MFM - What does the other M do?

[bear123 17]

OK, from reading the posts I’ve determined that there are two major categories of MFM experience. One where both M’s participate, and one where it’s more of a voyeur-type experience with hubby looking on as wifey gets it on with another guy. For myself, the ladder of these two experiences really entices and excites me (and my better half is on board), but as many times as I’ve tried to run through the situation I’ve not been able to picture myself just standing around watching the whole thing transpire. Won’t I feel like a dope just standing there? I’ve read that other people actually get naked and start masturbating, but (to me at least) this seems like it would be extremely uncomfortable, not only for myself, but for wifey and the other M.

[vysper 17]

Ummm, well, my hubby and I have done the FMF on several occasions and the last time I mostly just watched...IT. WAS. GREAT. I have always known that I enjoyed watching others get it on, but when you get to watch someone you love do that to someone else, well, it was a total turn on. I touched myself some and even touched them some, but for the most part I just watched and even told them what I liked seeing or maybe what I wanted to see them do and so on.

 

Nope, it ain't awkward and you won't feel like a dope and most likely you will probably masturbate or at least touch yourself some because it just feels good. Yeah, it all works out and it's most exciting to watch.

[northindycpl 32]

Well, for the most part, there is participation and just watching. I think the perfect scenerio for us (either MFM or FFM) is both. There are certainly times, where you just watch, perhaps kneeling while your wife is sucking you and getting fucked. Other times, where you simply sit on the edge of the bed and just take it all in. There will be times where you are with your wife and the other male will just watch, too.

 

Then there are times when you just have to be in the action.

 

I will say one of my hottest memories was watching MR. Indy kneeling on the bed next to me jacking off a bit while I was getting fucked from behind. WOW!

 

Do what feels natural and good.

[lovefest04 700]

Hey Bear123,

 

We both see our MMF encounters as an opportunity for everyone to play, sometimes together and sometimes one male is just watching.

 

For my SO, having two men at the same time is mindblowing. She may be getting fucked from behind and sucking the others cock, sometimes she's just riding one of us and the other is laying next to her watching and carressing her.

 

We have also just put on shows. One man and one woman while the other watches. Often this occurs when one of the men needs a break and the other just can't keep his hands off of her. And, yes often, the watching male JOs.

 

It has never seemed weird at all. I mean once we got over the fact that we're having sex with partial strangers, getting naked in large groups of people etc etc. Well, sitting and JO seems quite "normal".

 

As long as everyone is having fun then it's all good. We are very non-judgemental which carriues over to our play as well. Whatever anyone wants to do and everyone is ok then its not weird.

 

It's an opportunity to express ourselves in a very positive and fullfilling manner.

 

Have agreat time, watch, touch yourself or not, talk to them or not, even make requests fo what you'd like to see. This could all also be a ery big turn on for your SO.

[ItTakes3 19]

We had one male third that had a problem getting comfortable with me being there, but with others, there have been no inhibitions at all. She loves being the center of attention and two men sucking her nipples drives her wild.

 

I also enjoy watching her and another man going one-on-one and it's the same for the other man, since he also needs rest and recovery time. I think nature has physically designed the female body to easily accomodate two men and it seems perfectly natural once you get past any jealousy issues. MFM is our favorite combination for recreational sex, but she would also like to try three men, to see what it's like.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

It all depends, but I understand your feeling kind of weird just standing there or sitting in the corner. I, for one, can not do that.

 

There are plenty of times though that my participation is very limited, but that is just fine with me, watching is awesome facelick !

 

Here is how I do it and still feel comfortable (not weird for just watching):

I always help getting the 4-play started. I help get her undressed and participate in the carressing, rubbing, sucking etc....

Once things start to get really hot between the two of them I just back out of the picture a little. I remain in the same bed and help very little. I will rub Mrs Naughty's arm or leg or give her an occasional kiss where I can fit in. All three remain in the bed with 95% of the action taking place just between Mrs Naughy and the other M.

 

When they are done rocking each others world I slide over to get mine rocked by Mrs Naughty

 

So to sum it up, I am not sitting in the corner or in front of the bed with a stiffy like some kind of pervert .

I stay just engaged enough to be engaged.

Make sense?

 

But there is also plenty of times where the other M and I equally participate through the entire experience, which is also awesome !!

 

I get much gratification out of each scenario. As long as I see mrs Naughty completely let go and enjoy herself, the experience was one to remember .

[curiousagain 326]

The situation is fluid, sometimes the female is being stimulated by both males, sometimes one. Some husbands do want to just watch, I have no problem with that as long as he says so before hand. Otherwise, I keep wondering when he is going to join in. If the Husband of the couple just wants to watch or to JO while watching, it's no problem. Remember, the MFM is pretty much all about the F but everyone should do what they are comfortable with and aroused by.

[CandTinLorainCo 16]

I mean once we got over the fact that we're having sex with partial strangers, getting naked in large groups of people etc etc. Well, sitting and JO seems quite "normal".

 

exactly!!!

 

As long as everyone is having fun then it's all good. We are very non-judgemental which carries over to our play as well. Whatever anyone wants to do and everyone is ok then its not weird.

 

Our thoughts again.... lovefest you reading our thoughts now?

 

-C

[slowluvr65 16]

I have been in both scenarios. The first is where hubby just watches and doesn't participate. From my standpoint, that is just another one on one sexual experience. The only difference is he is enjoying watching the wife get my full treatment--in one case he took pictures, in another he just drank beer and talked with a friend along with a couple of losers who wanted to fuck her.

 

The second scenario is where he participates. Do the math, a guy has but one significant apendage to stimulate, but a female has three orafices that work. Two guys can keep two of those occupied (I haven't done three guys keeping all three occupied yet). She can entertain both of us and we can keep switching off which keeps it always interesting and hot. Many simply call that a DP, but if one orafice is her mouth I don't count that. The true DP is the highlight of the encounter. This is where the pussy and ass each get one guy. If she is not inclined toward anal, this doesn't work of course. But if she is, the woman gets sooo turned on. Screaming orgasm follows. And that is why we are here, right?

 

I have heard of a couple of more elaborate scenarios, I was even asked to participate in one that has yet to transpire. Double pussy and double anal. It takes a special woman to want these. It takes a couple of special guys to get past the homophobia and give her this experience. But I have been told it is off the scale for her.

[Rascal 17]

Hmmmm, I've read the other responses and don't think that's what a MFM 3sum is about at all...... I think that the two men are supposed to make the woman the center of their attentions and concentrate on making her lose track of time and all else..... we suck on both tits at the same time... maybe suck a little pussy too.... some of us like to eat a little pussy while she's being fucked.... :-) I don't think there is a female alive that hasn't thought about what it would be like....... :-) and it's a special turn on for us guys to know that she's getting what she wants! :-)

Ron the Rascal - Rascal@cyberdude.com

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

He asked specificaly about what the other "M" (Hubby) does when full participation is not desired.

 

We gave our answers.

 

Some may not consider that an MFM- but it did answer his questions.

[WesternSwing 504]

I will say it is hard to just watch. My wife and I were talking about this just yesterday. Like Mr. Naughty said, joining in as a "helper" is probably the best way. I know for my wife that it helps make her more comfortable because I am close and she can see that I am having a good time myself, so she's not worried about me, either. He's doing most of the work, but I'm doing the things another set of hands are needed for, and saying hot things to her. And like curiousagain says, the situation is fluid. Just go with the flow.

 

Mr. WS

[PiNKFLoYD 16]

There were 2 couples that I played with LTR over the years for MFM's, and I did pretty much everything the hubbies did. There were times when one of us would sit back for a minute and take a break, but not for long. It's kinda hard not to join in.

[PiNKFLoYD 16]

^ Yep!

 

We did that, too!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

The situation is fluid, sometimes the female is being stimulated by both males, sometimes one.

 

This has been our experience. Sometimes I just lay back and watch and masturbate, other times I may be kissing her or sucking her nipples while he takes the lead on fucking her, and other times, it's just the opposite, he'll do one of those more passive things while I'm taking the lead on the fucking. We've tried the simultaneous oral and fucking and while that's kind of fun eye candy for a short time, she doesn't like to do it for long, too much going on at once and so it sort of detracts from both for her.

[jeff111 44]

This is an old thread revived but am glad it was. Some very good info though thats been informative reading.

 

From a fantasy and role play experience perspective, I can’t imagine just sitting back watching, but who knows when the moment comes (at least for part of it).

 

Ideally, we’d both be focusing on her, either one in her Pussy whilst she’s giving oral, or one in her Pussy whilst her clit is being sucked, or her nipples or kissing her mouth or neck and stroking the rest of her body. Just because one penis is inside her doesn’t mean that the rest of her body can’t be stimulated in some manner or other.

 

Ultimately - what do the women find they enjoy the most? Both guys actively working on them? Being fucked and sucking a cock at the same time? being watched whilst being fucked etc, or a mix of all of the above ?

 

Cheers

[adamgunn 1,460]

We've done dozens of MFMs, and found our 'groove.' It usually starts with my wife Mary in foreplay with the other man. This can go on for anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour, after which time the two of them go into coitus. While this is going on, I'll watch, take pictures and often stimulate her in addition to the other man. (For example, while he's giving her head, I'll be kissing her tits, etc.) At some point, they'll slow down. About that time, I'll take over, Mary and I will screw and the other guy will either watch or help out, depending on what he wants.

 

At this point, we'll take a break. Sometimes the other guy will decide he's had enough (or Mary's had enough of him, if he wasn't that good,) and he'll leave. But more often than not, I'll go get more beverages, dessert or coffee and we'll sit around naked in the bedroom and relax. Then it starts again, usually with Mary and the other guy, but it quickly gets very fluid.

 

We’ve had guys in our bedroom for less than thirty minutes to more than three hours.

[kittyswinger 260]

It usually starts with my wife Mary in foreplay with the other man. This can go on for anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour, after which time the two of them go into coitus. While this is going on, I'll watch, take pictures and often stimulate her in addition to the other man. (For example, while he's giving her head, I'll be kissing her tits, etc.) At some point, they'll slow down. About that time, I'll take over, Mary and I will screw and the other guy will either watch or help out, depending on what he wants.

 

At this point, we'll take a break. Sometimes the other guy will decide he's had enough (or Mary's had enough of him, if he wasn't that good,) and he'll leave. But more often than not, I'll go get more beverages, dessert or coffee and we'll sit around naked in the bedroom and relax. Then it starts again, usually with Mary and the other guy, but it quickly gets very fluid.

My experiences were pretty much the same. It is better when the 2 Ms have some sort of rapport then they work as a team and it means more fun for everyone. There was one time when the other M put on a show and took me for himself for like 2 to 3 hrs nonstop. My partner just stood there like a spellbound tree! After that we kept wondering if we missed some info on the M...if he was some sort of an ex pornstar ?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Kitty, I agree. When Mary is having a really, really great time with a guy, I figure it's best not to interfere, I'll just mess it up! The first rule of MFMs for me is it's all about her.

[Guest]

When I think about it, in ours both guys have both been very active but why wouldn’t they be. Basically, you have the one guy who is most typically a stranger and getting a chance of a life time and my husband who is really into it for me. Sometimes he stands back a bit while things get started between me and the other guy, not sure how he reads the other guy and knows how much room or leeway to give him but does a good job of it, knows when to join in and move it to “split roast”, put me in provocative positons we all can enjoy or lead it to DP for me, etc., make sure I get plenty of joy from the experience.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I like to relax in a chair to watch.

 

We tried double teaming her but after a few experiences she confessed that she likes to focus on one of us at a time.

[Sawman 84]

In any threesome there is a point where it is a two-some with the third not having an active role. This can often cause some discomfort and even hurt if they players don't understand this and even talk about it. I've been the special guest star and recognize when the couple are into each other and not me. I try to do what I can to let them enjoy even if I just stay close. A couple not prepared for this can be caught off guard. Good communication is the ultimate intimacy.

[Numex 2,420]

For me, watching my wife in an MFM where I'm not one of the Ms is exciting. Except for one or two times there was another pussy around, so I in my highly excited state, I moved on.

[Anon321 523]

We don't usually go into these situations with a defined "plan" like most of the other people on this forum do. We don't spend time defining everybody's role and laying down rules because we just don't find that to be fun and sexy. Whether or not I participate really depends on how I feel about the situation and whether I want to join or not. My GF is into really extreme rough sex but I am not. So if a guy is getting really rough with her or doing some other type of sexual fetish with her that I am not into then I will usually not join but I often still find it hot to watch. If they are having more normal sex and I feel like if I join I won't slow things down or anything then I will often participate. It really depends on the scenario but like I said, we really don't go into it with a defined plan.

[couplers 4,656]

"MFM - What does the other M do?

 

"Wait his turn.

 

I prefer when they take turns sharing me going back and forth. It's exciting not knowing what's going to happen next - Are they getting ready to switch? Will he want to flip me over or stay the way I am? Does he want me to get on top? Which one will cum in me first? Is it going to be this time? After the first guy cums, the second is quick to follow.

 

We've had variations on this where they would be in and out of my bum, or switching off but with one guy going in my pussy and one in my bum, or after the first guy cums he switches doing oral on me until he's hard again. I've also done this with three, and once four men, but there were other women there too, we were just swapping quickly for fun and all of the cum wasn't put in me.