Swingers Rings? - Way to identify other swingers?

[Guest sexusdgystyle]

Is the something like a pin out there that swingers could wear to show other swingers that they are in the lifestyle?

 

My wife and I were talking about it and just decided to ask the question in a place where the people are nice and know what they are talking about....

 

thanks in advance

 

 

[Stratecpl 19]

sexusdgystyle,

 

Most people really don't want the general public to know that they are involved in the lifestyle. It's kind of a "hush-hush" thing. I like to liken it to the old "speak-easy's" of the roaring 20's or 30's... LOL

 

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with it in MY book, and I'm always excited to meet and talk with others who are also lifestylers. Most of us have jobs that would be in jeopardy if others knew of our hobbies or recreations.

 

Still, I think it would be very nice to have a nice gold pin to wear, say, on your cap, collar, or tie. A distinctive touch, for sure...

 

[Guest why]

Why is it that people feel their jobs, friends etc. would be in jeopardy? Can't people do what they want on their own free time? Pending of course, it is not illegal!!

[Guest sexusdgystyle]

We also don't want everybody (family, friends) to know we are swingers and would not like the idea of it. But it would make meeting people out in the real world a lot easier and not be wondering about this person or that person while wondering if they are having the same thoughts going though their minds that we are.

 

but thanks for the response

 

it was just a thought

[Stratecpl 19]

Why,

 

Of course they can do anything they desire as long as it's legal! LOL It's just that most of the ones who swing would rather keep it secret from their place of employment, especially from family... Many of them have jobs that put them in contact with the general public, and an employer would frown on getting negative feedback from some customer who was "offended" because this person was a swinger!!

 

It's sad, but many people associate swinging with immorality, sin, and (in general) filthy living. I've heard this before....

 

Of course, it's not true at all. Most swingers have much higher moral fibers than those who accuse them. I can't speak for everyone out there, you know, but for those who I personally know of.

 

Maybe that's why so many who put up ads will never put pictures up showing their faces!!

 

In my own opinion, if someone saw me on an ad and recognized me, then I should ask him or her WHY they were there, looking, in the FIRST place.... this makes them just as guilty as I'd be! LOL

 

Just my opinion here...

[Guest CyberMWCouple]

Yeah Ron, "distinctive touch, for sure..." *lol*

 

And why, adding to what Ron mentioned about "offending" the public, etc...Can you imagine how a parent would feel if they heard that their child's teacher was into swinging?! Or the principal of a school?! OMG! The scary thoughts that run thru an educator's mind, more the reason to push discreteness!

 

And to the original poster, sexusdgystyle....I guess that's where clubs cum into play. A place where everyone gathers for mutual enjoyment, not having to worry about who "is" and who's "not" into the lifestyle, etc.

 

Besides, I don't mind the "seeking" part of the unknown of the lifestyle with the general public and having fun with it too! Like this one evening, we were just about to have dinner when this young college female came soliciting at our door. Hubby told her in a nice way, that we weren't interested in whatever she was trying to "sell" us, and she just kept yaking on and on, in other words "flirting" with him, trying to "persuade" him to say "yes". WELL, I said BOLDLY to her, "NO THANK YOU, WE SAID! What part did you NOT understand?!" She then said to me in this so called innocent soft-sweet girly voice, "What's the matter? Don't you love me?!" I then took the "opportunity" to answer her and said, "EXcuse me?! We didn't even SLEEP with you YET, and you're asking if we LOVE you?! *LMBO*

 

She was pretty cute too...Oh well. *Shrugs shoulders LOL* Gotta have FUN with it!

 

And btw....For those of you who are wondering what she had to say about what "I" said to her? She asked, "What time did you wanna take a nap?" *LMBO*

 

OH GGEEeeezzzz.....*RLMBO*

[LIZA 20]

Personally, if my son's teacher was into swinging it would not matter in the least as long as she is a competent and kind teacher, and discusses nothing inappropriate in class!

 

Same as a gay or lesbian teacher. An adult's sex life and sexual preference has NOTHING to do with their ability to teach children. Give me a break, aren't we supposed to be OPEN MINDED here?? A 45 year old virgin who was wound so tight she was about to explode would probably make for a much WORSE teacher.

 

Gay people put rainbow stickers on their cars, or pink triangles, etc. The only reason I would NOT want a pin or bumper sticker or whatever is because you would probably get too many people trying to start a conversation, at the store or gas station, and it would get a little overwhelming.

 

Besides, I seriously doubt that a teacher would wear her/his "swingers pin" to class!...and we have met more than one swinging couple where one was an elementary school teacher.

[Stratecpl 19]

Liza,

 

We (as intelligent adults) all understand and realize this.... it's all those others out there who have absolutely no clue what it's all about who we are trying not to aggravate. We personally KNOW some teachers who are active, avid swingers. Very nice folks, highly educated, and would NEVER try in any manner to influence their students. I also agree with you, a sexually-suppressed person is a LOT more dangerous to our children.

[Guest CyberMWCouple]

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Originally posted by Stratecpl:

Liza,

 

We (as intelligent adults) all understand and realize this.... it's all those others out there who have absolutely no clue what it's all about who we are trying not to aggravate. We personally KNOW some teachers who are active, avid swingers. Very nice folks, highly educated, and would NEVER try in any manner to influence their students. I also agree with you, a sexually-suppressed person is a LOT more dangerous to our children.

 

EXACTLY! And thank you, Ron for re-directing Liza's thoughts here. Merely a misunderstanding of the discussion of "educators".

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Actually there is a symbol.. there used to be a site that sold pins, necklaces, etc that had a symbol on them that allowed you to be recognized as a swinger to others who were also swingers and knew what that symbol was.

 

That would be key... it would have to be something that not everyone is aware of. I don't think the site exists anymore. Someone else had asked this question a while back and I had tried to look it up and couldn't find it.

[Guest sexusdgystyle]

thxxx Julie

you have been a great help

we will go check out that site now

maybe it's what we are looking for

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

This is from an email that I received in response to this topic.

 

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years ago when swinging "first" began to become "public" and publications such as Select, and Latent Imagine printed swing contact ads: the fuzzy creature with hairy legs fastened to a man's body (pied piper)became the official symbol of being a swinger: one would often seen this little critter as a bumper sticker, or a pendant between low cleavage in night clubs and bars: women who dressed like a swinger THEN were dubbed as sluts..a term that now seems to turn husbands on rather than make the fighting mad even tho then it was true.

 

Also: at a table in nightclubs etc., if a blue candle was sitting on the table, this also signified that the couple/single sitting there was looking to get laid: if the candle was lit they were actively "seeking": they'd often blow out the candle when someone was sitting at their table, or "she" was on the dance floor being fondled etc.

[Guest CyberMWCouple]

Wow! That's interesting Julie. But all those "secret messages" of the candles being lit, not lit, blue candle holders, etc....That would confuse me! *lol*

 

I prefer the direct approach... I guess we have it made now, huh. With swing clubs and all...

[Close Encounters 73]

The NASCA (North American Swing Club Association) lapel pin and charm have been around since 1968. There are many companies who produce on design or another, trouble is only someone who has seen that particular design will recognize it. We've met couples at nudist resorts, casinos and regular night clubs thanks to their recognizing the NASCA Apple.

[TNT 1,155]

Yep Pee Wee, I love my NASCA apple The only thing is, I'm having trouble explaining it to people who don't know what it is, as I wear it 24/7, and am constantly getting comments on it.

 

The best I have come up with is that its just a charm Ted gave me because I am the apple of his eye.

 

I can't wait for the day that someone recognizes it for what it really is.

[Guest <AZHubs>]

Originally posted by TNT:

Yep Pee Wee, I love my NASCA apple The only thing is, I'm having trouble explaining it to people who don't know what it is, as I wear it 24/7, and am constantly getting comments on it.

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I can't wait for the day that someone recognizes it for what it really is.

 

Teresa

 

I think that someone probably did recognize it. But you denied it and made up something else. Admit it to those who ask, and you will find someone who is asking for a reason.

[ILcouple 15]

az i think you are a lil off track here most of those in the lifestyle know the apple and if someone asks what it stands for well i wouldnt feel comfy telling every single person who asks. and im sure others out there feel the same.

[TNT 1,155]

AZHubs...If someone did recognize the apple then I would not have to explain what it was or what it meant...duh...and NO I am not ashamed of what we do, but due to the fact that we do have children who are still in school and are very active in their lives and to protect them I am not going to tell everyone who asks what the apple stands for.

 

When the apple is recognized for what it is then I can be assured that whom ever recognizes it either is in the lifestyle or knows about it and I will be more than happy to discuss or answer any questions they might have.

 

Teresa

[invictus 45]

We spent the past weekend at a nude resort. A couple of the girls that we knew to be bi had ankle bracelets on their right ankle. We did not get a chance to talk with them and the couples we were with did not know.

 

Does that have any meaning or just a coincidence?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I'm going to venture it was just coincidence, unless it was the same ankle bracelet. Lots of women wear them and I know I was wearing mine on my right ankle long before I was bi.

[rosencarp 15]

There is another outlet for lifestyle jewelry on the net. They are called hotwifecharms.com. I bought wifey a charm from them a couple of years ago. I am not affliated with the company, just a satisfied customer.

[Guest <AZHubs>]

Most people don't know about the apple, or these posts wouldn't keep on coming up, would they?

 

There is a whole world outside wherever you live, and a lot of it is not associated with NASCA, or whatever.

 

For instance, in Phoenix there are five active swing clubs, but there are not five listings on NASCA's club listings . . . imagine that.

 

Back to the symbols, I've seen a circle with a plus sign (the female symbol) that had another plus and two arrows also pointing out of the single circle. The net result is the overlay of four people (two couples) on one symbol. Even to a lay person, it's obvious what it means. Although, it could be symbolism for a split personality! ;-)

[MassageCouple69 16]

I have been looking for swinger related jewlery, but as of yet have found none. Are there any specific jewelry designs (or symbols, etc ...) that swingers wear? I read a post earlier about some people wearing wishbone necklaces, but the post mentioned that it was a very localized trend. Is there anything more universal? Just wondering -

Thanks

[fun_pairTX 26]

Here in the South bi-women usually wear dolphin jewlery.

[Close Encounters 73]

The NASCA apple has been around since 1968 and is a universally recognized symbol of the lifestyle.

[MIbbwcpl 67]

In our neck of the woods I've been told that bi women wear a ring on their thumb-imagine my shock when I saw one of the matronly type nurses at my Dr's office sporting one! I am bi..but I don't wear a thumb ring.

[Chris&Amelia 253]

Sounds like something of an urban legend along the lines of "Gay men wear earrings in their left ear, while straight men wear earring in their right ear". It's probably unwise to assume that just because a woman is wearing a thumb-ring, that she's bi.

 

I know several bi women and gay men, and they wear no "identifying marks". They look... (gasp)... just like the rest of us!

[EternallySingle 32]

hmmmm, the dolphin thing explains the sudden interest an ex-coworker began to show after I told her about a date with one of my ex-girlfriend's best friends...and her husband. But things couldn't have worked out. She looked too much like my ex. Explains alot, though. She was from Florida.

[velbuzz 17]

It would be nice if the "industry" would agree on a standard. I thought the NASCA apple with the bite out was going to be it. Now I am reading that the wishbone is the new one.

 

Oh well, the problems of an underground activity.

[Chris&Amelia 253]

Originally posted by velbuzz

It would be nice if the "industry" would agree on a standard. I thought the NASCA apple with the bite out was going to be it. Now I am reading that the wishbone is the new one.

 

That could get confusing during around Thanksgiving....

[velbuzz 17]

That symbol Julie mentioned of the Pied Piper was kind of cute. Is it available as jewelry?

[hot50scpl 15]

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Why is it that people feel their jobs, friends etc. would be in jeopardy? Can't people do what they want on their own free time? Pending of course, its not illegal!!

 

'C' works for a very good company, rated as one of the 100 best to work for and especially good for women. However, her boss (a high level VP in the company) got word that a woman in the department had her own website and that the guys in the plant got word of it. She had 'C' pull up the site and discovered it was 'X' rated. So both the guy who was looking at it - on company time - AND the girl were fired, even though she did it on her own time and in no way did it conflict with her job at the company. They want folks working and not distracted.

 

So don't kid yourselves, most of us need to keep our lifestyles VERY private. Most other folks just don't get it and will go out of their ways to make our lives hell, with a 'holier than thou' attitude.

[Nymph an' Satyr 22]

Wife is a teacher at a Catholic elementary school- thus plenty of interaction with 45+ year old virgins- the nuns I can't say much nice about many of the "good" sisters- way too many years of sexual repression.

 

And wife would be FIRED in less than a heart beat if the school knew we were swinging.

 

I'm a college administrator- I MIGHT survive if my boss found out- but it's only a "MIGHT survive."

 

Many, many good reasons to remain discrete...

[OhioCouple 40]

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Originally posted by hot50scpl

Why is it that people feel their jobs, friends etc. would be in jeopardy? Can't people do what they want on their own free time? Pending of course, its not illegal!!

 

I thoroughly understand why people will go out of their way to be discreet. This is why I am unconcerned about pictures in an ad (as they can be fraudulent) but on the flip side the legitimate ones could ruin someone's career. Swinging is a side sport for most and does not put bread and butter on the table every night therefore their discretion keeps them from jeopardizing that.

 

As much as I think it would be cool to have some sort of symbolized item that let's people know that you are a swinger, it could prove fatal for employment in some job positions. Our country still isn't very open to the "gay" sector and they have a symbol, although illegal to do so, many have lost their jobs because of someone that had the bumper sticker, pin or necklace.

 

Some things are better left unsaid or symbolized if you wish to be able to meet your mortgage payment next month.

 

Lori

[Neptune1 16]

From another post in jewelry. I saw three objects. A dolphin, an apple with a bite out of it and a wish bone. How about we all agree to form one with a dolphin jumping over a wish bone with an apple in it's mouth! That would solve the three symbol dilemma and not be confused with everything the other thread dealt with. I'll find the jewelry designer if there is a consensus.

[canbar269 15]

the apple with a bite out of it is the symbol of the "National Association Of Swingers Couples America International"

[Tanman aka Mike and Marie 16]

It's funny that teachers get mentioned as the last stats I saw had teachers and police officers as the largest group of occupations involved in swinging

 

I know, public perception of a swinger does not include a school teacher (sheesh)

 

If they only knew

[Gwendolyn 15]

A thumb ring? I hadn't heard that one and here I've been wearing a thumb ring for a couple of years:kissface:

 

.....Maybe we should design a woman with long flowing hair swinging on a tire swing. Just a thought.

[Roxysbayou 20]

Originally posted by Gwendolyn

.....Maybe we should design a woman with long flowing hair swinging on a tire swing. Just a thought.

 

I think that would be a great idea!

 

Do we have any jewelry designers on board?

[naughty A 23]

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Originally posted by Gwendolyn

.....Maybe we should design a woman with long flowing hair swinging on a tire swing. Just a thought.

 

sounds like a great design for a t-shirt, decal, temp tattoo or bumper sticker but might be a little difficult to manage for something as small as jewelry.

[Roxysbayou 20]

I like the idea of temporary tattoos and such as well. I think that if it were something subtle, that only those in the lifestyle would recognize, then I would be more willing to wear it outside of swinging events.

[naughty A 23]

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Originally posted by fun_pairTX

Here in the South bi-women usually wear dolphin jewelry.

 

A local jeweler (Windsor, Ontario, Canada)

 

just included some attractive dolphin rings in their Mother's day sale - what does that mean??

 

[Chicup 41]

I'm my own boss, so I can't get fired for swinging, but in any job where you deal with the public you basicly have to keep it secret.

 

Maybe if we all came out of the closet, had some protest marches, had slogans like ummm 'We swing, its our thing!', and the like we could end the oppression!

 

Nah...

[Elusive BiFem 70]

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Originally posted by Handyman69

All I can say is at one club in Grand Rapids..they said they found for women...the 2 top professions were teachers and nurses.

Guess I chose the right profession....nursing

 

Rhonda

 

That's interesting, Rhonda. Actually, it has seemed to me that I've noticed a large number of nurses in the lifestyle. Or...I've wondered...nursing is almost like a cult...a very "specific" profession - unlike marketing or business. I mean...when people ask what you do, the answer is, "I'm a nurse." When people ask a marketing person what they do, the answer isn't, as a rule, "I'm a marketer."

 

Teachers? I don't know about that one. They deserve it, tho'!!

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Yeah, Mrs two4you has the MFFM bracelet, and wears it to the club.

[napercouple 16]

Does she ever wear it in public? Just curious what others say or the looks that she gets.

[Fun2b_us 15]

Hello all, This is my first post; I have been reading the site for many months and find a lot of helpful information. Hubby and I love to swing, I have been swinging for many years but put it on hold when I met my husband. I finally introduced him to the idea of us swinging about 8 months ago. We are having a blast

 

We had many discussions about whom we wanted to share this with and who not to share with. His biggest problem is after an amazing weekend he goes into to work and can't talk about his escapades with co-workers (very religious Dutch guy's) so he ends up walking around with a cat that ate the canary grin all day LOL

 

Our daughter knows we swing (she is 25 years old) so for Christmas this year she gave me a pin that simply says "VAGINA FRIENDLY" I think it's from the vagina monologues, not sure. It's very cool and I shall wear it when we go to a club next time.

 

Thanks for letting me share.... Tracey