Question: Chatting Challanged?

[Fantasy_Partner 16]

We are fairly new to the Lifestyle. Meeting a lot of people we really like. My question is from time to time we get someone using extremly simple vocabulary in chats and emails.

For example (How R U 2?). For us it really turns us off, we understand using abbreviations for longer terms(LOL,ROLF,ETC). What does anyone else think, or are we on our own with this one?

[Spoomonkey 421]

Nope...

 

I am right there with you.

 

I can't tell you why, but that is something that is a real turn off for us. I can't tell if people are attempting to be clever or simply being lazy. When we recieve this in a PM, we are very unlikely to respond with anything but the standard "no thanks" reply.

 

Spoomonkey

[DBL D 120]

It's jst sum ppl try'n 2 B Cool! LOL!!! XOXOXO's Surrender

 

Yes! It bugs me, but not as much as the ones who don't spell check.

 

Male D

[bear_and_babe 68]

No, you are not the only one who hates the chat "shorthand". I find it harder to read then misspelled words.

[WesternSwing 504]

I can understand some abreviating, however too much or bad spelling tells us allot about the person we are chatting with. It annoys us also.

 

Mr. WS

[RnLinohio 17]

It reminds me of when my 14 year old gets on the computer to talk her friends. She will tell me "look at what Jill typed to me" and it will take me several mintues just to figure it all out. It makes me feel old......lol

 

R

[Chicup 41]

We are fairly new to the Lifestyle. Meeting a lot of people we really like. My question is from time to time we get someone using extremly simple vocabulary in chats and emails.

For example (How R U 2?). For us it really turns us off, we understand using abbreviations for longer terms(LOL,ROLF,ETC). What does anyone else think, or are we on our own with this one?

 

When I see that and the profile says they are 35+ in age I assume they are fakes.

 

If they are in fact real, I assume they are not the type we are interested in anyways.

[midnight hour 16]

I use shorthand, to a point..and I rarely spellcheck...too much going on usually while I am trying to chat, but most people know the situation at home and are okay with it..hard to type and run at the same time

So I explain early on about the typing...and I am 44, but shorthand I understand perfectly..Mr. Midnight is always asking me what this or that means..but I chat with a lot of my sons friends since they all know me.

 

Midnight Hour

[fun4Ds 1,098]

we dont really chat in the rooms alot but some. however we do im couples we know often . were starting to realize that there are some normal abbr. when we dont understand or cant figur them out we just say we dont understand what a certan abbr. means, kinda like some of the license plates we see on cars some are simple and some are what the f--k dont get that one.

[carolinaskye 15]

I completely agree that a post or reply in that form makes me think I am talking with a child..I just recieved a reply to an ad this week that read"Hey waz ur deal?" My deal is that I am NOT responding to that ..no thanks..someone that cant take the time during an introduction to be at least a little respectful makes me think I am not dealing with a conversationalist here. I dont expect everyone I make friends with to have PhD's...but I do expect them to be articulate and literate.l

[dragonblade 27]

I have to admit, there are a lot of times I use abbreviations, but only ones that are most obvious, or ones I've picked up from playing cribbage in a league online, namely:

 

lol/lmao/rotfl ~~ most people understand these

 

ty/yw/yqw/wb ~~ thank you/ you're welcome/ you're quite welcome/ welcome back

also mostly used throughout chatting that I've seen

 

brb/ bbiaf/bbs/l8r ~~ be right back/ be back in a few/be back soon/ later

 

sometimes with a 5 year old, you don't have time for more than that!!

 

And the others that I've picked up from my husband as a tech and whatnot are

 

WTF ~~ What the F***?!?

 

LTFG ~~ Learn To F**kin Google.

 

 

Other than that I don't abbreviate. I wanted to be an English teacher, people misspelling drives me crazy, but a lot of time it's a matter of fat-fingering the keys, and when you type, sometimes you can't help it But seriously, what is the point of spelling gurl instead of girl or kool instead of cool?? It's not even an abbreviation! It's the same amount of letters!! That is what drives me batty the most. And ur for you are or wut for what? I always think "Are you deliberately trying to sound uneducated bordering on downright retarded? Or are you 12 years old? It does frustrate me to say the least.... ok I'm done

 

~~Blade~~

[dragonblade 27]

For all of us who don't understand what these acronyms that are more uncommon are for, I suggest heading here:

 

Acronym Finder

 

 

That is, if your interested in what these people are spouting off about Surrender

 

 

~~Blade~~

[Plumeria 15]

We are fairly new to the Lifestyle. Meeting a lot of people we really like. My question is from time to time we get someone using extremly simple vocabulary in chats and emails.

For example (How R U 2?). For us it really turns us off, we understand using abbreviations for longer terms(LOL,ROLF,ETC). What does anyone else think, or are we on our own with this one?

 

I agree, and it's a turn off for me as well. Even during IM chatting. It may be because my mother insisted on using proper English at all times. She would spell-check my hand written notes, telling her I was going over to a friend's house. I would arrive home, and see a "graded" note that I had left her. She also would not let my brother or I tell about our day, without using proper grammar and would stop us mid-sentence to correct us. I would sometimes be stopped a half-dozen times in four sentences and as frustrating as it was, it was an effective deterrent to speaking incorrectly.

 

In any case, like the others mentioned, that sort of typing in emails and IM's, leads me to wonder about the age, or intelligence of the person behind it. How much work is it to type just a few more letters?

[deadparrot911 15]

wow i know that this wasnt the intent but i feel like i kicked someones dog or something....i have never been good at typing or spelling...i do type things funny like dun instead of dont and ty for thanks....its just a habit i picked up from online games. i have never had people in the real world look down on me or call me stupid...but i can see how those things online could paint that picture. if this is offensive to most in this community i can avoid it...however i would hope that ppl would listen to what im saying and not wether i choose to take a shortcut or 3 in saying it. just my 2 cents tho. Surrender

[HappyPeople 17]

I am guilty of using internet shorthand. While I'd never start a message or greeting that way, once the chatting gets started, I get tired of typing and resort to using some shorthand. I have chronic arthritis in my mitts and have been on line a long time so the shorthand is not only a welcome relief but an internet standard for me.

 

Edit:

 

however too much or bad spelling tells us allot about the person we are chatting with. It annoys us also.

 

Oh please, have some pitty on the bad spellers, we are not so bad. I went to college for 7 years and am a well paid, professional scientist but I am a TERRIBLE speller. I don't expect folks to do advanced calc because I can, so please, don't expect my spelling to be super because it sucks and says very little about me other than disclosing that I was not an english major.

[dragonblade 27]

Oh, happy people and deadparrot, this certainly wasn't my intent! Surrender Like I had said previously, though misspelling irritates me, it really is only something that truly bugs me if I cannot make out the word someone is trying to say, or a gross misspelling that is intentional such as kool or kewl for cool...with being the same amount of letters it makes no sense, and it isn't like those particular words aren't something just about everyone knows how to spell. Then I read the word in context and put a spelling to see if that is indeed the word meant for the sentance. Mostly it's a matter of fat fingering the keyboard (i.e. mistyping by hitting one of the surrounding keys or spacebar instead of the intended letter) I do it too, when you type 65 words a minute, it happens to be an expected thing

 

No offense was meant, I apologize if any came by way of my post.

 

~~Blade~~

[Paphian 16]

And the others that I've picked up from my husband as a tech and whatnot are

 

WTF ~~ What the F***?!?

 

LTFG ~~ Learn To F**kin Google.

 

~~Blade~~

 

I'll bet your husband knows and uses RTFM, also. One of my personal favorites.

[dragonblade 27]

Read The F*in Manual...for sure. One we use often, how could I have forgotten

 

~~Blade~~

[Swing*8701 887]

Basically, shorthand, especially in an email , tells me they're not too bright , knuckle dragging trogs. White trash or Urban Idiots, there's nothing uglier than stupidity. I'm sorry if that offends anyone, but it's not hard to have the basics on knowledge, intellect and etiquette.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We got an email like this on SLS this week and I just sat there and stared at it debating whether or not to bother answering it because the number of uses of internet shorthand and complete lack of grasp on the English language.

[olycouple 62]

the number of uses of internet shorthand and complete lack of grasp on the English language.

 

I graded at least 13 essays today with chatspeak. It drives me fucking nuts! Is it seriously too difficult to hit two extra keys to spell out "two" instead of 2? And how about the lower case "i"...really? Do you think so little of yourself that you can't capitalize your own pronoun? Actually...now that I think about it...the people who do that don't deserve to be "I".

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I graded at least 13 essays today with chatspeak. It drives me fucking nuts! Is it seriously too difficult to hit two extra keys to spell out "two" instead of 2? And how about the lower case "i"...really? Do you think so little of yourself that you can't capitalize your own pronoun? Actually...now that I think about it...the people who do that don't deserve to be "I".

 

I can't believe kids are trying to use this crap in school. I hope the teachers haven't and DON'T give over to it. But, I have no doubt that 10 years from now chatspeak will be the common language.

[redeye69 8]

ok could some one please explain the meaning of surrender

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

ok could some one please explain the meaning of surrender

 

to yield (something) to the possession or power of another; deliver up possession of on demand or under duress: to surrender the fort to the enemy; to surrender the stolen goods to the police.

2. to give (oneself) up, as to the police.

3. to give (oneself) up to some influence, course, emotion, etc.: He surrendered himself to a life of hardship.

4. to give up, abandon, or relinquish (comfort, hope, etc.).

5. to yield or resign (an office, privilege, etc.) in favor of another.

–verb (used without object) 6. to give oneself up, as into the power of another; submit or yield.

–noun 7. the act or an instance of surrendering.

8. Insurance. the voluntary abandonment of a life-insurance policy by the owner for any of its nonforfeiture values.

9. the deed by which a legal surrendering is made.

 

 

Synonyms: These nouns denote the act of giving up one's person, one's possessions, or people under one's command to the authority, power, or control of another. Surrender is the most general: "No terms except unconditional and immediate surrender can be accepted" (Ulysses S. Grant).

Submission stresses the subordination of the side that has yielded: "Our cruel and unrelenting enemy leaves us only the choice of brave resistance, or the most abject submission" (George Washington).

Capitulation implies surrender under specific prearranged conditions: Lack of food and ammunition forced the capitulation of the rebels. See Also Synonyms at relinquish.

 

from dictionary.com

[redeye69 8]

Thanks, so it means what it says, now are computer people so deliriously happy they need to put lol every second word?

 

no surrender

[Swingercast 91]

Thanks, so it means what it says, now are computer people so deliriously happy they need to put lol every second word?

 

no surrender

 

LOL. Your post cracked me up. LOL. The internet is a delicious place to meet people. LOL. And the friends we meet on the internet sometimes overuse abbreviations. LOL. I hope I don't get flamed for this. LOL. But you are right the internet does sometimes seem to be delirious. LOL.

 

John (LOL)

[sweet_tna 680]

I find "chatspeak" a tremendous turn-off in a profile, private message, or email. However, I have been known to use it myself when using instant messenger. I'm not the greatest typist, and when I have three or four chat windows open simultaneously, it is expedient. I do TRY to spell and punctuate correctly, though.

 

=)

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I'll throw in the occasional "lol" when chatting, but that's about it.

 

Hell, I don't even use text speak when texting on the phone.

Needless to say, I'm not a very fast texter.

[pervgeeks 119]

I loathe that. I rarely chat because it's such a mind-numbing turn-off to see this. It's not particularly pleasant in a profile either. I prefer longer e-mails to get to know people and if we've met or they are friends of friends, I'll exchange cell numbers and talk to the woman. If people have serious spelling issues: write a profile on word, spell check, and then copy and paste.

[LFM2 1,482]

I'll throw in the occasional "lol" when chatting, but that's about it.

 

Hell, I don't even use text speak when texting on the phone.

Needless to say, I'm not a very fast texter.

 

I'm so with you. I really dislike chatspeak and when I read it, I picture some pimply faced kid at the other end of the keyboard. I have no tolerance really. If you can't spell out the word, please don't talk to me.

[rpu3 630]

I do use a few of the acronyms in IM, LOL, BRB and FWIW mainly. Luckily, the few people I IM with regularly don't seem to care.

 

I also end up having to use text-speak in my texts, because just like in e-mail, my texts end up too long for the system and some thing has to give! Luckily for everyone, I don't text that often. It's way too slow for me and I've not learned how to use that iTap system.

 

Not cool to use it in a profile, in my opinion, though.