The beautiful people....huh?

[northindycpl 32]

This weekend we were out with friends, and having a discussions about trying out different clubs. Taking some small trips this summer and going to clubs in surrounding areas.

 

One of the women started listing the clubs she wanted to avoid. I asked why and she went into explainations about how certain clubs have reputations... she said she heard a particular club is known as the place where strippers and their boyfriends hangout. There is no way she would go there.

 

When I aked her why, she made a comment that she absolutely doesn't want to go to a club where "beautiful people" hang out. She said, "who would look at me, I am not a size 6"

 

WTF?

 

Maybe she isn't, and neither am I... but that doesn't mean I wouldn't like to see one naked. or better.

 

There have also been a few posts here talking about the Size 6 Society.

 

I am puzzled. I personally, like women who are healthy. Women that are curvy and confident . It doesn't matter to me what size they are as long as they take pride in their appearance, handle themselves with dignity and know how to have a good time. Wittiness is a plus, too.

 

It seems to me that the Size 6's get a really bad rap! I want to know, does it matter to the 6's as much as it seems to matter to the Un-6's?

 

I mean, do the 6's want to play and have experiences with the Un's?

 

Be honest....

 

Would you avoid a club that didn't have people of your particular size as members?

 

(Maybe there is a whole secret society of Size 6's out there just waiting for me to arrive )

[BiDrywallChick 18]

well, before I would avoid places that seemed to be where the "beautiful people" gathered. I had alot of self esteem issues. I wasnt comfortable in my own skin. Now, I am not a 6 and I am ok with that. It took alot for me to be comfortable with myself. Now, I just remind myself that people can take me as I am or not at all. Who wouldnt want to meet a cute yet slightly twisted chick? Too often I have found that I would be more concerned about what i thought other people were thinking about me, rather than me relaxing and being myself.

[EvilMJ 65]

We went out this weekend to a swingers dance. I was a bit worried that I was not a size 6 and how would I be recieved.

 

There were people there of all ages and sizes and let me tell you, there was one woman who was quite large and she recieved a lot of attention from the men. I got tons of compliements on my outfit and lots of men made it quite clear they found me attractive.

 

Once again I think it is all confidence and attitude. If you think sexy, and dress sexy, you will attract people. So no I would not avoid the clubs with beautiful people...because I am a beautiful person, no matter what size.

[BiDrywallChick 18]

.

 

Once again I think it is all confidence and attitude. If you think sexy, and dress sexy, you will attract people. So no I would not avoid the clubs with beautiful people...because I am a beautiful person, no matter what size.

 

 

exactly! You can always tell when someone feels good about themselves. their own contentment radiates from them.

[Vespertine 31]

 

It seems to me that the Size 6's get a really bad rap! I want to know, does it matter to the 6's as much as it seems to matter to the Un-6's?

 

I mean, do the 6's want to play and have experiences with the Un's?

To be perfectly honest I like both curvy women and thin women equally. I like them both for different reasons.

 

I think a woman's attitude is what makes her sexy.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Now, I am not a size 6-I'm right at where the (stupid)'guidelines' call 'average'. When we were looking for couples there was one in particular where the wife made the comment that it wasn't going to work because I was too 'perfect'. Talk about WTF!!!

 

I am FAR from perfect-I suppose in her eyes I looked better than her, so it would have been an issue.....which is funny because I thought she was built better than me!

 

I think it works both ways & I don't want to meet anyone who has a problem with someone else based solely on their size.

 

I know this probably didn't make sense to anyone but me,

 

final thought-Mr. Naughty does not like his women 'thin' or 'skinny'-he wants her to be soft.

[sensuality 2]

I am so glad I found this thread, I was thinking something similar just this a.m. It's a bit different for us, I am a size 3-5 depending on how the clothes are made and I'm petite,and have the J.Lo body type goin' on and I have been told I am perfect.I don't think so, but hey...the compliments are nice. Anyway,enough of my vanity. There are certain parties/clubs we avoid because the people there just aren't our type physically.They are really nice people and great for conversation, but if we're going out in pursuit of a possible hook-up...we tend to go where we know there will be people who will be attractive to us on a sexual level.For me? I love women who aren't too skinny or too chunky.I also feel to each his/her own. Plus, we are a mixed couple and some of the clubs/parties we've gone to have had a serious shortage of Latino/African American men,{which is my preference.}All in all, everyone has their fetishes and preferences, and nobody's way is right or wrong, it's just what works for them.There's someone/club/party for everyone.

[EvilMJ 65]

:

 

 

I think it works both ways & I don't want to meet anyone who has a problem with someone else based solely on their size.

 

I know this probably didn't make sense to anyone but me,

 

final thought-Mr. Naughty does not like his women 'thin' or 'skinny'-he wants her to be soft.

 

I think that is a good point too!

 

I will play with people thinner or 'better looking' than me if they show interest in me. I think everyone has their own special thing thin or not so thin

[starlinn 17]

I am not a size 6 either. I do not have a complex about it. I try to focus on the positives that I have to contribute. I am somewhat intellegent. I take very good care of my hair, and I am trying so hard not to get premature wrinkles...LOL

I have been told that I have beautiful breasts, so I dress to enhance them. I would go anywhere, to any club. I am sure that I have something that someone would be interested in.

One thing that I look for in a woman is confidence, patience, someone who is interested in what I have to say. Let me see, I read somewhere on this board, "It isnt a sprint, it is a marathon." Lasting relationships, no matter the outcome of the visit is something I also look for. I also look for someone who is interested in both of us. We arrive as a couple, and we leave as a couple.

[starlinn 17]

BTW Mrs NIC ~

If you go to the club with the strippers, I want to go ROFL!

I have been dying to get my first lap dance...LOL

[intuition897 2,179]

What the hell is it with Size 6? Is it some magical number or something? God, I'd love to just slim down to a size 10/11. Right now I think I'm hovering around 13.

 

I believe you should really get yourself to a weight where you truly feel 'healthy'. There's a weight that your body just naturally wants to be at, a weight you feel you look your very best. For myself, it's about 150 lbs. Ok, so I'm about 10 lbs off, but I'm working on it and in the meantime, I carry it fairly well. If your weight is something that makes you feel bad, fix it. This isn't fat-bashing (did I mention I was overweight?), I'm just saying that yes it's good to be comfortable in your own skin, but one shouldn't lower one's expectations and just settle for anything. Making the best of what you've got doesn't mean hiding the fat, it means showing pride of ownership. You do regular maintenance on your car, your furnace, your pool, you clean your house, etc... You've only got one body. It needs maintenance too. Good diet and excercise (ugh, I know!), regular checkups at the doctor, flattering clothes, a great haircut (this is SO worth the money), a trip or two to the spa (hey, you're worth it!), manicure, professional makeup makeover (spas offer this, or The Body Shop will do a makeup application session with you if you purchase $20-25 of cosmetics)... I swear, you do these things and you'll feel 110% better about yourself. This is the confidence factor Mrs. Indy mentioned, I think. I was never meant to be a size 6. Mr.'s a butt man anyhow; J-Lo butts are his thing. Lucky me.

[northindycpl 32]

Making the best of what you've got doesn't mean hiding the fat, it means showing pride of ownership.

 

 

Dito! I like how you put it!

[Just_us49 32]

Mrs. Indy asked about what the size 6 people think so here goes,

 

I, like Sensuality, am a size 3/4. It is very hard to say things on a post like this. First, I am afraid people will take what I say wrong and be offended. Second, (along the same lines as the first) you can't hear voice inflections and such which can lead people to read things in a way they weren't meant.

 

Let me say first, we are very friendly people. Even if we are not interested in playing with a couple/person we still love to talk and get to know people. We have friends in the lifestyle that we don't play with but really enjoy their company. Also, we would probably fall under that "beautiful people" category. I only say that because we have been told countless times what a good-looking couple we are and men and women alike have approached us to comment on my body. Yet, we have never seen a place where "all the beautiful" people are that so many un-6's talk about. (Using the size 6/Barbie definition) Every club we've been to have been a mix of all shapes and sizes and looks. And it actually seems like the un-6's get a lot more action and attention than we do. Most people tend to watch us from afar. I think they automatically assume we won't be interested. We are very proactive. Almost every couple we've approached have said they didn't think we'd be interested.

 

Yes, Mr. JustUs and I tend to play with people built similarly to us. I am told by my husband and others that I have a "hard body". Mr. JustUs likes that build and really is not interested in playing with any woman that isn't built like that. Needless to say he doesn't play much with anybody but me. I am not as picky about the women I play with. Some have been "soft" but their passion is awesome and makes for a great time. Now, I am pickier about the men I play with. I don't like a gut, but they don't have to be cut/built. A mans personality can endear him to me even if he isn't quite what I would normally go for. Just like a gorgeous man can lose my attention in an instant if he is an ass or obnoxious.

So obviously we don't normally go for un-6's but that isn't to say that we wouldn't meet one that clicked with us and we'd play.

 

I don't think any of the un-6's have anything to worry about. I know several men in my family that say they like "thick" women, women with some meat on their bones. And sure enough they go for women like that. I have been told by men they think I am too skinny for their tastes. I understand that and I stick to the men that do like my build. I think that if your happy with your body and you take care of yourself (hair, nails, make-up, clothes) then there is someone out there that will find you attractive.

 

Hope I didn't offend anyone and I hope I make sense,

-M

[Dynamar 246]

Hope I didn't offend anyone and I hope I make sense,

-M

 

M... I put myself in the "thick" category, and I think you did just fine. I appreciated your comments very much. Sometimes I think we all get caught up in the "grass is always greener" when really it's more just having to do with preference, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with having a preference.

[DBL D 120]

From a different angle, I have been with a gal who was 5'7" and 170. I didn't ask her what size she was. I was attracted to her and I didn't think I ever would be with a woman that big (I know...there a larger ones). It didn't work out for us to see each other again but I would have seen her again, no problem. The size "6's" aren't my first choice, but I'm the first to tell you to never say never.

 

It's what you have in your heart that is or isn't attractive, not neccesarily what you look like on the outside.

 

Male D

[ALilOEverything 901]

I mean, do the 6's want to play and have experiences with the Un's?

 

Be honest....

 

I'm a size 6, though my body is quite soft after 3 kids and I have all the imperfections that come with having them. I feel good about myself though and try to keep in decent shape. As for playing with someone who isn't a 6? Several times. There are women who are quite a bit larger than I, that radiate feminine beauty and have these awesome personalities... I find myself quite attracted to them. I've often wondered if my body becomes more of a disappointment for them since I'm not curvy and volumptous (I'm small breasted and narrow hips). I am what I am though and they are what they are but that's not what's important to me. A pretty face, bright eyes, a dymamite smile and a sexy attitude is really what gets me going.

 

It's not just about what's on the outside, it's the whole package. I don't see these people, male or female, who I have sex with as just physical objects. I want to give them pleasure because I like them for who they are, inside and out.

[Nymph an' Satyr 22]

Size 6 + 10- Size 16 baby- that's where the ample flesh and fun are!

[Dynamar 246]

Size 6 + 10- Size 16 baby- that's where the ample flesh and fun are!

Over here! Over here! I'm a 16!

[northindycpl 32]

Gosh ladies.... (and gentlemen) you have really driven my point home! I appreciate your posts!

 

It is about the persona nd not the size. People have their preferances, true...but it is what is on the inside that matters most!

[sensuality 2]

I have often times commented that the thicker ladies get a lot more play/attention than women who are my size.Hubby is real picky about who he'll play with and hence has only played with women who reflect something along the lines of my body type.Again, we get A LOT of compliments and a few touches, but it's like we are admired from afar,so to speak.For the most part,whenever anything has ever happened,I've initiated the conversations and made the moves.There have been exceptions, but not many.I actually like woman who have some meat on their bones, I just don't like really overweight ladies.But, as I said, there's someone for everyone!

 

Something else you all might find interesting and sexy too:{I hope I can put this here}

I was just browsing SLS and came across a website there...http://www.iEVW.com

 

There are some really beautiful ladies on this site.

[HotMoCpl 20]

Quite frankly, a size 6 doesn't mean squat in my book and I have the ability to speak quite knowledgable about the subject since I've had more then one wife.....for whatever that's worth.

 

What I've noticed is that a lot of women's sizes tend to run to the small side and that may depend on the company who made it.

 

I've noticed that in my wife's panties she may wear a 7 or 8....depending on who made them. The same for blouses, skirts, jeans and so on. She's been wearing men's Wrangler jeans since I met her, but they look good on her.

 

Let's stop and think. What was a size 6 40 years ago (how many of you are that old?) is probably a size 8 these days.

 

Its all a part of the women's clothing business.

[sensuality 2]

Point blank:

Beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder.

[Pepper & Drew 384]

It seems to me that the Size 6's get a really bad rap! I want to know, does it matter to the 6's as much as it seems to matter to the Un-6's?

 

I mean, do the 6's want to play and have experiences with the Un's?

 

Be honest....

 

Would you avoid a club that didn't have people of your particular size as members?

 

(Maybe there is a whole secret society of Size 6's out there just waiting for me to arrive )

 

I'm one of those 6's now, and I think that in some ways, I seemed more approachable when I was an un. (35 pounds ago) I think a lot of times, people discount you and think that you wouldn't be interested in them because they're not a 6 and quite often, the opposite is true. I like women who are curvy, soft and well...girlie-feeling. facelick I think people underestimate their attractiveness, and that insecurity is what's not attractive. I think it's a mind over matter thing: if you don't mind, it don't matter.

 

Pepper

[DBL D 120]

You have to be comfy in your own skin. I am! If you aren't then you'll have lot's of problems dealing with others and not get past the idea that it ain't the body, it's the mind!

 

I'm certainly not saying that everyone should be with everyone but there definitely is more to it than a dress size.

 

Male D

[Dynamar 246]

I've hesitated to post this, because I don't want it to sound like I think I'm all that and a bag of Cool Ranch Doritos... but recently I have been on two first dates with new gents, and after the fact, during an IM or phone chat... each has said to me "gee.. I loved talking with you... You are so confident and open, and I find that incredibly sexy." Both of the guys... younger, totally HWP and each 97 kinds of smoking hot!

 

Full disclosure: I'm a big girl... 5'9", size 16 or 18, ~200 lbs (give or take... I really don't weigh myself, just go by how my clothes fit). There have been times in my life when I certainly didn't feel so sexy and desirable. However, I've always liked to think that I "accentuate the positive"... focus attention on my eyes, my smile, my brain and my wit... and at this point in time, at least... that's what's winning out. It's proof enough for me!

[NaughtyKitten 16]

I'm a size 6, though my body is quite soft after 3 kids and I have all the imperfections that come with having them. I feel good about myself though and try to keep in decent shape.

Dito

 

I am also a size 6 with kid imperfections. Everyone has their own body hangups. Here's mine. I have a womanly curvy shape, great legs, 34D breasts that even my gay friend told me were mesmerizing a rather pretty face IMHO and a fun flirty personality. All my imperfections are well hidden under my stylish clothing. I feel like I will be a big let down for any guy after I get naked. Hubby thinks I am beautiful and tries his best to calm my insecurities.

I feel like my outward clothed appearance is false advertising.

 

 

---NaughtyKitten

[MrNorthIndyCpl 15]

Ummm Darling? I thought you were a size 6.....Damn! All this time I thought WE were the beautiful people, and all those little people were sadly under-nourished.

 

John

[janetlee1977 15]

uhhhh..... I'm a size 13 stripper. And me and my Hubby go to a klub in Muncie. And I enjoy the woman with boobs more than anything..... I don't care size 6 or 26..... if she's got anything over a D cup you better look out cause it's going to eventually make it way into my hand or mouth! LOL And as for caring about the size of people at a klub..... I just care as long as they shower, no stains on thier clothes and have teeth! Other than that I don't care.

 

Janet

 

P.S.

I think we know each other indy!

[TheGeek 15]

I was just browsing SLS and came across a website there...http://www.iEVW.com

 

There are some really beautiful ladies on this site.

 

Wow -- great site! Those are the beautiful people!

 

I wonder if I could get Mrs. Geek on there. facelick

[charms123 52]

You people are all a bunch….

 

Ok, now that I have your attention!

 

Here is “a” guy’s point of view. Oh, a guy that is about 335lbs and 6’1. “N” is a size 16 or so (I only know her thong size as I have bought enough of them for her!) and is 6’ tall.

 

We are both neat and clean ALWAYS, have our own teeth and no stains anywhere! “N” always wears something sexy and appropriate to her frame.

 

That said, I feel it is me that is holding us/her back from playing. When we go to the club, my concern is that I might turn off the beautiful people. And I have voiced that opinion to my wife when we first started in this lifestyle. I have always been large.

 

Cum to find out, we quickly made friends with all types and sizes. From the size 4’s (though we have not played with some of them) to ladies and guys my size or bigger. And would you believe they all are some of the nicest people when you get to know them? Figure that? facelick

 

I guess, as my therapist would say if I had one, “M” get a grip. Accept people for what they are. If they don’t like you because of your size, personality, skin color, lack of hair on your head but enough everywhere else to weave a rug, FUCK ‘EM! And that at $225/hr!

 

If you think me a slob because I am “fat” and you are not, that is your hang up, not mine. “N” has allowed me to see that you don’t have to be perfect to have fun, as long as you are neat and clean. The club we attend gets 200 people per party. Sometimes we play, sometimes we don’t. But we have fun with each other and love each other for the way we are.

 

I hope that made some sense to at least a few people that have the same hang up as I do.

 

Oh, most of the shots on our web site are “N”. And has she receives some great compliments from men and women. That proves that you can be a bigger size, not a 44-D and get some hot remarks. So there, you hung-up-on-looks, carrot-eating, don’t-look-at-me-cause-I-am-a-goddess/god, people!

 

WOW that felt good. Ok, to whom do I write the $225 check?

 

Great thread, thanks.

 

M of M (him) &N (her)

[northindycpl 32]

You can make that check out to

 

Mrs. Indy's Retirement Fund

 

Good to see you here Janetlee! And thanks to all that have posted their opinions.

[jennandjamesinm 87]

Even though I am a newbie I just wanted to add my 2 cents here....and I hope I don't offend anyone either. I am an un-6 for sure LOL. I am a "thick" lady as someone so kindly put it. (6 foot tall, and about 240 or so) My body is also soft because giving birth to the 3 wonderful sons I have, and I'm proud of my body for that alone!!! There were days where I wish I could have been born thinner, but the truth is that I was born into a family where both sides have "thick" women, genetics is a bitch sometimes. That having been said - I have lost almost 100 lbs. over the past year and feel damn good about myself. When I go out, I dress appropriately, but sexy and show off my assets (James just loves those wrap around shirts that expose cleavage, if you know what I mean!!!! facelick ) Because I don't want anyone to judge me on looks alone, I do the same for others. Alot of the attraction I have had for people (in the vanilla world, no lifestyle experiences, but I think it will be the same), have been to their personality. Alot of it, in my opinion, is the way you carry yourself and present yourself to the world. I think I am sexy and beautiful, and you can see that in the way I present myself. I'm a big girl - so what? Losing that 100 lbs certainly helped, I have a confidence that I haven't had in years!!!! If you don't want to play with me because I an un-6, thats ok too - to each his own, but I hope that wouldn't stop you from talking to me either - but I guess if it did you wouldn't be the kind of person I would want to talk to either. Again - this is general and not directed toward anyone, and I hope I haven't offended anyone, just My Humble Opinion!!!

 

Jenn

[jennandjamesinm 87]

Making check out to Mrs. Indy for Jenn's 2 cents...to the Mrs. Indy Retirement Fund LOL....

[islandgirl 15]

well this one was good for me.....I too am not a 6....well it depends on where I buy my clothes, lets just say I am of sturdy stock or maybe vertically challenged(5'2'and a bit and 130+/-lbs), and I too have those pride marks from my little one, I have been a bit nervous about how I will be accepted, only a bit though as generally I am a 'if you don't like me for me then too bad for you!

My feeling has always been one of beauty is only skin deep, it doesn't seem to be the same for everyone in mainstream society though. So glad to see that in the lifestyle it would appear that what's on the inside matters most.

[EvilMJ 65]

I wanted to add on a few more things after a particularly good weekend.

 

There were lots of "size six" or beautiful people if you will at the dance we went to on the weekend. Lots of them were hitting on me..I am not a size six. Isn't it great when we all get along

[DBL D 120]

...My feeling has always been one of beauty is only skin deep, it doesn't seem to be the same for everyone in mainstream society though. So glad to see that in the lifestyle it would appear that what's on the inside matters most.

 

Ditto that!

 

Male D

[islandgirl 15]

thanks Male D ......nother little boost for the ego, woohoo!!!

[CandTinLorainCo 16]

I guess, as my therapist would say if I had one, “M” get a grip. Accept people for what they are. If they don’t like you because of your size, personality, skin color, lack of hair on your head but enough everywhere else to weave a rug, FUCK ‘EM! And that at $225/hr!

 

M of M (him) &N (her)

 

 

 

Exactly! Well put....

 

 

-C

[Bluedragon 15]

It's what you have in your heart that is or isn't attractive, not neccesarily what you look like on the outside.

 

I couldn't have said it any better Male D.

 

Edited for spelling.

[DBL D 120]

Thanks Bluedragon, but please send accolades to islandgirl. She was the one who put the sentiment into words!

 

Male D

[kissyface 15]

I was a size 6 at one time, before the last baby, now more of a 10/12 and quite comfy at this size. No matter what size I have been I have always like curvy woman the best. I have never been really interested in BBW but what I would consider thick woman....they make me swoon.

 

Now my hubby is a big guy, almost 6'4" and 250 lbs, he is a teddy bear. Some folks are a bit put off at his size and that is ok too.

[Sweet_Candy 54]

Attraction to other people for us is like walking into a Sweet Factory.

Not all candy is the same, and some you like and dislike, and then there's your favorites. To each his own. facelick

 

Sweet

[bluedragoness 15]

Well, I can relate to both sizes , was a size2 till i aged a bit then went from that to a size 18.. I have this complex about my weight now and used to really feel uncomfortable around others, but growing out of this feeling slowly thanks to a great husband and friends.

 

But as far as going to a club with beautiful people, sure I would still do it, it is one of the things that motivates me further out of my complex of weight, to be able to see all these beautiful people and then say "hey look at me I am just as beautiful and sexy on the inside as you guys are on the out".

 

 

Its not the cover of the book you should be judging but the contents of it.

 

If you are only looking at the cover , you will never find the true story inside.

 

 

Well might not have made sense to some about how I posted this but it makes total sense to me .

 

And that is just how I judge people, by the beauty within, not the outside shell.

 

 

Mrs B.