You know that t-shirt?

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It’s Not Cheating If Your Husband Is Watching? Yeah. Naw, doesn’t work. 
 

I’m looking for advice, please. Whether to bother saving a 20 year marriage. 
 

So hubby and I had had a great MMF for our first experience. Pretty much confirmed my thoughts that my hubby is defo bisexual at the very least. He enjoyed the cock part way too much, but whatever, so did I! It was an awesome time had by all.
 

Then after having various conversations with inappropriate couples, not checking whether I was attracted etc., he lined up our first MFMF. I thought they both looked nice, so ok, we went for it. 
 

After literally hours of ‘adult’ Monopoly, which got us all in the mood, off we went to the four poster. Now the female had had an injection in her clit, so was supposed to be off limits… well that went straight out the window. The husband, playing with me on the bed next to them, was CLEARLY not impressed. 
 

So there’s me, with an unhappy and not very interested male, basically watching our other halves absolutely going for it, completely oblivious to us. Even when the husband GOT UP AND GOT DRESSED in the other room, because he had an early start, STILL they were romping like dogs in heat. 
 

My usually respectful husband was like a junkie in a crack den. It was like being in that scene in Forgetting Sarah Marshall, with a bit of Meg Ryan thrown in. I might as well have left, he wouldn’t have noticed, which is what I wish I had done. 
 

So, eventually when they wound up, kisses all round, yep that was great, then two ignoring the thunderous face on the husband, and me not knowing where to put myself. 
 

I couldn’t go near him that night, stayed up watching the Australian Open and went for a drive at 7am. Still completely oblivious, he messaged wondering where I was. I’d said let’s have a little debrief shall we, on our wonderful night. 
 

Let’s just say, long story short, oops was the conclusion. Sorry, yes I’m 50 years old but I was having so much fun, sorry I “dropped the ball” in not checking whether you were too, darling! Blah blah blah. 
 

I told him to get lost, I felt sick being in the same oxygen as him. I won’t go into the details of that day, it wasn’t fun. Now I don’t know what to do. He can’t really make it right, as far as I can think, so what do I do, go fuck a few guys and let him stew back at home listening to us like I had to? There’s a lot more detail but this is the gist. 
 

All advice welcome, I’m sure I’ll get the you’re over reacting response, and I may well be but that doesn’t help my heart.

 

Suzie Q

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I think this isn't worth throwing out a 20 year marriage over.

 

An important part of swinging - especially when starting out - is rules.  First, you and your hubby should create the rules together and be sure you understand them.  Second, pregame with prospective playmates and state your rules with them. They will likely have their own.

 

The thing is, it takes one or two experiences to even figure out your rules, but it seems like now you know.