Did you swing on the 1st meet...

[FunCoupleCnS 15]

How many on here swapped on the 1st meet for your 1st experience? Whether the meeting happened through personal adds or by going to a club. Right now when C & I talk about it, we seem to agree that we want to get to know the other couple pretty well 1st. But we also agree that in a club atmosphere things could change. We may decide we know all we need to know about them in a couple hours. Of course, alcohol could be what helps persuade that decision too. Just curious how many of you swapped the 1st time with a couple you just met.

[TNT 1,155]

Can't say that we swapped on the first meet for our first experience. That was years ago and we had known the gentleman for quite a while.

 

However, we have played numerous times with people that we just met, having only known them for a few hours...ummm and in some cases a few minutes (orgies are a strange and fun thing).

 

In fact, now when meeting people we usually have a plan in place to play (meaning an idea of where to go play) if everyone is agreeable to it, no sense in wasting time if you are all getting along.

 

Teresa

[Alura 2,774]

Mrs. Alura and I had sex on our first date, so we may not be the best ones to ask.

 

In our other experiences, the first meeting allowed us to get to know prospective playmates well enough to decide if we wanted to fuck them or not. In all cases, both couples knew before dinner was over that the next meeting would be to play.

 

After dinner on one of our first meetings, the four of us switched partners, sat in their van and "made out" for awhile. They were both good kissers; always a great sign! We played with them for several years.

 

Mr. Alura

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Mrs. Alura and I had sex on our first date, so we may not be the best ones to ask.

Dito It was some good stuff too! facelick

 

Ok, I don't know why we do it this way, but here's how it works for us:

 

When we meet a couple for drinks/dinner, etc via an online connection we don't play on the first date.

 

When we go to the club, meet someone for the first time, and hit it off, we play that night.

 

What's the difference? Hell if I know. It works for us though.

[Chicup 41]

We play first date, and always have.

 

Either we are attracted to you or not. We LOVE being friends with our playmates, but we would rather turn playmates into friends than try to be friends before we are playmates.

[DBL D 120]

We play first date, and always have.

 

Either we are attracted to you or not. We LOVE being friends with our playmates, but we would rather turn playmates into friends than try to be friends before we are playmates.

 

I like the way you think, Chicup! facelick

 

We, however, are like two4youinswva. At dances where we have some time to meet and talk, we'll play. There was one time, our 1st time doing full swap, it was the end of the evening when we met a couple. We played even though I hadn't had much time to chat with them.

 

I don't understand the difference either and hope we get a bit looser with that rule.

 

Male D

[meandher2go 17]

first nite we met a couple we swapped and loved it. never looked back.

 

if it feels right, you know it. if you know its right, You will do it...

[FunCoupleCnS 15]

if it feels right, you know it. if you know its right, You will do it...

I tend to agree w/ that. Myself, I think I'd know in a matter of minutes. The Mrs. will probably take a little longer to warm up to the situation, though. But like I said, the club atmosphere, add some booze, & who knows what could happen.... .

[Chicup 41]

I like the way you think, Chicup! facelick

 

We, however, are like two4younwva. At dances where we have some time to meet and talk, we'll play. There was one time, our 1st time doing full swap, it was the end of the evening when we met a couple. We played even though I hadn't had much time to chat with them.

 

I don't understand the difference either and hope we get a bit looser with that rule.

 

Male D

 

Well there is less ambiguity why people are at a club than if you do the drinks/dinner thing. That being said we found posers our last two trips to a club so who knows Also at a club there is none of that ‘want to go back to our place’ awkward moment.

 

If a couple states they don't play first date, thats fine with us too, but of all the 'first time no players' only once did we eventually play (and have been for the last 6 years )

[playmatesinpgh 18]

We swapped on our first meet and had a great time with the other couple. Having said that, we have found that, for us, it is best if we just have a "date" with no play when meeting new couples through the internet. It takes away the awkwardness of the moment that always happens when it is time to decide what will happen next. If there is a second date, then it is playtime for sure and it almost always leads to a full swap. facelick facelick

 

Now, if we are at a club, it is a another story all together... We have at times only known the other couple/couples for a few minutes before we were all naked and playing, the sluts that we are!!! facelick

[michelle101 15]

Before Mr.101 and I had our first experience we agreed that we would definatly need to get to know a cpl before we would play with them. A few dinners/outings was what we had planned. "oh ya," We would say, "I can't have sex with someone I don't know." We were both in agreement.

 

Anyway long story, short. We met our first cpl, talked a cpl hours, had some drinks and full swapped without hesitation. We don't regret it one bit. At times since, I have occationally thought, We are the biggest sluts! Of course I have a smile on my face while I'm thinking about it, and can't wait for the next time. facelick

 

All rules subject to change.

[BradAndJanet 70]

When we first started, we thought we'd need to become friends first, but as we've moved along and experienced more things, we've dropped that thought. I have to agree with Chicup here. We might turn playmates into friends, but swinging is really about sex and having a good time without too many entanglements, at least for us.

 

-B

[DltaCpl11 15]

Mrs. Alura and I had sex on our first date, so we may not be the best ones to ask.

 

 

Hubby and I had sex on our first date too!! So, I'll have to side with Mrs. Alura in that we might not be the best ones to ask, but why not...

 

 

The first couple we actually hit if off with we didn't do anything on our first date. I think because it was our first time and we were unsure of what the first move should be, but I think if we had all known what we were all thinking we would have on our first date.

 

Our second date brought an awesome nite! There was a no intercourse rule, but we full on swapped partners and it was HOT!!

[Guest screaminggood]

We also had sex on our first date in college...and probably every other date after that...why do you think he feel in love with me?!

 

We started off in the lifestyle with me exploring my bi-side...so I played with women for several of our first trips to clubs. When we decided to expand to couples, we played the first time.

[N&G 207]

We know within a few minutes whether we want to invite someone back to our house and have no problem playing on the first meet if everyone is comfortable. We can go to a hotel or house party and have sex with people that we have never met before so why should it be any different with a couple that we meet for drinks or coffee. We've also found that most of the time if we don't play on the first meeting we never play at all. After a month or so of trying to schedule a time when we are all available they disappear and are never heard from again. Of course maybe they never intend to play and just like to meet people.

[good times 991]

We swapped on the first meet the first time we played.

 

We are in the camp of the people who believe you either have mutual attraction, or you don't. And if we are all mutually attracted, why wait.

 

For us, if we don't play on the first meet, we usually never will. Not always, but that is usually the case.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We swapped on the first face-to-face meet for our first time. But, because of the distance involved, we had done a lot of phone/chat before actually meeting in person. But, we've also swapped at the club with a couple we had just met.

 

We don't have a problem playing on the first date, nor are we adverse to getting to know them better first if that seems to be their preference and we enjoy their company. Time is limited for us though, so that usually isn't an option.

[Malachista 170]

Yes, for the longer I wait and befriend people first, the more reculant am I to have sex with them - No matter how attracted I am to them

[lookingfornow 116]

Our very first time we played on our second meeting. Since then, our view has change. We can tell very quickly if we are interested in playing. When we are interested, we like to play sooner rather than later.

[Tia Vampire 167]

When we were new to it all, No!, we would not play on the first date. Now it does not matter. We will play on the first date if we feel that everyone is attracted to one another.

[gatorvol64 216]

Yes, we played on our very first time out. And everytime afterwards but one. We live in a rural area I guess you could say. Travel time could have made a difference in this but I'm doubting it right now. Even the one time we waited until the second date, we would have on the first one.

 

Vol

[Hot Raleigh Cpl 164]

YES! We pretty much agree with aspects raised by cplhere48612, two42lovers, N&G, good times, cplnuswing, Malachista, lookingfornow, and gatorvol64.

 

Basically, you've usually assessed potential playmates ahead of time, so you know you're likely to be compatible. You know withing minutes -- often seconds -- of meeting folks whether you want sex with them or not. And (let's face it) we're in this for sex. There are soooo many reasons to not wait.

 

BUT . . . it has to be something that works for all four and that all four want. If any one of you isn't interested, don't do it. If you all are, why wait?

 

If the vibes are right, we almost always play with folks the first time we get together with them. Usually, if it doesn't happen the first time, it never will. We don't require a long get-to-know-you session. It's about the vibes we all have with each other.

 

But that's what works for us. You should do what works for BOTH of you and for your playmates.

 

We hope you enjoy your first time as much as we did ours. We on the board will be every interested in hearing how it goes for you.

[LFM2 1,482]

We didn't. We were the noobs who had to go home and think about it for a while. Plus, it was in our "then" rules.

[magnum 78]

I am a single guy, I meet a couple for the first time out for drinks, after we talked and had a couple drinks, the wife "liked" me so we went off and got a room and played...MFM...So it does happen.

[ConfusedHubby 118]

We "half" swapped our first meet with another couple.  Everyone played and I had sex with the other wife,  but the other male made the mistake of cuming too soon in his own wife and couldn't get it up for mine...

 

Since that time (when we're active) we've kept of the trend of playing on the first encounter if it feels right.  Our schedules are difficult and we all know what we're hoping for, so why delay gratification if we all synch?

 

[SAMnTINA 362]

Sure did met an experienced couple for a drink brought them home and next thing we knew after a little naked hot hot tubing. He was fucking the wife and his wife was suck me.  Then again we have never done anything half way.  The hard part was getting them to go home and lets us reconnect afterword.  This was long ago and we enjoyed it and learned a lesson. Anytime we are with a couple that wanted us to be their first we always get a hotel room and let them have the room for the night after the deed is done.

 

[Numex 2,410]

On 9/18/2005 at 12:11 PM, FunCoupleCnS said:

how many of you swapped the 1st time with a couple you just met.

Only once.  We have otherwise been slow to become acquainted and get to the sex part.

[wetpanties 5]

Yes we did

 

[njbm 2,868]

We generally do not swing on the first meeting. One of us may have noticed something amiss and we would like time to discuss. So we usually meet for a vanilla dinner at a restaurant.
 

An exception is on swinger cruises or resorts. But we usually met on an excursion or a trip or somewhere first. 

Edited July 16, 2023 by njbm

[ExploringOptions 185]

We didn’t. Took a meeting, then a date, on the third meeting WOW. 

[AdamGunn2 393]

14 hours ago, njbm said:

We generally do not swing on the first meeting. One of us may have noticed something amiss and we would like time to discuss.

Of course, you want to make absolutely sure that both of you are on the same page as to whether you should play, and not engaging on the first date is one way to do that.

 

 

We learned to short-circuit the process. We found out (trial and error) that within 15 minutes or so of meeting the people, both of us tended to know if we did or didn't want to play with them. And so we came up with a communications method that could be done 'in public'

 

One of us: "Hey, do you guys ever go to the zoo?" (Bringing up the topic of zoo was the first bid; the person who brought it up was saying they want to play.)

<general discussion among all three or four people>

The other one of us: "Yeah, I really love going to see the monkeys." -or- "The elephants are so big, they scare me a little bit." (If you said 'monkey' you were cool to play, if you said "elephant" you were choosing not to play with them, at least not until further, private conversation.)

 

This technique saved us a lot of time and led to a number of great first dates. 

 

Of course, you can change the subject, maybe it's football: Do you like the Broncos: I love their mascot or I hated Elway. Whatever, pick your own.

[hlgcpl4fun 79]

Our first swinging experience was a house party in El Paso. Sabrina got in the hot tub with two hot girls. As their SOs were both occupied elsewhere, they went from the hot tub to a king sized bed pretty quickly with me in tow. I sat in a chair and watched the three of them play for over an hour. When they were ready they asked me to join them. We played for a little while, and Sabrina asked me to go find some guys to join. I found three single guys, and this turned into an orgy. It was incredible. 

[Shore2Please 610]

We met on a cruise and swapped before the cruise was over. No plans, never thought of it before, it just happened. 

[NC_Seniors 518]

We played on the first meeting with two couples that we found online and arranged to meet them at a club or party. We played on the first meeting with half a dozen or so other couples that we met purely by chance at a club or party. We’ve never played with a single couple that we found online and arranged drinks or dinner to get acquainted … not only not that night, but at *any* point afterwards. (We guess it’s something about easy access to a bed at a club or party as opposed to having to make other arrangements.) The only time we’ve ever played with couples after having dinner with them was on a Bliss cruise when friends of friends who knew it was our first one invited us to one of their sea day afternoon orgies and thought we should have dinner with them and 6-8 other attendees ahead of time just so we could get to know who we’d be playing with later on.