hunterdonNJcpl said: i think we would have never had the courage to dive into the LS if alcohol wasn't involved. Well, at least I wouldn't have. My wife was way more relaxed than me back in the beginning. Don't get me wrong, I/we don't have a problem associating with people who drink, but somehow we all in our family found each other that don't do anything more than sip half a drink just to be social. It is strange; I think we're all (self-) control freaks. I've also found from the little drinking that I have done that the impact of whatever sexually activity is going on hits me harder when I haven't had any alcohol. Nothing to lower inhibitions or take the edge off while while watching my husband or boyfriend fucking another woman or me playing with someone outside the family. My mind is fully engaged in the reality of it all. But what is important is whatever gets you there into the world of sexual freedom is good, so long as it is je ne regrette rien the next day. Edited December 6 by couplers 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
UKinterestedCUCK 1 Posted December 7 On 12/2/2024 at 3:31 AM, hunterdonNJcpl said: While i agree this is a good recommendation, there is also something to be said for having this sort of conversation after a drink or two. Just sayin 🫢 Stone cold sober is not the time for her sexual truth, never has been, unfortunately. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,717 Posted December 7 (edited) 3 hours ago, UKinterestedCUCK said: Stone cold sober is not the time for her sexual truth, never has been, unfortunately. Perhaps for some, but I beg to differ. All of the play that we have had outside our poly family has been arranged among us family members totally sober. None of us at any time has any inhibitions about brining up sexual fantasies or potential realities. Our on-going variety and mixtures of play with Joe and Shannon was instigated by my fantasy about Joe, which I ineffectively nudged along, and David made a reality, all while sober. I took the clear mind that David and the others in the family had doing this for me a sign of their love. He didn't need to blur the reality of his wife fucking another man. Edited December 7 by couplers Quote Share this post Link to post
hunterdonNJcpl 1,422 Posted December 7 On 12/6/2024 at 8:45 AM, couplers said: But what is important is whatever gets you there into the world of sexual freedom is good, so long as it is je ne regrette rien the next day. Agreed. There was definitely alcohol involved with our first LS experience. The next morning we checked each other for weird feelings - and there were none! Just an overall feeling of bliss. I think that's when we knew the LS would be a fit for us. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,717 Posted December 8 23 hours ago, hunterdonNJcpl said: The next morning we checked each other for weird feelings - and there were none! Just an overall feeling of bliss. For us (when it was just Red, David, and me) it was more subtle and incremental. Red and I had broken off our engagement and I had moved out, but we were still lovers. David and I started seeing one another, and I was honest with Red, including when David and I started a romantic relationship as well. David knew about Red and surmised that we still had a sexual relationship, and told me he was fine with it. That was the one blissful moment. I was a girl who had two men and they were good with it. Another was when they first met and it wasn't weird - they got along. The most powerful experience was our first, totally unplanned MFM one afternoon. They started talking about my body, taking my clothes off, Red went first at David’s request. I was fearful at first that this was perhaps the end, two guys fucked me in front of the other and would be done with me. But no, they're still not done with me. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
hunterdonNJcpl 1,422 Posted December 8 @couplers - if you can get past that deeply ingrained feeling of "this is wrong" and allow your bodies to live in the pleasure of the moment... that's where the bliss is. For those inclined towards the LS, the challenge is to find partner(s) you can attain that bliss with. It requires a special mindset, and its a wonderful thing you've found an extended poly group to regularly bliss out with! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,717 Posted December 8 1 hour ago, hunterdonNJcpl said: allow your bodies to live in the pleasure of the moment... that's where the bliss is. Thinking back on that time, one of the greatest pleasures was also the challenge of not wanting to lose either of them. I gave them whatever they wanted: when, where, however, and however much they wanted it. And it worked. It affected my entire life positively, giving me confidence and a sense of power. It was at this time that I became assertive in my professional life and advanced quickly. Another epiphany was realizing that regardless of what I was to David and Red, I couldn't be variety and I arranged for them to be involved with other women. Which led to me discovering my strong Lesbian side. Our poly family was a slow accretion. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,459 Posted December 9 8 hours ago, couplers said: I gave them whatever they wanted When my wife started hotwifing, playing alone without me, it didn't diminish the amount or quality of my/our sex life. It just got better. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post