Vasectomy-safe is code for bareback sex?

[lcjtsd 20]

While browsing online ads, I frequently see where they state the hubby is V-Safe. For those of you who have this is your ad, does this mean that you like to play without condoms? It seems to me that the only reason you would state this is to let another couple know that the risk of pregnancy is zero and if you were to use condoms, the issue of V-Safe would be a mute point. Is this correct? Or do you state this for the "just in case the condom slips off" issue?

 

The reason I ask is that we do prefer doing things Au Natural and would like any insight or ideas into finding other like minded couples. If V-Safe is the hidden code for "No Condoms", we would sure like to know!

 

From the other threads on this board we see quite a few people like cream pies, seconds, in other words, Au Natural. It's just too bad that none of them seem to live here in Las Vegas.

[montresor 19]

I don't think it's specifically "code," but it's a bit of salient information. What everyone decides to do with that data is up to them. If your primary concern is safety from STDs, then it's one bit of info that lets you know there is at least one risk that is removed; not that pregancy is a disease, but it can be an unwelcome sexually transmitted condition... and yes, condom failure does happen. If the primary concern is birth control, however, then everyone can weigh the other considerations surrounding the possibility of going bareback. A guy posting that doesn't necessarily mean "I intend to go bareback with you so be forewarned." It's more like, "If you prefer bareback, I won't get you pregnant."

 

That said, I'm not sure about the usefulness of such a state (V-safe) in a swinging situation. Case in point: Ms F uses no birth control other than a condom or, if she knows the guy well enough and trusts his control, withdrawal. She will let a V-safe guy cum inside her, though; but if she and I were with such a fellow, I still would either have to use a condom to cum inside or else pull out at the moment of climax, because I'm not V-safe! It creates a somewhat lopsided situation between the men.

[Carol_Danny 17]

I have had a Vasectomy, but I have never mentioned it in a personal ad, or even face to face unless the topic comes up. When Carol hit 40, she wanted to come off of the birth control pill, so we had 2 choices. Either she or I gets fixed! Well, guess who won (lost??) that one

 

We had been practicing Safer-Sex for a number of years prior, and the Vasectomy had nothing at all to do with sex with others. I still always wear condoms for penetration, regardless of who I am with.

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

Mr Spoo and myself are both safe from pregnancy issues. We won't play with others without a condom so this information isn't important to us to know about others and we don't relay the information that we are for the same reason.

 

I do know there are those who like to play bareback so I'm sure this might be good information to have in an ad. I would think rather than stating it in an ad though it might be better to wait until you have met and maybe played once to see if you'd like to bring up the issue of playing bareback. Then if everyone is interested that would be the time to bring up the issue of whether your safe from getting someone pregnant.

[biblonde 22]

We don't put in our ad that hubby is V-safe but do tell playfriends. It is like an extra precaution to us. I also take the pill. Yes we play with condoms but they can break and it is good to know if the person is fixed or not. We like having the double protection plan. It does make me feel better when the other man is V-safe also but won't turn down anyone who isn't.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

We mention in our ads that MrLM is V-safe and that we use condoms for intercourse. It does make things clear up front, this way we don't have to mention it later and it does provide a sense of extra protection from pregnancy, in case the condom broke.

[good times 991]

Like the Spoomonkey's, we are both surgically safe so this info wouldn't be useful information to us. That's probably why we never thought about putting it in an add, we just don't give it much thought.

[hilltop 16]

Mrs Spoomonkey said:

I would think rather than stating it in an ad though it might be better to wait until you have met and maybe played once to see if you'd like to bring up the issue of playing bareback. Then if everyone is interested that would be the time to bring up the issue of whether your safe from getting someone pregnant.

 

What Mrs Spoo said above has been my approach.

 

If I'm comfortable enough with someone to go bareback (I do occasionally but I prefer to let them ask first) then it becomes part of that conversation.

[LarrySmith 15]

The usual phrase is "...D/D free, V-Safe..." No hidden codes, just being up front. It claims that he is Disease free, meaning he has had a blood test and had no exposure to a known or likely VD carrier since. It then claims he is Drug Free, so there is no chance of him being infected from intravenous drug injections with dirth needles, nor any likely chance of him having a drug or withdrawl 'freak-out' that would put you in danger. It also claims that he has had a vasectomy, so the chance of getting pregnant from him is nil (if the comdom breaks, she missed a pill, the sponge/diaphram doesn't remain in place, etc.), since all other forms of birth control are not 100% effective. (ok, there is recanalization, but it is less than 0.01% and he would know from the follow up tests)

 

Simple terms... he wants his profile to say he is a low risk, hoping that it gets him into the 'maybe' list instead of the 'no way' list.

[trublujo 15]

Hubby is V-safe and we have put it in our ads at times. We do however always play with condoms. The reason we have stated in our ad that he is V-safe is just to let everyone know if it ever came to the situation where a condom slipped off there's no worry about getting pregnant.

 

Actually though the whole reason the hubby got his vasectomy is because this once happened to us... a condom broke and the lady he was with at the time totally freaked out... he felt terrible.

[grabbyzz 26]

Just to let everyone know, it is still possible to get pregnant after a vasectomy. I had on e 6-7 years ago, a year later had a surprise. And just everyone knows, we weren't into the lifestyle yet, and I know it is mine.

[hilltop 16]

grabbyzz said:

Just to let everyone know, it is still possible to get pregnant after a vasectomy. I had on e 6-7 years ago, a year later had a surprise. And just everyone knows, we weren't into the lifestyle yet, and I know it is mine.

 

I go in once a year and have my semen tested for "wigglers".

 

A vasectomy can reverse itself spontaneously (according to my urologist) and while it's uncommon it happens more often than you'd think!

[djjwp 129]

I'm V safe and require our players to be too. We practice safe sex but accidents can happen. Living with an STD would be bad, having to raise another child would be worse, we have 5 now. It just means if the condom breaks, pregnancy can not happen.

[fille 15]

We dont put in our add that hubby is V-safe but do tell playfriends. It is like an extra percaution to us. I also take the pill. Yes we play with condoms but they can break and it is good to know if the person is fixed or not. We like having the double protection plan..It does make me feel better when the other man is V-safe also but wont turn down anyone who isnt.

 

I would be looking for men who have had vasectomies, not because I want to go without a condom, but for just this reason - even with a condom, the possibility of becoming pg is still there. Not a chance I want to take! Unless I am confident the guy has had a vasectomy, there won't be intercourse, even with a condom.

[LarrySmith 15]

I go in once a year and have my semen tested for "wigglers".

 

A vasectomy can reverse itself spontaneously (according to my urologist) and while it's uncommon it happens more often than you'd think!

 

It is called "recanalization", when the severed ends of the vas deference rejoin. It can occur when the ends are cauterized and allowed to return to a natural position in the scrotum, at a rate of about 1 in 10,000. Now the procedure is to cut the vas deference, fold each end back on itself, and add a clip or suiture to keep it folded back. recanalization does not occur with this procedure.

[Winston Smith 15]

I have these nice plastic clips on either side of my scrotum that I've shown off. Finding the scars is nearly impossible, but finding those two clips under the surface is easy.

[meandher2go 17]

just in case the condom slips off for us.