What was your sexual past before meeting your current partner?

[beaverz 18]

This is a question for couples that enjoy the swinging lifestyle.

 

Were both inexperienced sexually when you met, only one was sexually experienced or were both of you sexually experienced when you met?

 

Just curious!!

[RippleCpl 15]

It depends on what you mean. When I met my wife, I considered myself "inexperienced" because I only had sex with 4 other women, though I had intercourse hundreds of times in many different ways with those 4 women. My wife was definitely inexperienced by any measure of the word.

 

Part of what we are hoping to get out of swinging is "experience." Not notches on the bedpost, but exposure to new and wonderful techniques. We really want to learn.

[RMRx2 24]

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Just curious!!

 

We were both married previously but that doesn't always mean experienced.

 

While both of us were sexually experienced and each of us brought our own experience, I would say it has never been better than since we have met.

 

We're both open minded and like to experiment. The lifestyle has certainly been something new for both of us.

 

It's great being married to someone much more "like minded"

[two4youinswva 3,068]

We were both in our 30's when we met, and we both had "been around the block a few times" in our younger years. So as far as number of partners, our experience was on the higher end.

 

Together we have developed our technique and abilities to far above what they were before.

 

Our first swing experience was together as a couple. Neither of us did any of that prior to meeting each other.

[xxoticangel 99]

Both of us pretty much slutted our way throughout H.S. and college. She started swinging when she lost her virginity in a room full of other people and continued to have sex with guys and a couple of girls from her H.S. group up until she married her ex. Some of her experience is detailed here  https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/3013-promiscuity-before-swinging/

 

I on the other hand had many partners in H.S., college, and military days but didn't swing except for two experiences with my ex wife and military buddies.

[mwsw4ever 15]

For us the Mrs. was the one who was very experienced and had alot of partners.When she had met me i had only been with 3 other women and the times i had sex actually numbered less than 10 times.When we started swinging she really liked it because she got to continue her wild side.As for me i have gotten more partners,more experience,and have satisfied soke of my fantasies.With both of us coming from opposite ends of sexual experiences swinging has added a whole new level to our relationship.

[Vespertine 31]

We had both been around the block, a few times too.

 

Our experiences are posted on the thread xxoticangel posted.

[EvilMJ 65]

My hubby was married before, and from what he has told me, had his share of experiences before that.

 

I was (as Vespertine said) around the block a few times. I had swinging experinence as well, but just didn't realize that;s what it was until I officially started swinging with hubby.

 

I guess we were always both very open about sex.

[WesternSwing 504]

I am very comfortable with my sexuality and was pretty experienced before we got into swinging. I'd had plenty of partners, been married, and had sex in some pretty strange and exciting places, and even a soft-swap or two. But I had never full swapped.

 

Mrs. WS had a couple handfuls of men in her past and had been married, but she grew-up in a very religious home and although thoroughly loved sex, hadn't really treaded off the beaten path, so to speak.

 

Together she started opening-up as we were together longer and the trust in our relationship grew. Swinging just kind of evolved from that. It is kind of the next step in our erotic explorations together.

[growgirl 15]

For us the Mrs. was the one who was very experienced and had alot of partners.When she had met me i had only been with 3 other women and the times i had sex actually numbered less than 10 times.When we started swinging she really liked it because she got to continue her wild side.As for me i have gotten more partners,more experience,and have satisfied soke of my fantasies.With both of us coming from opposite ends of sexual experiences swinging has added a whole new level to our relationship.

 

Dito to mwsw, I had a wild and varied vanilla sexlife before growguy (but no couples/girls) whereas his teens and 20s were pretty empty due to his never being allowed to date plus his extreme shyness... We were glad to find out after 16 years of monogamy that we were both interested in "more, but together". As as aside... growguy hit the "you know you're a swinger when you've slept with more women after your marriage than before" mark on our third playdate!

[good times 991]

growgirl said:

As as aside... growguy hit the "you know you're a swinger when you've slept with more women after your marriage than before" mark on our third playdate!

 

Same for me, I'd had sex with three women before Mrs. GT too.

[ALilOEverything 901]

We were both sexually experienced when we met, not quite as much as we are now but we both had a variety of different experiences before we met.

[DaveNSheila 16]

That is a tough one to answer. My current partner is also my first ex wife. We had both had some experience prior to dating each other. We divorced went our separate ways and reconciled years later. So basing off the first time we were together we were both not virgins had some experience, no swinging involved.

[northindycpl 32]

I had some experience, Mr. Indy had a lot of experience.

 

Together we have created a multitude of experience

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Well, let's see. Prior to my CURRENT partner I had been married and enjoyed swinging quite a bit. Prior to my ex-husband (who I enjoyed swinging with) I was also very experienced (but had not swung).

[pussinboots 15]

Hubby and I met online while we were both married. (Well, I was still married; he was already separated) When our friendship expanded to something more serious, we both had already discussed our feelings about alternative lifestyles and found we were both in agreement on swinging. So we basically got together with the express knowledge that we would be a swinging couple!

 

Prior to meeting each other though, neither of us had any swing experience.

[goodbigirl 15]

Amy and I met when we were in our early 20's. We were both sexually active prior to meeting, and within a year we were discussing fantasies and fetishes. HOWEVER, this "pillow talk" went on for many years and we have only started to meet other couples within the past two years. (2 couples)

[wisxxxfun 15]

We can count our previous experiences on one hand. We were high schoolers, I was his first, he was my third, but my first 2, let's see, an earlier boyfriend who pulled out a minute after starting everytime, I use to watch TV while with him, and I had a drunking one night stand, that's it, I was like WOW the first time I was with my husband, neither one of us ever had that play the field time, we do now and love it

 

Christine

[Jim & Deb 15]

when Deb & I first met in 84 she was my 5th lover, & she rated me as good as her her with the best lover she had. I was lucky I had mild aged bored housewife teach me the art of pleasing a woman

 

Deb said she had a sluttly past I learned just how sluttly it was after her death, it hurt & not because she did it, what hurt is why if she had a past like that why wouldn't she do my mmf 3way with her past lover talking about during sex always made it hotter & more passionate.

[TheGeek 15]

My wife is only my third sex partner. Here's what'll probably freak you guys out -- I didn't lose my virginity until I was 28! (Why? 'Cuz I'm a Geek) Before that, I was just a hermit with a really really large porn collection.

 

My wife was the one to bring swinging up, and I can't believe that after I'm married I'll finally get to have the wild sex life that the me of 20 years ago only dreamed about!

[Air&Patty 15]

She had more partners than me - and I often kid her about this - but we were both very inexperienced. We sort of grew up sexually together.

[dingdong69 15]

I had a previos marriage my former wife and me were very very much into the swinging life style and enjoyed very much.

[autumn528 16]

This is the second marriage for both of us. He got around and she could count her past lovers on one hand.

As far as swinging is concerned, we haven't done more than fmf.

[gothtxcpl 15]

I was a virgin until my wife came along to relieve me of the burden I was 23 she was 18 and already had previous experience. Then I did something stupid and we broke up for about a year and dated other people but still traveled in the same social circle of sorts. She did have sex during that year with different partners but I had no such luck .Until we got back together and then got married. Her sexual past used to be a concern early in our reuniting but by talking openly about it and reassuring each other of our devotion to each other, it now conversational trivia.

 

Now recently she did allow me to explore sex with another woman (who shall remain nameless) and that experience did allow us to grow even more closer since she did experience regret afterwards. This experience has also brought us to explore the possibilities of this lifestyle, and as long as we keep the communication and openness working I believe this adventure can be yet another growth possibility for us.

[Jamie&Kieth 36]

I have been fairly sexual active since I was 16, my husband was 18 when he lost his virginity. We both met in college, my husband was going out with my roomate at the time and I was going out with his roomate. We eventually switched girlfriends/boyfriends and eventually started swapping partners and then having all sorts of various combinations of group sex.

[all4fun 18]

We were both very experienced with multiple different partners but neither of us had enjoyed the "swinging" experience. We both enjoyed the past of "new experiences" and that is why we decided that swinging would be a fun and exciting thing to do. Since we started with this lifestyle, our sex life has become more as well.

[shygrrl 15]

We were both virgins which is why we are VERY hesitant about full swap. We're both thinking soft stuff is as far as we'd go to preserve that special bond that means so much to us.

[getnit2gethr 15]

I had some experience when I met my wife. She was my 5th partner for intercourse. There were probably around a dozen others where sex was involved without intercourse. I don't know, the more I think about it the more I remember. It's all good. My wife was less experienced but she will have to tell you how much less herself, if she wants to.

[MarriedNY'ers69 19]

I had a few MFM's before my husband. He was only with 5 women before we married. i would say I was the experienced of the two of us LOL. I also had some bi curious experitments before my husband. But I have had way more with him haha

[easyliz 15]

I was inexperienced, but eager for the right man. I found him. Then after a few years we decided to broaden our horizons.

[rachan 53]

Prior to marriage I was very experienced sexually. I had intercourse for the first time at 14 and when I started dating at 15 I fucked every boy I went out with.

[Jeok 3]

It was a swinger in 1960s, in Spain. I learned about swinging during trip to a religious retreat in Germany. We stopped over in Paris, France & got involved with some French couples strutting themselves around the Plaz du Concorde, off the Champs-Élysées. Anyway, that was my introduction. Upon returning to Madrid, we started, what I guess would be a swinger's club. Many mid-western school teachers would arrive in Madrid each year and seek us out. All a bunch of Air Force guys & our girlfriends meeting at The Casa Blanca Night Club off Jose' Antonio coupling up with these wild teachers, etc. Many Brits came down on Holiday, also. It was grand. The mother of my daughter didn't care to swing, so I didn't, but after we divorced & I met Shirley, now deceased, we both entered the lifestyle. It was a mutual decision & we really enjoyed our extended sexual life. After an encounter, good or not so good, we had fantastic sex...on the fumes of those passions, I guess one would say.

[shamrocm 15]

Gigi and I have been married 42 years (all our lives). I had very limited sexual experience with only one other girl and Gigi had none. When we discovered sex together we wanted to go to the U.S. Patent Office and register a patent.

[Amanda69 24]

The female half has definately had more sexual experience than the male half of our couple. He is trying to catch up...

[telly2 15]

We both had experience when we met, mine {her} was a little more extensive then his but never in a million years at that point did I think I would ever hit the swinging world, but here we are. Some great experiences some bad, some a little of both, but still drawn to it for some crazy reason.

[Guest MrsVan]

MrVan was the more experienced in our relationship. I had only been with one guy before MrVan and that was my ex-husband. I had never during that time with my ex had any swinging experiences or used any toys, etc. (but we rarely had sex either.)

 

MrVan had other partners during the course of his younger days, but also had some other sexual experiences such as 3somes, etc. with his first wife as well, but from what I am told by MrVan they are more exciting with me as I allow him to play more.

[Cloud of Love 16]

I had intercourse with two girls in college before meeting my wife, and had some mild playing around with one other. My wife had had experience with two men in college before meeting me, and had played around with a couple of others. So we were pretty even.

[Guest Rhonda45]

My husband was my first we were high school lovers, Our first swing was a MFM with one of his best friends we now swing regular with a couple we have been involved with for 3 yrs.

[Alura 2,775]

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Jeok wrote:

 

I learned about swinging during trip to a religious retreat in Germany.

 

 

There has to be an interesting story behind this sentence!

[AlmostHuman 16]

My g/f had a bit of swinging experience in a couple of clubs and in some s&m (lite) activitys that she had massive fun with.

I had just discovered the fun of 2 girls and a guy with another newly divorced friend and her best friend...

We are a work in progress as I write this...

[socolais 696]

We were both virgins when we met. By the time we got married, I had a little experience on the side and we had some experience together. Been monogamous ever since. I'm interested in the lifestyle and she's curious.

[celtic239 297]

We were both in our thirty's when we met. First marraige for both of us. I had been in the service and completed two tours of duty. I spent a lot of sailor pay "hitting the beach and taking no prisoners", so I had a considerable amount of sex. The Mrs didn't volunteer and I didn't think it 'gentlemenly' to ask about her sexual past other than she briefly spoke about an affair that didn't work out.

[chrisunion 19]

My wife had only been with one other guy and had very limited sexual knowledge. I was her sex teacher, and she ended up being a great student that was willing to try anything I asked of her, from taking nude photos, going out in public without her panties on, having sex with all kinds of adults toys, having sex in public places, doing a fmf ( which she did not enjoy), having sex with other guys, and doing mfm (which she does enjoy). For someone that was so naive about sexual pleasure in the beginning, it hard to believe that this woman who is now so erotic, and horny is the same woman.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

we met when we were 12, together 32 years,married 28 years, and swinging 5 years. A lot of experience now but to be honest, before we met, all I had was the panty and bra section of the j.c.penny magazine.

 

Now we are finding out mrs.fun was checkin' out the bra and panty section also

[ht805cpl 16]

We were both very experienced when we met, maybe why we hit if off so good. We used to make love for hours on end, all day sometimes, in varied positions and ways. We lived together for 2 years and finally got married. After 3 or 4 years we got into swinging, first as a 3 some with a lady, the several different ladies, and finally a 3 some with another man, and from there went on to full swinging, couples small groups, and lots of 3-somes.

 

It all just fell into place for us, as we both loved wild sex so much, swinging just worked great. We had some minor issues with jealousy in the beginning, but in time we got over that, once we both realized this was all about physical sex, not love. Now we love to play with singles couples and small groups.

[spamcatcher 36]

My wife had a small number of sexual experiences. I'd had only a bit of petting and making out with a couple of girls.

 

My first actual sexual experience with a woman other than my wife came when I was 57!

 

We're making up for lost time...

[Guest thewriter]

The wife had only a few lovers she told me 6 total. The husband the only thing he has not done is swing.

[Mo-TownTN 20]

Both experienced prior to meeting.

[dolphin443 38]

We met in our early 50's, both sexually experienced. My wife claimed to be shy or sexually calm/not so experienced. Later I found out the opposite. I was experienced, but she was very very experienced, enjoyed everything, including one swinging night. I was first annoyed, wondering why do people have to claim innocence or being a saint? Maybe I'm just naive and have no issues in saying yes, I did...