Is "No Kissing on the Lips" common?

[lovedoctor 15]

Our recent "bad kisser" question has brought me to recall a situation we had with our play friends. One of their rules is "No kissing on the lips." I really want to be respectful of her limits, but I sort of feel that kissing is an incredible experience, and my gosh - it's pretty tame compared to kissing on more intimate body parts.

 

So, do you think that "No kissing on the lips" is a common thing in swinging? Or has my friend just watched "Pretty Woman" too many times?!

[midnight hour 16]

We have yet to run into that rule We kiss a lot of people at the club. We might not sleep with them but kissing...yep...lots of that going on.

 

Though I must say it is mainly Mr. Midnight that does a lot of kissing. I  am more reserved and won't go up to a man and start...but the women in the club...whew..they are kiss freaks...lol...women and men alike...

[meandher2go 17]

Same here, have not come across this yet. but sure we will in the future.

 

me loves to kiss...

[WesternSwing 504]

We have heard of this rule. To us it seems silly. It is really hard to have sex with someone you can't kiss. For me, it's all about the journey, not the destination (read: foreplay). I like the "getting there" part the best. And kissing is part of that.

[EvilMJ 65]

I think this thread about kissing will certainly help answer your question. I definitely believe in kissing...that's what gets me all turned on in the first place.

[nicecpl89511 15]

To us, kissing on the lips is a major part of the sensual experience and is integral to foreplay. Kissing is a huge turn-on. We probably would not play with a couple that had a no kissing rule.

[lovedoctor 15]

Thanks guys! I certainly don't want to make my friends feel uncomfortable but I did think it was a little overly restrictive. Since I'm new at all this, I just had to ask! - Especially since we have been friends for so long and I am definitely not the Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman type!!! LOL!

[RNDNV 16]

lovedoctor said:

One of their rules is "No kissing on the lips."

 

Actually, we have run into this a couple of times, and frankly, we don't get it. If its really a "play couple" of yours, then its beyond our understanding at all. As the Mrs. says, "oh, you'll take my husband's cock in your mouth, but you won't even give him a kiss?" Reminds us of the old line, often said by women relating to financial screw-ups, "I got fucked and didn't even get kissed."

 

Now for those couples who say that early on, and I have only heard of this "rule" being mentioned by the woman, I suspect it may be a rouse to indirectly say they are not interested in playing. Personally, I think this is crappy, if someone is not interested they should just say so. I would be interested if anyone on the board has used this line to deter the interests of another or suspects it was used on you?

[CuriousInOregon 16]

Well, Hubby and I have discussed the Kissing rule and Decided that it is not for us, He is too much of a kisser to say that he can not do it, I think it would put too much pressure on the other couple if you go in for the kiss with out thinking of it and then go Oh wait I cant do that, So No we do not apply the "no kissing rule" in our relationship.

[midnight hour 16]

We have heard it is too intimate and personal...to Mr. Midnight he says that for me to give oral and is to him the more personal of anything rather then kissing.... but I guess it is to each couple their own rules....we actually have very few...we figured it was better that way and we seem to do very well by touch etc. Actually he follows my lead mainly.

[lovedoctor 15]

RNDNV said:

If it's really a "play couple" of yours

 

Yup they really are...

 

And she is pretty quiet about stuff - doesn't really want to talk about it all that much before hand. So I'm glad I didn't just try to plant a big ole "wet one" on her before she told me how she felt.

 

Personally, I think that if you are rugmunching on your friend, there's not much more personal than that...but like I said, I want to respect her feelings and not make her feel uncomfortable.

[mde 4764 15]

We have heard of this rule, but fortunately never run into it. Kissing to us is one of the pleasures of foreplay and without it something is missing. We can't imagine having oral sex and or intercourse and not kissing.

[AppleBottom 15]

One of the reasons I've come across from couples who have the no kissing rule is them finding something that remains just for them. For DH and I, that is cuddling. We don't spoon or cozy up with play partners. That is for us. Some leave kissing to be something special for just their own spouse. Sort of like how intercourse is for normal people LOL...

[angeel 15]

Oh, I hope I do not run into a no-kissing rule. In my first swing experience the kissing had a calming effect for me. Made me feel at ease and human.

[surecumsalot 15]

AppleBottom said:

One of the reasons I've come across from couples who have the no kissing rule is them finding something that remains just for them. For DH and I, that is cuddling. We don't spoon or cozy up with play partners. That is for us. Some leave kissing to be something special for just their own spouse. Sort of like how intercourse is for normal people LOL...

 

That does make sense to me (although I also love kissing and consider it important in foreplay and warming up to other things). It's like some couples only soft-swinging and saving intercourse for each other because of the meaning behind it. I have seen quite a few amateur porn movies where there isn't much kissing involved, but it's hard to tell who is married to whom.

[funseekers45 15]

Yes, we have run into it a couple of times. Once was during play,when she pipes up and says,"we don't kiss", after it had already started. (Did I eat onions that night?)

 

I think it bothered her more to see her husband going to town with my wife, she was used to MFM, not so much couples.

 

The second time, we knew beforehand, so was not so much a shocker. But kissing is a major part of it, so I never understood, myself, how to get along without it.