How did you start swinging?

[MikeandDawn 59]

Before we met, Dawn had a F lover. We had involved her in bed a few times both before and after our marriage. About two years later, she was looking to move out from living at her boyfriend's place because she was going through one of her “I hate guys” phase, so she offered to convert the room over our garage into a small studio apartment in exchange for allowing her to live there for a while. She stayed about 9-10 months, with her joining us in bed 2 to 3 times per week. She and Dawn would play while I was working most weekdays. Towards the end, she decided to go back to her boyfriend. We knew him pretty well, too. Before we met, Dawn had played with them a few times, but never did any more with him than oral.

 

The first weekend after her g/f went back to him, they came over for an "adult night". There were no rules, no set agenda, but soon everyone got naked. We grabbed one couch, they grabbed the other. We watched porno movies, and ordered pizza. While Dawn and I were playing on one couch, I looked over at her g/f's b/f, and saw his cock looked exactly like mine, except about 6 inches longer. It extedned halfway between his belly button and nipples. Hopeful of seeing Dawn repeat her previous acts on him, I gestured to Dawn to go over to them. She grabbed the base of his cock, and I thought when her g/f popped the head out of her mouth, I was going to get to watch Dawn suck it. But instead, her g/f just let go of him and started kissing Dawn until they fell over in front of the television. They kept kissing and eventually 69'ing in front of the TV. While I'm watching this and trying not to cum, I notice her b/f is watching past them, trying to watch the porno movie on TV. After the girls finished up, we wrapped up the evening and decided to switch tactics. If we were going to share ourselves with somebody, we wanted someone as “in to it” as we were.

 

After that incident, we started talking more and more about it during sex, but had trouble figuring out whom to ask. Dawn mentioned she would like to have a male virgin, and I suggested a guy she worked with. I had met Justin a few times and figured him to be a virgin. After a few weeks of discrete conversations at work, Dawn confirmed he was. She talked him into going out to a bar one night as a way to pick up someone, and we “accidentally” met up with him there. After a few drinks, Dawn says she wants to dance. Since I hate dancing (I *REALLY*, *REALLY* do!), I told her to ask Justin. They danced together for several fast and slow songs. I kept my eye on him the whole time they were dancing, not trying to intimidate him, but to watch his reaction as she rubbed up against him during the slow numbers. When it was obvious to me things had gone far enough, I gave her the signal and she went off to the bathroom. Justin got another drink and sat back down with me. I asked him if he had fun. He appeared a bit shocked but I guess seeing me laugh about it eased him. He said yes, and that Dawn was very hot and I was very lucky. By that time, Dawn had come back from the bathroom and I told her what he had said. She said to me, “Maybe he’d like to get lucky tonight, too.” I winked at her and asked if he’d like to come back to the house with us. When we got home, I gave them about 10 minutes in the bathroom together to wash up and get to know each other a bit. I came in and got in the shower as they were getting out. I knew the fun had already begun when I saw Justin was already/still pointing straight up. I washed up and got to the bedroom in time to see Dawn finish him off with her mouth. I then took his place and watched as he lost his virginity to Dawn. It became a once week type of thing for a while, then he wanted to find a new place to live. Dawn and I discussed it and offered him the apartment Dawn’s girlfriend built, and he accepted. After Justin moved in, the rules loosened up quite a bit, which was fine with me. Justin lived with us for about a year and a half when he took a job in another city. He got married about 5 or 6 years ago, but is living the monogamous life now. We’re very happy for him and his wife. He even has a son, too. I don’t think he told her exactly how well he knows us, though.

 

Ever since, it’s been the same basic routine. For over 20 years Dawn has worked mostly in restaurants. You would be surprised how many male virgin busboys and dish washers there are out there. She has a lot of opportunity to get to know them and find out a lot of details about their lives before we decide on one to ask.

[danni654 16]

We started talking about swinging on our first date. My male 1/2's brother had been in the lifestyle for years with both his former and his current wives. So that was a natural conversation starter. I picked up on it right away and explained that I had always been interested in girls, didn't believe in monogamy except emotionally, etc. And within 2 weeks of meeting each other, I'd signed us up on several swinger sites with profiles and had a "date" with another couple.

[bnbinsa 15]

While doing sleepy talk/foreplay at bedtime, my (then) wife talked of adolescent bisexual play. This occurred probably a half a dozen times and each time she noticed I became rock hard and our subsequent session lasted for a couple of hours with her cumming anywhere from 10 to 20 plus times... so much for sleep (she was the first multi orgasmic gusher I had experienced). From there I told her I really wanted to experience a second female in our bed and she was all for it. Finding the bi female was not a difficult thing.

[jandg 25]

Some friends of ours told us about a visit they made to a local club. It piqued our curiosity, so we went. We've been going ever since, they never went back. Go figure

[bnbinsa 15]

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I'm curious, bnbinsa; you said "then" wife. Have you since split up? If so, did being in the Lifestyle have anything to do with it?

 

 

Then wife became an ex-wife due to her alcoholism, we were married 5 years and she gave me custody of our child. The limited swinging we did had no adverse affects.

[twoforone100 45]

We had been talking about it for years. Pattie then learned her sister and her husband were swingers. The rest is history.

[discoandvyper 15]

JustAskJulie said:

What was the launch pad for your discovery of swinging?

 

My ex wife and I were pseudo swingers. I discovered swinging on the internet those long years ago, brought it up to her, and she was all for it. By pseudo swingers I mean we would go to a swing club near our house, she'd get hit on by anyone who was interested, and she'd go take them on without me. Usually it was single males, but occasionally she took on couples - though she never had sex with the woman of the couple (she'd allow a woman to give her oral but wouldn't give it to another woman). Never did anyone show interest in me, but I didn't mind because she was getting some action and having fun. If mama was happy, I was happy.

 

We divorced. I met my current and last wife.

 

About 5 years ago, I started a new medication that knocked me limp. My wife was only 26 years old at the time, and it was unfair to take sex from her for the rest of her life (or so we believed at the time). We began finding single women for her to play with, since my wife's bi and I always wanted to see two women have sex together. My wish came true in short manner, because Disco is quite the attractive lady and has played with women before. She knew where to go and who to talk to, you see. This was in turn followed by meeting a couple in the lifestyle, a soft swap couple. We all had our fun, met another couple friends who as it turns out were in the lifestyle too, and our fun was multiplied.

 

As it turns out, it only took me a year or so to become used to the medication enough to maintain an erection again. We're still a soft swap couple, but we've talked about full swap a couple of times. Maybe someday we'll meet that right couple to full swap with, but as is I'm happy where we are.

[ShellyM 0]

I have to say that I was the one that introduced into the lifestyle, although we are still quite new at it. To make a long story short, for years I have lived with guilt associated with the feelings that I was having. How could I be in love with my husband, yet have almost these primal feelings of wanting to have sex with other men? I swear, at times it was almost like a physical need. So, I thought out of sight out of mind....and I attempted to be a good soccer mom. I baked cookies, and did all of that other stuff. WHICH IS GREAT. I still do all of that, but that is not who I am. I want to get a tattoo, drive in one direction just to see what's there, jump on a Harley and ride to Sturgis, lol. And here I was, living this domestic lifestyle. And I felt dead inside. So, I talked with jay, and he was feeling the same way I was. We just never communicated. Now that we are in the lifestyle we are like dating kids again. He even calls my office just to say he loves me. Sorry if this is too long. But we have one life, and we have to live it well.

[RANDJ4FUN 15]

I read about free love at a very young age and it just made sense to me. When I got older and looked around at the emotional damage that sexual monogamy did to others I just became more convinced that this was the way to go.

 

But for J (our fewale half) she is probably only in this for me.

[2GirlsGoodBenBa 16]

Well, I (Bad One) had been curious for some time and even joined a site or two to chat and possibly meet a couple as a single. I did once but nothing came of it so I shyed away for some time until I met the Good One. I brought the idea up to her while we were friends and she mentioned wanting to check things out. We ended up in a relationship--and here we are!

[RDfnd 180]

During years of nude vacationing, we had met a number of "swingers" but had never interacted other than socially. There was a mutual enough interest for us that we decided to visit an on premise club and see what things were all about. Despite some initial uneasiness, we couldn't ignore the fact that during and after those visits, the quality of our sexual interactions seemed to grow by leaps and bounds. We continue to enjoy the experiences we have and the deeper dimension it has brought to our entire relationship.

[singleagain 26]

I was on an airplane flying from Albany NY to Miami Fl in 1981. My seat assignment was between a man and his wife. I offered to exchange seats with one of them so they could sit together. Politely, they refused and we struck up a conversation. They invited me to go to dinner at their private club and I accepted. I had never heard of swinging or swingers. The club was Casablancas, now closed as far as I know. When we got there her husband asked me to escort his wife for the evening's activities as he was going to be busy entertaining another couple. Not only was I shocked, but it took her almost three hours to talk me into going to a private area with her. This was after I had observed every kind of sexual behavior I had previously thought deviant. Today, that all seems normal and I will forever be grateful to them for introducing me to the "lifestyle". I wish I could remember their names. All I know is that she was from my home state and she could kiss the best.

[JDApopka 54]

Well I voted something else, my wife and I married young (18) and I was her first and only lover . I used to read penthouse a lot and the 3-some stories allways got her excited and horny so I started to talk to her about haveing sexx with another guy just so she could find out if I was good or maybe someone could do something differant to make her cum better. I had a friend that used to come to our house a lot and stay till late at night. one nite she put on a sexy nitie and ask him for a neck rub i excused myself from the room and when I came back they were making out on the couch soon they moved to the bedroom I joined them after a while and since then we have had quite a few MFM,

[MrSunLover 15]

What was the launch pad for your discovery of swinging?

 

Did a friend bring it up? Did your partner swing in a past relationship? Did one of you just start exploring fantasies and take it from there? Or was it something else?

 

It was all my doing. I've always wanted to be a swinger. I've never had a life partner that would share swinging with me until Caryl entered my life. I brought up the idea and she has aproved it all. We have had many exchanges with other couples in our area. This is the life for us.

[lookingfornow 116]

I and my DH have been active about a year. In that time, we have met some wonderful people. They all have different stories on how they started in an "open" type relationship (swinging, swapping, threesomes, foursomes, etc.). I find the differences fascinating. So, I thought I ask a wider audience....

 

How did you get started, what did you think at the time, and did you have any "morning after" thoughts?

 

For us, we had fantasized about threesomes and foursomes for a number of years. I really wanted to be taken by a stranger and try out a DP. He really loved the idea of watching me be fucked. I also loved the idea of him watching me be fucked and taking me immediately afterwords. He also liked the idea of fucking a stranger (doesn't any guy). I thought it would be cool to watch him do someone else.

 

Anyway, we met a couple through SLS. After exchanging emails and pictures, we decided to meet for lunch with the agreement that no play would take place afterwords. I liked the other woman, and we decided they'd be fun to play with. So we made a "date" for the next weekend for dinner, drinks, dancing and play.

 

Since they lived some distance away, we agreed to meet at a midway point and pick up a hotel room. We had a nice dinner. We went to a club for dancing, but it was clear the boys were more interested in playing. So we agreed to go to the hotel.

 

Once in the room, we ladies retired to the bathroom to put on nighties. Meanwhile the guys stripped to their boxers. We talked for a little while before we moved to the bed. The boys decided to focus on me first and began nibbling my neck and breasts. At some point my DH turned his attention to the other woman while the other guy continued to please me orally. His technique was very different from my SO, and I enjoyed it much more than I had expected. However, he had difficulty getting and maintaining an erection. So, while he pleased me a great deal orally, that was about it for me.

 

At some point I saw her giving my DH a blow job. She was really working on his cock. Then she kissed her way up his chest and positioned her pussy over his cock before taking him into her. Since my DH is much thicker than her husband, she seemed to have to work herself down to take my DH in. Unfortunately, my DH was so turned on that he didn't last very long. It was really cool watching his balls contract as he came.

 

After my DH had finished, they seemed impatient for the evening to end (we wanted to stay and play more, but....) So, we split soon thereafter.

 

I have to say that I was much less jealous than I had thought I would be. Also, I was really disappointed that the other guy had difficulty staying erect (that really impacted my ego). However, I was committed to finding a second experience (which we did, and he really knew how to get and keep an erection )

 

My attitude really didn't change over time. My DH really got off watching me with the other guy. We fucked like rabbits reliving the event for several weeks thereafter.

[WesternSwing 504]

Mrs. WS and I had discussed swinging before we actually got involved, but never really seriously pursued it. It was mostly pillow talk and "what if" after we'd had neighbors and other friends over and of course the atmosphere among like-minded adults (read: horny) always turns some sexual. Kind of like "I wonder if so-and-so would want swap? What if it happened? That kind of stuff.

 

Then we attended a Mardi Gras party a friend was throwing that was well, a Mardi Gras party... lots of nudity. The mix was vanilla and swinger so it wasn't technically a "swinger party", it was just very sexy and open-minded. A woman came up and asked if she could kiss Mrs. WS and although Mrs. WS hadn't kissed a woman before, she was flattered and attracted to this woman and they did. The rest of the night we hung out with this couple who it turns out are swingers. Going home we discussed it and decided we wanted to take it a step further, especially since Mrs. WS wanted to now explore her bi-side.

 

We signed-up on AFF and met one couple pretty quick, however it was a disaster and we never had sex (another story in of itself). Then I planned a casino getaway with the couple we met at the party for Mrs. WS's birthday. I got a huge suite with hot tub in the middle of the room and all the amenities. We met out there. They had brought a birthday cake for Mrs. WS. We played games in the casino, we played games and drank in the room. Then Mrs. WS (who is aggressive and goes after what she wants anyway) and the other wife started making out... the rest, as they say, is history.

 

Did we have any morning-after regrets? No. We were shocked and awed! After that some jealousy issues developed with me, which I never thought I'd have. They didn't revolve around the sex, but rather the relationship. It turns out we develop friendships with some we swing with, and on occasion Mrs. WS has had more of a poly relationship with people. At the time it was shocking for me because it was all so new. Now, I know how the whole system works for us and these are simply not issues anymore. It just took a while for me to reconcile everything that was happening and how it was happening and after many more experiences with others figuring out that this is how we do it and it isn't anything to be alarmed at. It just took figuring out that Mrs. WS wasn't going to leave me if she liked someone else, too.

[sexyhotmama 15]

We started to talk about our fansties and it came up! This is why I love him, he feels the same way as me.

[sdcouple_2005 15]

WE got started in a way I think others do. We went out with a couple for new years eve, not intending for anything to happen. We ended up going back to their place for a dip in the jacuzzi. We didnt have suits so everyone went in nude. Well, one thing let to another, and although we never full swapped with them, we did just about everything else. We hooked up with them a few more times, and the last time we had a 3some with the other husband since the wife didnt want to participate.

[phishfan 15]

We're pretty new to this as well, but have had a couple of experiences now with many more to come! facelick

 

Like someone else said, I too was always fantasizing about having sex with other men. I do the soccer mom thing too, but it's really just not "me". I ended up having an affair with someone, and got caught, but we got through it thankfully. I finally figured out that one of the reasons that I was straying had nothing really to do with my husband but ME. I feel horrible that I hurt my hubby, but we have worked it through and are SO much stronger now. We talked a LOT about what happened and why and after counseling and all of that, things are good. One night we went to a party where there were a couple of nude strippers. They were giving the birthday boy "facials" and I TRIED to get my hubby down there for a facial, but he didn't want to in front of all of the people at the party. I kept bringing up the fact that I would REALLY like to see a girl sit on his face like that. That night we fucked like we never had before! So, we talked about it and I brought up the idea of swinging, started researching clubs and found this site which has been great for information and insight. We met our first couple on SLS, met and went on a date (I think we're finally gonna play with them this weekend), but we've played with 2 other couples at this point with a couple more in the pipeline! lol We find most of the couples we meet now on Lifestylelounge. Lots of parties and great people there. I can't wait to play again! It's been so awesome for every aspect of our marriage. For the first time in 10 years of marriage, I'm much more focused on us. Our communication is at a level it's never seen before and our sex life is better than it's EVER been!

 

I LOVE watching my husband fuck another woman! It's such a turn on!

[Beaverbumper 17]

Mine, not my present wife but my other two wive's and I shared with the first wife soft swing, the second turned out to be bi and invited her girl frined over to play WOW... Now my present wife and will be the last are meeting couples to swing with and yes we both want it. She has said, after watching porn movies that she would like to attend a house party and an orgy...this is gonna be some marriage...

[BruceAnn 23]

I brought up the idea that we should go at a swingers club by curiosity. We had often shared fantasies, teasing each other about playing with another partner etc. I would wake up in the morning and made believe I did not recognise Ann and asked who she was...she would do things like that too sometimes for fun.

 

They had been talking about these clubs on tv and some newspapers and I suggested we go take a look. She did not answer right away but later asked me if I was serious.I said yes and she said: ok let's go and see what it is like.We talked about it for a long time before going though.

 

So when really decided, we picked a place we had heard about. At first we would just get the feeling of the place. we went a couple of times before we accepted to dance with other couples always telling them that we were new to this, were not ready to go any further. Actually we wanted to see how we would react seeing our partner flirting with someone else. After the evening we would talk about our feelings and we started playing more and more while dancing with other couples. Flirting,hand play, rubbing while dancing and we realise that we became hornier and hornier with each other and with others.

 

Then we met the same couple a couple of times and they were the first that we played with. They invited us at a private party etc...

 

We are still new to this, not even a year has passed yet.

[Second of 2 22]

My wife and I have always been into sexy stories and "letters". We would take turns reading to each other. We would always comment on the ones that had a fantasy that we wanted to have come true. Knowing each others fantasies then we would be on the lookout for opportunities to make them come true. Our first time was with another young woman we had met at a dinner party. She ended up coming home with us. My wife tends to be the lead and is always the one who picks our partners by they male, female or couples.

[livnlovinlife 15]

I thought I voted on this and replied to this post already, but I didn't. So here it is.

 

My Boyfriend and I had been telling each other our fantasies and they both involved other people. IE: me with two men, and him with two women. Now it includes us both and one other not just two men and two women. We want to see each other with someone else where all parties are involved.

 

Anyway, we started searching for some site where we could find others that wanted the same thing. The first few sites, we never got any replies. Then a friend of mine gave me the URL to swinglifestyle.com when I told him of my fantasy. I e-mailed it to my boyfriend, and when he came home that night we both signed up and searched all evening together. We got people mailing us right away. It was exciting.

 

We still haven't done more than swap partners. We haven't found anyone yet that could fulfill our fantasies, and have the time to do it.

 

I am patient. I will wait until the time is right, and the couple is right.

 

Erin

[aaaflirt 16]

I had to answer other as well.

 

Was chatting a lot on MSN chat back when it was available.

 

Had a great conversation with a few people and was told about an on-premise club with a very informative web site, I visited the web site and printed some of the more pertinent information and gave it to Mrs aaaflirt.

 

We went to the club for a look after much discussion. We went again the next week and then after 6 continuous weeks of going, mrs aaaflirt played with three other women and we ended up going every week from then on.

 

We play now very freely with very few boundaries (rules).

 

We do think that setting "Boundaries" together is very important. It opens communication and you don't have to ask "is this ok honey ?" because you already know.

 

Don't do it till your sure, once your sure relax and go with the flow.

[TandAnMass 15]

We got started when I jokingly asked my wife what she wanted for her B-day, she told me another man. She had one boyfriend before me and she thought she missed out on experiencing other men. So we actually started off with a 3some with a close mutual friend, and the rest is history.

[njcpl85 40]

We had our fantasies and somehow or another decided to join a few Adult sites to see what they were about. Thought is might add some excitement to our sex life, not that our sex life was lacking, but it truly has added that something extra too it. Have met a particular couple on a few occasions and truly enjoyed it! Their thoughts and fantasies were very similar to ours. So far seems to be a great thing for all! Can't wait until our next meeting!

[des1re06 200]

A 3some (FMF) was always on the table, and discussed before we got married.

 

Three years ago, we started going to an all adult resort, and got offers. We discussed it, but didn't find the right "click". Last year, we found a good match at a resort, and talked alot before deciding we'd give the LS a try. We put up profiles on a couple of sites, and visited swing clubs to make sure we were comfortable with this.

 

The past 6 months have been incredible.

 

Mrs. D

[sexychoclit 32]

It was almost three years ago and I had broken up with my then latest boyfriend and I was sick of being in relationships. I had heard about the lifestyle but didn't know too much about it, so I did some research into the subject. I had previously had a female lover and was still interested in exploring my bi side, so I signed up for swapper site to see if I could find a couple that I could explore the lifestyle with.

 

Before I met with any couples I talked my bestfriend into going to a lifestyle club with me. She was a stick in the mud, but I wound up being with a woman that I met there that evening. I was going to be with her friend guy but got scared because his penis was too big. Honestly, it had to be about 10 inches fully erect.

 

I met my first couple out for dinner one evening and within the next two weeks joined them at a party they had put together. Unfortunately no one else showed up for the party but I had a good time with them. I felt very guilty afterwards and decided that I wouldn't participate in the lifestyle any longer.

 

I still stayed on the swinger site and wound up contacting a couple who had a bi-sexual female. We met for dinner and drinks one evening and by the end, I was ready to play. We didn't play that evening though. It took about a month for us to get together but from that point on I only wanted to be with them. It was a great experience.

[OnHArry 23]

I picked other and here is why.

 

I saw a short documentry about the film The LIfe Syle, and brought it up with my wife the next morning a Sunday as we drove to an out of town auction. I though she would just brush it off, but she seemed interested in what I recalled about the film, and more important swinging.

 

Over a year of this talking in the car, we still had kids at home then, we discussed what if's, what would we do if A happened, or B.

 

Finaly we decided to take the plunge with a guy she had talked to for a few years on the net, and he later became our first partner. The rest, as far as we are concerned is history.

[Semod 15]

We chose other.

 

We were looking for a place to vacation with a nude beach. Did a little research on the web and found a place called Hedonism II. Honestly we had never heard of it. We chose it because it was nude and adults only. We got there in the middle of the week and were leaving on Monday. Saturday, a large contingency from Lifestyles Travel showed up. That was our introduction to the lifestyle. Now we only book our trips when Lifestyles has a takeover.

[largdad 32]

The wife had a friend that look just like her and one night she slept over, and I had to much to drink and screwed the wrong one. Wife was upset, but understood how it could happen and started to ask comparison questions. Her girlfriend brought her husband over to have me explain and well one thing lead to another. We see this couple once a month and others also

[Joe&Dee 15]

Our beginning came about through a series of stellar accomplishments all coming together at the right times.

 

When we were dating, during our foreplay, Dee used to tell me stories about the sex she had with other guys before we met. The adventures she shared about one guy in particular, the older married man to whom she gave her virginity, really made my cock stand up and take notice. Though I was a very jealous kid at the time, there was something really hot about the thought of him screwing her. We got married and as the years went on I often thought about those things she told me she had done with him. My number one sexual fantasy became wanting to watch him fuck her, but I doubted, if the opportunity ever arose, that I could go through with it.

 

About five and a half years ago I accompanied Dee to an appointment with the OB/GYN who would perform her tubal ligation. He examined her in front of me - her breasts and a full pelvic. When I saw him touching and probing her I new that I could not only handle watching another man being intimate with her, but that I really wanted it.

 

Not long after her tubes were tied Dee was started on a course of anti-depressants after sharing with our family doctor a list of complaints which he suspected were caused by clinical depression. What I didn't mention yet was that about three years into our marriage Dee grew to hate sex - after the birth of our first child and the death of her mother. I'd just assumed she'd "grown up" and that adult, married women, like the cliche, don't like sex. When she started on the pills, she grew nearly insatiable in the bedroom. It was like a dream come true!

 

Ironically, about a month before she was diagnosed with the depression I created a fake Yahoo account and wrote to Dee, pretending to be a guy who'd stumbled upon her craft website, and complimenting her on the designs she'd featured there. To be honest, my motive was simply to put a little pizazz into her otherwise kind of frumpy life (which was caused by the depression which we didn't know she had). She wrote back and casually through mails back and forth "he" and she became online friends. After Dee started on the pills, our mails got risque and then blatantly sexual, and as they did our sex got even hotter. A few weeks into the very steamy mails, Dee confessed to me that she was sharing sex mails with a stranger. I then confessed to her that I was he. I was afraid she'd never trust me again. Instead she thought it was the most singularly wonderful thing I had ever done for her and for us.

 

A week or so went by and Dee missed the mails from her online lover (The mails had become cybersex exchanges) because it would have been pointless for us to keep writing now knowing that I was the guy she'd been writing to. I suggested that we find her somebody like him by posting some nude pictures of her in various forums on the 'net and inviting the guys who might like what they saw of her to write. She hesitated for a few days but finally gave me the thumbs-up.

 

As I posted the first of the many nudes of Dee that I'd share online, I sent them in an e-mail to a Don - a local acquaintance of mine. Like I had been, I knew he was in a marriage that was wonderful except for the infrequent and lousy sex that he had with his wife, and I knew that if Dee were going to take her new found fantasies (and my old ones) of being with another man into the realm of reality he would be a great choice to be her first. He wrote to Dee about her pictures and expressed a desire to be with her. She wrote back to him for a few days and their mutual desire grew.

 

It was five summers ago, (within two weeks of my writing this), that Don became Dee's first extramarital lover. The experience awoke something powerful inside Dee. Tonight we'll meet with Don for Dee and him to share their 142nd time together, and it will be our 227th extramarital encounter since we started. During these past five years we've met with married guys, single guys, and other couples. We're having the time of our lives!

 

For the past two years I've been blogging, mostly about our extramarital adventures. The link to the blog is in my profile if you'd like to know much more about our experiences.

[sunrise_sunset 16]

our first group sex TOGETHER was a threesome we had with a former girlfriend of mine many moons ago. By no means did we wake up the next day and say "wow, we are in the lifestyle, now!!" LOL

 

Mr. Sun

[Youngcalcpl 125]

We had talked about it during sex for years. Both of us slowly coming around to accepting that seeing each other with someone else wasn't going to be so bad. I eventually worked in the idea of including one of my coworkers who I went to lunch with every day and it drove her crazy. I went ahead and did what they tell you never to do and asked my coworker if he would be willing and to my surprise he was. We went to the office after hours and kind of surprised her with both of us. It was extremely hot and I didn't feel jealous at all. She felt guilty though and those kinds of fears and our busy lives have made it so that for the most part its just talk.

 

We've only recently played with a couple and it was really amazing. It was exciting and afterwards she doesn't feel as guilty since I got to play with someone new too. We still have more fantasies to satisfy so I'm sure we'll continue to have fun.

[ksandml 15]

I guess this is as good a place as any for a first post here.

 

My wife & I got started about 13 years ago, not long after we got married when she very nervously confided that she was pretty sure she was bi. She thought I would freak out but I really didn't. After a few months of serious talks, we decided that if opportunity presented itself a FFM situation would be okay. Well, we had a female roommate whom we found out was bi also. One drunken night later . . .

 

My wife really liked it, and I had a lot of fun as well. This was a semi-regular thing for the few months she lived with us. After that we went for a few years before our next.

 

Admittedly, that first time was really awkward for both of us. My wife had never been with a woman and had only recently even become aware that she was attracted to them; we were both kind of skittish about sharing each other; the dynamics between us and the girl was already odd to begin with. The three of us sat around trying to figure out just how we were actually going to work it. We ended up taking turns rolling a pair of dice that an action on one and place on the other. Really, a very good icebreaker type thing for these unsure situations.

[MrSunLover 15]

This is MrSunShine here. I've always been curious about how other couples fucked. I wanted to see how they went about it and to actually seeing it happening before my eyes. Well, I talked my partner Caryl into looking at swinging. She agreed to try it. I became a member of a swap site and I got connected to a couple close to where we live. My partner Caryl could not make it to our first meeting with the couple. I went alone and it was OK with the couple. So the first time out it was a threesome with the couple. I was nervous and anxious at the prospect of fucking a gal that I'd just met. It was the most exciting sexual encounter of my life. The fact that I was both watching and being watched at fucking blew me away. I was hoping that I would not blow my wad before I could fuck the gal. Fortunately I did fuck the gal and was rewarded by the most satisfying sexual encounter of my life. Since that time, I've had many many exciting excapades of this nature. My partner Caryl has encouraged me to persue this lifestyle for the rest of our lives. WOW!!!

[twoforone100 45]

She wanted a girlfriend. If she got to play then He wanted to play. We had lots of trouble finding that girl. We have had tons of fun with females. Patrick Pattie

[widowerman 55]

I fell into it!

 

I’ve just recently became a widower back in December 2006 and I was mot really looking for anyone else. Then one day just recently I was at the nude beach down at Sandy Hook NJ when a woman about my age sat down right in front of me.

 

It was obvious what she wanted. However I took my time since I was out of commission for about 26 years on “picking up” women. To this day ann2006 of swapper.net and me debate who picked up whom. Well anyway she was a straight forward gal who told me almost everything about herself within 5 minutes of meeting. I think she was looking for the shock value but it never came.

 

Ann2006 was very forward on what she wanted and warned me that I would probably cum too fast the first time we had sex. Ah, she was wrong. In fact what I did to this experienced swinger would shock her. I gave her the best oral sex she ever had! In fact I helped her orgasm so many times, she became light headed. I know I should have warned her, however what fun would that be? Ok, so I’m evil, but I’m a good evil.

 

It did not take long for her to set up a “play date” with another couple that included another woman. This was to be my first venture into swinging. And with 3 women! Unfortunately for me the other women were a tad bit stuck up and did not want to enjoy themselves. As the evening progressed there was talk about the blatant sex on the beach at Gunnison. To better describe what was happening me and my date gave a demonstration on the guy going down on the gal. I was so in tuned with my girlfriend that I forgot I was with another couple and that other woman. As my date groaned and wiggled I became more aware, much more aware that she wanted more, more, more. I willingly obliged. Full use of a flickering tongue, pointed and flat, soft lips on soft lips of a willing pussy and probing fingers did their best. When we were finished I looked up and noticed that we had an audience. The couple was standing smiling and I think getting turned on by our act. Damn too bad the wife didn’t want to cum or was not allowed. I love to her a woman groan during sex.

 

Embarrassingly, I apologized as I was met with smiling faces. Damn, I had no idea that my date and I were the center of attention. The women tried their best to get me off but somehow I have learned to control my orgasm. So I let them work it best they could. I never did cum, but I had one hell of a great time letting the ladies try their best. Oh, don’t get me wrong, it was hard as a rock all on it’s own but it never shot its load. I can still see the ladies fighting over it.

 

My second venture was with ann2006 and another couple. They were both on the heavy set side but the woman was a fun fuck who did enjoy sex. The man was ann2006’s problem. I was having fun with the woman and she in turn enjoyed me. It soon became apparent to me that the body type of a woman did not measure desirability. If your partner likes what you do, she’ll tell you with groans, moans and movement of her body. It was great to know that I can pleasure a woman and that she enjoys me. We did not have any condoms so I could not give my new lady friend the full treatment. I’ve come to realize that I adore women. I treat them like ladies when they want me too and I act like an animal when they want me too. This last lady friend had issues with her body, I did not and showed her.

 

In the end, she thanked me. I’m not sure why she did, but it made me feel good.

 

And that is how I got into swinging. On closing my lady friend ann2006 has two very distinct fantasies; she wants to be gang banged by a lot of men who she knows will cum too fast and then she wants me to fuck her because she knows I can hold out for a very long time. That’s one kinky babe!

 

Her other fantasy is to have me in a room with a bunch of women who I service any way I want, especially eating pussy while she watches. I told her to make herself comfortable- it’s going to be a long night.

[KentuckianaCPL4 16]

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We just started exploring fantasies and it came up.

She loves to read Penthouse Letters and while I was away attending a class she calls me up and asks if I would be upset if she wanted to have a 3some with another guy. I said, "Hell NO, as long as we can have one with another female"

 

That was 9 years ago and we haven't looked back since.

[cubnamy1995 124]

We were walking down the sidewalk. We turned the corner and ran into another couple coming the opposite direction. Amy tripped forward, twisting her ankle. She broke her fall with her mouth on his penis. the other woman awkwardly fell on top of me and landed on my penis with her ass. After making sure no one was injured, we just laughed and went with it. Our court hearing is Tuesday.

 

lol

[AK712 15]

We started exploring fantasies and he expressed to me that he wanted to see me with another man.. after that we kept talking and realized this was something we were both REALLY into... we havent had any experiences with others yet, but we are being patient and waiting for the right person-or people. We are also looking for clubs to visit...

[MrSunLover 15]

It was my idea to get into the lifestyle of swinging with other mature couples. I was fortunate that my partner, Caryl, was comfortable with my suggestion to get involved with swinging. It was like two fishes let loose in the ocean of the swing life. The first couple we met lived close by so that it made things easy to connect with them. The couple was in our age group so that made us feel very comfortable for the four of us. I was eager to get started.

 

The first time at doing something new is always very exciting for me. My partner felt the same way as I did. The other couple weren't new to swinging so they show us the way. I was first at taking my clothes off. The two bottles of beer helped me a lot to get over the nervousness. The excitement of seeing the other couple naked turned me on. My cock stood straight out and I wanted the gal to see it. The first thing I did at seeing her naked was to give her a hug. She felt my hard cock on her belly I am sure. Her male partner then began to undress as did my partner. Wow! I said to myself. This is so much like a dream coming true. Here I am caressing a naked woman in my arms. I am playing with her breast and she is feeling my hard cock in her hand and with her other hand is caressing my balls. This is truly remarkable...my most ardent dream coming to reality.

 

To be continued...

[willyoats 324]

We started because when I turned 50 I began to rue the fact that I had had only one woman in my life. My kids were screwing their brains out and so were others of my own age. I confessed what I was feeling to my wife and proposed that we explore swinging. She agreed quite readily as she 1) could easily understand what I was feeling and 2) had had a successful affair many years before and knew it would be OK with her if I had other women.

 

I contacted Club Sensitivity (how many of you remember that one in Florida?) where Bob and Nancy inducted us into the wonderful world of the lifestyle. We went on to have many beautiful meetings with many wonderful people. That was 18 years ago and we are still at it. I have a meeting with a wonderful partner every couple of months now and am in regular contact with several of the wonderful women I have made love with.

 

When we die, an undertaker friend of ours promises to stick a popsicle stick in my dick and put me on top of my wonderful wife so that we can enjoy sex forever in the hereafter. The best part of our sex lives was the afterglow we had with each other when we were done with each swinging experience.

[mr&mrsbees 15]

3 years ago we were 'accidentally' invited to a private party and it was a private couples party. We were confused and later we were shocked that my friends' wife was hitting on me and the husbands were hitting on my wife, also there were some wives hitting on my wife. We explored swinging and joined ad sites. Met a few couples but we have no interest in them. The following year we went to an on-premise clubs and explored the beauty of swinging.

[cadence 15]

Long story short I was invited to a Swinging club by my boss and his wife. They also knew a single girl who came with us and the 4 of us shared many "adventures" together over the next few years.

[SCcpl40 74]

My wife and I were pretty active sexually before we married. She had been involved with girl girl play and interracial. I had been involved 3 somesomes (fmf) and group play. After 20 years of marriage we we're pillow talking and the age of the computer hit. Checking in on a couple of swinger sites we decided to give it a go. We had a solid relationship but we agreed that if either of us felt uncomfortable we would back out no regrets. We tried it, we like it and we continue to party.

[IrvTxCouple 15]

I've always been the adventurous sort, and when I met my wife who was shy and very open took her to a nudist resort and she loved it. However, after time I just openly broached the subject and she said she was interested and would try it. Being an exhibitionist and voyuer it was a turn on for her because other folks would be there for the purpose of watching and being watched.

 

And here we are

[badboyooplik 15]

Well I think I fall into the something else catagory. I was always a shy kid and had a really hard time talking to girls but luckily I'm bi so ws able to meet guys from time to time so by the time I was 24 I had been with a bunch of guys but I was still a very frustrated virgin with women. I'm a bottom with men so it did get a little frustrating since I was and am strongly atracted to women.

 

So one night while I was in college (I didn't start college till I was 23) I went out to a night club and basically got picked up by the girl who would become my first woman and my first wife.

 

She told me at the outset of the relationship that she was not a monogamous person and I had told her I was bi. At first we just knew we liked sex and weren't jealous and that we liked having sex with others both together and when not together. Then one day we were at the porn store and we saw some swinger magazines. We bought some of them and realized that there was a word for what we did and that word is "swinging". We also realized that there were a lot of other people out there that lived the same lifestyle. So thats how I became a swinger.

 

Unfortunately life took us both in diferent directions and so we divorced and went our separate ways. I'm remarried (8yrs) and my current wife and I swing. I still play with the ex when we can get together too, but not often since we live 1500 miles apart. Sometimes life just takes you down a diferent roads...

[largdad 32]

Mr Larg and I meet in college where we both were with a different person at a party. The 4 of us ended up inthe same bed and the rest is hisstory for many many years.

[sweet_tna 680]

Our good friends invited us to join them on a family camping trip (June 2007). The first night our friends revealed to us they had started swinging. I could tell they were very nervous about telling us—especially me, since they had the impression that I was a bit of a prude.

 

I was very intrigued, though I’d never giving swinging any thought before. It simply never occurred to me that it was an option. I wanted so badly to ask them a bunch of questions, but Mr. Sweet said that, “Hey, that’s great for you and all that, but I don’t think she would go for it." Boy, was HE ever wrong! Needless to say, I pulled him aside or a private discussion at the first available opportunity.

 

The next evening we did ask a bunch of questions, and our friends told us the story of their first Meet & Greet. Let me tell you, it was HOT. Anyway, I got so turned on, Mr. Sweet and I ended up sneaking off to the camp showers in the middle of the night!

 

Over the next couple of months there was a lot of flirting and a little voyeuristic activity between us and our friends. My honey and I decided that even if nothing further happened with our friends, we wanted to give swinging a try. Okay, I decided, lol.

 

Then our friends invited us to joint them at a Meet & Greet. It was out of town, and we agreed to share a hotel room--just as friends. The M&G was fun, but not quite the crowd we expected. We ended up retiring to the room and crawling into our separate beds. My honey and I woke up a few hours later and started playing around. My friend heard us (I swear I was trying to be quiet), and offered to join us. The rest is history . . .