Things not to do in a picture

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Ok, I just pulled up SLS and of course the first page is the listing of random ads near you or something like that and some of the pictures that went with those ads just got me thinking so I had to come and post this.

 

Why is it that when people post pics with their ads they pick the post awful pictures? I mean, do they not look at them?

 

Just on those 10 matched ads, here's what I saw....

 

Webcam shots of a couple that looked completely pissed off.... or in the case of the guy made him look like someone you don't want to piss off.

 

A picture of a woman lying on her back in water... the picture chopped her head off (which is ok, I understand why people do that), but the bad part was that since she had rather large breasts and the pic was taken at an angle, it looked like one was fake and floating on top of the water while the other was real...flat and sinking.

 

One woman evidently felt that all she had to show off was her cleavage, because that is is ALL you can see in a picture of her wearing a black dress... make that 3 pictures of her.

 

Perhaps we need to put together some tips for how to take pics for an ad, maybe. So what things have you seen (besides the obvious crotch shots), that make you wonder why these people opted to use THAT shot?

[OhioCouple 40]

I've seen quite a few pictures, in which I've wondered just the same. Out of curiosity, I visited our ad site and pulled up a few pics of those closest to us. Leaving out the 'crotch shots', most were pretty okay, however there was one in which the gal looked seriously deformed. The camera angle was just all wrong and it looked as though she had the waist of a toothpick and the extremities of a whale. Another photo projected what she normally would most like look like...so why use the other? Just to fill the slots on the front page?

 

I've seen photos where the people may be happy and smiling but their surroundings are littered with garbage and dirty clothing, pictures where there are pictures of their loved ones surrounding them (usually by the mantle) and some that didn't look like they bothered to comb their hair this month, much less brush their teeth. Surrender

 

I think some of it may just be the eagerness to have a photo up so that they may get more attention, for the rest, just plain old ignorance.

[JnCC 24]

I'm glad I'm not the only person who's noticed that! When we were on one of the other swingers websites, my ex- and I paid as much attention to the composition of the picture and what was in the background, etc., as we did to their actual appearance. Probably more, in fact. It's a habit I continue to this day on the "vanilla" dating website to which I belong.

 

Things that usually caught our eye, and not in a good way;

 

1) Cum shots - facial or otherwise. Interesting? Marginally. Sexy or erotic? Hardly, especially for most women. Make us feel inclined to contact them? Never. Guys holding their dicks combined with the above? One word...pathetic.

 

2) Open crotch - Not as big of a turn-on as they probably expect. Vagina's are kind of weird...I never saw an ugly one on a woman I liked, and never saw a pretty one on a woman I didn't. She felt the same way . Maybe fun to look at if you're a 13 year old boy and wondering "just what the hell IS up there," but having participated in the birth of all 3 of my kids, it's a degree of detail neither of us needed to know about somebody before we went to bed with them.

 

3) Trash and clutter in the background - That just screams "we have NO class whatsoever" to people. Even after 30+ years of "doin' it," sex is still kinda special. If you can't take a little time to prepare a place for it, maybe it's not so "special" for you. If you think a picture of a full clothes hamper, full ashtrays, and everything that you're collecting for your forthcoming yard sale is sexy, I guess we're not your type.

 

4) Pictures of vehicles. JUST vehicles. - I understand the reasoning behind including things you find of interest in your pics. We certainly did...both cars and bikes, because those were other activities we enjoyed. But WE were in the pics too. For some reason, (and it seems that single guy-trolls were the worst offenders) we'd get pics of their weiner, followed by a pic of their brand new, fully-chromed, Hardley-Dallysome Electro-Spasm Glide sitting in a driveway somewhere. I guess we were supposed to be so turned on by their bike we'd overlook their obvious physical "shortcomings" Thank God for the "delete" key...

[hotsummers 15]

LOL, our favorite is the listing with 6-8 pics of the guy in every pose possible and the ONE shot of the wife getting in or out of the shower or walking down the hall, or some other pics where she OBVIOUSLY had no idea hubby was going to post it on a swingers site! Of course this guy always wants to swing alone because wife doesn't feel good that night! LOL

 

We also like theones where the people look drunk.... NOT! But we must admit they are entertaining, all of them.

[menher1559 17]

It's kind of ironic. Wife and I were just looking at some pics on SLS yesterday and I couldn't help but comment on all the trash and garbage that people took pictures of. Maybe there would be a long legged lady struting around in a pair of somewhat "unsexy" panties, but what really caught our attention were the mountain dew cans in the floor and the computer sitting on top of a cardboard box. Oh yeah and let's not forget the dirty clothes mixed up with the mountain dew cans.

 

We certainly aren't professional photographers by any means, but I certainly don't want to show the rest of the world our dirty laundry.

 

Just curious, what do you folks think make good photo layouts for sites like SLS and others.

[hfire269 16]

I cant figure out why alot of couples only ever post pics of the woman. "Um Hello you're a couple right?" What happened to the male half.. You know some of us want to see what the male looks like too...

 

I saw this on pic of a women the other night that was a different turn-off. She looked as though shes on crack or hasn't slept in 10 yrs... The ad said she was 23 but I swear she looked 80...

 

Gotta love the 12 shots of the guys penis to from every angle possible... usually the guys taking them him self.. I guess this is suppose to make him feel better about his size

[Miss_Piggy 98]

I just did a quick peek of the SLS ads in my area and have come up with a few things that I personally don't like (aside from the obvious no nos):

 

1) Pictures cut out into weird shapes. It just looks funny. Especially, when the image is on a white backbround while the actual site has a grey background.

 

2) Pictures that are of such poor quality that you can't make anything out in them. Why bother?

[Chicup 41]

1 - Crotch shots.

 

2 - Sex shots.

 

3 - Only pictures of ONE of the couple. If its all the women you know the guy is most likely hideous, and if its only the guy you KNOW the wife is not attractive or he is a cheater.

 

4 - The same shot from slightly different angles.

 

5 - Their motorcycle/Car. To me this says 'low class'.

 

6 - Wedding pictures. This is 2004, digital pictures are easy, take a new one.

 

7 - Web cam shots, almost no one looks good hunched over the computer for a web cam shot. See #6

[Dr Jekyll 15]

Fluffy toys. We once chatted to this couple where the (not so innocent) pictures of the girl included 10+ teddy bears. Somehow that wasn't the most sensual image I've ever encountered.

 

The rest are covered in the various posts above...

[curiousagain 326]

Most of the bad things are covered in the previous post but one pet peeve I have is when there are multiple pics and none of them look like the same person. Now, different angles, lighting, perspective, hair styles, etc. can sometimes make a person look totally different but when it is obvious there is much poundage and possibly years involved in the differences, which one is the correct one???

 

oh yeah, when the only shot is cleavage or genitalia, you can pretty much be guaranteed you don't want to see "the rest of the story".

[misterbates 3]

hfire269 said:

I cant figure out why a lot of couples only ever post pics of the woman. "Um Hello you're a couple right?" What happened to the male half.. You know some of us want to see what the male looks like too...

 

I saw this on pic of a women the other night that was a different turn off. She looked as though shes on crack or hasn't slept in 10 yrs... The ad said she was 23 but I swear she looked 80...

 

Gotta love the 12 shots of the guys penis to from every angle possible.. usually the guys taking them him self.. I guess this is suppose to make him feel better about his size

 

We LOVE taking pics!!!...So...our profiles always have lots of high quality pics..of the both of us..but most of her...Cuz I'm just too damn ugly..camera freezes up every time I get my pic taken!!!

 

Seriously though there are a good number of pics of me too...but we know one couple that has about 80 pics on swappernet and say in the profile how they hate couples who only post pics of the female....well out of 80 pics they have2 of him.... one of his face and one of his dick..and the face pic is like 10 yrs old...we know this cuz we know them personally!!!!

 

And the unsexy undies, messy backgrounds, fuzzy webcam pics, or just plain horrible shots!!!! OMG!!!!..I can't believe what people will post!!!!!

 

[NWARcouple 16]

We would have to agreee with the majority of the comments made so far...

 

One of our worst pet peeves is clutter in the background!

 

Typically, we're not as offended by pics of just the female, probably because we are guilty of the same thing (at least in our public pics, our private pics are a d. :-/ We'll change that one soon though.... It really hasn't been our intent, more so than an indicator of who is usually behind the camera.

[Vespertine 31]

OhioCouple said:

 

I've seen photos where the people may be happy and smiling but their surroundings are littered with garbage and dirty clothing, pictures where there are pictures of their loved ones surrounding them (usually by the mantle)

Dito

 

When we receive messages from people on add sites, we always pay close attention to the background in the pics. We can't help but bypass couples because their homes look trashy or because they're standing in front of their trailers with beer cans littering the ground.

[JnCC 24]

Something to keep in mind regarding the "no pics of the guy" comments.

 

It's well documented that men are the more visually aroused of the sexes, while women tend to be drawn more to personalities. It follows then, that profile pics would tend to favor the female, while the textual description (which reveals personality) would more likely be written by the man. That also explains why a couple is likely to possess more pics of the woman than of the man...because he's the one who's interested in pics, not her.

 

All you have to do to prove this is to look at the magazine rack at the local bookstore. How many are dedicated to the female body? Literally dozens. How many to the male? A few, perhaps. Playgirl, and...??? Women are drawn to beautiful words, while men are drawn to beautiful bodies.

 

It's how guys like me get laid.

 

There are other reasons why a male may not post pics. In our case, I was the primary breadwinner. At the time, I was probably making 5X what my wife was, and carrying the health insurance. It made no sense to jeopardize all that just to catch the eye of another couple. Besides, we never went to bed with anybody until after they'd seen me in person. I'd hate to think I was responsible for too many women having to "take a bullet" for their husbands benefit.

 

True, an ugly man is more likely to have a beautiful wife, than an ugly woman is to have a beautiful husband, but that's more a reflection of how wealth is distributed in our society, especially among people over 50. I suppose that's not much consolation to an attractive couple who's meeting what they think is going to be another attractive couple, but find that she's the only one with any looks, while he's the one with the Mercedes.

[NaughtyKatt 15]

We are guilty of having more pics of myself on our SLS ad, too. That is our default pic over there.

 

Sometimes I think it looks like my legs end at my knees, though. We have 4 "sexy" pics of me and one normal clothed pic of him in the first 5 pics that can be seen by anyone. Although we don't show our full faces in those first 5 pics, we're pretty sure that anyone who knows us would probably recognize us anyway. Paid members can see a pic of both of us that shows our faces. We don't really have many good pics of both of us, but we were able to get that pretty decent one by using the timer on the camera.

 

I wish I could get more good pics of my hubby, but I just have more fun in front of the camera. I love his body, but in general I don't think there are many sexy "poses" for guys. I did take a really great pic of him the other day, just a really cute and casual pic of him with our dog. I don't think it's really the right kind of pic for SLS, though.

 

~Kat

[Vespertine 31]

I did take a really great pic of him the other day, just a really cute and casual pic of him with our dog. I don't think it's really the right kind of pic for SLS, though.

I think that type of picture is the perfect kind to include on your online add.

[Chicup 41]

JnCC said:

Something to keep in mind regarding the "no pics of the guy" comments.

 

It's well documented that men are the more visually aroused of the sexes, while women tend to be drawn more to personalities. It follows then, that profile pics would tend to favor the female, while the textual description (which reveals personality) would more likely be written by the man. That also explains why a couple is likely to possess more pics of the woman than of the man...because he's the one who's interested in pics, not her.

 

All you have to do to prove this is to look at the magazine rack at the local bookstore. How many are dedicated to the female body? Literally dozens. How many to the male? A few, perhaps. Playgirl, and...??? Women are drawn to beautiful words, while men are drawn to beautiful bodies.

 

It's how guys like me get laid.

 

There are other reasons why a male may not post pics. In our case, I was the primary breadwinner. At the time, I was probably making 5X what my wife was, and carrying the health insurance. It made no sense to jeopardize all that just to catch the eye of another couple. Besides, we never went to bed with anybody until after they'd seen me in person. I'd hate to think I was responsible for too many women having to "take a bullet" for their husbands benefit.

 

True, an ugly man is more likely to have a beautiful wife, than an ugly woman is to have a beautiful husband, but that's more a reflection of how wealth is distributed in our society, especially among people over 50. I suppose that's not much consolation to an attractive couple who's meeting what they think is going to be another attractive couple, but find that she's the only one with any looks, while he's the one with the Mercedes.

 

In most swinging situations, it is not going to be beautiful words that starts things going.

 

The bread winner thing does have merit, and I've thought the same myself, but that's where blocked out face pictures come in handy, so at least the other couple has SOME idea of what they are getting into.

[easygoin 15]

I agree with just about everything...the crotch shots are pretty much desperate. Don't get me wrong, I'll look...cuz yes us men are way more visual in most cases then our women...but still I like to get to know the person first...and rather see a face...and if you happen to get to the "R" pics later so be it, but not right away ya know...

[DBL D 120]

Very interesting thread. As I have lots of experience in photography we definitely wanted to have "classy" shots. However, we love sex and have included a couple of all the types. We've taken some off and put others on. We warn people that we have some pretty explicit ones and if they are squeamish then we'd just send one each with a mail reply. We've been told that we have the best photos on the site.

 

Can't please everyone so you have to please yourself.

 

Where have I heard that before?

 

Male D

[curiousagain 326]

DBL D said:

 

Can't please everyone so you have to please yourself.

 

Where have I heard that before?

 

Male D

 

And if you put up pics that are pleasing to you, they will be pleasing to people that think like you do!! And, isn't that who you'e trying to find/attract?

[DBL D 120]

Hey curiousagain,

 

To some degree you are right. We have met and become interested in couples that don't post that many photos or have real sexy ones, per se. The point is that they aren't scared away by them. They understand. And then we can understand each other better and jump past a hurdle.

 

We did meet a couple once and the lady had not seen all of our photos. Now that was a surprise. We do expect that each party will view all of them at least once. Otherwise, What's the point?

 

Male D

[curiousagain 326]

I have went to meet and greets without exchanging pics. I had become that interested in someone or a couple just by emails a/o IM a/o phone conversation. I would rather do that, than have someone or a couple send some great pics then when you meet them in person realize the pics were many years and pounds ago and/or may have been the one time they cleaned up

 

I know I only have the one pic up on my ad right now, but I am sort of taking a break until after the holidays, only meeting with people I already know and concentrating more on dating. I hope to make some new pics before I start back up so to speak.

[Hellboy 15]

That's a really good pic, NaughtyKatt. As we are still in the discussion stage of our exploration, we have not taken any pics to post on a site yet and being that we have a really active sex life right now between the two of us, there's no need to take pics (ummm, we see it in living color all the time) However, most of the things mentioned above are common sense. Obviously you want to put your best foot forward when trying to attract playmates. I have given some though to pics and because I am pretty decent with a camera, I don't think it will be a problem for us. Thinking about some nice outdoor pics out on the ranch. But its really revealing to see some of them and learn what kind of people are putting out ads. I would say I am disappointed, but then it narrows the competition. If you post superior photos with a concise, well thought out description, well, you will likely get tons of responses, but you will have your pick. Looks are a big thing, but then again, you are looking for sex and not a significant other, hence, cleanliness and style carries a little more weight in the selection process.

[midnight hour 16]

My huge pet peeve is kids in the pictures

 

A couple in our area made a picture of his wife, son and him PUBLIC

 

I so wanted to email them and ask them what in the world were they thinking? But at the same time did not want to draw them towards us...too new and too close to home.

 

Someone gave them a clue though...it is gone.

 

All our pics are pretty g-rated....IMHO everyone knows what the private parts look like..a little bigger a little smaller a little hairy a little smooth... but the basics are there on all couples...

 

I also hate to look at pics where there is trash and dirt everywhere...I am not Mrs. Clean but I do not need a shovel to travel to room to room Makes one wonder how clean they keep themselves.

 

The pics of couples on bikes etc do not bother us because we have a connection there...a bike/car by itself...don't do a thing.

 

Mrs. Midnight

[vividpleasures 15]

Okay! Now I'm a bit nervous. Somebody check out my ad at Adult Friend Finders. Please. I only have 2 photos. I don't really like either one. I really do not photograph well ever, let alone during sex. Tell me how to fix this.

 

Hawkshunny at adultfriendfinder

[northindycpl 32]

I agree that men are more stimulated by photos... it seems that whenever we post photos its of me, and boobs... As a women it is entirely more stimulating to see pictures of others that leave a littel to the imagination.

 

That said... the photos we have posted are photos that are important to us. Of course we have removed our faces from the general public, but all of the pictures were taken during times of great passion we had for each other, not just photos to post. To me (the wife) it is very erotic to see the photo and instantly remember the day or the time the photo was taken.

 

We always look at the background. It is such a turn off to see a man taking a picture of his own penis while sitting at the computer screen, with beer cans surrounding. How much thought was given to the actual picture? I certainly am not interested in someone who give such little thought to their first impression!

[vividpleasures 15]

As mentioned, I did not like the pics I have posted for our ad. After reading every ones thoughts and opinions, i will be working on ours. Oddly enough I am guilty of doing the same thing that I complain about. I posted pics of me instead of us. When I see other couples only post the female half, that bothers me.

 

We will be working on this once we are settled in our new house. I shouldn't have posted pics that I was not happy with in the first place! What was I thinking?

 

Oh well, I look forward to a new photo shoot in the future!

 

The Mrs.

[DBL D 120]

Nothing like a good photo shoot!

 

Make sure you get a good facial, I mean, face shot, I mean...  Make sure you're wearing a necklace, I mean, some pearls, I mean...

 

Male D

[vividpleasures 15]

 

I get the point!

[biblonde 22]

My biggest Don't Do besides those pics of just a boat, car, pool, spa, tree, bike,...is those that post just pics of other pics! or toys and not the good toys either. I'm talking pics of barbie dolls and such. Yup was approving pics the other day and a guy submitted about 6 pics of barbie! Or the ones that have one pic 20 times on site. We take time to take good pics or at least I think they are good. They are sexy but not nekkid or anything. I don't mind seeing shots like that if they are more than just a crotch shot but we decided to not put any online anymore like those. Although mine are sexy and show a lot!

[J & K 16]

LMAO...we put up a thread like this a long time ago with pics, but more toward pics men take of themselves.

 

If you were to look at our pics on sls one would see that we want to present ourself in good taste.

 

Folks ought to post pics wearing nice clothes, sexy outfits, comb hair, trimmed facial hair for men, etc.

 

My goodness....pics are a form of advertisment. Want to make the sale then one has to make a good presentation. First impressions count for all of us we think. K and I look at profiles every day and we know some of these folks look better in person so why do they look like crap on the profile. Women and men who looked like they just got out of bed with a bad hair day and no make-up. Pics of just their legs....come on, where is the rest of the body?

 

We have to remember that most of the pics that go on the sites are posted by the men. Men want to see X-rated stuff so they feel they have to also post them kind too. What is more sexy? A man in nice clothes/suit or a pic of his hairy dong? A woman in a nice sexy outfit or a pic of her boobs or her pussy? Are we swingers attracted to sex appeal? We wish to think so. Classy, not trashy is our motto. We think about 80% of all swingers need to get on that .

 

Just our opinion folks.

[vividpleasures 15]

J & K said:

What is more sexy? A man in nice clothes/suit or a pic of his hairy dong? A woman in a nice sexy outfit or a pic of her boobs or her pussy? Are we swingers attracted to sex appeal? We wish to think so. Classy, not trashy is our motto. We think about 80% of all swingers need to get on that .

 

Just our opinion folks.

 

 

And I know this! I have said it before to my husband.

Still don't know what I was thinking. Would love to redo pics now. But I don't think a back drop of packing boxes would be a good thing.

[jcbicouple 24]

Our pet peeves are Close ups of genitals (They all look pretty much the same, and the different angles really bug us!) and people including their kids (or family/friends) in their pics. Either of those make us think twice about the people.

 

As for men being more visually stimulated: Ya, probably some truth there, but here's some food for thought...You're meeting a woman too! Why would we answer an ad that had only pics of her and none of him? Women, in general, may not be turned on by pics of men, but they can certainly tell whether or not they'll even consider having sex with them. We understand not putting faces on ad sites, but a full body shot shows a general physical appearance.

 

We took all of ours off a few months ago. None of them had faces, but you could tell we were clean and the physical condition we are in. We may consider putting them back up someday, but aren't sure yet.

 

We do agree with curiousagain though: If you put the pics you like up, you'll be contacted by people with similar tastes. Let them put the icky laundry there. Then we get to see it and KNOW we don't want to waste our time talking to them. Let them post the close up picks of their genitals: That's what they like, and we know we aren't interested in talking to them. It's a kind of communication of personalities without anyone even realizing it.

[ALilOEverything 901]

I prefer candid G rated pics which is exactly we have put up. I only have 3 up, two of me and one of my husband...fully clothed and wearing smiles. I don't mind sexy nude shots for as long as they are tasteful. Though I still think of nude pics like opening a Christmas present before it's Christmas. Crotch shots, people holding a beer in one hand and a cigarette in another, a disaster of a house behind them, blurry pictures usually makes me pass by.

[growgirl 15]

ALilOEverything said:

blurry pictures usually makes me pass by.

oh great... c'mon santa, let's get that sleigh on the road!

 

our original and still our only pic on sls, is a slightly blurry head/shoulders shot of us.... obviously I'm hoping for a digital to show up in, oh... say... 27 days! You can tell it's us, it just looks like we may look after you've had your 5th drink.

[Nymph an' Satyr 22]

I (male half) like action shots, including "money" shots. The wife is merely indifferent to them. So maybe some classy shots mixed with sleezy shots- and make all happy

[jcbicouple 24]

At one time, for a short while, we had a "butt" pic of the wife on our profile (a close up of her bent over kind of thing). What we found was that it attracted people that we did not connect with.....at all! We did not talk to a single person during that time that we would have any interest in meeting. We switched our picture (Yahoo) to something more to our taste and what do you know! We start talking to people we have interest in again! We still think it's a reflection of personality, and characteristic of the couple or individual. The butt pic wasn't something we would normally put out there to represent us, but thought we'd do it for fun. Mr. JC loves showing off my butt. lol However, We think we'll leave his showing off for after we talk awhile or as we normally do: Showing it off in person (clubs are great for that!).

[DBL D 120]

You know, I really think that people place too much emphasis on the type of photos in an ad. What's important is if you can see a good view of their faces. You know that we all have our own type of photo that we like. A butt shot, a pussy with cum on it, good pic of the erect "tool"...whatever. We are looking for those who can talk like nothing is different from when they never saw those pix. Photos can tell you alot about what you are looking for.

 

I apologized to a lady once in case she was offended by our photos. This is a very nice sexy couple. She wondered what all the fuss was over. She'd Never seen anything like that before...Not.

 

As long as the photos reflect what you want them to, even if they may be a bit more "hardcore" than they'd like, and they are tastefully done I don't see the problem.

 

So what was it about the butt shot that attracted the "wrong" people? Was that the only nude photo you showed them. We show ourselves in a variety of scenarios. We hope that they would expect that they would end up in some of those same scenarios.

 

One thing that bothers me. When I see photos of a couple not using a condom having intercourse (Clearly not the hubby) and they tell you in their profile that they want "safe" sex. What up wid dat?

 

I'm not sure if I made any sense at all!

 

Male D

[jcbicouple 24]

As long as the photos reflect what you want them to, even if they may be a bit more "hardcore" than they'd like, and they are tastefully done I don't see the problem.

 

We don't either. Our point wasn't that people shouldn't put hardcore, or close ups, or faces or whatever you are comfortable with on their ads/profiles. Our point was that the pictures and styles of pictures that you like the best will attract other individuals that like them. Therefore, The type of photo can and does attract those with similar tastes. Our point in every post we've added to this thread has been that people should put what they want in their pictures. We don't think there was anything wrong with the butt picture we had on our profile (Frankly, It was quite the cute butt. lol) However, It's not a picture, if we found an ad or profile, with a similar style of picture on it, that would make us say "Hey, We should write them.", or "That's attractive". The only reason that particular one was attractive to us was because we have a personal interest in the owner. It's not that we're offended by them. It's just not our preferance. We tend to like discreet full body pictures (clothed is perfectly fine with us, and probably prefered if given a choice), and then a face picture, but understand not putting faces on profiles/ads.

[DBL D 120]

I feel like I'm beating a dead horse or something. Regardless...

 

I think what you have to do is put something on your ad that is definitive. If you say you are 6'2" and 200#'s then it's nice to have a photo to prove that you are. That is what people are looking for. Honesty in advertising. If you say that you are 45 then let's have a photo that shows you at 45, not 40. Etc.

 

The rest is eye candy. The idea is to put as much out there as possible to show what you look like and have it be current. How long should you have a photo on the site just because You like it? And...If you just happen to be doing other things that show other sides of you then that's just the way it is.

 

End of Rap. (For me anyway.)

 

Male D

[dave110256 21]

I agree with most of the other people here... Genital shots don't do anything for us.

 

We just registered on the site a few weeks go and did include a few pictures, how else can anyone tell if there is any attraction? I also agree that both people in the couple should be included in the picture or pictures. We include no nude shot, don't have any and wouldn't post them if we did. If someone is interested and we talk a little, then we might share some more photos, but not to total strangers.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

jcbicouple said:

At one time, for a short while, we had a "butt" pic of the wife on our profile (a close up of her bent over kind of thing). What we found was that it attracted people that we did not connect with.....at all!

So that's the reason I only get PMs from weirdos on this board.

 

dialing....dialing....dialing....

 

"Hi honey, when you get home from work tonight, will you take some pics of me with the digital camera? I need a new avatar for the board. Thanks sweetie. Luv ya. Bye. "

[DustyandSweety 15]

I haven't seen any real bad ones when I searched around where I live.

[danni654 16]

Omigod! I'm so glad I'm not the only one that wonders about the people behind the pics. For the most part, we've found that if the pics are bad, it's not only a signal that there's no going to be a physical attraction, there's not going to be a mental attraction.

 

Without trying to sound snobbish, we are very "in" to people who are professional and have a personality...they're well...cool! We're definitely not "friends first" but we do want to be able to talk to the people we fuck!

 

And, now that we know what we like, we like repeaters. And if we have nothing in common, nothing to talk about, then that ain't gonna happen.

[2jersey 16]

There is a photo on AFF which has to be in the running for the worst ever. It is a closeup shot of an erect penis, and the penis appears to be suffering from a full blown herpes outbreak.

[LOL_OMG 130]

OMG ewwww!

 

I saw a pic on SLS not too long ago of a 400 lb. guy sitting at his computer, it was a joke because the profiles were of a younger, thinner couple LOL. Still, it was an attention getter!

 

Mrs

[NUDEWOMBAT 16]

There is a photo on AFF which has to be in the running for the worst ever. It is a closeup shot of an erect penis, and the penis appears to be suffering from a full blown herpes outbreak.

 

I seen something similar on AFF last year, an extreme close-up of the vagina (hairy) & anus complete with hemorrhoids!

[discoandvyper 15]

It hasn't been said yet in the thread, but there's some people who just shouldn't have profile pics.

 

For instance, there's a couple in our hometown (who is quite famous on SLS for bugging any and all people who have a profile within 50 miles of them). Their username on SLS isn't needed, but they've got terrible photos. The lady goes around 400 lbs and wears sweatpants and a sports bra in all her photos. The trailer the live in is nasty, just plain nasty. One of her photos has half a kid in it. There are no photos of him to date, but you can mentally fill that image in on your own.

 

These people really need to take down all their photos. Not only is it obvious what she looks like just by reading her weight, it states it again in her profile. I'm not naive, I know there are some pretty plus size women out there ( like the Lane Bryant models, woo dawggy! ) but it's painfully obvious this is not the case. It's disgusting, both how she portrays herself and the images of her house - not to mention the fact that she doesn't mind putting half a picture of one of her kids up on her profile pics. It's to the point that we dreaded checking our email sometimes, as they'll email everyone within 50 miles of us once or twice a week. We only recently learned you could block people.

 

People like this need not have profile photos. It'd up their chances at meeting, but even then I imagine people who meet would immeidately turn that class of people down. What's needed is a lifestyle change on their part.

[MissMaryPA 15]

Men who are supposedly interested in meeting, but who can only provide pictures where they're wearing a hat and sunglasses. I CAN'T SEE YOUR FACE, PEOPLE!

[Chicup 41]

Just a side note, on a site where they have 'levels' of access we had face pictures and I was recognized by someone from work. Luckily nothing has come of it, but we are removing all face pictures from all but password access. I knew this would happen eventually, but I just assumed it wouldn't be 'now'.