Would you husbands let a man blow you?

[Mike and Jan 20]

OK, now I know in a group situation or even a threesome with your wife it might be totally different.

 

But say your wife, for whatever reason, has neglected your needs for a while. You're having a few beers with one of your long-time friends and discussing your being neglected.

 

Then, out of the blue, and to your total surprise, he offers to help you out. You had no clue that he'd ever consider giving another man head until right then. You know him and his wife, like him, and know you can totally trust him.

 

He adds that he doesn't expect any reciprocation and it's going to be nothing more than him helping out a friend in need by sucking his cock and swalling all his friends pent-up frustrations. He also mentions that he'll enjoy doing it.

 

What would you do/say?

[spankem69 15]

No way! I couldn't even imagine it. Beer or no beer .

[Sweet_Candy 54]

Um...NO!

[wiscpl 22]

Setting aside all homophobic fears the issue here may lye in cheating. No matter how you look at it without the spouses knowledge or permission you are cheating and we all know how that is looked upon in the forum.

[Guest Pinmonkey]

In the situation you describe? No way. Not ever. In a room full of hot sweaty naked bodies? Possibly... it depends on the circumstances.

[Chicup 42]

I'm not a bisexual/homosexual and having a buddy blow you, with just the two of you together, is about as homosexual as it gets.

 

So no, no, no.

 

I'd much rather have to deal with old Rosey.

[Greg & Sheryl 369]

What would you do/say?

Say, "No, thank you."

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

Sounds HOT to me! You'd never get Mr LM to consider such play. But for me, a fantasy of mine is to see guy-on-guy action one day.

 

I'd say call your wife up and explain what was just offered to you. If she says, "Wow, go for it honey I think it would be hot!" you've got her consent.

 

You and she decide the boundaries of play you are open to. As long as you both have discussed it prior to it happening and agree on the terms of play, it would be okay in my book.

 

If she is comfortable with you playing alone with a male, then you have your answer.

 

Mike and Jan, would you be comfortable with this? I'd like to hear your views.

[twoplayful2 16]

Yeah, we'd like to know what you did....uh, I mean what you would do

[sweetdelite 15]

Mike

It sounds like one of your friends just let you know he is gay and wants to know if you would consider leaning to that side of the fence.

 

Mr. Sweetdelite (STR8)

Mrs. Sweetdelite (Bi with training wheels)....yum

 

I would say...whatever you enjoy...just let the wife know....be honest.....forthright.....and never chop down a cherry tree.

[CuriousInOregon 16]

Well Mike I'm gonna have to agree with several comments here, First and foremost with out Permission is is cheating, So do talk to your SO about the situation even if that means popping in a Porn and saying Hey what do you think of that? Second thing to consider is How you would or would not feel about it, and third and final thing would be to see what the Friends intentions are, please let us know if this is a reality or a "what if" I would be interested to know the Conclusion that has come to.

[BradAndJanet 70]

I'd have to call my wife first, but I'd consider it.

[playmatesinpgh 18]

In the situation you describe? No way. Not ever. In a room full of hot sweaty naked bodies? Possibly... it depends on the circumstances.

 

I (Mr. Playmate) have to agree with Pinmonkey on this one. We have played with couples where both the female and male were bi but, so far, nothing has happened between me and another male. But under the right circumstance, with others having great sex all around, I can see it maybe happening.

[Vespertine 31]

BradAndJanet said:

I'd have to call my wife first, but I'd consider it.

I'd like to get a phone call like that. I'd love to hear every detail after, too... but my husband doesn't think like I do.

 

My husband's not interested in m/m activity, so if he was in the situation the OP described, my husband would probably thank his friend for being concerned with his sexual welfare and ask if he could fuck his wife instead.

[Chicup 42]

Mike and Jan said:

OK, now I know in a group situation or even a threesome with your wife it might be totally different.

 

As a side note, no it is not totally different

[swing52001 15]

I'm with Vespertine's hubby.

[JnCC 24]

Not only would I allow it, I frequently DEMAND it! Many times, when in traffic, or when somebody says something outlandishly stupid, or even when reading certain posts (and posters) on Swingersboard, I'll throw up my hands and exclaim, "Oh, BLOW ME!" to the party in question.

 

Does this count?????

[Paramour2_99 0]

ok,,,,wait a minute,,,this must be a "X" Swinger reply set-up to get me kicked off this board once and for all.

 

OK, I'll take the bait - yeah guy go ahead and le him do it,,,lollollol! And right after that go ahead and "snowball" the guy to,,,,,

 

What the heck - ya can't be judgemental on this board can ya,lollollol!

 

Talk about lost souls,,,,,,,

 

Sincerely "X" Swinger

[Pillowtalk215 16]

I've have had a guy give me a blowjob and I don't have a problem with that. but I wouldn't do it in the circumstance described.

 

Half the fun is seeing her get turned on by a little m-m action and that would be missing. So I don't know how exciting I'd find it.

 

More importantly, though, is what happens afterwords. You can't put the toothpaste back in the tube (you like that analogy?). I'd be too concerned that our relationship would be forever changed. Long time friends are hard to come by, and adding a swinging element is something that needs to be considered very carefully. It's definitely not a 'yeah buddy, go for it' kind of thing.

 

The final, related, issue would be whether he's married and all the question that implies. Does he have permission or is he cheating? Even if he has permission, how does this affect whatever relationship you have with his wife? How about your wife's relationship, if any, with her?

 

So I'd just say "that's a great offer but I think I'll take care of it myself."

[Paramour2_99 0]

C'mon,,,,,,you're not serious are you,,,,,,,

[Pillowtalk215 16]

Sorry, I don't get your point. Which part of my post do you have a problem with?

[Chicup 42]

ok,,,,wait a minute,,,this must be a "X" Swinger reply set-up to get me kicked off this board once and for all.

 

OK, I'll take the bait - yeah guy go ahead and le him do it,,,lollollol! And right after that go ahead and "snowball" the guy to,,,,,

 

What the heck - ya can't be judgemental on this board can ya,lollollol!

 

Talk about lost souls,,,,,,,

 

Sincerely "X" Swinger

 

Why don't you just say 'God hates fags' and be done with it?

[VegasLee 1,486]

Why don't you just say 'God hates fags' and be done with it?

 

Chicup,

 

He can't do that. That is already the trademarked Saying of another great christian leader. Mr. Fred Phelps of the Westboro Babtist Church in Kansas.

 

You know he would not want to infringe on the rights of others in the things he says.

[Vespertine 31]

What the heck - ya can't be judgemental on this board can ya,lollollol!

 

Talk about lost souls,,,,,,,

 

Sincerely "X" Swinger

Paramour,

 

I think I finally "get it". You come to this board because you like to read about taboo sex. You get off reading about swinging and sex acts that you would/could never do. You're living your fantasy through "Us".

 

If your wife walks in while you're surfing this site or other porn sites, you can show her what a good Christian you are by showing her your posts. "I'm witnessing to the heathens", you might say. "I'm only on there to show them the way of God. I never once looked at those naked pictures."..... :rollseyes

 

What a great cover up to get your rocks off and still look like an upstanding Christian.

 

Don't hide behind Jesus. He knows what you're thinking.

 

I suggest that you don't hang out with us lost souls. If you lay down with the dogs too long, you might wake up with fleas. And don't forget the old adage...

 

A man can be measured by the company he keeps.

 

You've been spending a lot of time here.

[graygo98 148]

Please don't discourage him. I get a real kick out of his act. Like a character right out of South Park or Team America.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

Vespertine said:

 

Paramour,

 

I think I finally "get it". You come to this board because you like to read about taboo sex. You get off reading about swinging and sex acts that you would/could never do. You're living your fantasy through "Us".

 

You've been spending a lot of time here.

Paramour ~

 

I've been thinking the same thing about you.

 

Vespertine's undulating hips are addictive and could lead to thoughts about sex with her. I doubt your wife would like that.

 

And I wouldn't stare at my avatar too long or you might start wondering what it'd be like to be that cool Corona between my thighs.

[Sweet_Candy 54]

LMAO! Leave it to the women to figure out Paramour!

[JnCC 24]

What the heck - ya can't be judgemental on this board can ya,lollollol!

To the contrary, it's quite acceptable to be judgemental on this board. But you MUST be politically correct in your judgementalism and your choice of topics.

 

Take cheating, for example. One simply doesn't respond to the suggestion that cheating may be as prevalent (although for different reasons) among swinger's marriages as it is among non-swingers. This board's kinda like Amway in that regard. You know, a "Buy the starter box of our soap and sales brochures, go into business with your wife, and your marriage will improve" sort of thing. There are 2 places in the world you NEVER want to mention infidelity in any way, shape, fashion, or form...Amway conventions and Swingersboard. It just doesn't belong here.

 

Race is another touchy subject. It's not OK to make disparaging comments about other races, but it is OK to allege that your wife made them, re-format them as "questions" and post them here. For example, saying that "My wife has noticed that all males of (some particular color) are lazy, smelly, have little dicks and are bad in bed. She now says that she no longer wants to swing with them. Oh dear, what should I do about it?" is perfectly acceptable. Instead of rolling your eyes and saying "Oh, BLOW ME," tell him how touched you are by his concern over his wife's safety and comfort, and that you appreciate his sensitivity in dealing with the issue. A little diplomacy will go far.

 

There are a few other things I could warn you about, but what the hell...I think I'll let you find out what they are for yourself. The lions have to eat too, you know.

 

J -ex-Christian, now happilly Hedonistic

 

"So... here we have a guy who quit swinging to become a Christian, taking on a bunch of housewives who quit Christianity to become swingers. I just knew this was going to be good..."

[starlinn 17]

I wonder what my avitar is doing to Paramour.

I am addicted to him. I find myself looking for his posts when I come on....

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

starlinn said:

 

I wonder what my avatar is doing to Paramour.

I am addicted to him. I find myself looking for his posts when I come on....

If Laurel & Hardy started ripping their clothes off and gave each other a blow job it would be perfect for this thread.

[Spoomonkey 421]

Vespertine's undulating hips are addictive and could lead to thoughts about sex with her. I doubt your wife would like that.

 

And I wouldn't stare at my avatar too long or you might start wondering what it'd be like to be that cool Corona between my thighs.

 

LM...

 

I told you those things in confidence...

 

 

But, just to clarify, Ves avatar DOES lead to thoughts of sex with her - not just "could". And, yes, I would give up sight in one eye to be the carona between your thighs...

 

So there...

 

I've come clean...

 

Spoomonkey

 

PS - No. I don't want a guy to blow me, but to the guys who are into it, enjoy! Life's far too short to not enjoy!

[Vespertine 31]

I wonder what my avitar is doing to Paramour.

I am addicted to him. I find myself looking for his posts when I come on....

Laurel & Hardy are cute...

 

But, WOW! I really dig your profile pic. *whistles*

 

 

(If I was a guy and you were a guy, I'd blow you. Hee hee)

[jcbicouple 24]

We have to agree with most of what Pillow talk said (not that we necessarily disagreed with any of his post or his opinion...We just don't really have a definite answer on what would be done or said in the same situation.) Anyway; Swinging with people who are/were your vanilla friends is something that should always be carefully considered. It's not always a good idea to involve "buddies" or "Pals" in your sex life, for multiple reasons.

 

Just as important to that, if not more so, is whether or not the two of you are willing to talk to your wives first. We've run into many, many males and several females for that matter, that seem to be able to justify lying and cheating on their spouse because they are with someone of the same sex...It's still cheating and someone will still get hurt. So ask yourself: Would his wife or yours finding out ruin your marriages and your friendships? and is a blow job really worth it? If your wives are ok with it: Will you still want to hang out and drink beer or will you be uncomfortable with each other after the fact?

 

P.S. Hi Paramour2_99! You don't know us yet, and we really only know what we've read in this post about you, but we can't help but think: You're going to LOVE us! LOL! We're both bi.......and we call ourselves Christians! OMG!

[Pillowtalk215 16]

LOL, I had no idea who Paramour was when I replied to him. What a hoot!

 

Meanwhile, I'm terrible upset no one wants to blow my Avatar.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

Since Mike and Jan haven't been back to post in reply to my earlier question, I'll share my take on what his (I think Mike is the one who primarily posts) point was.

 

I don't think the issue of cheating on the wife was even a consideration when Mike posted this thread. I took Mike's "what if" story to be about a guy whose wife was in a temporary hold pattern due to, let's say, just having a baby or maybe a death that has depressed her, and therefore, she wasn't interested in sex at this time. But even then, this couple loves each other and are honest and the guy would have called his wife to discuss the opportunity presented to him by their good friend.

 

I think what Mike is trying to find out is, what type of situation would it take for a man to consider bisexual play when he's never done so before?

[jennandjamesinm 87]

Paramour,

 

I think I finally "get it". You come to this board because you like to read about taboo sex. You get off reading about swinging and sex acts that you would/could never do. You're living your fantasy through "Us".

 

If your wife walks in while you're surfing this site or other porn sites, you can show her what a good Christian you are by showing her your posts. "I'm witnessing to the heathens", you might say. "I'm only on there to show them the way of God. I never once looked at those naked pictures."..... :rollseyes

 

What a great cover up to get your rocks off and still look like an upstanding Christian.

 

Don't hide behind Jesus. He knows what you're thinking.

 

I suggest that you don't hang out with us lost souls. If you lay down with the dogs too long, you might wake up with fleas. And don't forget the old adage...

 

A man can be measured by the company he keeps.

 

You've been spending a lot of time here.

 

And once again Ladies and Gents - Ves hits it on the head!!!!!!

 

AMEN Sista!!!!

 

[jennandjamesinm 87]

Not only would I allow it, I frequently DEMAND it! Many times, when in traffic, or when somebody says something outlandishly stupid, or even when reading certain posts (and posters) on Swingersboard, I'll throw up my hands and exclaim, "Oh, BLOW ME!" to the party in question.

 

Does this count?????

 

JnCC - I say that frequently and I don't have a penis - does that count?

 

Jenn

[curiousagain 326]

Paramour ~

 

I've been thinking the same thing about you.

 

Vespertine's undulating hips are addictive and could lead to thoughts about sex with her. I doubt your wife would like that.

 

And I wouldn't stare at my avatar too long or you might start wondering what it'd be like to be that cool Corona between my thighs.

 

LM

 

To the tune of "My Sharona" by The Knack

 

my little pretty one, pretty one.

When you gonna give me some time, Corona?

Ooh you make my motor run, my motor run.

Gun it comin' off the line Corona

Never gonna stop, give it up.

Such a dirty mind. Always get it up for the touch

of the younger kind. My my my i yi woo. M M M My Corona...

 

Come a little closer huh, ah will ya huh.

Close enough to look in my eyes, Corona.

Keeping it a mystery gets to me

Running down the length of my thighs, Corona

Never gonna stop, give it up. Such a dirty mind.

Always get it up for the touch

of the younger kind. My my my i yi woo. M M M My Corona...

 

When you gonna give it to me, give it to me.

It is just a matter of time Corona

Is it just destiny, destiny?

Or is it just a game in my mind, Corona?

Never gonna stop, give it up.

Such a dirty mind. Always get it up for the touch

of the younger kind. My my my i yi woo. M M M My Corona...

 

 

You may now return to your regulary scheduled thread.

 

Sorry, LM, I hear that song everytime I see your Avatar.

[jennandjamesinm 87]

CuriousAgain - I laughed soooo damn hard, I almost wet myself. Got anymore? Thanks!!!

 

Jenn

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

I never knew the words to that song until now.

 

Thanks curiousagain, I'll remember you for it.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Ok, I just put in a very long day at work. 14+ hours without a lunch.

 

Reading this thread has made it all better. (Well, a big hug from Mrs two4you and this thread! )

 

From the spot-on analysis, to "My Corona", to the sexy avatar banter, it all made my day.

 

Paramour: No one's going to kick you off here. We're like kids with a new toy having you around here If history serves as an indicator, you'll hang out here for a while, get some of the folks fired up a bit, inspire others to write some brilliant prose, give some of us a laugh, and then, out of frustration, boredom, or via an ultimatum from your wife, you'll leave. (Which reminds me to ask, does she know you're on here?) Within a few months, you'll be forgotten. But, don't worry, they'll be someone else to come along eventually to take your place. It's a Circle of Life thing.

 

Everyone, thanks for lifting my spirits this evening!

[intuition897 2,179]

two4youinswva said:

Ok, I just put in a very long day at work. 14+ hours without a lunch.

 

Reading this thread has made it all better. (Well, a big hug from Mrs two4you and this thread! )

 

From the spot-on analysis, to "My Corona", to the sexy avatar banter, it all made my day.

 

Paramour: No one's going to kick you off here. We're like kids with a new toy having you around here If history serves as an indicator, you'll hang out here for a while, get some of the folks fired up a bit, inspire others to write some brilliant prose, give some of us a laugh, and then, out of frustration, boredom, or via an ultimatum from your wife, you'll leave. (Which reminds me to ask, does she know you're on here?) Within a few months, you'll be forgotten. But, don't worry, they'll be someone else to come along eventually to take your place. It's a Circle of Life thing.

 

Everyone, thanks for lifting my spirits this evening!

 

I just love you people. All of ya! Yes, Paramour, you too! Like Starlinn, I'm addicted to your posts. It's like watching a train wreck: horrifying, yet I cannot look away! I agree, we're like kids with a new toy. I get this image of us all standing around poking at him with a stick, making him react. It's fun. Ok, maybe a little cruel, but fun.

 

Vespertine brings up some very good points Paramour. And a good question that crossed my mind as well: if your wife is so adamantly against swinging - and apparently you do not talk about the subject with her at all (as you mentioned in another post) - does she know you post here? Subjecting yourself to the company of sinners such as we? Do you, as Ves suggests, show her your posts as you witness to us all? Or does your heart skip a beat when she walks in the room as you fumble with the mouse to hurry and close the window quickly before she sees where you've been spending your time?

 

Usually anyone so defensive or bitter is actually a) fascinated to the point of obsession with something they are 'supposed' to be morally opposed to and trying to cover up their curiosity by attacking it, or b) mad at anyone who freely engages in something he only wishes he could do, but feels he cannot.

For example, shooting people down who are open enough to express their interests in certain fetishes ("snowballing?") is uncalled for. If you feel fetishes are so distasteful, I wonder that you were replying to (or even reading) threads in the Fetishes forum in the first place. Got a bit of homophobia goin' on there, huh? Claiming that you're trying to save us all and spread the Word seems like a thin disguise. Your posts don't smell like a rose garden to me, Paramour; more like someone running hard and fast away from himself.

 

Many questions have been asked of Paramour, but we have yet to hear any replies.

[jennandjamesinm 87]

I get this image of us all standing around poking at him with a stick, making him react. It's fun. Ok, maybe a little cruel, but fun.

Every time I see one of his posts now, that thought is going to be there

 

Many questions have been asked of Paramour, but we have yet to hear any replies.

Yes Paramour - do tell.......

 

Jenn

[curiousagain 326]

Has anyone seen that commercial where the guy is in a darkened room staring at the computer then the hall light comes on. You hear his wife say "Honey?" and he starts trying to click the window closed and it's frozen and he's getting more frantic as she gets closer and he finally grabs the monitor pulling it towards him face down as his wife enters the room. The narrator says "Maybe it's time you got a laptop?"

 

I keep seeing that commercial when I think of paramour.

[CuriousInOregon 16]

I am just not ever going to be comfortable going down that road. That is my personal choice, no judgement on others who choose to, but for me there is just no need for me to let it get to that point.

[Mike and Jan 20]

Wow! Sure didn't think I'd get things so stirred up. I actually recently wrote a few erotic stories, posted elsewhere, about two men who met through swinging with their wives. (the wives didn't really want to do anything but MFM so they decided to share husbands) Anyway, during threesome 'MFM' activities they met intimately. Then, later when at a bar together they decided to go alone on a spur of the moment. OK, they didn't make the call to the wives but I think, in this case, the wives would be fine with it, don't you?

 

There have been more threads, than usual, lately about male/male activities in swinging and I was just wondering how many men would be open to receiving oral from another man in the perfect situation. My stories received some good feedback from some fairly hetero married men.

 

And, LikeMinds, yes! My wife knows about my interests. And, also yes, I'd love to rub your feet! And, my wife has said that if the opportunity presented itself to me that she'd understand my taking advantage of it.

[Paramour2_99 0]

Of all the replies I see to this , "man blowing a man thread" that's worth replying to is the one by (I think his name is Vegas Lee).

 

No I can't say God Hates Homosexuals, (and they shouldn't be called fags). Isn't fags deregatory??? Doesn't that go against the rules in this chat of personal attacks against others by name calling ???? What happened to freedom of opposite opinion in here??? Man you guys are violent now,, and the moderator just sits back in the wings and allows it - but if it were me I get hate mail from her, but that's cool.

 

Anyway,,,,,God does not hate (Homosexuals) of Fags as Vespertine put it and I don't remember the guy saying he was one. God loves the sinner but hates the sin. We're all Gods children.

 

Sincerely "X" Swinger

[Vespertine 31]

Anyway,,,,,God does not hate (Homosexuals) of Fags as Vespertine put it and I don't remember the guy saying he was one. God loves the sinner but hates the sin. We're all Gods children.

Got Vespertine on the brain?

 

It was Vegas Lee that said that, not me.

[beaverz 18]

I came directly to the last page, man was that a mistake. This thread has taken all kinds of turns. I had to go back and view the original post that Paramour2_99 was referencing. Obviously not what I was expecting based on Paramour2_99 above post.

 

I thought I would help the late comers out and quote the original posts that Paramour2_99 referenced.

 

Originally Posted by Chicup

Why don't you just say 'God hates fags' and be done with it?

He was referencing Paramour2_99 post.

 

Originally Posted by Paramour2_99

ok,,,,wait a minute,,,this must be a "X" Swinger reply set-up to get me kicked off this board once and for all.

 

OK, I'll take the bait - yeah guy go ahead and le him do it,,,lollollol! And right after that go ahead and "snowball" the guy to,,,,,

 

What the heck - ya can't be judgemental on this board can ya,lollollol!

 

Talk about lost souls,,,,,,,

Sincerely "X" Swinger

 

Sorry Vespertine to correct your post, but VegasLee only quoted the Chicup post.

I do like ”Got Vespertine on the brain?” better than “Got Milk?”.

[Vespertine 31]

Thanks for clearing that up, Beaverz.

 

I know both Chicup and Lee would never look down their noses at bi-men or gay men. They're secure enough with their sexuality to not care what floats another person's boat. I think Chicup made that statement because he was interpreting Paramour's post. I picked up on that same undertone when reading Paramour's post too: An unbelief that m/m activity would be openly accepted.