Women's overall size and breast size

[Seria 18]

soapbox Ok, wait a minute. I've been reading through these forums, polls, etc. Im "learning" some interesting things. One thing that keeps jumping out at me is penis size. We all know men (generalization here) can be concerned about the size of their Mr. Wiggly, but does anyone comprehend the fact that women are concerned of their own size also? Im not talking about self conscious issues here....Im talking breast size mainly. I understand that a smaller woman with a 36C is going to look "larger" than a larger woman with a 36C...I just want some opinions! Feedback! Hit me with your best shot!

 

This is coming from a 5'3" - 205 lbs - mother of three - larger framed gal. My chest size is 40DD...but after the kids, age, and not being as physically active as I once was, well - lets just say, my DD's (I had before kids) are a bit depressed now

 

Now, I've said my peace on the breast size. I've also read some forums on plain ole physical size. Even a self confident woman, may have issues regarding the "first time" with any new partner. I've noticed especially in swinging situations. I understand that most swingers are normal, average, everyday johns and janes. But what do YOU think? What are your opinions? Are you turned off or on by a certain size? If so, does the opposite size that wets your appetite a total turn off? Or are we all really here to play, enjoy and have fun, regardless of size, stamina, self issues, etc?

 

I look forward to hearing from you all!

[Sweet_Candy 54]

First let me say "Each person has his or her own standard for attraction and this is fine". But since you asked for a personal opinion here's mine. I'm only attracted to HWP women and the SO feels the same way regarding men. If we're not physically attracted it doesn't matter how much personality one has, its just not going to happen sexually. I know this sounds shallow but we've been on both sides of the fence and prefer HWP individuals.

 

Sweet

[two4youinswva 3,068]

does anyone comprehend the fact that women are concerned of their own size also?

Yes, very aware. Mrs two4you has lost a good bit of weight in the last year, and while she is very pleased with the results, she is miffed that she lost breast size too.

As for me, I am a "breast man". Meaning, I like them all, no matter the size.

 

Are you turned off or on by a certain size? If so, does the opposite size that wets your appetite a total turn off? Or are we all really here to play, enjoy and have fun, regardless of size, stamina, self issues, etc?

For us, it's on an individual basis. With one of our playcouples, the female is larger. (5'5", 200ish). We find her to be very pretty. Great face, smooth skin, wonderful hair, and a blast in the bedroom. AND fun to hang out with after we play.

 

Thinking about it, and the folks we have played with, I guess we're both suckers for a pretty face as far as our "shallow side" goes, and pretty faces come in all sizes.

[Guest Pinmonkey]

Thinking about it, and the folks we have played with, I guess we're both suckers for a pretty face as far as our "shallow side" goes, and pretty faces come in all sizes.

 

 

I agree. Pretty faces come in all sizes. I'm also right there with you on the "breast man" thing. All sized breasts are good breasts.

[LindayRoy 15]

I don't know what to say. Roger (me) also like all kinds of breast shapes and sizes but I am a true sucker for small well formed perky ones. I don't really care to much for size as long as they are standing proud. I love a flat tummy and a nice healthy round but. I know I am shallow but that is what turns me on. Funny to say that is basically lindas description.

Linda in the other hand likes bigger breast. She says she is atracted to bigger breast because her's are not so big.

Also she is more atracted to hispanics and white (both male and female) and she is black.

Luckily again I am hispanic.

In guys she prefers a little taller and she is a sucker for indian, middle eastern and hispanics which all look the same to me. But I also have seen her go crazy for a good looking white boy.

 

I guess oposites atract.

 

Like someone above said. It is all in the personal taste. But we have met couples that play alone (like if they were single) or that believe they are god's gift to human kind. We run from those like the plague.

[Seria 18]

Wonderful responses! I happen to agree with the breast issue...any size is great! I also happen to agree with it being personal taste. I LOVE tall bald men (caucasion or african american). I can't even explain why tall but bald is easy...there are so many nerve endings on one's scalp, a little lick and nibble on a bald man's head with drive him wild (in my experience) and since I get off on pleasing others...his arousal and response to it just heightens mine!

 

Thank you! Let's get some more opinions here!

[BradAndJanet 70]

I can't say that breast size make any difference to me. I like 'em all!

 

As far as overall size goes, I'm OK with bigger women, but there is a point at which I'm going to take a pass, I'll be honest.

 

But, size is certainly not the most important factor in whether I think a woman is hot or not. The primary thing for me is what's between a woman's ears, not what's between her neck and her ankles. I like a woman who is confident in her sexuality, has a friendly smile and is fun to be around. If she doesn't have those qualities, I don't care if she looks like a porn star, I'm not going to be attracted to her.

 

-B

[starlinn 17]

Hubby likes women with some intellegence, and he is a breast man. I like women that are girly girls. That wear finger nail polish and nicely dressed. Little tatoos and no harley shirts! As far as size, we are not all that particular.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I like a woman who is confident in her sexuality, has a friendly smile and is fun to be around. If she doesn't have those qualities, I don't care if she looks like a porn star, I'm not going to be attracted to her.

-B

 

Dito If I were religious, I'd give you an "amen". Will you settle for a "Right on brother!" ?

[lostnwilds 15]

whell i have never been over excited by the size of the breast. but mrs lost says "it dosnt matter if thay are aa or ee if tay are pointing at the floor you might want to do somthing

[BradAndJanet 70]

Dito If I were religious, I'd give you an "amen". Will you settle for a "Right on brother!" ?

Sure!

 

-B

[katejustkate 15]

What if a woman has one small breast "AA" and an even smaller about half the size?

I am that woman I am 5'5" and thin 100lbs. How do I deal with the more normal women.

[BradAndJanet 70]

Well, how's your smile, kate?

 

-B

[katejustkate 15]

I have been told it's a very nice smile.

[Mike and Jan 20]

Kate,

In the car business we used to say "there's an ass for every seat"! Meaning that no matter how ugly you think the car is, someone will love it.

 

I, for one of many, absolutely love and prefer small breasts on a woman. My wife has large breasts and after 33 years of being with them I just want something different. Your self description sounds extrememly appealing to me.

 

If I had to describe what I'd consider the perfect female breast it'd be small with long nipples.

 

And, you'll find that there are a lot of men just like me out here! So, be proud of your uniqueness!

[Sweet_Candy 54]

What if a woman has one small breast "AA" and an even smaller about half the size?

I am that woman I am 5'5" and thin 100lbs. How do I deal with the more normal women.

 

Sounds like my kind of woman! Now that I know you fit within the attractive parameters it would be time for more investigation.

 

Sweet

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

I think that shape and appearance (in the nude) of breasts determine how appealing I find them. When I've seen pictures of real large breasts I've never been attracted to them. But then, I've never met a pair either.

 

Some people have used the word "shallow" when describing their boundaries on personal appearances.

 

I'd like to comment on that.

 

Shallow is defined as lacking in depth of thought. To me this means that a person would decide to play with someone based solely on that person's physical appearance. I don't think anyone is saying they'd do that.

 

I think we all need to feel physically attracted to someone and we have our preferences. However, once we get to know them we may decide they aren't so appealing any more, no matter how "ideal" their physique is, because personality plays a big role in attraction and if the personality has nothing to offer us we will no doubt walk away rather than play.

[Sweet_Candy 54]

LikeMinds321 said:

Some people have used the word "shallow" when describing their boundaries on personal appearances.

 

I'd like to comment on that.

 

Shallow is defined as lacking in depth of thought. To me this means that a person would decide to play with someone based solely on that person's physical appearance. I don't think anyone is saying they'd do that.

 

I think we all need to feel physically attracted to someone and we have our preferences. However, once we get to know them we may decide they aren't so appealing any more, no matter how "ideal" their physique is, because personality plays a big role in attraction and if the personality has nothing to offer us we will no doubt walk away rather than play.

 

Thank you for filling out the gaps in my thoughts. The best example I can present is: I see an attractive woman that I find appealing. Then she pulls out a cig. I just turned mentally away and walked away. The cig is insight for me on how she treats herself.

[Seria 18]

Kate - there isn't a word out there to describe how much I LOVE smaller breasts! And with you being unique - wow!

 

Wow! I have so many of the same thoughts. This has been a great thread, very interesting the responses have been. I had thought I was putting a foot in my mouth when I first posted these questions.

 

Thank you all! Some points have made me think and analyze my own thinking.

[Jwcalgary3 22]

A woman undresses for a man for the first and worries about her size, shape, tone, cleanliness, etc. ...

 

A man watches a woman undress for the first time and thinks “Boobs!!!”

 

We males are simple creatures

[PSULioness 859]

We All obsess over what we perceive as our shortcomings. Men do worry about the size of their willies. It’s funny how s guy who I would never think of as handsome might think he is a gift to women because of his dick is large. I’m not going to lie, my friends notice a big one. I’m not sure if it’s a preference it’s more of a “thing”. Very very rarely have I heard someone make a negative remark about a small one.

I have had image problems myself. My breasts are small, and my vagina I consider ugly with a larger clitoris. Believe me it is easier to write that here than discuss our loud. I have guys tell me they like smaller boobs but I notice men make a Wow remark about big boobs. There is a song about I Like Big Butts and I guess some men do. The Kardashian’s are attractive so is Nicki Manaj. My husband says he likes small butts.

When I was younger I wondered who would find me good looking. My mother would say I was beautiful. That’s a mom. She did have a saying I have kept with me. Every pot has a cover.

We all need to stop obsessing over things we can’t change.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

. . . A man watches a woman undress for the first time and thinks “Boobs!!!”

I read many years ago in a Psychology Today magazine that what first catches a man's related to the culture in which the man is immersed. Paraphrasing, men who have western European ancestry are generally boob men. African-American men are generally ass men.

[lovefest04 701]

We are so screwed up. The judgements we accept and proliferate are hurting us all. Yes, we all have preferences. I certainly do. But I don't have judgements, at least I try not to ESPECIALLY when there is nothing we can do about it. My cock is what it is. I was born with it. I didn't shop for it or design it. I will not take credit nor blame for it. That said it's really quite nice. PS: I for one like big clits. Embrace it, that's what's sexy. Does anyone think a person is sexy who constantly acts like they suck, or is the sexy person the one who puts themselves out there, is proud of who and what they are and shows it?

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

If I don't 'connect' with the other person, then I'm not interested. That connection has almost nothing to do with appearance but personality and intelligence. I used to joke about as long as a woman had no more than two breasts (Total Recall - the original movie reference), side by side (not stacked), they met the physical requirements. After that, it was up to an organ found higher up...

[PSULioness 859]

We are so screwed up. The judgements we accept and proliferate are hurting us all. Yes, we all have preferences. I certainly do. But I don't have judgements, at least I try not to ESPECIALLY when there is nothing we can do about it. My cock is what it is. I was born with it. I didn't shop for it or design it. I will not take credit nor blame for it. That said it's really quite nice. PS: I for one like big clits. Embrace it, that's what's sexy. Does anyone think a person is sexy who constantly acts like they suck, or is the sexy person the one who puts themselves out there, is proud of who and what they are and shows it?

Men don’t chose what they have, and for me I truly enjoy that they aren’t all the same. Women do have the option of implants, boobs and butts. I would say at one point in my life I wished I had bigger boobs. It was a growing up thing and friends were developing faster than me. I never really wanted implants, just wanted naturally bigger ones. My “larger clit” was something that also bothered me. I have learned it’s not s turn off. People can have all the surgery and enhancements they want or ca afford, it will not change who they are inside. That being said we are all find attractions in different things.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

I don't care about breast size, but I prefer women in good physical condition. Tht being said, most women who are in good athletic condition seem to not be large breasted, so if I had to state a preference, I'd go for a smaller cup size. An A or B is just fine. I don't think I ever saw a pair bigger than a C in the flesh until I was at least 40, since most of the women I've found attractive have not been large breasted. Weight is the biggest issue with me.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Breast size is all too often related to overall body fat since breasts are partially made of fat cells. Women who are very fit usually have less percentage of overall body fat hence less fat cells for the breasts. The only exception to this rule usually involves fat cells being replaced...with implants. Personally, we prefer women who still have a few curves (aka HWP), breasts are one of the more entertaining curves...

[Emt 91]

Personally, I find myself drawn toward slightly heavier women. My wife says I definitely prefer "voluptuous." However, while we haven't been to a LS event yet, I can't say I worry in the least about a woman having a large chest vs. a flat one. It's 99% about the chemistry/connection. If I feel warm and fuzzy it's because we're connecting socially and then we both just have to hope they want to play.

[Billygoat 445]

We both are drawn to personality. Fun, adventurous, funny...enjoying life playmates. Size in any department has never been a requirement. Sure we all have preferences.....but we are not shopping. Like getting and opening a gift....you never know what you are getting....better to be surprised! And we have been often.

[jbcoke8 18]

I've found that over time appearance can provide the initial spark but it is really attitude that will seal the deal. I've met beautiful women who project the "Princess" privileged attitude and after talking with them for 5 minutes I'm looking to bail from the conversation ASAP. I have also met some very beautiful women who do not project this privileged attitude and their calendar is completely booked with friends and activities.

 

Some of the most satisfying encounters I have had were with folks that were enthusiastic about the encounter;, appearance was a dim second place to enthusiasm and engagement. Some of my best experiences were with folks that were outside the ends of the HWP spectrum (heavy or light as some may classify).

 

For Me - Attitude Trumps Appearance

[Numex 2,459]

I find small breasted, athletic women attractive.

[micknchris 27]

I have never chosen a partner based on breast size. The female half of the first couple we played with apologized for her "small breasts" and I looked and sure enough they were smallish (I had not really noticed or cared). By the time we are getting naked, we have a pretty good idea of what size your breasts are and are obviously OK with it or we would not be getting naked. Maybe she wanted me to apologize for my average penis since she had no way of knowing what she was getting ahead of time. Ny wife told me he was bigger, but he rushed things and did not take care of her, so bigger was not better in this case.

 

 

 

 

Byt

[Wornsilver 219]

A new partner when I was divorced and single mentioned, almost under her breath as we were getting naked, "Sure wish I had passed on that last helping of mashed potatoes." She was overweight and had huge breasts. She was moderately good in bed, loved oral and needed sex frequently. On top of that, she was one of the kindest people I have ever known. But we had different interests and drifted apart. Carole, wherever you are, I hope you are having a good life.

[couplers 4,718]

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I have had image problems myself. My breasts are small, and my vagina I consider ugly with a larger clitoris...

You are exactly like me! My older sister, who was attractive by traditional standards (including her neat pussy lips), made me feel like less than a woman because of my small tits and a freak because of my big clit and full labia. It eventually just made me proud of my athletic build and determined to keep it. It also happens that men (and women) find my "ugly cunt" a turn on. I am now very happy that I have a large clit for partners to play with and inner labia that protrude.

 

After you get pregnant and push a baby or two out of your pussy and feed them with your lactating breasts, you'll have no doubts about your womanhood.

 

... Believe me it is easier to write that here than discuss our loud...

I had gotten over my body image issues by the time I joined here, what I needed reassurance on was the fact that I was in an intimate, sexual relationship with two men, who were both ok with it. Was any other woman in the same situation? I found out that I was far from the freak that I had expected.

[Napoleon 230]

A mouth full size boob is the right size for me.

[HotEllie 89]

You are exactly like me! My older sister, who was attractive by traditional standards (including her neat pussy lips), made me feel like less than a woman because of my small tits and a freak because of my big clit and full labia. It eventually just made me proud of my athletic build and determined to keep it. It also happens that men (and women) find my "ugly cunt" a turn on. I am now very happy that I have a large clit for partners to play with and inner labia that protrude.

 

After you get pregnant and push a baby or two out of your pussy and feed them with your lactating breasts, you'll have no doubts about your womanhood.

 

I had gotten over my body image issues by the time I joined here, what I needed reassurance on was the fact that I was in an intimate, sexual relationship with two men, who were both ok with it. Was any other woman in the same situation? I found out that I was far from the freak that I had expected.

 

That makes three of us. I always hated my small boobs until I met my husband. And I thought that my large clit was unattractive as well, until I learned how much fun it can be.

[JessicaJamison 864]

On 6/23/2005 at 11:58 AM, Seria said:

soapbox Ok, wait a minute. I've been reading through these forums, polls, etc. Im "learning" some interesting things. One thing that keeps jumping out at me is penis size. We all know men (generalization here) can be concerned about the size of their Mr. Wiggly, but does anyone comprehend the fact that women are concerned of their own size also? Im not talking about self conscious issues here....Im talking breast size mainly. I understand that a smaller woman with a 36C is going to look "larger" than a larger woman with a 36C...I just want some opinions! Feedback! Hit me with your best shot!

 

This is coming from a 5'3" - 205 lbs - mother of three - larger framed gal. My chest size is 40DD...but after the kids, age, and not being as physically active as I once was, well - lets just say, my DD's (I had before kids) are a bit depressed now 

Yeppers, and don't forget shape of the breasts.  My boobs sat high and tight when I was in my twenties, I didn't need a fucking bra, they were stuck to the middle of my chest. Nipples all tiny and pert.  Two kids latter they are bigger but they sag and every year i feel like they go a little flatter, just not as full as they used to be, and my nipples are huge!  Its just mean.  My girls stress me out.  Don't even get me started about the fact that even though I quit vreast feeding years ago I still get a little milk.  Does it ever flipping stop?  I feel betrayed by my body.