Do you need a drink to swing?

[Guest smileytattoo]

How many of you feel that you are just social drinkers? And how many people on here feel they NEED a drink to loosen up before having sex with another couple?

 

We just had a couple tell us that we didn't have anything in common because they prefer to get "retarded drunk" in order to have a good time. My husband and I dont drink at all, but we dont care if others do.

 

So I was just wondering what everyone else's views on drinking and swinging are.

[VegasLee 1,486]

I do not drink. Laura does enjoy drinking but she does not get "retarded drunk" to swing or have a good time.

 

Now, I will admit that I look better to people that are "retarded drunk" but I prefer to not party with people that have to get that drunk to have fun in life or with me.

 

The good thing about being one that does not drink though is I am the one that remembers later all the silly things that the drunks do.

[Vespertine 31]

We like to have a few drinks, but that's it.

 

I get very flirty with one or two drinks in my bloodstream, but any more than that, I'm ready to go home to bed. To sleep. Alone.

 

I wouldn't want to swing with a couple that was obviously pretty tanked. I'd like people to remember me the next morning.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Mrs Naughty and I usualy, but not always, have a few drinks but not because we need it to swing. Usualy we are out at our favorite vanilla club with friends enjoying good times and occasionaly Mrs naughty will find someone to corrupt .

 

I must say though, at least for me, when we were just getting our feet wet, a drink or two went a long way in relaxing me.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

We like to have a few drinks, but that's it.

 

Dito.

 

Just a few throughout the night, and that will do us. We take a pint (of rum) to the club, to split between us, and that is enough to last us through the night.

 

When I was a young man, I often got sloppy drunk, like young men do. I don't miss that at all

[WesternSwing 504]

We drink. We don't care if you do or don't. But we are turned-off by people that are retarded drunk. If you have to be retarded drunk to have sex with us then we don't want to have sex with you. That's my story.

 

Mr. WS

[ALilOEverything 901]

I get very flirty with one or two drinks in my bloodstream, but any more than that, I'm ready to go home to bed. To sleep. Alone.

 

This is totally ME

[CandTinLorainCo 16]

T and I do consume on occasion, that being said, niether one feels it's a requirement or necessity for us to swing. We've been stone sober and retarded drunk and actually prefer sober so that were able to fully enjoy and remember the festivities. A few to relax is perfectly fine.

 

-C

[DBL D 120]

Fem D is a lightweight but has tried to be a heavyweight on play nights. She usually has a good time but doesn't always have the best memory of what happened. I have been trying to set an example by not having much to drink and I think it is working. Funny, I'm the one who'd love to have a few, but on play nights I watch myself pretty good. Don't really want a performance problem that can be controlled so easily, now do we?

 

I'm all for being relaxed, just not retarded!

 

Male D

[NtyKittensMan 16]

The wife and I went to our first club last weekend. We had a couple of drinks while there. Maybe to take the edge off with so much to take in. But thats enough. We want to enjoy ourselves and remember what happened.

[CntrySngr 15]

While I enjoy mixing drinking and swinging, I've found over the years that I've had to cut back. Now it's a six pack spread across 4-5 hours at the club, as opposed to the 12 pack (or more) that it used to be. I just ain't as young as I used to be!

[DBL D 120]

While I enjoy mixing drinking and swinging, I've found over the years that I've had to cut back. Now it's a six pack spread across 4-5 hours at the club, as opposed to the 12 pack (or more) that it used to be. I just ain't as young as I used to be!

 

Plus...All that wasted time spent going to the bathroom when you coulda been ...

 

M.D.

[northindycpl 32]

I drink hard stuff, so a few I can handle. Any more than a few, I am pretty sloshed. Mr. Indy rarely drinks, so he is always the driver.

 

Don't need anything to swing, sober or drunk its all the same to me in terms of comfort levels.

 

We do have a couple where the husband drinks a lot, and usually I am reight there along with him. I enjoy drinking enough to have a good time, but hate to be sloppy drunk (pretty sure I don't get that way often) The only downside is the hubby of that couple, although a fun drunk, has terrible performance issues and it becomes a real challenge past a certain point. YUCK! Alcohol has the opposite effect on me, however. The more I drink the more horny I am.

[WoodyInSoCal 15]

Personally, I have discovered that I LOVE sex way more than the drinking. If I drink more than one or two, I can't play as well as without. So, I usually have a drink after the sex play has ended.

 

And honestly, I really do not enjoy being with a woman who is really drunk. I would like her to remember me - not that I'm so special, but it would be nice for her to recognize me the next time we meet at a party or club.

[Guest smileytattoo]

Thanks for all the comments! I was really surprised when the couple told us we had nothing in common because they enjoy being "retarded drunk". What kind of person is proud of that? That is just not what we are interested in.

[freake2inva 15]

we drink..sometimes as much as six drinks..but never shitfaced or beligerent. We wanna remeber this stuff!!

[JTswing 15]

Still on the outside looking in, but I have a pretty good idea where we would be. A few drinks to loosen up. The wife has gotten to be kind of a lightweight as she has aged. I can take it or leave it. But the smell of alcohol on someones breath turns me off like wiskey dick;) unless I have hed a few. Alcohol on the other hand makes her horny, even at home. So I would definitley limit her drinking. When she gets shitfaced she gets horny beyond belief. She is so insatable it is a turn off for me. ie. 4 hours the other night and still begging for more. A light buzz is just right. LOOK at that performance anxiety for both ends of the spectrum. Can't get it up, can't get enough!!!

[freakykitten 15]

Thanks for all the comments! I was really surprised when the couple told us we had nothing in common because they enjoy being "retarded drunk". What kind of person is proud of that? That is just not what we are interested in.

 

I think if someone said that to you it sarcasm since you dont like to be around people who are so drunk they are falling all over themselves. Dont think i have ever seen any one at any swinger party that intoxicated. There is nothing wrong with having a few drinks to help loosen up.

[Guest smileytattoo]

The person that told me this is a drunk, so I didnt think they were kidding.

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

Mr Spoo and I have a set number of drinks we take and it is not enough to get us drunk (few beers for him and Zima for me). We have seen couples at the club especially the female 1/2 that get almost fall down drunk... like that's the only way they can get up the courage to have sex with someone other than their spouse. It's not a pretty sight and most people don't want to get involved with a drunk. Where's the fun in that, they're not going to enjoy anything or not remember and I doubt there would be much they could do for you to enjoy.

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Atilla 16]

personally, if we met you and you were "retarded drunk" we wouldn't even give you a second thought. How much fun is that when there's a possibility that you might puke on me, or pass out on me? No fun at all.

 

We do however, have a couple of drinks just to loosen up. I relax that way and so does hubby before an enjoyable evening of playing

[Spoomonkey 421]

I only have sex with people if they can get to me before I pass out...

 

I mean - ummm - what Mrs Spoo said

 

Spoomonkey

[good times 991]

I prefer the person I'm with not to pass out, but if they start snoring it's over for sure.

 

Seriously, I rarely drink at all and almost never have more than two drinks, Mrs. GT usually has a couple of drinks but she doesn't normally get noticabley intoxicated.

[FlyBiNiter 16]

I prefer a couple of drinks, but not a lot, and not just when we go to a swinger's club. I'm fairly shy by nature, and a drink or two relaxes me enough to chat with people and enjoy myself. On the other hand, once I get to know people, I'm not shy at all, and I rarely touch alcohol. As for being "retarded drunk" I haven't done that in years, and it's really not my style, and never really was. I prefer to maintain control of myself all the time. That is partly why I do like a couple of drinks though.. sometimes I'm TOO controlled, so I need to loosen up...