Would couples with a bi-male want to play with a couple with a straight male?

[rntsvo 15]

I was not really sure where to put this or how to title it.

 

My husband and I have been in this lifestyle for about 3 months now. We have had two experiences before we got into the lifestyle, it was with the same person both times.

 

We met up with a couple earlier this month first time. She is bi and so is he. My husband is not bi, he is straight and does not ever want to be touched by another male. We ended up playing together we done a soft swap week after our first meeting. The other guy never did touch my husband, which was good. We hope play with them again sometime in the future.

 

I emailed another couple today just wondering if they would like to talk. They said that there was no connection because of several reasons. The main one because we played with a couple with a bi male.

 

I tried to explain to them that my husband is not bi and is very straight. They ended up blocking us from emailing them anymore. Maybe I should have not said anything but I don't think it is right.

 

My question is, if another couple wanted to chat maybe play later on. They had played with another couple had a bi male would you play with the couple with the straight man, anyways?

 

I hope that made sense.

[EvilMJ 65]

Just because one couple has a bi - male, I would not assume that the other man was bi as well. There are lots of couples with bi-women and I do not assume that other couples have bi-women.

 

I would not exclude anyone based on the sexual orientaion of a couple they play with.

 

I think you are better off not having played with the couple that blocked you, it appears that have issues and that one could have been the least of them!

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I emailed another couple today just wondering if they would like to talk. They said that there was no connection because of several reasons. The main one because we played with a couple with a bi male.

 

One quick question: How did they know you played with a couple with a bi male?

 

My question is, if another couple wanted to chat maybe play later on. They had played with another couple had a bi male would you play with the couple with the straight man, anyways?

 

Yes we would. Assuming there was a connection in all the other ways. Mr two4you isn't bi or bi-curious, but isn't freaked out by it either.

[rntsvo 15]

They knew because they checked out our profile out on site we found them. The couple we played with had certified us. So I guess they checked them out also.

[disqreetcouple 15]

Could be several reasons and they obviously aren't comfortable. I think it is because the guy is a complete homophobe. But I could be completely ignorant on this one and it has to do with them being scared of disease. Of course that is based on ignorance too

[rntsvo 15]

It really don't bother me that they are uncomfortable. Because I can see how they feel in some ways. It is just they blocked us they bugs me. But it really does not matter, more power to them!

 

I believe that if anyone wants to talk to us they have to have some kind of attraction first.

 

Maybe it is also because we have kids and have to arrange meeting people also.

 

I just found it strange that being their main problem with us. I guess their our other people like them out there and nothing we can do about it.

[Zoe&Wash 93]

Could be several reasons and they obviously aren't comfortable. I think it is because the guy is a complete homophobe. But I could be completely ignorant on this one and it has to do with them being scared of disease. Of course that is based on ignorance too

 

To paraphrase Homer Simpson, "You didn't get any 'gay' on you did you?"

 

No play for the 'phobes. Their loss.

[northindycpl 32]

To be honest, I am not sure that I would play with a couple knowing they played with a bi-male. Here is why:

 

Many men say they are straight, because of their perception of some sort of stigma associated with being a bi-male. Although, I believe your explaination of events, if I just met you via email and looked at your profile and saw that you played with a bi-male couple, then I would assume your husband is a situationally bi-male (or bi-curious) and I know that would make me uncomfortable. Remember, the other couple doesn't have your information, like we do.

 

I would not have just blocked you, I would have sent you an email stating politely that we weren't interested. I do think it is rude that they just blocked you. But, even is swinging you are going to meet rude people.

 

If this is bothering you, then you can remove the certification (if using SLS) and it won't be an issue again. There are a few posts here that will direct you on getting a certification from SLS, instead of other couples.

 

BTW, we were once told that someone didn't want to play with us because one of the certification couples was fat. To each his own I guess.

 

It is much better to find out they are uncomfortble with it now, before you met them, then later.

 

Welcome to the board, too! I hope you will post more so we can learn more about you and your husband.

[rntsvo 15]

Well we found out real reason why they were not interested. It was because to them I am a BBW. To each their own. :rollseyes They could of just said they were not interested instead of what they did say.

 

BTW: Yes we do have a profile on SLS.

[Atilla 16]

It's their loss, I wouldn't worry about it. What they did was rude and you did explain that your hubby is straight. Why, they would be so picky about this is just being plain picky.

 

If I was them, I would've wanted a promise that condoms would be used if we were to play with you. Then all would be good.

[BiDrywallChick 18]

It's their loss, I wouldn't worry about it. What they did was rude and you did explain that your hubby is straight. Why, they would be so picky about this is just being plain picky.

 

If I was them, I would've wanted a promise that condoms would be used if we were to play with you. Then all would be good.

 

I have to agree with Atilla here. It's thier loss. Pretty petty the way they acted. Some people are just like that. its better to know now and cut your losses than to keep wondering and trying to set something up with them. Again.. another example of people who are a waste of makeup

[VegasLee 1,486]

Life is too short and the Lifestyle is to much fun to worry about other people that are not an important part of your life think.

 

There is 1000's more out there to have fun with.

 

Go on, enjoy!

[Pepper & Drew 384]

That's priceless...

 

BTW, we were once told that someone didn't want to play with us because one of the certification couples was fat. To each his own I guess.

 

Now, we've had some characters contact us on SLS, but that beats all!!! I'm sure you cried many hours into your pillow that you missed out on that couple!

 

To rntsvo,

Unfortunately, there is a huge double standard in the Lifestyle. Bi females? Yippee! Bi males? Hell no! There are those that don't feel that way, but there's certainly a contingent that does.

 

Frankly, I find it curious (no pun intended) that people worry about the sexual orientation of someone who isn't going to be that way with them. For example, any of the guys in the couples we've played with could be bi. Since Drew's not, perhaps they didn't say and never made a move, but they'd still be bi. Not everyone walks around with preferences and sexual orientation on a name tag when you meet someone offline, so you don't really know.

 

In any event, I wouldn't lose sleep on being blocked. It may chafe your butt a little, but it's really no biggie. Just like when someone blocks the isle at the grocery store like they're in there by themselves, or someone runs a red light---risking the lives of people who have a green light in the other direction, just shake your head and know there are a**holes in the world and you just found another one. Unfortunately, there's no finders fee awarded.

[rntsvo 15]

LOL! I have not lost any sleep over them or could really care less what they think of us!

 

Thanks all for your replies!

[CB_n_Red 16]

Got to agree with Pepper on this one. There seems to be a real double standard going on as regards the whole bi thing.

 

We play with couples with a bi-fem even though Red is straight. Never been a problem. We've also played with couples with a bi-male even though I'm straight. Again, never a problem. Why should there be? We have declined to meet couples where one or the other partner expressly want the bi thing and others have declined us because we're not into it. No big deal. As Lee said, life's too short and there are plenty more fish in the sea.

 

As always it's about boundaries. Generally we find people don't step over whatever boundaries have been set (not that we have many). Maybe we've got good at picking the ones that won't cross those boundaries!

[oldfella_can74 15]

The more things change the more they stay the same. During my swinging days about 25 years ago I noted that about 75% of women were bi and happily enjoyed other women in front of others in small or large groups. I discovered that a cock was good to play with and that about 10% of men admitted they were bi but most would not play unless in a seperate room with no one watching. In those days during about 8 or 9 years playing more than twice most weeks I never saw a condom, preAIDs.