How do you orgasm during intercourse?

[Miss_Piggy 98]

The question goes out to all the ladies out there:

 

How do you typically orgasm during intercourse?

 

Last night Kermit noted that I usually "take matters into my own hands" so to speak when having sex. He has the idea that it's more manly to be able to get himself and the women he is with off all at the same time. His suggestion was that I not do this some of the time so that he can practice running the whole show. We've noticed that other women he has been have a tendency to sit back and let him do all the work (which is very different from my tactic).

 

Hopefully I have made my question clear. Please comment below.

[ALilOEverything 901]

I orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone, no help from toys, no clitoral stimulation taking places. It's taken me a long time to be able to orgasm on a regular basis from intercourse (and it still doesn't happen every time). If I let the man run the show and decided on the positions and angles it's just not going to happen, he's clueless as to where my sensitive spots are. I almost always pick the position and angle myself just right for him to hit the gspot and then usually cue him in on how fast to go... and of course I tell him in a very sexy way. Extra stimulation on the clit does almost nothing for me and I rarely come from oral and never from manual stimulation (clitoral). Sometimes if the guy gets it right I can cum from manual gspot stimulation but that doesn't happen as often as I would like.

[Miss_Piggy 98]

to make sure we're clear here, we're talking about orgasms during intercourse. I used the word sex above which I am now thinking sounds a little vague.

 

 

 

Oh, and for the men:

 

Please don't vote as this question is for ladies only and we wouldn't want to disrupt the results. You are, however, welcome to comment on how you think most women orgasm during intercourse if at all - in your experience - by posting here.

[Just_us49 32]

I used to always "take the show into my own hands" for the first few years we were married because obviously I knew exactly what to do. I always orgasm from clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Only a couple of times I haven't and they weren't during intercourse. After doing some research and reading, hubby talked me into laying back, relaxing and just enjoying myself while he learned exactly what to do to my body. Lets just say the next couple of years were a lot of fun!!! It took a lot more than just intercourse for him to learn my body and for me to learn to lay back and let him do his thing. That is hard to do when you're used to having control. I will say that I have learned to let it build slower and longer which results in more intense orgasms. We are still trying new things and learning more, especially about my g-spot and female ejaculation. Hubby and I orgasm together 98% of the time.

[scky_cpl_4_bif 15]

It took me years to be able to have an orgasm much more than about once every 5 or 6 times we were together. Mr. Swing took the initiative a couple of years ago to get a book about the female body and how it works and learned different techniques (of which he mastered with me!!). Now, I have an orgasm every time we have intercourse. Initially, it had to be vaginal and clitoral stimulation, but he has now learned how to hit the g-spot as well as the cul-de-sac and either one can produce a mind blowing "O". Only rarely now do I 'need' clitoral stimulation. I also used to never be able to climax with oral alone. Now, need I say more?

[Vespertine 31]

I usually take matters into my own hands during intercourse, too.

 

I'm multiorgasmic....but only if I'm stimulating myself.

[EvilMJ 65]

Hmmm...I had to think about this one...I usually find it very very difficult to have an orgasm without any sort of manipulation. I guess I take things into my own hands, and sometimes he does the job for me .

 

I came close once with just intercourse alone but it is a matter of being able to hit the right spot...practice makes perfect I guess.

[good times 991]

I've been with a few women that orgasmed during sex or oral stimulation (or at least they acted like they did).

 

Mrs. GT is like Ves and Miss P, she takes matters into her own hands. She can elaborate more when she reads this thread if she wants to.

[mrs good times 73]

I posted orgasm before or after. I have never had an orgasm during intercourse. I usually masturbate before intercourse for two reasons, one Mr. GT likes to watch and help of course and two, I like to be first at everything.

[lnk4u 15]

OK I tried to pick more than one option as more than one applies to me. Vaginal alone works as well as vaginal with clitoral with either me or him using hands and/or toys as well as clitoral orgasms during intercourse. I don't rally think poll is faulty just need to be able to pick more than one option.

[DragonsLair 26]

I haven't had many orgasms during intercourse unless my husband manually stimulates my clit. I come during oral sex every time. It's great to be multiorgasmic. My husband is jealous.

[Miss_Piggy 98]

OK I tried to pick more than one option as more than one applies to me. Vaginal alone works as well as vaginal with clitoral with either me or him using hands and/or toys as well as clitoral orgasms during intercourse. I don't rally think poll is faulty just need to be able to pick more than one option.

 

 

I didn't make it an option for you to pick more than 1 as I was looking for what you consider to be typical for you. If more than 1 applies then just pick the one that applies more regularly. OR - if that doesn't help you then pick the "This poll is faulty" option and post about how you orgasm all the time all over the place in every which way

 

However, I should note: If you are going to write a while heck of a lot about how you orgsam all the time all over the place in every which way you might think of submitting a story about it instead of going into too much detail here

[northindycpl 32]

I prefer to orgasm during intercourse while stimulating my clit, the majority of the time with a toy. I can orgasm with clitoral stimulation very quickly. Orgasm from intercourse takes much longer. Mr Indy hits the 'spot' about 98% of the time during intercourse, and we mutually cum together during intercourse about 99% of the time.

 

It really depends on how hot I am before hand. If there has been a lot of petting prior to intercourse then I cum more quickly.

 

I would say that I take matters into my own hands almost everytime, but then again, I am Queen of my bedroom, and Mr Indy is only interested in my pleasure, 'cause when Mama's happy, Everybody's happy!!

[awkuzu 15]

It took a while but it happens after repeatedly fucking & my pussy is engorged & tender, so when I ride I cum or maybe after going to all those ''sites'', I am ready & cum, again when I ride. I hope one day to cum while receiving oral which is not gonna happen.

[jrw 18]

I haven't had many orgasms during intercourse unless my husband manually stimulates my clit. I come during oral sex every time. It's great to be multiorgasmic. My husband is jealous.

 

No need for your husband to be jealous he can be multi -orgasmic too! There is a difference between orgasm and ejaculating (as ejaculating women can attest to). Men can both learn and refine the art of delayed ejaculation, internal ejaculating, and becoming multi orgasmic through tantric yoga practice (women who would like to experience orgasm, multiple orgasm and ejaculation can also do so with tantric yoga practice).

[trublujo 15]

I generally orgasm with help from mr. jo using usually toys or oral but on occasion i can orgasm vaginally only if i ride him while he is in a sitting position. When i do this i can orgasm in less than a minute.... We must be hitting the spot lol.

 

One option was left out of this poll though. What about achieving an orgasm with no stimulation vaginally or clitoral at all? I am one of those lucky ladies that can have an orgasm in my sleep. They are so intense when it happens it wakes me up but I'm not going to complian nothing better than waking up to an orgasm.

[DBL D 120]

I can orgasm at the drop of a hat LOL.... it's great, I have several during intercourse with or without rubbing my clit. I do have to say my best and biggest "O" cums with his finger in my ass and me rubbing my clit at the same time

 

Fem D

[nhcpl1968 18]

Well the mrs answer the poll but asked me to write a comment she normaly has orgasms just from vaginal sex but prefers clitoral stimulation either manually or rubbing the right way .........

[Ssugarlips 16]

I orgasm easily, often, and from a variety of stimuli. Teasing me without letting me cum is more difficult than getting me off. My husband is a master at this because he knows me so well. He also knows how easily I respond so he delights in keeping me on the edge as long as possible. While I may beg, plead, and threaten him to get me off while he's teasing me, in the end I love the crashing orgasms that occur when he relents and takes me over the last line.

[bikityndragon 15]

HI,

I orgasm everytime-sometimes many times- a very considerate lover. I get off from being on top and its vaginal AND clitoral for me. though I have been known to get off with one or the other or with anal alone or with clitoral. rarely oral stimulation will work as well.

[CuriousFemale40 15]

I've had both, but prefer a clitoral orgasm. I usually have a vaginal type when I'm alone, while the fantasies run wild in my head. I admit, this took awhile to achieve. Hearing that this was the best, according to some, I had to investigate this on my own because, I my case, it was a little too much pressure. After achieving my vaginal orgasm, I felt, that clitoral was for me. It feels too good when I have a warm tongue, and warm breath, dance around my clit...Yummy!!!

[kellroper 15]

I have NEVER had a vaginal or clitoral orgasm during intercourse. I don't know if there is a problem with my body or the way intercourse is given. I admit that my hubby can't go as long as I'd like him to, and maybe that is the difference. He's also the only person that I've been with so that is why I'm here.... we're looking to explore other opportunities for both of us. Any suggestions, will a new male expierence help?? I'm jealous of other women, but I don't want my hubby to feel bad about our sex.

[fairynbehr 15]

I normally "O" with the help of a toy or my own hand but there are the occasions that i have a vaginal "O" but i really do prefer the clitoral the sensation seems to be better and way more intense.

[In2curiosity 15]

I usually orgasm during intercourse from clitoral stimulation provided by the ride.

 

But I can also orgasm from having my breasts worshiped without any vaginal or clitoral stimulation at all. Call me crazy but I prefer being called blessed.

 

Mrs. Me

[Guest curiousR]

My gf comes early, often, repeatedly and with copious amounts of liquid. With a moist finger or penis, I can rub her clit for a few minutes and she comes. If I only penetrate her vagina for a few minutes, she comes. Bt she comes best and most violently when I alternate being tender and slow with hard fast thrusts while talking to her lovingly or dirty... mostly mixing things up and being a bit unpredictable.

 

She is a well oiled orgasm machine !

 

She feels cheated if she doesn't come at least 3 times and has, in the past, had over 10 orgasms in one 30 to 45 minute session, I'm guessing less then 20, we are not sure because we lost count in the heat of passion.

 

woe is me if I slip and come before she does, which, I'm ashamed to say, has happened only a few times over the last 5 years, thank goodness. I don't think it is because I'm some sorta hot stud. I'm just shy of 6 inches and sorta thick so I guess I fill her up and am just long enough to bang on her g-spot while also bottoming out and banging on her clit with my pelvic bone. Anyway, the combination of her body and mine seem to match which makes it possible for her have repeatedly, explosive orgasms, one after another.

[watergrrl 15]

I’m opposite than a lot of women I hear about because it’s far easier for me to orgasm from intercourse than oral sex. But even though I get my orgasm from vaginal penetration it’s actually still a clitoral orgasm.

 

My clit is rather low on my body, as in close to my pussy. Good oral sex can be difficult due to it’s size. So I’m eternally grateful for a little thing called a labia! As many know the labia is like the legs of the clit and extends back along the sides of the vagina. My labia is fairly sensitive and during good vaginal sex the man’s penis will tug on my labia which in turn tugs on the hood of my clit. It’s all connected, and for me good sex feels more like outward pulling than inward pushing.

 

Also, the good aspect of my clit being so close to my vagina is that thrusting action usually gives me some nice friction on my clit. So put it all together and the result is that I usually orgasm from vaginal sex without direct clit stimulation because I’m getting so much indirect clit action.

 

The negative side of all this is because of how my plumbing is situated I’m forced to care about a guy’s penis girth. I truly would rather not, but a thick one tugs more firmly on my labia and creates more friction against the outside of my clit during thrusting.

 

Of course the motion of the ocean is quite important too, and I appreciate a man who knows how to move just right. I’ve had multiples just from intercourse and the most I’ve ever had is eight, so it helps if the guy can last awhile too! More fun for all!

[WesternSwing 504]

I'm lucky, Mrs. WS orgasms both vaginally and clitorally. Intercourse, toys, oral, she'll cum from all of them. She also has incredible orgasms where she shakes and shudders and you can't even touch her for minutes afterwards. This has surprised some of our playmates like they have done something wrong, when in fact they have done EVERYTHING right.

 

Mr. WS

[My77038 15]

Most of the time i can cum both ways.. yet they are totally separate. The clitoral is wonderfully delicious mmmm just body shuttering tension then release. The vaginal Orgasm is like a pushing then release and very wet. The g-spot is wonderful thing. Vaginally is the best one for me because I can do it over and over and it is such a relief to my body. The euphoria after is great. Some times it makes me cry. I love it!!!!!!!!! I hate the clean up though.

[RenoFantasy 15]

Broken. There should be female AND male responses, and the option of multiple selections. We're swingers, and for most of us that means couples.

 

Since men don't usually orgasm in different ways in the same sense as women, it the men's options should have been along the lines of what works best for achieving an orgasm. Such as different positions: missionary, doggie style, woman astride, 69, other; oriface/method: oral, vaginal, anal (her), anal (him), handjob from her, finish himself off, other; situational: when being watched, when NOT being watched, when watching another couple, when with 2 women, when with a woman and another guy, when being photographed/recorded, bondage/fetish, other.

 

Come to think of it, maybe that's too many options.

 

Matt & Sarah

[MissKat 15]

Whether I have a vaginal or clitoral orgasm through penetration alone or with assistance (toys, fingers, tongue) just varies from encounter to encounter and, sometimes, partner to partner. I will say though, when I have multiple orgasms through penetration alone (no extra help) they're usually clitoral orgasms. The vaginal ones tend to hit me so hard that Im not quite 'ready to go' straight away whereas the clitoral ones hit me hard but still leave me with enough energy to keep on going.

[ShellyM 0]

I orgasm through vaginal intercourse, with me on top. I cannot ever reach orgasm in the missionary position, and this is honestly frustrating to me. Depending on how much foreplay we have, I have very intense orgasms. I can reach orgasm honestly pretty easily. Jay is very good with oral, I am thinking about having his tongue bronzed lol

 

And then of course, there is masturbation which is a given. I think all men have that ego problem when it comes to female orgasms. Lately I have been very tired, and honestly there were a few times when I had to take care of myself so to speak. I think the first time he was hurt, thinking that he must not have been man enough to take care of business. The key is communication. I am thinking about having a clitoral pin put in, but I am worried about how much it is going to HURT!

[ShellyM 0]

Yes, the vaginal ones are strong, right? Its almost embarassing, but my entire body almost short circuits lol, and I momentarily lose muscle control. Man, they are really something else. I don't think men get orgasms that are strong like the ones women get.

[Tybee Swing 286]

"other" - my vote is multiple choice, the first four choices of the poll.

[Karmickiss 28]

Took me my first year of marriage, to even learn that female orgasm was not a "myth"..lol, though I did marry young....it had everything to do with me being comfortable with my own body, and making love to other women, taught me alot about myself

 

Now,I am multi-orgasmic, and have been for several years, and I'm a short-circut-ing,female ejaculating,shuddering, shaky,grateful mess afterwards and during.... :rollseyes

 

The most intense and first kind of orgasm I have ever to really experience, and give to another, was the internal,"g"-spot kind of thing......yummy...and I can have a strictly clitoral one, but this is more rare, or less intense, but usually sets off the other kind...resulting in a simulataneous mess, of clitoral and internal magic....making me one lucky and constantly in disbelief at how intense things can be-woman. the mix of the two is the most desired and common result for me these days, and it does happen for the most part now;and is partly dependant on the chemistry I have with someone, sure, (though now that would be the only way I will be engaging in sex in the first place, as a result of chemistry)but also as importantly, my comfort level and expectations I have with myself...which are both much more helathy than ever.

[NJCouple 16]

I vote that this a faulty poll. I can orgasm with all of the listed methods as well as without direct stimulation. My touching and giving oral sex is enough to make me orgasm. I can have dozens of orgasms during sex, some quite strong and long lasting. In one session I lost count at one hundred. Typically once I am really hot someone just playing with my breasts can cause orgasms. I am sure there are other woman out there that like to cum as much as I do.

Fess up

[Amanda69 24]

I also voted faulty. I can orgasm through multiple methods much depends on my mood. A purely vaginal one is rare but fun, though to me doesn't feel any different as my whole body is involved no matter what.

 

I love oral and come that way with patience. I love best coming when my partner is inside with me providing some manual stimulation to the clit or me on top rubbing against him.

[uksexymona 15]

I am blessed with having a big hard clit which enhances my sexual life. I can orgasm by rubbing my clit during either vaginal or anal sex and I usually have the strongest climax in multiple orgasms.

 

Recently my husband discovered my G-Spot and by stimulating it I can have a much stronger orgasms accompanied by lot of squirts.

[LFM2 1,482]

I can orgasm vaginally, and can have more than one, and then sometimes can't have one at all. That's not all bad because I really do love sex. I don't have to orgasm every time to have a wonderful experience.

 

I can't have a clitoral orgasm through sex, though. Well -- Come to think of it, I did once and that was freaking AMAZING!! That one usually has to be either oral or toys.

[willyoats 324]

This topic is particularly interesting to me, a man. I can relate my experiences with about 30 women who had orgasms with me in the 10 years that we were active swingers. At least 20 of those were women that I had sex with on several different occasions.

 

There was not one who really wanted to have an orgasm during intercourse. They wanted it before. Maybe it's just me and the way I make love. I usually spend at least 2 hours in foreplay, massaging and cooing and flattering and loving. That always includes a slow leadup to either oral or manual stimulation of her sexiest parts, at which point I get the message from her to finish her off that way before I penetrate (which I am happy to do!)

 

I know that some of them never have orgasms during intercourse no matter who the partner is. One woman who has had hundreds of partners told me that she seldom has orgasms at all. The difference with me is that I am willing to spend so much time getting them to the peak. Too many swinging guys just want to get their rocks off and they don't "make love." They just fuck. That certainly was my wife's main irritation in at least 75% of her encounters. .

[ohash01 20]

Personally, I am VERY up and down. The only exception is when I'm using my own hand...I've been practicing that since I was young, so I have the down pat. But those are only clitoral orgasms...still can't give myself vaginal orgasms.

 

Very recently my man and I have discovered the perfect position for me to have a vaginal orgasm nearly every time. Imagine all those years with no orgasms, and me thinking I was "broken". It was a very sad time. I loved sex, but it was always like I was trying to hard. I stopped trying and "BAM!" It happened. However, I still can't have clitoral orgasms WITH him, nor will I orgasm from oral alone.

 

Like I said...very up and down.

[Thkmlkchoclik 15]

I can orgasm be it intercourse or oral pleasure or with him just fingering me.

 

I like the vaginal orgasm, but I really, really love the clitoral orgasms. They're just more intensed and.............whoa never mind you guys get the picture. LOL!!

[Tia Vampire 167]

I can get me, me just by his work alone, but if he is not hitting the right spots, then i take things into my own hands or if it is feeling so good and i just want to get a nut i'll take things into my own hand also.Either way i love a good orgasm.

[Menage_a_Trois 182]

For me I orgasm multiple times, I will cum from oral and during intercourse, usually from both clitoral and vaginal orgasms.

 

The Other Mrs. Menage

[Relaxed_n_Fun 15]

I always need some clitoral stimulation; his finger, vibrator, my fingers, someone else’s fingers, someone else’s tongue

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Last night Kermit noted that I usually "take matters into my own hands" so to speak when having sex. He has the idea that it's more manly to be able to get himself and the women he is with off all at the same time. His suggestion was that I not do this some of the time so that he can practice running the whole show. We've noticed that other women he has been have a tendency to sit back and let him do all the work (which is very different from my tactic).

 

 

I am like you, I need help. Occasionally if I'm on top I can orgasm vaginally without any clitoral help from my fingers/vibrator/etc but for the most part I need some assistance and luckily my Pet is ok with that.

[sweet_tna 680]

If I'm good and "warmed up" (ie had a few O's during foreplay), then I'm way more likely to have a vaginal O from penetration--especially if it's deep. Of course, if there's any clit simulation happening, then it's gonna' be more intense.

 

=)

[des1re06 200]

It depends on the man/penis.

 

With hubby and a couple of our male playmates, penetration alone and multiple times.

 

I'm easy to get off.

 

Mrs. D

[blackmilf001 15]

well, I am a multi-orgasmic woman. I can cum from oral on clit, oral on anus, oral on toes. Manual on clit, manual on g-spot, full penetration vaginally I dont so much like toys.. ( impersonal) And when I masturbate I have to be in the tub using warm water . My newest lover is a little younger and has excellent stamina, flexibility, imagination and few inhibitions as to where he puts his tongue. A KEEPER!!...lol