How long do you like to play?

[CantonCouple 15]

Here are two questions, the first for the guys, the second for everyone.

 

I wondered how many times do you guys generally get off during a swinging encounter - Once? Twice? Even more?

 

Also, how long do your swinging encounters usually last - A few hours? An evening? An entire weekend?

 

Just curious.

[lovers 25]

I sometimes can get off as many as twice during a swinging encounter. It really depends on the situation.

 

As for length of time, a few hours is usually the norm for us.

[Vjklander 138]

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Originally posted by CantonCouple

I wondered how many times do you guys generally get off during a swinging encounter - Once? Twice? Even more?

 

Also, how long do your swinging encounters usually last - A few hours? An evening? An entire weekend?

For MFM once or twice

For FMF three or four

 

Yes, usually overnight at least.

 

[Chicup 41]

I remember reading somewhere that men have to drag their women into a swingers party.

 

 

And then they have to drag them away

 

Seems to be a pretty common result.

[Brit_Pair 62]

Our meetings last anywhere between 5 and 7 hours. That includes time for socialising at the outset. Starting out as FF, and developing into MFMF, means I (Mr Brit) usually get off twice, though there was one exceptional evening when I squeezed in a third.

[velbuzz 17]

If we allow enough time (4-5 hours) I will be able to get hard at least twice. Women have the bonus situation because they can be on the receiving end of a tongue for as long as people are willing. And my tongue likes to keep moving

[OhioCouple 40]

Our swing encounter have lasted from as little as 5 hours to an entire weekend. Part of the time usually consists of socializing (going to dinner together) and then to the bedroom. For the weekend jaunts, one couple that we are associated with lives 3 1/2 hours away from us. Whenever we get together with them which ever is the 'hosting' city we make a fun outing of it by including in local attractions, museums, car shows etc., during the daytime and in the evenings of course dinner and then on to some play time which is generally around 5 hours or so. We will include meeting for breakfast the morning of departure. (Also, I'd like to add that some sexual play has been know to happen in public venues while we were doing mainstream visiting... These outings have always been fun.

 

As for my hubby maintaining a hard-on and getting off. His best has generally been twice, (not including the one reserved for us after the other swingers have gone home.)

[azwetnwild 15]

I have seen some talk about women not liking marithon sessions, and other talk about a couple only staying and playing for a half and hour and how it was a wast of time.

 

So what is a good session and when dose it turn into a bad marithon session?

 

Reason for the question is I like to finish off with my wife so I just go until every one starts to get tired whether it's half hour or 3 hours, so if I forget to say somthing ahead of time it could be a long session and it's not somthing you can bring up half way thru.

[Ciki123 15]

Most of the time I dont like looking at the clock, I just go with the flow. If it takes 6 hours, I dont mind....if it takes 15 mins...I dont mind...as long as its fun. It really depends on the people.

 

I guess it would only be a bad marathon session if one person keeps going and going and the other person is bored or wants to stop....but that should never happen, because people should know when to speak up.

[BiloxiCouple 695]

How long is too long?

 

When someone is not enjoying themselves anymore.

 

Next!!!

[gsu22 187]

As soon as someone loses interest...it has been too long in my opinion. Some like 15 min sessions...some like to do it for hours on end. Me personally, it doesn't matter...the 15 min sessions can be hot and really physical while the ones lasting hours might be better sometimes because you can slow things down and really enjoy every minute.

[Brit_Pair 62]

Originally posted by BiloxiCouple

How long is too long?

 

When someone is not enjoying themselves anymore.

A hard to argue with POV.

[MagicEnigma 16]

Hmmm, well I can’t really think of anything more interesting to do while watching TV, or reading a book. So if you can find a guy that can go a few hours, I’ll just have to keep an open mind and see what its like!

[OpenVA 15]

I'm just curious How other people feel about This. When you decide to play with others how long do you usually like to go? My wife and I are into marathon sessions (with breaks of course). What about you? one or 2 orgasams and your done for the night? or do you go until everyone is totaly spent? I'm the type that as long as I am awake I can keep going.

 

Another question just for the ladies. Which do you prefer more. a guy who can go for a really long time or someone who cums kind of quick but can keep coming back for more?

 

My wife is the type that much prefers a guy who cums faster but can keep coming back for more. She just really enjoys when a guy cums, so the more often he does the more she she enjoys it. That is as long as he can keep going after the first couple of times. She has repeatdly told me how frustrated she gets with guys who just keep going with out cumming.

 

That works for me because more often then not I cum a little faster then I would like but I rarely lose my erection and even if I do, I recover it quickly. There are occasions though when I can go for awhile and not cum. But she has told me that while she likes it when I can go a bit longer she enjoys it much more when I cum a bit faster and more often.

[CB_n_Red 16]

Well.... we just got home (now 5.30pm here) from our last night's playtime with some good friends. I make that about 20 hours in total. Not all playing of course. Plenty of good food, music, conversation etc etc as well as the fun, which went on intermittently the whole time we were there. We all managed at least some sleep in the course of the night as well. A very good time was had by all.

 

As for keeping going, I seem to be able to manage that just fine, but I can't get where I'm going every time. Just the way I'm built and neither Red nor the other wife seem to complain. It would be nice to "get there" a bit more often, but at 48 I'm just glad I don't disappoint as regards stamina!

[OpenVA 15]

CB_n_Red said:

Well.... we just got home (now 5.30pm here) from our last night's playtime with some good friends. I make that about 20 hours in total. Not all playing of course. Plenty of good food, music, conversation etc etc as well as the fun, which went on intermittently the whole time we were there. We all managed at least some sleep in the course of the night as well. A very good time was had by all.

That is how we always kind of pictured it as well.

 

CB_n_Red said:

As for keeping going, I seem to be able to manage that just fine, but I can't get where I'm going every time. Just the way I'm built and neither Red nor the other wife seem to complain. It would be nice to "get there" a bit more often, but at 48 I'm just glad I don't disappoint as regards stamina!

Well if no one is complaining then everything is fine .

 

Please don't misunderstand the question though. My wife has a good time either way. But I was looking to illicit a response for the women on the board and what their preference was. I know a preference does not preclude a good time. I was just curious to hear what the ladies on the board had to say.

[northindycpl 32]

As far as Playtime goes... I would say it would depend on who we are with, and the situation at hand. I think going for awhile, taking a break, starting back up again is great. Sometimes the situation, however doesn't lend itself readily for that though!

 

As far as guys and comming..... I love it when a man can come repeatedly. I, too, get frustrated when a guy goes and goes and never comes, or saves it for the end. I would rather a man go and come, and go and come as he wants/we want.

 

I understand that some men think that lasting is really what women want, but that is only what some women want. I also think that as a man matures and recovery time becomes a factor, it bothers the man more than the woman. As I mature, my body changes too. We all do. Don't sweat it!

[hotcpl4unfla 19]

There's a couple we play with, and the husband takes forever to cum. Long after his wife, my wife and I have came, he is still pumping away. It almost becomes comical, all of us lying around and looking at our watches waiting for him to finish off. Personally, the wife and I enjoy having a good solid 2 hours of stop-go sex... getting worked up, ease it down, then work it up, etc. until we finally have one big massive orgasm. After our playthings have gone home, we have a one-on-one session that usually is over pretty quick. As long as the man is satisfying the woman he is with, it matters not how long things take in our opinion. I admit, I'm pretty quick once things get hot and heavy, but my wife is always right there with me...ladies still cum first!

[CB_n_Red 16]

OpenVA said:

Well if no one is complaining then everything is fine .

 

Oh yes

 

OpenVA said:

But I was looking to illicit a response for the women on the board and what their preference was. I know a preference does not preclude a good time. I was just curious to hear what the ladies on the board had to say.

 

As Red is a total technophobe when it comes to using the computer, it's inevitably going to be me posting here, even if she's reading over my shoulder and telling me what to type!

 

Red likes repeaters, but is also happy with stayers. She likes the variety whatever.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I'll take a guy who can come in a relatively short time over a marathon man any day. At the same time that doesn't mean I want to be going all night on either count. I probably fall into the one or two orgasms and I'm done group. In a group situation though, I'm typically happy to go until everyone is satisfied, whatever that might take. I haven't really encountered too many guys that could go more than once in a night without an extremely long break.

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

OpenVA said:

When you decide to play with others how long do you usually like to go? My wife and I are into marathon sessions (with breaks of course). What about you? one or 2 orgasms and your done for the night? or do you go until everyone is totally spent? I'm the type that as long as I am awake I can keep going.

That really depends on who we are with. If it is a couple or single that we really click with then I'm all up for a marathon session with breaks But unfortunately we have had a few experiences where I can't wait till we're done I hate it when that happens but sometimes it just does. We're learning to watch for red flags a little better so it happens less and less.

 

OpenVA said:

Another question just for the ladies. Which do you prefer more. a guy who can go for a really long time or someone who cums kind of quick but can keep coming back for more?

I prefer a guy who may cum faster but can keep coming back for more. Then you can have those 'marathon' sessions If he cums fast and is done . . . .

[mrbandsatl 18]

While talking with some friends recently, it dawned on us that some people are more focused on the duration of a sexual encounter than the quality of the encounter as a whole. Marathons are not our thing but we are curious... Not including all the wonderful flirting and foreplay that may go on outside the bedroom, from foreplay to getting dressed, how long is your typical sexual encounter when you are swinging? Is there any such thing as too short or too long? How long do you linger?

[Spoomonkey 421]

I don't think there is a "better" answer, but thinking over our experiences, we tend to spend a long time in the play room. I think because there is a lot of swapping around.

 

We are "long players" privately, so I think this sort of "spills over" into our swinging life. Marathon sessions and frequent sessions, though, can be quality sessions.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

When Mrs naughty and I get involved in an MFM where the guy knows what he is doing (wether he is an "Experienced Swinger" or not), it is not uncommon for it to last HOURS. Small 10-15 minute breaks inbetween for all involved.

There has been more than one occasion where the sun has started to come up and that's when we decided we should probably get some sleep.

 

Of course they don't always last that long. But they are the ones that I remember the most. facelick

 

BTW,

A Marathon & quality can go hand in hand. A quality experience IS what turns it into a marathon.

[ALilOEverything 901]

For me anything less than an hour would be a disappointment. When we played the play sessions were far and few between, we had to get a sitter, get ready, drive a long way so I like to drag it out. foreplay, swap, more foreplay, swap again, sex for awhile, swap again, more foreplay, more swapping (I really enjoy going back and forth between partners) more sex etc... I think we averaged and hour and a half. I notice that the sessions between those who we knew well vs. those who we just met were much longer. Sex with strangers was always quicker and less satisfying for me.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

For us, when playing with others, the sessions tend to last a fairly long time. We recently spent some time with a favorite couple, and I think we "started" around 9:30pm. When all the fun to be had was had, and everyone was spent and wearing a big fat smile, I remember looking at the clock and saying "Holy $h1t! It's after 1am!". But I swear, 3 hours feels like 30 minutes when you're having a great time. It's not always that long, but it never seems to last less than 2 hours or so.

 

When we are playing with each other at home, it can vary wildly. Sometimes we will go at it for a couple hours (when time permits of course) getting as nasty as we want to be. Then on occasion, Mrs two4you will call me into the bedroom, and when I arrive, she is already in "doggie position", saying "pound me right now!". 10 minutes later she's humming a song while getting ready for work and I'm flopping around on the bed trying to get my weak knees to work again.

[mrbandsatl 18]

ALilOEverything said:

Sex with strangers was always quicker and less satisfying for me.

Amen to that! Since we have a fairly limited window to play, we focus on our friends. While we occasionally enjoy a "strange" encounter, it is far less satisfying.

 

To answer our own question, our sessions tend to be protracted over a couple of hours with multiple variations between the participants. By "marathon," I was referring to a protracted event without a variety of positions and partners. Not that we put a time-limit on things, but we don't get too many opportunities to play and we love the variety that each opportunity provides.

 

So, we tend to switch around, take a break, jump back in, watch for a bit, then do it all again till everyone is worn out!

 

:facelick:

[lovefest04 699]

We tend to be on the long side as well.

 

We do a lot of switching, playing, relaxing and starting again. It seems that once we get started we're all like children in a candy store. We just can't keep our hands of each other. So, our breaks are few and short, but long enough to get us back in the mood.

 

Once, we all satisified, we usually sit and talk for awhile. Have a glass of wine and just let the evening roll off us.

 

We usually start playing at 10:30 or 11:00pm, due mostly to the fact that we like to start the evening out hearing music, fliriting and dancing, but are often going strong until 3:30 or so. Good thing we always send the children off for a sleep over, I don't know how we'd be able to function at 6am if they were home.

[good times 991]

Our last play session with a couple was a little over 2 hours so I guess we are in the longer catagory too.

[CB_n_Red 16]

We selected "Feature Length Movie", though there are times when it doesn't last that long - maybe an hour or so, but on the other hand, when we spend the weekend with the regulars it's difficult to define things. It tends to feel like whole days (and nights) of sexually charged atmosphere. More like Star Wars parts 1 to 9!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

It lasts as long as it lasts. It really all depends on the chemistry of the people involved and what everyone is doing.

 

Now if you discount all foreplay (including oral sex) I don't WANT a sexual encounter to last more than 20-30 minutes, any more fucking than that I'm going to be seriously sore.

[Thron&Thor 117]

Whose counting or is the clock ticking or is there an intermission?

 

Thron is good for 4 to 6 with the last one almost always causing her to lose control and shudder head-to-toe, then nearly faint...if you approach her very attentively and let her body go thru all her special stages at her own pace by paying attention to her responses for feedback.

 

Thor is good for 2 to 3 spaced out very well with a spectacular eruption each time with the right moves and surprises, again allowing him to derive the moment from feedback that he is offered.

 

It lasts like a feature movie if you can understand the plot.

[sweet_tna 680]

For starters, it really depends on where we are. If we're at a party, we probably won't play for as long as if it is a one on one date.

 

But either way, if I'm enjoying myself, I won't be noticing the time!!

 

?

[cocpl2007 170]

There has not been an occurrence with our friends that when it came time to play, we did not spend the entire evening together, playing until dawn and beyond!

[Tia Vampire 167]

We have gone to house parties where we have played with a couple or him with a single female and I with a single male all night long, slept with them over night, woke up the next morning to go out to breakfast, and then part after we have eaten.

 

Then there have been times where we have had sex with a couple or singles and the chemistry is not quite as good as we thought, so we are off to the next possible playmates. It just depends on the attractiveness and chemistry how long we may spend time or play with a couple or singles.

[cubnamy1995 124]

We have been averaging around 4 hours. I usually go twice, but have gone for three on a few occasions. If we had more time? Boy wouldn't that be nice. Our babysitters usually don't hold out for much more than that.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Thron&Thor said:

Whose counting or is the clock ticking or is there an intermission?

 

Thron is good for 4 to 6 with the last one almost always causing her to lose control and shudder head-to-toe, then nearly faint...if you approach her very attentively and let her body go thru all her special stages at her own pace by paying attention to her responses for feedback.

 

Thor is good for 2 to 3 spaced out very well with a spectacular eruption each time with the right moves and surprises, again allowing him to derive the moment from feedback that he is offered.

I gotta ask .... over what period of time? And IS there an intermission?

[willyoats 324]

When we were going to the club in INDY regularly, our usual party night consisted of her getting off once and occasionally twice and getting screwed by me and at least one, but usually two, other guys.

 

About half of the time we did a foursome, in which case I got off once with another woman and once with my wife at the club, follwed by a quicky after we got home.

 

The other half of the times we had one or two other guys and me. Then often each guy did it twice, so my wife got screwed 4 or 6 times in two or three hours. God, that was fun!!

 

But those days are fading into a distant memory.

[Frognlisa 15]

I tend to play 2-4x per party depends how many of playmates show and what time we do, I spend from 45-90mins each and cum at least 1x for each.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We're the feature length movie types.  The quickest times I can remember were at clubs and those were still probably at least 15 minutes, and that was really due more to the circumstances of not just having the whole place to yourself without other people wanting the room so they can play too.

 

Some play sessions have gone on most of the evening until late, and then if you count some goodbye sex the next morning before heading home after an overnighter as all one session, then multiple times across 12+ hours.

 

There are lots of intermissions and down time in those sessions though.  Neither of us is the pound away for hours type, and we haven't encountered any playmates like that either really.  So it's more have sex at whatever pace feels right, take a break and hang out and chat for a while, maybe another session, hang out, maybe a nightcap, and so on.  Just whatever feels right and everyone is up for.  Sometimes everyone will be taking a break, then two will get going again, and that often fires up the other two also.  Or, sometimes not, and those two are content to just watch or even be somewhere else in the house having a drink or whatever.

 

As far as how many time the guys getting off?  Just depends.  Usually once, maybe twice, probably three times absolute tops and that is with a lot of down time involved.

[padoc 1,703]

We probably have 3 different modes of play depending upon the venue:

 

1. At a club: its often fairly quick and intense.  This is especially true if we're in a group setting where we can have several partners in a short time, 20 minutes to an hour. Although there have been a few occasions at Trapeze when we've gone to the back at about 11:00 and next thing we knew it was 1:00 am. Mrs Doc calls that "bacon time". Those of you unfamiliar with Trapeze, they serve an excellent late (or early) breakfast and we know that if we make it to bacon time it's been a VERY good night.

 

2. At a house party: There is more of a build-up, sexy clothing, chatting and feeling up friends, ice breaker games, etc. We play at parties with  people we know or friends of people we know so we often have multiple partners or end up in a big puppy pile taking generally around 2 to 2.5 hrs on average.

 

3. At home(ours or another couples): These occasions are more protracted. There is always a lot of foreplay, sometimes together, sometimes separate rooms. Our goal is for the four of us to cum as many times as possible, admittedly way easier for the two women than for most guys who are on the upper edge of the age curve. Sometimes with hydration or snack breaks, or a dip in the pool or spa before round 2, generally 2-3 hours.

 

Of course, much of the above is directed related to Mrs Doc. She's multi-orgasmic but when she's done, she's DONE and therefore so am I.

The attached picture is from a pre Wuhan party. Mrs Doc is on the right. There were 4 other wives that weren't in the picture. THAT was a 3 hour play party!!

[Numex 2,416]

For us it is totally situational.  We, individually and together, can get off a satisfying orgasm in five minutes or can play all afternoon into the evening.  We'll almost always a quick one in the morning.  Daniela more than I will have a quick twosome (MF or FF) or threesome in the late afternoon during the week, then sometimes longer love making at night.  The weekends are more couples get togethers. 

 

My max on erections and ejaculations is usually two times a session, three times in a day.  I've gone more in particularly exciting, multiple couples situations, but it's a ball acher.

[Billygoat 443]

For private get togethers we prefer starting late morning or early afternoon.  Usually it is an hour to hour and half.  Then a break for refreshment and repeat.  2 - 4 rounds of this.  Swing party encounters about an hour (usual house rules require an hour max) so all interested get a room at some point thru the evening, but a second round is usually available depending on the crowd, interest etc.   the occasional group or larger orgy like play session can go on for a long time depending on those attending.  More often then not a few extra guys then women and it can go on for 4-5 hours.  Usually the guys all get spent before the ladies are.

 

[Anon321 522]

At home it's definitely on the longer side of probably 90+ minutes.  The GF will do some fun quickies outside the home a lot in public, cars, bathrooms, changing rooms, etc. but at home with a friend or friends it's definitely a long time.  It also depends on the guy(s).  I can go for a really long time but I have a buddy who can go on forever.  He also recovers almost immediately.  He can pull out, cum in her mouth, put his dick back in her pussy and keep pounding away until he cums again.  I am a bit jealous.

[Shore2Please 611]

We enjoy going on vacation with our friends for a week. Play is on and off over the week. 

If you are asking how long an individual encounter lasts I would say 6-8 hours. I look forward to swapping and returning to a room for the night to make love. It seems we try to make the most of our time together. The nights we spend together includes a few naps. He can usually go 3 or 4 times with being fully erect. Our time together includes plenty of fun aside from sex. We play in many ways during the night. 

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

On 4/9/2020 at 10:27 PM, padoc said:

 

The attached picture is from a pre Wuhan party. 

 

Indeed. One wonders when we will see such parties...and such pictures...again. In the LS, "social distancing" is not just an oxymoron, it's inconsistent with the reason we're here in the first place...

 

[NWAtlSwing 522]

We have to plan to play so we want to play for a while. Sex a home is the short period, but usually after a movie or two and time together.

[couplers 4,640]

For me, it is important that the guy keeps going long enough so that I can orgasm on his dick inside my vagina near the time he ejaculates, that is the Holy Grail of sex.  If he wants to do other things (oral on him, oral on me, go in my bum, go in my pussy for seconds) before or afterwards, it's fine with me.  Fortunately, I have over the years developed a good sense of when a guy is going to ejaculate and have the ability to speed up my orgasm to pretty much match his.

 

We women have found through necessity that the guys (hubby, Red, Frank) can go twice in a relatively short time if they get oral afterwards and are presented with a different partner.  (Works for me too - a different willing partner, it can be one of the guys or women, gets me excited all over again quickly.)

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

It is getting to where the question should be how long can I play. We have played for hours.

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

I just found this article which notes that the average act of sex itself lasts less than 4 minutes (* not valid in Australia, where it's 4 minutes and a precious 2 seconds).

 

Me thinks I've been doing it wrong.

 

https://gizmodo.com/map-shows-which-country-has-the-most-sex-and-which-has-1564046033