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How dressed up do you get when you go out with other couples? Do you get yourself all decked out or do you go fairly casual? I've read a long time ago on the boards how the women get themselves all looking perfect for the night out wearing sexy clothes, hot shoes, make up and nails done just perfect... but I've noticed in my experience that most of the time everything is more dressy casual than dressed up. I'm sure it matters whether you are meeting at a restaurant or a club. What is your favorite outfit to wear when going on a couples date?

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Well LIlo,

 

we have a dance here once a month, and every dance has a theme. This month is fetish night, then there was beach party, pj dance, mardi gras..etc. SO you can dress up in the most daring clothes that you want to and have a good time.

 

It's a lot of fun.

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I haven't been to a Lifestyle club yet. I'd probably dress like a whore there. :lol:

 

Around here when we go out with (or to meet FWB's) I usually wear something sexy but acceptable in mainstream society.

 

It's always warm here so I'm often out in miniskirts, tank tops, sandals to show off my pedicure, low-rise jeans and halters. Once in a blue moon if we go to a high-end dance club I'll wear short sexy dresses and come-fuck-me heels.

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Alilo,

 

Is your question about going to a club or just going out to meet another couple?

 

Personally, I really spend a lot of time looking my best to meet a new couple, or if we are going out with couples. I try to dress in what I feel sexiest in. I would say that it is mostly casual-dressy as opposed to dressy-dressy. I always try to dress for whatever place we are going to.

 

As far as a club goes, I think all is pretty good. There are some nights that I dress up well, (Anniversary parties, New Years, etc. ) and then there are other nights (Like theme nights) that I just dress for the theme.

 

It is amazing tho, how sexy and dressy you can feel in a great pair of jeans, satin top and strappy sandals.

 

I do always do my nails, hair and face before and I am really picky about making sure that my skin is soft.

 

I hate it when a woman has prickly skin :o

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I was thinking more when you just meet out at a restaurant. I've always tried to look my best but have been surprised at the number of people who like to be casual in jeans and a sweatshirt. I keep thinking we should dress to impress but I've been wondering more if people just want to be accepted for who they are so they are more casual.

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Or maybe they are just lazy?

 

I wouldn't be excited about a gal that shows up to a first meet in jeans and a sweatshirt, unless she had a really good excuse. But I would be watching her outfit the next time.

 

I completely agree with you on dressing to impress.

 

I have reached the point that I really don't care who the 'real' them is. We are there for sex and fun. I specifically don't want to get to know the real them at all. Advertise yourself and show us that you care about the meeting.

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I make sure I'm sufficiently well groomed and dress business casual, which of course means Docker-like pants and a shirt with a collar...pretty much like I would dress for work, I suppose.

 

However, J tends to dress somewhat more provocatively and shows a lot more leg and cleavage, but then again, she's a nurse and wears uniforms to work.

 

I never thought much about this before, actually. Interesting subject. :)

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We usually try to dress nice, slacks and dress shirt for me, and ususally sexy top and shorter skirt for Mrs. GT. Pretty much like we dressed in Memphis for the meet up, but you would have had to been their to know what that means, huh. :rolleyes:

 

My favorite outfit to wear?........Usually the one Mrs. GT lays out for me. :D

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I like to dress up sexy, short skirt/dress deep 'V' tank top/blouse and braless (no boobs so I can get away with murder) ... oh yeah even though I know what is going to happen I dress to kill ... makes me feel young

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For us it depends on where we are going.

 

If we're going to the city (San Francisco) then we tend to dress less casual and we tend to meet at trendy upscale places. We figure if we get stood up then we're dressed for a great night anyway.

 

If we're staying in the burbs we definetly do our best to look good. Shower, shave (in all the right places) nails and pedicure for sure. But we might do jeans. Him is a nice tight sweater and me in a sexy top, braless etc.

 

Frankly, for us a lot of the fun is in the details, flirting, sexy clothes, looking our best. Our night actually begins as we are preparing to go out. Changing, telling each other how good we look, smell and feel. Our sex is always enhanced during the getting ready time. When we meet couples that don't really give it their best, that says something to us. At the same time by the time we do meet a couple, we are charged up and ready for fun.

 

We do expect others to make an effort. In fact, we met a couple one time that looked like they had just dragged themselves off the sofa after a lazy sunday afternoon and we still talk about it. How much do they care about us if they can't bother to dress up. Literally, this guy must have been wearing 3 day old undies, yuck! We know that may sound rude, but to us it just shows effort. And we want play partners to put in a little effort to play with us, and likewise, we always make an effort.

 

It never hurts to look our best.

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First and foremost my nails have got to have polish on them...I can walk into any room totally nude and feel quite comfortable as long as I have polish on my nails (red polish, it's the only color I wear) :lol:

 

Now...once the nails are taken care of regardless of where we are meeting anyone, I always wear a short dress/skirt or a very tight pair of hip huggers with a very tight, low cut shirt....My momma always told me that no matter where you go or what you do, you should always look your best...you never know who you might meet...words I try to live by.

 

When we go to a club or social...no holds bared...it's slut city for me :hahaha:

 

Ted either wears dockers and a dress shirt or a pair of black jeans and a dress/club shirt...sometimes he even wears a tie as the ladies just love taking it off of him for some reason :rolleyes:

 

Dress to impress is always the way to go.

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Hello there, I think we don't dress up that much, pretty casual, we take good care on being fresh and if we're going to go out, sexy underwear, but that's it.

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We usually try to dress nice, slacks and dress shirt for me, and usually sexy top and shorter skirt for Mrs. GT. Pretty much like we dressed in Memphis for the meet up, but you would have had to been their to know what that means, huh. :rolleyes:

 

My favorite outfit to wear?........Usually the one Mrs. GT lays out for me. :D

 

We were there and Mrs GT dresses VERY nice :D

 

When we go to the club it is like TNT said no holds bared...i I dress as slutty as I can and still make it to the car without being arrested :lol:

 

If we meet someone off the internet (which is rare) and plan to meet for dinner we usually will wear jeans. I dress them up though, heels, low rise tight jeans and a low cut shirt with lots of cleavage :D Of course it goes without saying that in all situations nails are done, makeup is just right, hair, etc. ;)

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'K...On our first "date" both gurlz we're very conservative. Make up, stylish clothes, not too over the top. Perfect ladies. Guys: Both wore the same shirts-'cept one wore black and the other white. Kinda funny as both their heads we shaved. Small world...

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TNT said:

Ted either wears dockers and a dress shirt or a pair of black jeans and a dress/club shirt...sometimes he even wears a tie as the ladies just love taking it off of him for some reason :rolleyes:

 

Hmmmm, Ted in a tie, I'll bet he looks great.

 

I do like a man to dress up, a nice suit gets me going, maybe because Mr. GT won't ever wear one. :lol:

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When going to the club, we "Dress the theme". :)

 

Usually Mrs two4you goes for the sexy/slutty look, and rather enjoys it.

 

What is odd though, is last month there was no theme, just a "come as you are" event. Mrs two4you dressed down, and wore her T-shirt that says "2QT2BSTR8" (too cute too be straight). She got lots of attention from the ladies that night. :lol: I guess when you remove all doubt, it makes the approach easier.

 

Funny that a $10 Tshirt gets as much response as the $150 leather mini dress.

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Her dress for the club is either theme or slut. Some of the outfits she wears are so risque that she has to change in the ladies room after we get there.

 

When meeting someone (especially the first time) she will dress provocatively but not enough to get her arrested. What she wears depends on the what we have planned. If it is just a meet and greet it will be a short skirt or dress with heals. If we are planning on playing soon after meeting she may kick it up a notch by going bra/thongless and may wear stocking and garterbelt. We have worn jeans and sweatshirts to a meeting but that was when we were meeting at an outdoor concert in late September. If we have already established a relationship of sorts and the stuation calls for it she may wear hip huggers and cowboy boots with a top to show off depending on the weather.

 

I usually wear slacks or dockers and a polo or dress shirt w/out a tie.

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...in my experience that most of the time everything is more dressy casual than dressed up. I'm sure it matters whether your meeting at a restaurant or a club.

 

I keep thinking we should dress to impress but I've been wondering more if people just want to be accepted for who they are so they are more casual.

We always make sure we are completely dressed up whenever we go to a club, but if we're meeting new couple at a restaurant, we will settle for dressy casual. The only time we will be completely casual is when we are hanging out with long-time friends.

 

Our belief is that we should always try to look our best whenever we are meeting new couples. After all, our goal is to attract others who will want to have sex with us, and we don't think that can be accomplished very well with t-shirts and jeans.

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I usually do a sexy top and either jeans (sometimes slacks) or a skirt (depending on weather) if we are going to meet another couple or go to a restaurant with a group. I've seen some folks out at clubs or at dinners in things I wouldn't leave the house in (personally). Sweatshirts/baggy sweaters/t-shirts are for lazy saturdays when we are just bumming around together, not for going out.... and I've seen all of those things in a club / swinger setting at various times.

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I try to just dress in whats considered casual, I guess. I'm no Austin Powers but a button up shirt that matches my pants is pretty dressed up to me. Mrs.fun helps me pick my clothes. Actually when I go to the new stores in the mall I'm like "oh look, they have my olé stuff on the wall over there.

 

Mrs.fun on the other hand has good taste. I like what she wears. She knows about fashion and I don't. She can make jeans and a t-shirt look good. I like that. We are brutally honest when we ask for each others opinions, before we go on a date.

 

We don't believe in "yes dear, that looks fine". We want others to like what we have on.

 

Here lately though, under the circumstances, with our regular playmates stopping by the house. Well, I'm not dressed in anything more than my lounging pants and a t-shirt. I'm comfy, and they already know what I look like naked, sooo you know. Come on over.

 

Mrs.fun has to dress nice for work so that leaves her looking good when she gets home. And our friends know what she looks like naked, as well.

 

I'm rambling now, but I hope you get the point

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I love to wear my jeans with a shirt that will showcase the twins. I like to look 'nice'...I would not go to a club/party looking like I was on my way to the gym. Hair is some what fixed (it's just easier all around if I already have it looking like JBF hair lmao), make up on (which I normally don't wear, even in most of our SLS profile pics I am sans makeup), and clothes I feel attractive in. For the most part those clothes are jeans, but I do wear heels..and occasionally a dress...or nothing...or a costume for Halloween. lol

 

Jeff also normally wears jeans and a nice button up or polo shirt with a collar.

 

I'm going to put this out there...and hope that Bonnie and Tom from Players get a good chuckle. When we were first considering going to a club, we did a 'drive-by' on TPC here in San Antonio. Honestly, we were just kind of curious to see how large of a crowd was there. We had gone to see a movie close by and then realized how close we were to the club. So we drove past it on our way home. And that was how we got our first impression of what is meant by 'ladies dress to impress'. As we went past, a couple was just getting out of their car. The lady was wearing an exceptionally short skirt (maybe ace bandage size? lol ;) ) and her hubby I thought looked a hot mess....seriously rough (super baggy what looked like painters pants, couldn't tell the rest b/c it was cold out and they were wearing jackets). We didn't actually expect to see anyone, we just wanted to see if there was a crowd. We haven't been to Players yet, it's on our to do list...:surrend:

 

I do have to say I love Theresa's earlier comment that as long as she has on nail polish, she's good to go. :lol:

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If we're going to the local meet & greet, I dress with the theme for the month. I do try to keep it sexy, though (shirt skirts, low cut tops, killer heels).

 

For a date in a vanilla setting, I'll go with a low cut top, hip hugger jeans, and sexy shoes.

 

And like Teresea, I've gotta' have my nails done.

 

Mr. Sweet usually wears jeans with a polo or button down (if he's not going with the theme for the meet & greets).

 

=)

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If I'm going to a club or party, I try to dress in theme but sexy.

 

If I'm going to a restaurant I dress sexy but appropriately.

 

I tend towards the slightly dressier side, but certainly not fancy. Whenever possible I do wear a skirt though.

 

As far as the other stuff I do my best to make sure my nails are done, I'm all shaved, etc. and looking my best.

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I've seen some folks out at clubs or at dinners in things I wouldn't leave the house in (personally). Sweatshirts/baggy sweaters/t-shirts are for lazy saturdays when we are just bumming around together, not for going out.... and I've seen all of those things in a club / swinger setting at various times.

You know, I just don't get this at all. Recently we were at one of our favorite clubs playing pool with another couple who are regulars there. We looked around the place and couldn't help but notice that the majority of the people there were dressed like slobs. What is up with that? Furthermore, how do they expect anyone else to get excited about them when they couldn't even summon up the energy to put on some decent, clean clothes?

 

One couple has been trying to hook up with us for months. But frankly, the woman just grosses me out by the way she dresses. She always comes in jeans with holes and rips in them, that are either stained or dirty, and an old holey t-shirt, also decorated in a multi-stained manner. Thing is, when I have seen her naked, she isn't too hard on the eyes, but in the clothes she normally wears she is a total turn-off.

 

One thing we have noticed is that this is also contagious. Since the aforementioned couple has started coming to the club regularly, we see more and more people dressed in "slob casual" every week, even folks who used to dress pretty nice.

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We both dress casual. I will dress sexy on a special occation. As far as nails, hair done at the salon, and make-up. That's not me. Just eye liner and lip stick is all I need. I somtime use foundation if it is close to that time of month. My face always breakout slightly with bumps.

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Short skirt, matching blouse, no panties. Hubby wears slacks and a button-down.

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I usually try to dress sexy...short skirt...heels...hair down and wiggle a bit more than usual.Hubby is usually more preppy

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