Women's experiences with BBC, and a Black man's perspective.

[openingthedoor 21]

Hi all . Ok, I do have experience in this. My ex-husband was black (married 12 years) and I have dated 6 or 7 black guys. It's actually pretty evenly divided down the middle as far as the # of black guys I've been with v/s the number of white guys lol. NONE of the black guys were well endowed (one was a little better than average). All of the guys were 6 ft plus, athletic types.....but their package certainly wasn't anything to brag about. Whether they were good lovers or not, mostly no with the surprising occasional exception. The biggest guys that I've ever been with were tall, skinny, white guys (all of them seem to be well endowed ) so that's my favorite type of guy.....think Tommy Lee....need I say more?

 

I'm married to a guy with a Tommy Lee physique and it's true!! Yay for me!

[Chicup 42]

The biggest penis we have run into swinging was on a 5'6" white guy, who while in good shape, had to weigh about 140 lbs.

 

The AVERAGE penis size for black men is almost identical to whites. BUT, as rare as really big ones are, there is twice the likelihood for a big one with black men.

 

So while you won't run into many 7+ inchers, regardless of race, there will be more with blacks.

 

Besides ladies, you know its about the girth

[gingerandwasabi 39]

I'm a married Black male. Some observations:

 

- I'm not the biggest guy around. I'm about 8" long and thick enough to stretch a woman but not enough to hurt if you catch my drift. (To put that in perspective, My wife has a Italian/Spanish "boyfriend" who my length but is beer can thick. So that IMHO shoots down that whole size thing)

 

- I'm always amazed by white women who say that I am huge when I'm inside them considering that I know that they've been with guys who are bigger than I. It makes me think that some of this "size" thing is psychological.

 

- I generally get sought out at parties and clubs by (mostly) white husbands and (sometimes) white wives for some "fun" with the common themes being "I want a Black experience." However, I've also heard from a couple of women who are "black only" even to the exclusion of their husbands.

 

- The most outrageous thing that I've heard is the whole "Black breeding" angle. I've received e-mails asking if I would be willing to participate in "Breeding gang bangs" with other Black males and to go one-on-one with their wives and "breed" them. Granted that all of that is talk, but my best guess is that it adds to the excitement of the encounter.

 

- Some other Black guys in the lifestyle have heard of rape fantasies as well. Not something that I've experienced myself though.

 

- I'm normally a very caring and considerate lover, but that's not some White women want. They want the "thug" type of black male that you often see in those "gangsta" porn videos. I guess it's part of the fantasy for them.

 

I guess the bottom line is that IMHO, it's more than just simply dick size. It's about a bunch of (for lack of a better description) perceptions about black males (that have likely been around for a few centuries and have come from some unfortunate periods in Western civilization) that White women or couples want to experience. Is some of this potentially racist or stereotypical? Perhaps. But, if that's what floats their boat, then it's okay as long as it isn't taken too far IMHO.

 

I hope that provides some perspective to this conversation.

 

I appreciate your post. We are a white couple that has recently had their first experience with a black couple. We all had a great time but it has made me think about stereotypes. I think there is still some sort of black white taboo that added to the excitement for us but admitting to it also makes me feel stupid.

 

The guy my wife played with had a stereotypically lean black athletic body. While his cock was longer than mine it was not an extreme difference and I am definitely thicker than he was. My wife enjoyed the difference but not the difference in our cocks. What she really noticed was that his biceps and shoulders were so stereotypically strong looking.

 

Similarly, my experience was enhanced because of all people, a sweet black girl married to a big black stud praised me for having such a big cock.

 

I also noticed that during our play I really wanted to comment about our black white differences but was afraid to do so for fear of coming off racist. So instead I just praised her for being beautiful. Actually, come to think of it, I may have said something about her big beautiful ass, a comment I would never make to a white girl built the same way.

 

The whole time our eager black partners seemed to be enjoying our differences just as much. When we offered to switch you would have thought I offered to buy them a new car. No doubt he was excited to experience my blonde Barbie looking wife. I'm not sure if her excitement for me had more to do with me being white or her being horny but she too was excited. I realize a lot of our excitement came from stereotypes that would be inappropriate in other situations but with everyone having fun the stereotyping we all did seemed strangely positive at least for these 4 people intent on kindness.

[love2dp 53]

gingerandwasabi,

 

Very well written. I really enjoyed reading it. I could feel the excitement! Awesome for you all. I'm happy for you, you had such a good time. Will you all be having fun in the future? I hope so. And I hope you become comfortable enough to share your thoughts and feeling with them. I'm sure it won't come across racist if you say it correctly and it's meant with sincerity, and with respect, and for the sake of observation and pleasant thoughts toward this wonderful couple, hence the want to speak out loud about it and share it WITH them like your doing with your bodies. Share your minds as well. It just may make your love making (can I say that in this situation?) Swinging that much more enjoyable because you have gotten closer to the heart because of deep open communication. It a wonderful thing brother. Relax, and breath and share your thought. Maybe think of what you would like to sat in advance so it does come well received. You may find out they are wanting to share the same type of things. How funny will that laughter be if that IS the case lol!!! You guys will get and be so much closer if it works out to be this way. If its not to this level its ok. If it's still received well then great. If you feel you have stepped on toe's so to speak if you do share your thoughts, just genuinely apologize to them. That's all you can do. I think you will be fine. Let us know how it works out for you. I hope you have such a good funny laugh like crazy story to tell us if you get the wonderful opportunity to enjoy them again. That's about the best advice for a good time I think I have ever given lol! How'd I do? Hahahaha! I'm medicated. Med Pot. Sorry, I talk a lot when I'm high. Man am I hungry lol!

[gingerandwasabi 39]

Those are great suggestions which I would use if I had their contact information or even knew their names. But this event happened rather spur of the moment in a group room at a club which isn't our normal way of interacting with other couples. That also probably added to the wow factor!

[jdmid1 15]

interesting thoughts - thank you for sharing

[doc_oso 22]

No it's just a rumor. I'm black and ive been getting looked at strange for as long as i can remember because I'm average at most (even thats a stretch). I just recently quit caring about my lack of size according to the stereotype. Race has jack to do with penis size

[OpenMindedPair 35]

Black men have been very direct and assertive looking to get a piece of voluptuous (shapely not obese) blonde attractive past (and present) gfs and lovers and wife.

 

Some white men have tried to make contact but not in the volume and directness of black men at curvy blondes.

 

An NBA All Star power forward whipped his bamboo out on an ex gf at a dance club in the ladies room, but thats just 1 example of many we've collectively seen.

 

Doesnt make it any more statistically valid. Just anecdotal observation.

 

And frankly its incredibly arousing to be around; it gives the girls that much higher sex appeal and value among men to be prized and priority sex targets. Complexion and culture don't matter when it comes to a gf being valued and appreciated.

 

This is a sensitive topic. Not trying to fetishize people of our species most ancient civilization as automaton sex gimmicks.

 

Just saying BBC attraction to white women and a confidence to let the girls know they're sexy has been a tremendous turn on over the years.

 

And we are looking to maybe do some bar flirting with her with some guys who appreciate her so much. It bolsters her confidence to the sky and makes her impossibly sexier.

 

Its not about a 14 inch bamboo tree stump. Its about attraction, value, yes the Historic (and lets be completely honest, current and future still ) taboo. The attraction is anti racist and diversity of lovers makes people into better people.

My 2 cents

[Bluecat469 23]

We've been swinging with a black couple for a few years now and the hubby is the 1st black man we've been with that was larger than me. We met on a day trip to Nantucket and on the ferry ride back we had a few drinks. When we finally docked it was late and they invited Lynne and I to stay at their hotel. All being tipsy we agreed.

 

Once there Joe the hubby lit a joint that we all enjoyed. Along with more cocktails we all were in rare shape. Lynne was the drunkest and asked if she could lie down for a while. They had 2 bedrooms in their suite so I went in and tucked her in. I came back and found Joe and his wife Carol completely nude dancing. I said sorry, I think you thought I was going to lie down with Lynne. They said no it's ok. Get naked yourself if you want, but it's ok if you don't. I looked at Joe and my jaw dropped. His flaccid penis had to be 9 inches and very thick. I was confused and very excited at the same time. Carol's figure was also amazing, but it was Joe's huge cock that drew my attention. Carol started playing with it as it slowly rose from his lap. I didn't have to think again about getting undressed.

 

I went over to Carol as Joe motioned for me to feel her up. She let me for a while then took my hand and wrapped my fingers around his giant penis. It was so thick and heavy. I don't know if it was the pot, booze or these 2 most sexual people but My knees were getting weak and I sank down on the couch next to him. I was fully erect long before this and my 7 thick inches look very very small next to him. Carol got down on her knees in front of both of us and started stroking both cocks. His black monster and my much smaller dick. She went on to suck us both, mine then his, then both together. Our cockheads touched. She rubbed them together. I came the hardest I've ever cum all over her and this giant cock.

 

Carol then asks me if I wanted to touch it. She said go ahead I know you want to. I didn't think twice before I grabbed Joe's big dick and started stroking him. Slowly then faster pretty soon Carol joined me and there were 4 hands on him. She asked me to join her on the floor in front of Joe. Now we took turns sucking him. He was so thick I can only get the head in my mouth. Carol, on the other hand was easily able to get 5 or 6 inches of thick black cock into her mouth.

 

Sucking him made me rock hard again. I swear my cock grew an inch I was so hot. Joe's cock started pulsing as we sucked and jacked him. Carol said watch out if you don't want to get drenched with cum. By then I was too far gone and we had his cockhead between both our lips as he blasted shot after shot of his jism all over our faces and in our mouths. I came without touching but Carol saw and went right down on my cock to catch it all. She had absolutely no problem taking the whole of my dick into her throat.

 

After we all caught our breath I just had to find out the size of Joe's cock. Carol told me he was over 12 inches sometimes over 13 when he was really turned on. She got me hard again and I helped her with him. She then suggested we hold out our cocks together to compare. No, there was no comparison. I put my 7 inches on top of his cock and it looked like I only went half way on his towards his belly and thickness was to die for. He then went down on me and we started our play all over again.

 

Don't worry about Lynne. She knows about my bi tendencies. She got he fill, pun intended, of Joe's huge cock over the next few days. And Carol just loved to fuck me, saying Joe's cock can be a bit too much for her sometimes. Once Lynne asked me to get Joe's huge black cock ready for her to fuck. I sucked him until he was enormous and then she asked me to guide his big cock into her pussy . Push it in as much as you can on your own Sweetie she begged me. I did what I could and put maybe 5 inches in before he took over. His cock was so thick I can't get my hands around it and was also very slick from my saliva. Lynne came like I never saw before. Only time I've ever seen her squirt. Joe was never able to get all of it into her. I got underneath her while he fucked her doggie and saw maybe 3 inches outside of her dripping pussy. I also licked her clit and his balls and shaft as he tried to force more and more of his giant penis into her as Carol and Lynne took turns sucking my cock.

 

The question was, I think, do black men on the average have larger penises? In our experience no, except for this one.

 

And yes, we do play with them occasionally. A cock like that is too hard to pass up.

[PeeTWheatstraw 122]

I normally avoid these conversations but I figured Id try to offer some advice to the white couples here on SB. Please stop asking this question. If you see a car that you like, you take it for a test drive. If you see an article of clothes you like, you go in the dressing room and try it on. The fact that you would come to a forum like this and ask a question about a particular race of human being without taking the initiative to get to know one of them and find out for yourself reeks of privilege, ignorance, and racism.

 

Any person w an internet connection can go to one of the free porn sites and see videos of men of various ethnic backgrounds with big cocks. IMHO, what you are really saying is that you are interested in being with a black man but you want to see how other people feel about it. The fact that you get mad when someone says it appears racist is just a cover up of your own guilt.

 

I refuse to believe we as human beings are not better than this. If you want to fuck a black man, just do it. But realize, just because a black man has a large cock doesn't mean the sex will be good. Just because a man is black it doesn't mean he has a big cock. I mean you and your friend may even have sex with the same man and have a different opinion about how good the sex was. Take some time to get to know any human being that you want to have sex with and you may discover that even though he is black and has a big cock...there is no chemistry between the two of you and you don't want to fuck him after all.

 

I know that I cannot speak for all black men but there is a large number of us that are turned off by the ignorance of some white couples seeking black men. I am more turned on by a white woman or man that can articulate the fact that they grew up in a racist environment but have always been attracted to black men. A couple that can articulate the fact that their sex life has become stale and they are looking to add another man to make it more exciting. Or even a woman that can articulate the fact that she was abused or mistreated by men of other races and only feels comfortable dating black men. I know this is asking a lot but like I said, I refuse to believe that we as humans are not better than this.

 

Sorry for the rant, just my humble opinion.

[padoc 1,704]

Well said!

[older couple 132]

Yes, well said, PeeTWeatstraw. My wife and I have been swinging for 47 years. So, we know what you are saying. My wife prefers a fat cock instead of long. She doesn't care who it belongs to as long as he knows how to use it and they bond favorably.

[Billygoat 445]

Having hosted parties and theme events and active in the Lifestyle over 15 years. I have organized a number of fantasy group play themes for women (mmfmm, mmfmmfmm, mmmfmmmfmmmmmfmmmfmmm, etc etc.). Open to all, but, I would screen each interested male based on several qualifying requests. Most often, I would say 80% of the time penis size was never part of the request or was very low on the list. Yes from time to time we would get a specific fantasy request for size and ethnicity, but very rare. Usually from newbie couples or more mature single or newly single ladies. I can say our experience has been all races seemed to fall into the same catigories. No one race had any advantage over the other. Granted this is from the narrow selection and experiences of those in the lifestyle in the New England area. And willing, reliable, attentive, experienced and skilled males that are also over 7” let alone 9” or even more scarce 10” - 12” is nearly impossible. Talk about unicorn. Add in personality, humor, entertaining and....being a gentleman.....now you’re looking for the golden unicorn. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Everyone has their fantasies....their sexual bucket list. I can say careful what you wish for...sometimes the fantasy is far better then the experience when you narrow your choices. And settling for a singular requirement for your experience....many times will not be a positive experience. All in your efforts, choices and expectations.

[JessicaJamison 864]

There are white guys with big dicks and black guys with big dicks.  There are black guys with small dicks and white guys with small dicks.  Most guys black or white have average size dicks.  What I have noticed is whrn they are limp, white guys tend to be growers, start small, but grow a lot, and black guys tend to be about the size they always are it just gets harder.  Now I have seen more big cock on black guys than white guys, but I grew up in a place with a lot of black guys so I've just seen more black cocks in general.  The big difference I've found in fucking black guys is they tend to fuck white women like they hate them, so its harder and meaner.  But I like it rough so I'm into it.  QOS!

[Funmom 45]

I'd say It depends, iv been with white, black, Mexican, others Latinos, Asians and iv had really huge black guys but iv also had really small black guys and same for white and Mexicans and other Latinos iv had huge and little and the biggest in length and girth was with a Cuban.