To Swallow or Not to Swallow

[gaznrachy 15]

If the swallowing part excites you so much you should sit down with hubby and tell him all about it. Tell him why it excites you, how much and what would be missing for you if he didn't do it.

 

Then just as important you should discuss why he doesn't like it and what his issues are with it.

 

Remember you are in this for the both of you and you both have to be comfortable to continue.

 

My guess is that it's the increased health risks he's worried about, but it's only a guess.

 

Good luck with your talk, try not to get heated with it, rather try to enjoy the fact that your sharing your deepest feeling with each other.

 

I'm sure you'll get more advice soon! Let us know the outcome

[Jamie&Kieth 36]

Swallowing excites me too, but I only do it with partners that I know, similarily my husband enjoys the act when other women swallow his cum. Perhaps in discussing the situation ask your husband (not in a sarcastic way) if he enjoys the feeling when other women swallow his cum.

 

I do think my husband would (I might to) have a problem if I swallowed a complete strangers cum, which is why we only swing with friends. Sometimes it takes a little while in getting used to certain sexual acts i.e. swallowing. For some, like kissing, swallowing is considered an intimate act or just reserved for husband/wife.

 

Sounds like your husband just does not like the idea of somebody elses cum in your mouth, explain that you enjoy the act and maybe tell him you bring a toothbrush/paste and mouth wash for using following your swinging events Out of curiousity do you and your husband kiss other partners?

[VanHlebar 187]

This topic hit home with MrsVan and I. She also gets really turned on while she is giving oral pleasure to a guy. We had this discussion just this week about the fact of why I felt it was so important to me that she not swallow for other guys.

 

Women that swallow are pretty rare. I know many here will disagree, but I don't think that this population is a good sample to judge by . MrsVan was the first woman to ever swallow for me and I can still remember the time it occured, even though it was over 7 years ago. I don't just remember the time it happened, but I can tell you exact details of the evening, what I was wearing, what she was wearing, where we were, the position we both were in etc.

 

Now, I do understand that she really enjoys this part and I do not want to take this away from her entirely. So we came to a compromise. First, it will only happen to another guy that we both are comfortable with and that we feel is a special guy. Yes, this mean we will have to discuss it at sometime and yes it means that it isn't going to happen the first time we meet a couple or a guy.

 

She then explained to me how it really turns her on and excites her when I guy cums in her mouth. When we were at the club the last time, she really wanted the guy to cum in her mouth, but we had not yet even had this discussion and she felt that it would not be a wise thing to do until she did discuss it with me.

 

This works for us, hopefully it will help you and your hubby out. I encourage you to discuss this topic with your husband. There may be a very good reason why he feels the way he does. As with everthing else in this lifestyle, you must communicate about it openly and honestly for it to work.

 

Good luck and have fun!

 

-Van

[WesternSwing 504]

You do need to disucuss it with him, in a non-confrontational manner. It may be like VanHlebar said it is something he only wants done with special partners, he may have felt threatended you were so into it, or he may be worried about the health effects a stranger can have on you.

 

As long a you swallow for him, though, I wouldn't see any real problem with it. The only time I'd have a problem with Mrs. WS doing something with someone else is if she didn't do it with me too. But, nowdays she has the freedom to do whatever with her playmates, she decided the boundries she's comfortable with.

 

Mr. WS

[largdad 32]

My wife never swallow's anyone that we do not know. We prefer to keep it safe with friends only.

 

facelick

[Mistral Wind 54]

Take this a stage or two further, a long time ago Tim and I were talking after a swinging weekend and a couple of things came up.

 

He told me about how he first went down on a woman he said he was really nervous about it. Would he hate the taste would it be disgusting and would he not be able to do it right? A lot f negatives there, but when it came down to it he found he absolutely loves the smell the taste the action and giving so much pleasure to his partner, it was a wonderful experience, which he has loved all his life. I explained that for me it is just the same I love sucking on a huge cock and the pleasure when it explodes down my throat if beautiful. I love the taste, which is creamy and slightly salty and never offensive.

 

I said to Tim if I love sucking a cock and you love a pussy then why should I not like a pussy as well and vice versa so I tried a woman and found it mind blowing (before I met Tim) This persuaded Tim to try a man’s cock in his mouth as he was never really bi he did it and said afterwards that was really good and being a man I was able to feel the hot spots and give them his attention. The other part of that experience was a huge turn on for me watching that man fuck Tim’s mouth that made me as horny as hell.

 

My advise is explain to your man ho much it turns you on and how much you watching him make a woman come when he goes down on her turns you on that is basically the same for both then isn’t it?

 

Mistral

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[mybeeps 15]

Look, heres the thing, swallowing a mans cum, is a very personal thing. not to mention the possibilty of spreading a disease, its something that should be reserved for the most intimiate of times. I would never ever swallow for dragon. thats not my place, as he is not my man. just as i would be offended if i had my own man in the mix, and blade swallowed for him. There are just somethings that you dont do in this lifestyle, some things that have to be reserved for the sanctity of your personal releationship. of course this is just ramblings of a new chicky

[dragonblade 27]

Well, I agree with beeps to a point. I personally wouldn't swallow for a playpartner, and if another chick swallowed Dragon's cum...I think I'd kill her no but in seriousness, it's not something I'd be comfy with. Obviously Beeps isn't comfy with that idea either. HOWEVER, everyone has their own comfort levels, and some people are comfortable with such a thing. The main point of the matter is everyone has certain things they feel are just for the primary couple to do with each other, and if one part of the couple isn't happy or comfortable with something happening, it doesn't happen. Period.

 

Personally I wouldn't be so concerned with changing his mind, as I would be with finding that compromise or something you'd enjoy as much. Never force your SO to come to your terms if they aren't comfy right??

 

~Blade~

[VegasLee 1,486]

There are just somethings that you dont do in this lifestyle, some things that have to be reserved for the sanctity of your personal releationship. of course this is just ramblings of a new chicky

 

Did a new rule book come out that I did not get to read?

 

If you don't desire to do something that is fine, that is what this is about each doing what works for them but I am not sure the statement you made is a good one. No one makes the rules for anyone else in the lifestyle.

 

This is coming from the Not so New one.

[mybeeps 15]

i guess i should have said " in my opinoin" there are things that one should not do.

 

I'm sorry to step on your toes vegas

 

 

~beepers~

[valley 25]

When I get a man in my mouth,I can assure you,he's there for a good time and he soon finds out how seriously I like it.So theres little chance of him getting out until he's come.Thus,if I liked him enough to have him there in the first place,he knows ,without a doubt,I intend swallowing him. facelick facelick facelick facelick

 

However,it is a very personal choice issue.There is no right or wrong.

[Guest MrsVan]

I understand where you all are coming from on this topic. I am a woman who loves to have a man cum in my mouth. It is a huge turn on for me facelick however when MrVan and I came into the lifestyle this was something we never really talked about till last week. It was brought to my attention that I did something for him that no other has ever done for him, which was to finish the job and that since it was a special moment for him he would want to keep this between us for now.

 

After thinking about what he said, I felt that I could hold off on that enjoyment with other men and only have that for us. More importantly I would say that I want something that is to be between only the two of us. We have agreed that since I am not to have a man cum in my mouth then he also has to respect the same and not do it with another woman.

 

With this lifestyle it is important to communicate your concerns and why you it turns you on. But try to find out if there is a real reason why he does not want you to have another man cum in your mouth. He could have a really good reason.

 

Either way, just remember that you both should agree on this before you move forward.

 

MrsVan

[HornyCouple 15]

MrsVan i can respect your respect for MrVan and not having others cum in your mouth. However, i disagree with MrVan, i would not deny my better half the enjoyment of swallowing and she enjoys as you do.

 

I believe that we all here have a unique and special relationship with our significant others that we are comfortable in watching them enjoy sex with others. This to me is the 'special' thing that is only between the two of us.

[VegasLee 1,486]

i guess i should have said " in my opinoin" there are things that one should not do.

 

I'm sorry to step on your toes vegas

 

 

~beepers~

 

You did not step on my toes at all.

 

What it should have said is it is something that YOU would not do or there is things that you would not do.

 

My opinion does not set limits or rules for anyone else in the Lifestyle. There is many that won't kiss others, won't have anal, won't hug and yes, some that wont swallow but that does not mean that anyone else "should not do it". That is their limits and theirs alone.

 

There is no one in the lifestyle that can say that others "should not" something as long as that something is not hurting all involved with what they are doing.

[valley 25]

MrsVan i can respect your respect for MrVan and not having others cum in your mouth. However, i disagree with MrVan, i would not deny my better half the enjoyment of swallowing and she enjoys as you do.

 

I believe that we all here have a unique and special relationship with our significant others that we are comfortable in watching them enjoy sex with others. This to me is the 'special' thing that is only between the two of us.

 

 

I endorse these comments wholeheartedly.

The very act of agreeing to doing something as erotic as share each others fantasy....no not fantasy...each others sexual desire,is a very intimate togetherness.With us it is something bigger than the sum of its parts.

 

I can still see how others can want to hold something for themselves tho'.

We just dont differentiate.

[bklyn_40 17]

Such a dilemma. Really though, you BOTH need to figure out what's important to both of you. If you are in this together & for each other's enjoyment, you need to compromise. This lifestyle isn't worth losing the one you love (Or is it???).

To me, it sounds like he got upset due to you being involved with 2 men who enjoyed your talents very much. What was hubby doing while this was happening? Could be a bit of jealousy or insecurity. Could be he wasn't actively involved while you were enjoying 2 men.

Either way, you do need to sit and talk about it. If swallowing really excites you & he can't deal with it, you either either need to stop playing or limit the men to either swapping with one couple or inviting only one man to join.

[RenoFantasy 15]

Where's the "even the thought of tasting semen makes me gag" option? Hey, Sarah is all about giving falacio (sp?) as a precursor to intercourse, but she has never even had MY semen in her mouth. The only time she has ever had it in her mouth was the one guy she was with before me, and it made her nausiated. She is vehement that she will NEVER spit OR swallow, cuz the first guy that tries to force her to stay on his rod while he comes will draw back a bloody stump (and I don't mean his hand, folks)!

 

Matt & Sarah

[RenoFantasy 15]

I had forgotten one important thing... if a woman is GOOD enought to work me (Matt) up to an orgasm ORALLY, I prefer if she swallows. At the very least, I prefer if she doesn't gag, choke, or get nauseated. There's something about the way the muscles in the mouth and throat contract that just make a guys eyes pop out of his head when she swallows. Similar to how the vaginal muscles spasm when she's having a genuine orgasm.

 

Matt

[The Fuse 1,012]

I spit-- at the dentist's office.

 

Sometimes when I'm jogging...

 

What, you were talking about something else?

[redhead12144 15]

im a male but most of the women i have been with swallow and they enjoy it. i feel if you don't push the issue with them and let the women do it if she wants to..

[MrNorthIndyCpl 15]

I wonder if it is the perceived intimacy of swallowing. He may see blowjobs as simply recreational sex, but the act of swallowing may seem something special that you reserve for him alone.

 

MrsVan and I are on the same page - I think.

[singleagain 26]

My wife never swallowed. I, on the other hand always swallowed everything she could produce from her very wet pussy...OH!...you were talking about the ladies swallowing men's cum. 'Scuse me...but what the heck...she passed on to the great beyond a few years back and I haven't yet found anyone that could measure up to how she gave head right up to the point of my ejaculation and then could sit on it and take it all in her pussy without missing a drop.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

mrs.fun gives head like you wouldnt belive.like a porno goddess. facelick god i love that women.

[Rehoboth 15]

Swallowing is the best part for me, it comes at the most important part of the orgasm and intensifies it manyfold for me.

 

Some time back the other guy swallowed mine for his first time with his wife and he loved doing it for her and she loved him doing it... it felt really good to me and it was my first time giving it to a guy as well.

 

I have not swallowed a guys cum myself... yet... but if there is a reason to please one of my partners - down it goes!

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

I have to go with VegasLee on this one. It is definately a couple's choice to do or not do something and it doesn't really matter what the opinions of others are about what they choose to do. Each couple works within their comfort zones and what works for them. They only need to be concerned with each others comfort level and respect their spouses feelings.

 

That said, Spoomonkey was the first man I swallowed for and have loved it ever since. However, for us we are "together" very selective on which playmates I will do that for. Usually it is someone we know and are comfortable with. If Spoo isn't comfortable with me swallowing for someone I don't and he doesn't ask me if I'm not comfortable with someone. It is usually my call after we get to know someone well enough but Spoo always has veto and it is not something that is an issue for us. I can take it or leave it ... except with Spoo I do it every chance I get facelick

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

[reed&diana 17]

Diana knowa how to suck a cock. She makes love to it with her mouth until cums in her mouth. I have no problem with her doing that with playmates. She loves to do it and it is a turn on when I watch her. It's kind of a "eat your heart out sucker" feeling. I know that she is coming home with me and she can do that to me anytime.

 

Reed

[pinquita 15]

My 2 cents. I think swinging is ok, you both have approved to it. You are not doing anything but plain sex, your love and respect remeins to your partner.

Swallowing cum is very intimate, both sexually speaking and psicologically speaking. In my case, I would not like my GF to swallow another man's cum, because, on the health side of the case, it is not wise....you are keeping in your throat semen that could be in a way hazardous, and your partner might not want to kiss you, and it will bring him bad feelings,unless your partner is a gay man or unless he really does not care about it. Not this case.

The most important side of it is the boundaries, you can swing, but I assume you will remain loyal, and will keep the special place for your partner, other than that it will be like .....later john....I guess I 'm living w this new guy.....

...there has to be the comunication between the couple that reinforces their unity. Swallowing another man's cum is like having no boundaries at all....if that is the case.....why a relationship??

Some men are different in their ways of establishing that invisible fence....some women are too.....if your man does not want you to swallow other man's sperm , do not go against him there...you are going against his core believes...and it will crack your cohesion. I had a GF that would not go for another woman to play a dominant role over me , ....in a playfull manner....years/ago she had a friend from school, but the girl had a domineering streak w men, we did not know, and she would try to put a necktie around my neck, and she would put me in submisive positions, like she would have me give her oral, while pulling on the tie, and calling me names and such....I was horny....did not object, but apparently this mortified my GF to the point that she told me. I understood, to go on on a future encounter and allow the other girl to do as she wished on me would had been to in a way ...tell my GF....too bad....I care about her more...at least sexually. That is not a healthy way of going at swinging, that is why sometimes swinging backfires.

So next time...go facelick for your partner's.....but say to the others....my advise.

[MV325 16]

Swallowing is a decision for V. When she has another man in her mouth she swallows if she is in the mood. It feels great when she does.

[pinquita 15]

MrsVan i can respect your respect for MrVan and not having others cum in your mouth. However, i disagree with MrVan, i would not deny my better half the enjoyment of swallowing and she enjoys as you do.

 

I believe that we all here have a unique and special relationship with our significant others that we are comfortable in watching them enjoy sex with others. This to me is the 'special' thing that is only between the two of us.

Horny couple, I disagree with you, because although you are right in the fact that you can not deny your SO enjoyment, at the same time you are supposed to care for that SO, therwise he/she would just be another player. II would not want to preclude my SO from enjoying, and that is exactly what I do when I respect her boundaries. If there is something that just can not happen w that SO, by respecting that threshold, I am not denying, but enhancing the enjoyment my SO will have.

We are doing a lot as couples to swing...but the "swing" has ropes...and the ropes can breake......rubber has its limits...kevlar has its limits...everything in the world has limits....we have to respect those...or else....

[kate43 15]

I Myself Love To Swallow,I Just Love Cum. What A Waste To Spit facelick

[cj22s 15]

I love to slurp up every drop of salty goodness.

[OurMrsReynolds 16]

I always swallow. Not only is it simply polite but (not to be too vulgar); if my mouth is going to taste like c*ck, I might as well swallow. Sure it's not precisely the same taste, but it's damn near close enough. Plus, it's good old fashioned fun. facelick

[Darkblue 55]

Never had a woman who swollows?? maybe its a European thing??

Who knows maybe one day!!!

 

 

Steve

[LIZA 20]

With my husband, sure. Actually, HE is the one who usually pushes me away so I don't swallow because he thinks it is dirty. I keep telling him its not like he is taking a dump in my mouth, but I guess since HE wouldn't want to swallow that, he is being considerate!

 

Otherwise I would rather a guy not come in my mouth at all. Usually if youare using a kinda hand/mouth combo action you can remove the mouth at the crucial moment anyway..................but if it ends up in my mouth regardless, I prefer to swallow it fast than let it sit in there until I can find an appropriate and somewhat ladylike way to spit!

 

I think the risk of having little cuts or abrasions in your mouth is greater than gulping it down and letting your stomache acids kill whatever cooties might be in it.

 

Plus I am not one of those women who is gonna say I just LOVE the taste of cum.............I find it almost impossible to believe anyone could, its pretty gnarly stuff. So the faster its out of my mouth, the better even if that means swallowing it fast

 

If I tried to gargle with it like one poster said she can do, I would easily blow lunch all over the place!

[conniekutie 16]

I swallow. I used to not like the taste...and the cock was in the back of my throat, and it seemed stupid since I didn't care for the taste, to spit it out...your tastebuds are all in the front of your mouth...if you just swallow as he's cumming, you never taste it.

 

I think I'm used to it now however...I MUST say tho...for some reason, I like the taste of a smokers cum better than a nonsmokers...Weird.

[Guest wanttoswing]

My wife desn't even suck my dick. She couldn't fit it in her mouth and never practiced to make it fit.

[prettylady 221]

perhaps I answered wrong.

I will swallow with Dog69, and only Dog69.

I have not given another man a bj in a swinging situation so I was not being completly truthful in my "I always swallow" vote.

Your friend,

Prettylady

[MissMaryPA 15]

I swallow. Somehow spitting seems disgusting to me. I would say I tolerate the taste well, but don't necessarily relish it. I definitely don't like someone cumming on my face----I find it degrading and disrespectful.

[ShellyM 0]

I'll be honest. I do prefer to spit. But that doesn't sit well with my husband, obviously. We went to a lifestyle club last sat, and I gave him a blow job there. Since we were in public I didn't feel it would be appropriate to spit his semen in his fac :rollseyes , so I didn't. Holy smokes, he almost had a frickin heart attack. He told me that was the strongest orgasm orally he has ever had. I think he is trying to prompt me to keep it up lol.

[meow906 15]

In terms of taste, at least for me personally, guys who have thicker cum actually have been more pleasant to my taste buds. When its more watery, then it had that chlorine taste which I dont like. I always swallow with my hubby because I feel like I am not accepting a part of him if i spit, besides he tastes sweet anyways . When we got into swinging, we had a long discussion about what was acceptable and what wasn't. He told that if he saw me swallow that would be one of his biggest turn ons. If we know a couple for a long time and we know they are clean and healthy, then I will swallow my protein-shake facelick

[ShellyM 0]

If we know a couple for a long time and we know they are clean and healthy, then I will swallow my protein-shake facelick

 

Hey, maybe its good for our hair!! LOL

[Karmickiss 28]

Wow, after reading this entire thread, I feel like I'm "all dressed up and nowhere to go"...

I am enjoying being single in many other ways, though..thankfully being someone who can relish having some quiet and alone time, as well as having the opportunity to reintroduce myself to the revised version of what I want out of life(assuming I've learned something from the last relationship, in a good way).

I am being absolutely genuine when I say that I LOVE giving oral sex, to the man or woman of my choice..I really do relish the priviledge, when I feel that kind of chemistry that would naturally end in intimacy. What I'm doing, when I'm doing it, is absolutely a turn on, and I can climax just from the action of giving. So, for me, swallowing was something I never even thought about when the time came. I wanted to swallow what was coming to me, just as much as I wanted him in my mouth in the first place. The whole act is such an intimate thing as well as erotic. It's almost as if I can feel the actions of what I'm doing in my own body, and it somehow feels that to do anything else would interrupt the climb to bliss, and usually, I climax at the same time, if it's going the way it should..

[mr.lover 15]

I gargle I like to show off but usually I swallow *actually did that once just goofing off the look I got was so funny I almost spit it everywhere*

My wife swallowed it once and she didn't like the fishy taste of it. What do you think it taste like?

[Spoomonkey 421]

My wife swallowed it once and she didn't like the fishy taste of it. What do you think it taste like?

 

Apparently fish...

 

 

Spoomonkey

[prettylady 221]

Apparently fish...

 

 

Spoomonkey

 

LMAO

your are such a smart ass Spoo.

Your friend,

Prettylady

[ShellyM 0]

I'd like to respectfully suggest that you work hard to be on the same page as your spouse when swinging. Doing something that he is not comfortable with is incredibly disrespectful. One of the strengths of our marriage and involvement in the lifestyle is that we respect each other and would do nothing that hurts each other.

 

Swallowing is an incredibly sexy thing - but it if you are willing to do it at the risk of your marriage, I would say there are some issues there...

 

Spoomonkey

 

I agree with you completely on this.

[countrycouple4 15]

My wife perfers not to have cum in her mouth at all she will finish off with a hand job or intercourse.

[mickey&minnie 15]

Well, I prefer not to have it in my mouth at all. I had a very bad experience with the first BJ I ever gave, the guy held my head down and would not let me up. I felt like I was choking and he did not care, needless to say, when he finally did let me up I spit it in his face. It was mean I know but he forced me to do something I was not ready to do. I have tried with my hubby 3 or 4 times and my gag reflex acts up. I really want to for him, but he understands and never forces the issue. I appreciate that. Its been a while since I have tried (probably 2 years) so maybe I'll surprise him and try again.

Minnie

[Spoomonkey 421]

mickey&minnie said:

It was mean I know but he forced me to do something I was not ready to do.

 

Nah - not mean at all...

 

I would think he got probably less than he deserved if you ask me.

 

PS - Kudos on the quick thinking!

[deusex 15]

My girlfriend swallowed the first time she gave me a BJ.

I didn't expect it, but I liked it, it was quite a surprise.

She usually loves to make me cum, and swallow it.

Sometimes however she doesn't feel like it... and as

said above there's plenty of other places to cum, though messier.

For public sex swallowing is a must.