Where to Look

[Half MT 275]

Two posts I read gave me courage to ask this. After deciding you are going to have sex the next step is getting naked, where do you look? My husband says the first thing he notices are boobs or as he says tits then the puss. No matter how I try not to stare my first thing I see is a cock. We all look different once undressed, bellies, butts, body hair, I look at all of that but the very first thing is the thing hanging or sticking out and the package under it. Size is hard to determine if it’s hanging, they all look different to me. It’s also the first thing I touch, I never know what I’m expected to do or do I wait for him to do something first. 
 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,479]

Lol yes - great discussion point.  As a guy, I try very hard not to stare at tits although that's where my eyes want to go.  As a guy I try to stay focused on the eyes - at least at first.

 

It's the same thing with nude beaches.  Twice we ran into my wife's coworker at the nude beach and chatted for 10 or so minutes.  I was very careful not to look his wife up and down but he wasn't as careful with my wife, but she's a good spirit and just chuckled about it afterwards. 

 

Most swingers and nudists are not offended by casual glances 😀

[TnA83 328]

We were at Caliente 5 years ago as nudies not swingers, and as always we found plenty of people to hang out with.  Most were fun but very respectful, although one guy was always checking out my wife in a more than creepy manner.  We both remember him. Don't be like that guy. You are welcome to notice but don't stare.

[PeterJ 981]

4 hours ago, Half MT said:

Two posts I read gave me courage to ask this. After deciding you are going to have sex the next step is getting naked, where do you look? My husband says the first thing he notices are boobs or as he says tits then the puss. No matter how I try not to stare my first thing I see is a cock. We all look different once undressed, bellies, butts, body hair, I look at all of that but the very first thing is the thing hanging or sticking out and the package under it. Size is hard to determine if it’s hanging, they all look different to me. It’s also the first thing I touch, I never know what I’m expected to do or do I wait for him to do something first. 
 

My opinion is that once a mutual decision has been made to have sex and clothes have been abandoned there’s no good reason not to feast your eyes wherever you wish. Unlike social nudity, where it’s unseemly to stare at the primary and secondary sex organs, you are now both/all there to make immediate pleasurable use of each other’s bodies. 
 

Further to that (hopefully brief) interlude between clothes coming off and physical engagement, I will often say to a new partner ”Oh my, you look even more lovely out of your clothes than in them!" As I am about to go down on them I will comment favorably on the beauty of their genitals. It’s not calculated on my part; at the very least in the moment, I do see a partner, including their genitalia as beautiful. It does, I’ve observed, tend to raise the new partner’s enthusiasm and ardor. (I’ve been fucking my wife for 37 years and when she undresses I still tell her how beautiful I find her 76-year-old body and her boobs and pussy. The latter particularly after she’s been fucked and had an orgasm.)

[couplers 4,817]

20 hours ago, Half MT said:

After deciding you are going to have sex the next step is getting naked, where do you look?

Our play is mostly within our poly family, but either way if it's a guy, I look at the state of his erection to determine what I might need to do, especially if he's already just been with a woman.  Then I admire and hold his testicles. 

 

With a woman as we prepare to engage, I look at her whole body, her face, her eyes.

 

For me, people of either sex look at my protruding clit.

[Bob E 46]

DUH !!  I mean we all love sex, and to have good sex, you have to be "NAKED" !

I Love being naked with other naked people !

As for "LOOKING" ---- well, sure.  Women love to see men naked, and men love to see women naked !  Or MM - WW

Women will look at cocks & balls -- men look at tits & pussy !  Or Bi looks too.

So where is the problem ?

If you're shy about being naked, then why are you into Swinging ??

As for me, I look at the whole woman !  Not just boobs or pussy.

My hands roam her entire body !  From her face to her feet, softly and slowly.

Then to her boobs and pussy.  I hope she does the same ! 

Why rush ?   Make it last !

The same goes for Bi. 

 

[Bob E 46]

P.S.  If I hosted a swinging party,  I would greet my guests naked, and everyone would get naked as soon as they entered !

Everyone would stay naked, until they were ready to leave.

What a Beautiful freedom we all would share !

[Numex 2,493]

On 1/10/2025 at 10:46 AM, Half MT said:

After deciding you are going to have sex the next step is getting naked, where do you look?

With Daniela, my wife, I like to look at her pretty face and her bare breasts while she still has her bottom covered and I'm thinking about what's to come. Which is the opposite of the way she likes to present herself to others when she wants to have sex, which is bottoms off pussy showing with her top still on. 

When we were still doing regular swinging, swapping with other couples at a club or meet up, I liked to look at a new woman I was meeting one-eighth around from the front, the best way to take in all of her curves - the flair of her hips, the arc of her breasts, her face.

 

Now with our group of regular couples it's different for each woman. One is very thin and my eyes go immediately to her protruding hip bones. Another woman is a little crazy, likes doggy and presents herself by bending over and showing her pussy and asshole from behind. That image has been repeatedly burned into my brain, including her tits hanging and swaying. She say "you can do what you want" and I evaluate her. Another wife has small outer lips and slightly larger inner lips, so I'm looking to see those juicy inner lips sticking out. One woman has a mommy body, a slight paunch which I find really sexy. One woman isn't thin or skinny, but is a gym rat with no fat and muscles to impress. I look at her whole body, especially her muscular ass. Finally there's a wife with nipples that look like a three-tiered wedding cake, the tips flat on the end like cylinders. Unbelievable everytime I see them.

Edited Thursday at 07:26 PM by Numex