Thoughts on the various swinging personals websites...

[pistol pete 15]

I am looking to join a swinging personals website, as a single guy, and was just curious what experience (good or bad) that each of you might offer as to which would be the best to join. Swinglifestyle, Adult Friend Finder, etc.

 

I was just hoping to hear some comments before making a decision..

 

Thanks so much...

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Hi Pete, I moved your question down to Single & Swinging since you are (I think) looking for the perspective of other singles on your question. Sites that work best for couples, are probably NOT going to be the same sites that singles have the best luck at.

 

That said, there are several threads here that cover the question of "which ones the best and why?", here's a few:

 

Any Other Swinger Sites like SLS???

 

How many swinger sites do you belong to?

 

While which site is better wasn't the original topic of this thread, it did delve into that a bit and it will also give you some great advice on profiles (regardless of what site you choose to use):

 

Single men & profiles (advice)

[kevin&danielle 16]

We are only on SLS. It is a very nice site and has done us well. One feature that you may enjoy is that you can create a profile, view other profiles and send and receive mail for free. There are limitations to how many profile views and emails you can send per day but you can give it a try and if you don't like it you aren't out a dime. As I understand it AFF is basically useless without being a paid member.

[BodyScape02 21]

we have tried all of the above... we did not much like the respondents on AFF...too may bots for us. Swappernet was problematic in its ease of use issues so like K&D we settled into sls... fairly easy to use format and no real issues with bots and spamming ( Hi I am kimmy we have a great new site we just joined... yada yada ...)

 

I like that and the fact they took the time to be compliant with the laws ...before it became a problem... how nice it is to "see" a face instead of the constant barrage of phallus shots that used to be attached to mail.

 

yes I want to know how big it is...but only if I like the rest of you first...lol

 

just my two very opinionated cents on the matter. It is not to say the other sites are not fine...each has its own clientele that like it for various reasons. We just found a home on sls.

[iowancouple96 15]

We've actually have had better luck meeting couples on SwingVillage. You have a 15 day free trial, and after that, you are limited on what you can do. We did go ahead and got a paid membership, which was very reasonably priced. We also like Swinglifestyle, which is great if you don't want to pay a membership fee. Hope that helps!

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

Something else to consider when choosing an ad site is where you live.

 

Some sites are geared to a very specific area of the country. If you don't live there, no point in joining.

 

The large sites are very large and again, they may or may not have members in your area. This is were it is nice if you can get a free trial membership and quickly do a search for members in your locale. It might help you decide if it would be worth it to join.

[Spoomonkey 421]

LikeMinds321 said:

Something else to consider when choosing an ad site is where you live.

 

This is a great point. We are on SLS - and the internet has never really worked for us. But, around here (Central Ohio) it seems most people are on SwapperNet. We tried it and it WAS quite active, but we just enjoy our club so much that it doesn't seem worth the time and cost to become paying members.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Another thing to consider, and the reason I moved this to Singles & Swinging, is that the experience is going to be completely different for a single male than it is for couples. For instance, on SLS while couples can enjoy most of the features completely free for an unlimited time, single males don't have that privilege. That said, they also allow couples to block single males, so that as a single male you should not even see profiles for couples who are not at least somewhat interested IN single males - which is a bonus to you as compared to sites that don't offer this and therefore when you (the single male) tries to look you are going to spend more time picking through couples who have no interest in you.

 

Take some time and look into each one, try out their free services and search to see how many in your area would potentially be interested in a single male. If they allow you to contact for free, then do so, if not you'll have to weigh your options to determine whether or not it is worthwhile to pay.

[Dynamar 246]

Single female here. I'm on both Swappernet (paid) and SLS (free). I've become acquainted with single males more on Swapper, and had better luck with couples (to this point) on SLS.

[Sweet_Candy 54]

We've tried Bay Couples, SDC, SLS, and CouplesTouch. Bay Couples had to broad a base with very little exposure locally. SDC appeared to be geared towards an international crowd. SLS has been a major disappointment, to many posers. CouplesTouch is based in our area and we've been overwhelmed. Please bare in mind we are very selective. We prefer non-smokers, HWP (these conditions eliminate 95%) which leaves 5% left to choose from. So your milage may vary.

[BodyScape02 21]

Following

 

: Caveat to swinging single:

 

One should note... that you really should be a single man if you state you are... if you are a married man pretending to be single... yes pete this means you!

 

1. You are lying...that is fraud (technically) not a good way to start or to incur the trust necessary to be welcomed into a couple’s boudoir.

 

2. This involves a married couple by nefarious means in the act of adultery, without their knowledge or consent. Something most of us find abhorrent.

 

3. Your actions are the reason so many "legit" single men get shut down cold. You are impairing the ability of those who are deserving, to obtain the opportunity to pursue happiness.

 

Know this ... in general the swing community is very open, but lying is the one thing we seem to all detest. This lifestyle requires such a deep degree of honest communication and above the board actions that any betrayal of that threatens the very fabric of a relationship.

 

If you are lying about being single....This is not the lifestyle for you...you will not be welcomed...I suggest you find somewhere married and cheating is what is desired and make it your home. Or pay for it. They are entering into the contract knowing and it is by mutual consent.

 

Don’t treat this community like free prostitution… we are not about that. No amount of flattery makes it OK.

[BodyScape02 21]

 I am still for sls... In general... I think it is better to settle down to one in particular... which ever you choose for yourself.

 

we have friends that have just moved to lavalove.com...no reports on how they like it yet.