Men: Do you prefer a Lady or a Tramp?

[TNT 1,155]

The ladies had their turn in saying whether they liked a Caveman or Gentleman more in Spoomonkey's thread that you can read here . Now it's time for the men to speak up.

 

Which do you prefer? A Lady or a Tramp?

 

I don't mean Tramp in a bad way, I mean it as an aggressive woman. Do you like it when a woman is aggressive in a club setting or do you like the challenge of having to draw her out of her shell? What makes you know that the woman is interested in you?

 

Ladies, what's your MO when it comes to letting a man know your interested?

 

I myself can be a little of both, depending on my mood at the time. There are times where I am very aggressive with men and times that I like to give just the subtle hints to see how he would react to me being more aggressive.

 

Teresa

[De and Ci 19]

I prefer a tramp, especially my wife!

[Spoomonkey 421]

Mrs Spoo always represents the kind of women that I wish there were more of in the club. She is obviously a lady - but she has on the "costume" of a "slut" (not a bad word for us, so please don't take any offense). She carries herself very well - but when she is flirting, the guy knows it. If a guy approaches her - and she is interested - she will be approachable and flirty. If she sees someone that she is interested in, she will make eye contact and let him know he is is welcome to stroll over if he'd like.

 

I like the woman who is friendly - not leaning back looking as if she is simply waiting to rebuff someone. A woman who is laughing and enjoying herself at the club is someone I'd like to approach. And then - when approached - I like it when they relax and flirt back.

 

I like a woman who you can tell is a lady beneath her "costume" - but I also like a little aggressiveness - and I certainly don't mind being hit on!

 

The one thing that is a turn off is the woman who is making out with and being groped by every guy in the place. Obviously, some women know everyone in the club and you can tell the difference between her and the woman who is just an easy mark. Social butterfly? Cool! Barfly? Not so much...

 

I guess I like a woman somewhere in the middle (similar to my thread, I suppose) but one who leans more towards tramp in that she is able to relax and have fun and not afraid to let people know what she is thinking.

[good times 991]

I have thought about this for a long time trying to think of a definitive answer for me without much luck.

 

I hate to admit this, but if I find the woman attractive and am interested in her I like a woman that is more of a tramp. I like it when they hit on me and through the provocative things they say and do make me know I am desired. This tends to make me very excited and receptive to progressing to a more intimate good time. While the woman who is very ladylike and waits for me to make all the moves is probably not going to get my motor running sufficiently for it to lead to anything more.

 

On the other hand, I have been in several situations where a woman was aggressively pursuing me all night and I wasn't really interested in her. In that case the aggressive woman was not desired, and if after repeated attempts to give her subtle hints that I'm not interested she still continues her aggressive behavior it becomes very annoying to me.

 

So I guess I'll have to give a non-answer and say that if I am interested in them I probably like more of a tramp, if I'm not interested I much prefer the lady.

 

Does that make any sense?

[growgirl 15]

I love a tramp! An aggressive woman gets me almost every time...

 

I'm not a tramp initially, but I like to become one as the evening goes on and I'm assured of reciprocal interest.

 

But now I'm wondering about those subtle hints GoodTimes... Me and subtle are like oil and water... clue me in so hopefully I won't annoy anyone down the line...

[ALilOEverything 901]

I think I'm somewhere inbetween. I always start off as the nice girl, very much a lady and when the time is right I start to become much more provocative.

[Pepper & Drew 384]

Isn't it funny, but in both this thread and the one about the caveman or gentleman, people have a hard time saying they prefer one or the other. The men talked about having to walk a fine line between offending and not offending, and the women walk a fine line between annoying or not annoying. Vvvveeerrry interesting.....

 

Anywho, I tend to be more comfortable being the lady. Now, that doesn't mean that I don't flirt or let the guy (or girl) know that I like them, but 9 times out of 10, I'm not making the first move. If that misses out on some opportunities, so be it. I prefer to be a lady in the street............but a freak in the bed.

 

Pepper

[BradAndJanet 70]

Like Pepper says, more tramp than lady in the bedroom; more lady than tramp out of it. The old Madonna/Whore complex, I guess.

[menher1559 17]

I've always said. I like an angel on my arm and a slut in my bed. Wife agrees......there is a time and a place for everything.

[toxicsambo 15]

Lady definitly. A woman with a controlled demeanor emits much more sexuality . It's just more powerful and seductive IMO. The coy smile, smooth flirting, and light touching gets me riled up. It makes me hornier than a rhino.

[2fromstlou 15]

Since My Wife is such a Lady, I'm ready anytime for a woman who's alittle on the Trampy Side!!

Been a while since I've been taken and showed the "ROPES"!!

We've been with other couples, but unfortunately, the other women were like my wife.

So I'm waiting for the moment when it happens!??! facelick

Hope I don't get too wound up too soon, would hate to pop before it's time !! LOL

[Scrapin' 15]

" A lady in the streets and a freak in the bed" but I really luv it when she's a little slutty in public too! not to an extreme just enough how bout a slutty lady?

[CandTinLorainCo 16]

I personally prefer a good girl out and a bad one in! Sorry to borrow Mrs. LM's catch phrase, but that sums it up for us. My wife is the perfect lady almost all the time so when she does have the chance to "let her hair down" she does and she does it very well too i might add .

[its_fun_for_us 15]

As said a lot before me -- we like a lady in character of a tramp. Personally I know I am a lady but on play nights not much of that comes out. I'm an aggressive woman who likes to be watched and I give y'al somthign to look at

 

Mrs Fun

[HotMoCpl 20]

I really kind-a like to see a lady transform to the bedroom whore. It is the transformation that really turns me on. Afterwards, I still have a lady.

[wiscpl 22]

Give me a lady on the outside and a tramp on the inside. From past experience I've met several women that were perfect ladies but on the inside they showed how much fun they could really be. It's such a turn on for me when she's dressed to the 9's and wondering what she's wearing underneath that sophisticated dress of hers.

[VanHlebar 187]

I like a Lady outside the bedroom/club and I like the Tramp/Slut in the bedroom. I love the Soccer Mom type that everyone thinks is great and fun to be around and then she gets home, takes off her clothes and gets into bed and wow, look out she just runs you until you're dead! Now that is my kind of woman.

 

-Van

[GerdOEvert 51]

A good cook

a lady in pubic

 

and

 

a whore in bed.

[Menage_a_Trois 182]

good times said:

On the other hand, I have been in several situations where a woman was aggressively pursuing me all night and I wasn't really interested in her. In that case the aggressive woman was not desired, and if after repeated attempts to give her subtle hints that I'm not interested she still continues her aggressive behavior it becomes very annoying to me.

 

This is where The Other Mrs. Menage has her problems - too much of a lady and being afraid that if she says what she wants she is going to be offensive to someone who isn't interested in her......

 

But being a man - definitely a tramp! Hands down. It's the confidence that is so sexy.

[sexyshelby 19]

It depends on the situation. Sometimes it's fun to be the lady, and sometimes it's fun to be the tramp. I love playing hard to get and I love being a slut. It all just depends on the situation and my mood, and also who I'm with.

 

Either way, it's all fun!

[kudahcpl 15]

that took way too much thought...cant i have all of the above?

[Mr&MrsSwing 16]

Sometimes I have that problem, I want to tell my swinging friend how to do it, what i want, I get a little shy. I'm working on it.

 

Mrs Swing

[the_write_one 15]

A lady in public, a tramp in the bedroom!

[CBYLW 21]

My wife was a lady through and through in her professional life and with family and straight friends. PTA, professional associations etc.

 

In private or at an adult party she could be a total slut (an OK term with us). Her hair style, clothing and make up would change. And so would her attitude.

 

This was the best worlds for both of us.

[Curious44 15]

The pole, at the time that I viewed it, indicated that guys perfer tramps? What are we females doing if that is the case! How disappointing! Just to think, I'm new and this is the mentality?

[Amanda69 24]

A lady at all times. I don't use the terms tramp or anything else in that vein to describe my very high sex drive...I just call it "normal".

 

Isn't it interesting that we use the term "tramp" to describe a woman who enjoys sex...wow I guess some of us are still caught up in the "good girl/bad girl" scenario we were brought up with.

 

If we reversed this what would you describe your male partner who enjoys sex as???

[r_poseidon 17]

If I don't know the girl... I prefer a lady. Maybe just how I was brought up ? I like being flirted with, just like any other guy, but don't go overboard. I tend to get overwhelmed, lol.

 

But once we are in a relationship, I loooove a total tramp (in private!)

[Tybee Swing 286]

Poll choices:

 

All Lady, Nothing but Class and Manners

More Lady than Tramp

More Tramp than Lady

All Tramp, I want my whore in the bedroom, leave the Lady in the kitchen

 

 

The poll choices seem off-balance. It seems that the last choice (all tramp) should read much like the first choice does, but the opposite extreme. If all-lady is nothing but class and manners, then all-tramp should be something like, nothing but bold, sexual attitude and tramp style/appearance. Right? The choice of "whore in the bedroom, lady elsewhere", like most of the posts suggest is the top choice, would be one of the middle choices. Letting loose in the bedroom is very selective, choosing the time and place.

 

As for me, I like to look sexy in the clubs, but I'm not the one in the skimpiest slut-gear. I'd rather wear sexy jeans, high heels, and a really sexy top. I like stillettos, not stripper platforms. I own the slut-gear, but it's mostly for my husband to take pictures of me in , or something I'd wear for an encounter in a private setting. I don't have anything against the women in clubs wearing the sluttiest outfits possible, it's just not me. As for boldness/brazenness, I'm kind of mid-range. I'll flirt with people I'm attracted to, and I'm definitely a dirty dancer, but I don't come on strong. I don't get drunk, and I'll bet that makes a difference. Doesn't it often seem like the women who act the "trampiest" at clubs (in the annoying way) just happen to be drunk?

 

In the bed, it's like Pepper said - I can get freaky. It could be the E ticket ride, especially if he is an E ticket ride, too.

 

In public and regular life, I'm a lady but not all the way. I never dress the all-lady prude role (Laura Bush haircut, boring clothes & shoes). I dress professionally, but I still want to be attactive, and sexy (but appropriately sexy). From my hairstyle to my shoes, I always want to feel sexy, even if I'm appropriate. Does that make sense?

 

If I had to use the poll choices to define it, I'd say that in swing settings I'm "more tramp than lady" because I'm in sexual mode, but in regular life I'm "more lady than tramp". There's still a little tramp under the surface, though.

[curiousagain 326]

I said more tramp than lady because I try so hard not to be too aggressive in the lifestyle that I sometimes need to be hit over the head with it so to speak. It's much easier to tell someone I'm not interested than to figure out if they are if they aren't a little aggressive.

[let's do it again 414]

When it comes to sex, give me the tramp. I want a foul mouthed, try anything for her man , don't give a shit woman.

[Numex 2,409]

I presume this means what I as a man am looking for in a swing partner.  My favorite swing partner is a lady; my wife is a tramp.  I'm looking for something different, a woman who I have to seduce and convince to have sex with me, is reluctant to take my dick in her mouth, is embarrassed for me to go down on her, whose eyes go wide when I cum inside her.