"Bad Boobs" ... Defined

[txduo2000 18]

Ok, people ... apparently there is some need for clarification of my use of the term "bad boobs".

 

Here goes:

 

You have good boobs and bad boobs. Yes, I suppose that it is entirely subjective and open to opinionated interpretation, however, I wish to stipulate, for the record, that I am the owner of "bad boobs".

 

What is my definition of "bad boobs" you ask? I am 36 years old, have been told that I look quite a bit younger than my true age. I could stand to lose from 10-20 pounds, I guess, but I have a decent figure ... IN CLOTHES.

 

It's when the clothes come off that I HATE to remove my bra. I can't even stand to put my makeup on, brush my teeth, or stand in front of the mirror naked. No, it's not the extra belly flab that I need to shed that is so repulsive ... it is the boobs. Nipples pointing south, more full at the bottom than at the top, displaced lower on my chest than they should be. Yes, it's age and gravity and the hazard that comes with being the possessor of large breasts from puberty ... doesn't mean I gotta like it! And, believe me, I DO NOT!

 

When hubby and I first met, the very first time we had sex (our second date, actually ), I insisted that I keep my bra on during the entire interlude. I just wasn't ready for him to see my breasts fall back into my armpits as I lay on my back. Now, seven years later, I am still not thrilled about that although I will now allow him to see me naked. lol In fact, he caught onto my body shame during our first interlude and even stated, "I don't like to be with women who are ashamed of their bodies" Yikes .... well, he's still around so I guess he decided to live with my shame.

 

So I hope I gave you a good visual of why I consider MY breasts to be "bad boobs", and I hope it answers any questions some of you have had.

 

[EternallySingle 32]

uh, single guy here, so I don't have the married perspective...yet.

 

I'm not a breast man myself, but to me, the only "bad boobs" are the artificial ones where I want to sue the plastic surgeon that did them. I know this is about your comfort level, but by the time the average guy gets to the point where he might see them, he is more concerned about making sure you enjoy yourself with him so he gets to see them a second (and third and tenth and 100 and hopefully 1000th time) than what they look like.

 

Men are shallow. Once the clothes come off, all women are beautiful, and we like looking at beautiful things. And if you want us to look, that makes you even more beautiful.

[GerdOEvert 51]

Yes, as you get older, you learn that boobs are not much use except for the six to twenty four months that you actually nurse a baby with them.

 

And you also learn that small boobs have advantages over the big ones.

 

And that sometimes it is sexier to have boobs remain in a bra than to have

them loose and jiggling.

 

Perfect is a small 34 or 36 B.

 

I actually think the nipples and aureola can make boobs more sexy than the size.

 

I also think for women over 35, that boobs mainly hold up a dress.

 

It is funny, buy the fixation on boobs from the mid teens for boys is replaced by enjoying legs, tummies, thighs, etc.

 

Also, there are just a variety of muffs out there. Some are sexy and some are not.

[intuition897 2,179]

It's a funny coincidence actually, I just changed my avatar. I figured everyone had been subjected to looking at my ass for quite some time, I'd change the scenery. As a commiserator of the gravity-challenged, I understand what you're saying completely txduo. I've had a D-cup since grade 9, and with time and kids, all things head south. I think I developed a kind of paranoia about my chest when a (clueless idiot of a) high school boyfriend actually made fun of me. I didn't have much of a sense of humour about it. In my opinion, my boobs only look good anymore if they're poured into the right bra. Mr. disagrees (of course, he's a guy, and he has to say nice things to me because he's married to me.. lol) but I've always wished I had the kind of boobs you could wear strapless outfits with, or all those pretty bras that are supposed to fit D-cups but have zero support. But it's either un-marred boobs that don't quite stand at attention or scars up and down them that look like zippers. I think I'll just leave things be and not push my luck.

[turnuptheheat 98]

If you are so strongly affected and your breasts are not to your liking, a good plastic surgeon can do a reduction that may satisfy you.

 

First, I would really determine if there is any true aberration or health risk that goes beyond your own (mis?)perception of your body.

 

Dysmorphia is one's idea of their body appearing to them as something others do not see.

 

For example, a man with 18 inch biceps not wearing short sleeves due to thinking his arms are too skinny, or a thin women thinking herself fat.

 

If you are so thoroughly dissatisfied, the reduction can be pursued.

 

If you sit back and consider how important this is to you, the decision may be an easy one.

 

How does your SO feel about this?

 

Does it affect your day to day life?

 

Are there health issues related to your breasts that you are suffering from?

 

In the end, it is all up to you and your own happiness.

 

In most people's eyes, the human body comes in all shapes and sizes, all beautiful and unique in their own way.

[txduo2000 18]

It's a funny coincidence actually, I just changed my avatar. I figured everyone had been subjected to looking at my ass for quite some time, I'd change the scenery. As a commiserator of the gravity-challenged, I understand what you're saying completely txduo. I've had a D-cup since grade 9, and with time and kids, all things head south. I think I developed a kind of paranoia about my chest when a (clueless idiot of a) high school boyfriend actually made fun of me. I didn't have much of a sense of humour about it. In my opinion, my boobs only look good anymore if they're poured into the right bra. Mr. disagrees (of course, he's a guy, and he has to say nice things to me because he's married to me.. lol) but I've always wished I had the kind of boobs you could wear strapless outfits with, or all those pretty bras that are supposed to fit D-cups but have zero support. But it's either un-marred boobs that don't quite stand at attention or scars up and down them that look like zippers. I think I'll just leave things be and not push my luck.

 

 

Yes, I wondered if I might hear from you, Intuition. Glad of it. I know you had related your own anecdotes about your own challenges with your boobs in other posts, but as we were all only seeing your ass, I never noticed. Funny you changed your avatar the same week I did. lol

 

I would love a reduction, however, I cannot afford it. And though I have had back problems, they are not consistently documented so as to justify an insurance covered procedure. I am only 5'2" so my DD breasts are really out of proportion, in my opinion, with the rest of my body. I would be great as a C. As for being "poured into the right bra" ... I am sooo WITH you there, sister!

 

You know what I hate ... having to PUT them into the bra .... you know, grab hold and pull it up over the underwire so that it rests in the cup, then adjust them so that the nipples are pointing the same direction after they are settled into the cups. Do you get what I am saying here????? Do all of you see why these are BAD????????

 

And why can't they make pretty DD bras without 14 hooks down the back? Why can't they just make pretty DD bras, period???? Why do I have to buy the Grandma Special 18 Hour Playtex Support with 14 hooks down the back and pointy cups with layers upon layers of that old lady lace in order to get a good and accurate fit over the Twins????? So, I suffer and buy my bras in the largest size that the pretty ones come in and just wrestle the Twins into it, adjust them so that there is not too much side bulge, fix the nipples to face the same direction and adjust throughout the day as they start to slip.

 

Yes, people ... they are BAD BOOBS!!!!!

 

No, my husband doesn't complain. He likes me just the way I am. He tells me he loves my boobs, but I certainly do not expect him to come out and say he hates them, even if he did. :rollseyes

 

I want Playboy boobs!!!! lol

[WesternSwing 504]

Okay, on the other end of the spectrum is Mrs. WS, who wishes hers were larger. She has B-cup breasts and feels she would look more proportioned with D-cups. She would like to get them augmented. Personally, I prefer natural breasts because of how they feel, and I love how they lay when a woman is on her back. Fake breasts don't fall to the side like they should. I guess that is why I am attracted to plushie women to begin with (I gravitate toward size 12 - 18 women )

 

txduo, I know you don't like you breasts much, but from what you've described, I'd be in heaven with them.

[Paphian 16]

Those aren't "bad boobs", Mrs Txduo. Those are a woman's boobs. There are plenty of us guys out there that recognize that, regardless of size or shape, women's boobs have much to recommend them over those of girls.

 

While a woman may have boobs that have sagged, and women with larger breasts may be far more sensitive to the effects gravity has had on them, those of us men who appreciate women recognize that experience more than makes up for any physical changes. As I said in another thread here just moments ago, "Sexy is attitude, not attributes". And there, real women, whether they think they have "bad boobs" or not, have it all over the idealized playboy model types.

 

So, in one guy's opinion, do what makes ya comfortable, but don't be upset because you think guys won't appreciate what you've got. Plenty will appreciate you for just who you are.

[Miss_Piggy 98]

I have a boob issue too!

 

I lost a bunch of weight and was left with saggy boobs. Not something most of my friends can identify with as I'm only 24.

 

I did complain about it to a play buddy once saying I would prefer them to be more... "up." His only response was, "I prefer them hanging in my face."

[intuition897 2,179]

Well folks, I guess after reading the comments here we can come to one conclusion: the only "bad boobs" are the ones that nobody likes! And as far as I can tell, the only ones that fall under that category (no pun intended), are the ones that have been butchered by an incompetent plastic surgeon. For the record, I don't hate my boobs. I just really, really understand what txduo is saying about 18-hour grandma bras and frequent adjustments throughout the day and straps with no fewer than four clips in the back. It would be nice, but most women don't have the kind of cash to keep themselves in personally tailored bras.. lol.

 

I agree Paphian, confidence is sexy. One of the advantages of getting older is finally realizing this, and realistically appreciating one's own body. And the fact that others will like it, too. When I think about it, I AM only 30. I'll rethink things another 15 or 20 years from now and see if things need a lift. Hopefully by then they'll have surgical techniques that won't leave the huge scars that women have to live with now. If I'm ever going to have surgery done, there would need to be a really good reason for having the scars to show it, OR they'd have to come up with a way to virtually eliminate scarring, so that my vanity is not so immediately obvious.

[EvilMJ 65]

There are more women here girl that understand your boob situation than you know. I am a D cup myself, and complain that I have no cleavage, literally you can put your hand in between them, and yes when I lay down they fall to the sides.

 

There is a story that my mother loves to tell about how my grandmother (who knew the funeral director as we come from a small town), told the funeral director that when she died and was put out for the viewing she requested that he put Popsicle sticks under her arms to prop up her boobs. Gotta love that woman.

 

I was a bit paranoid about my boobs until I started swinging. Man I get more compliments now then I ever did. So now I don't care whether or not they are perky little B's or saggy D's, I have learned to love them as they are in all their post baby somewhat saggy glory.

 

They aren't bad boobs, they just have a lot of personality

[Sweet_Candy 54]

Candy has 34A's and I love them, all natural and no man-made filling. Do they point south? Yes some, she's borne two children and isn’t 22 anymore. Would she like them bigger? Not anymore. Why? After seeing all the boobs on sticks in other's profiles and seeing the interest men have in her natural set she has come to an appreciation for what she has.

[txduo2000 18]

I will state that all your replies have made me feel a little better about my "bad boobs", especially you guys ... and you single guys.

 

I am very glad that so many men seem to understand the changes that time and gravity place on a woman's body and appreciate rather than are repulsed by that.

 

I still don't think I am gonna be terribly comfortable when I am on top and they are just hanging there and my husband is stretching and bobbing his neck like a baby bird trying to locate a nipple, though. :rollseyes

 

And actually, Intuition, I have repeatedly looked into lift/reduction surgeries, starting from about 10 years ago. They have vastly improved their methods for performing these surgeries and reducing scar visibility. I know what you mean about the "zipper" look, but honestly, good plastic surgeons can avoid that altogether nowadays. By the time I get around to being able to afford such surgery, they will have improved it even more.

 

It IS a confidence thing, I know. And while I appreciate that so many men are understanding of a woman's body changes, I still would feel much more confident and a little more exhibitionistic if I could feel 100% better about my body's appearance. That's what I am shooting for.

 

Our single male friend was over last night. I was telling him about this thread. He was also going through my husband's Playboys trying to find a particular issue. While he was flipping through all those great boobs, he was listening to me talk about this thread ... even HE said he thinks my boobs are great .... so, I guess they will do .... for while anyway.

[sexyshelby 19]

I can relate. I had large boobs when I was about 14. Now I'm a D, and although I'm only 22, they're already sagging! So, I'm really not looking forward to gravity taking its course as I get older.

 

But like most of the men here have said, they don't mind. All the guys I know will say they prefer this or that, but once the girl is naked, it dont matter to them.

 

So, ladies, embrace what you have and learn to love it! Afterall, your partner(s) will!

[sc8868 15]

Txduo, as a male, I like to add few comments about your "boobs thoughts". I believe that only a man who sees woman as an object to sex would ever define "good" or "bad" boobs. For any man who are in seeking a mutual relationship and friendship with a woman, whether in lifestyle or not, there will be no such thing called "bad boobs". When I met a woman, I see her with a complete human being. We all came with different figure and shape, that makes an INDIVIDUAL and PERSONALITY. I have to admit that I am a breast man and always love to play with them :-) I can honestly say this, I never can, or even think to judge a particular body part rather a person with everything. Further more, I can not agree with your hubby more about the most thing that tune me off would be with someone who has no self-esteem. If I would start thinking about what part of my body is not "good" enough, I will be still hiding in my basement now :-) I am a pilot and we often said that no two landings are the same. Every one has its challenge and excitement. I can apply that concept to "boobs" for sure, every set has their unique feature and always give me the new meaning of excitement :-)))

 

Please stop worry about your boobs. They are just fine if not better than those so call pointed to north :-))

[ItTakes3 19]

Add another male voice to the chorus singing the praise of natural breasts, no matter the size or shape.

 

My wife is a DD and she has the same complaints...they face south and sag. She's always talking about breast lift surgery, but it doesn't have to happen because I don't like them or consider them "bad boobs". I keep trying to talk her out of surgery.

 

Our male friends also love her large breasts and comment every time how much they enjoy them.

[good times 991]

Mrs. GT has reached an age were when she gets down to her optimum weight her nipples are noticeably lower. This has resulted in me making a couple interesting observations.

 

First, I have decided this is all part of the big master plan, you see, when us boys are in our teens we can work with our hands over our heads all day long without any problem. But as we age we notice our circulation isn't what it once was and it is much more comfortable to work with our hands down around our belly than it is working with them up around our chin. So the fact that women's boobs become lower as they age is not a problem, it is mighty convenient.

 

Another thing women don't seem to realize is that as most men age their close up eyesight starts to degrade, I know I am in my mid 40's and can't focus on anything closer than about 2 feet away. So how handy it is to me that women's boobs as they age naturally move down to a better natural focus distance.

 

Seriously, I am with the others, and anyone that knows me will tell you I am a boob man. Oh, I like the booty, nice legs and pretty eyes, but I like boobs the best. Other than few boobs I've seen that have been surgically messed up, I haven't seen any "bad" ones yet. And I can state without any reservations that I am sure I would like all of the boobs refereed to in this thread.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Once the clothes come off, all women are beautiful, and we like looking at beautiful things. And if you want us to look, that makes you even more beautiful.

 

^^This. No physical body part overrides the sexiness and the turn-on of a woman who likes you well enough that she wants you to look.

 

Playmate of the Year boobs and she wouldn't give you the time of day if you asked - meh

 

Real woman with any type of boobs and she is smiling at you and taking her clothes off - boing! Hot as fuck!

 

In all seriousness though, I think nearly everyone has something about themselves that they don't like, hope others don't notice, struggle with self-esteem issues over, and so on. But, women get to bear that burden 10 times over compared to guys. You can say that it is self-imposed, and to some degree, maybe so, but there's a lot of societal pressure at work there too, so it's not a case of just get over it. Not nearly that simple sadly.

 

For the record, no such thing as bad boobs to this guy!

[Jane1902 476]

I’ve got full cups too. I have considered a reduction at times but have noticed my nipples are more sensitive than before - in a very good way. It’s so easy to find something about our bodies that we don’t like. I really like my smile and legs.

[Numex 2,409]

... Nipples pointing south, more full at the bottom than at the top, displaced lower on my chest than they should be.

Actually, the picture that you have painted sounds beautiful to me in many ways. It says "woman."

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

'Bad boobs' is like saying 'bad bacon'...no such thing. All bacon and boobs are better than good, they're great!

[MrandMrsA 76]

'Bad boobs' is like saying 'bad bacon'...no such thing. All bacon and boobs are better than good, they're great!

 

Bacon wrapped boobs!!! Now that's a fantasy. Drool!!!

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

It's when the clothes come off that I HATE to remove my bra. I can't even stand to put my makeup on, brush my teeth, or stand in front of the mirror naked. No, it's not the extra belly flab that I need to shed that is so repulsive ... it is the boobs. Nipples pointing south, more full at the bottom than at the top, displaced lower on my chest than they should be. Yes, it's age and gravity and the hazard that comes with being the possessor of large breasts from puberty ... doesn't mean I gotta like it! And, believe me, I DO NOT!

 

I am going to take a different approach here and just say that no matter one is, that person will find something he or she considers to be unappealing about himself or herself (aside from narcissists and sociopaths who don't care or think in those terms). You have a few options here. One is to get used to the idea that what someone else might or might not think doesn't make too much difference and if you are having a good time with someone, he's probably not paying much attention to the details of your boobs that you are so highly focussed on.

 

You see yourself everyday more often than anyone else does, so you have the opportunity to find and magnify anything you see as an imperfection, that others are not likely to pay much attention to because they are looking at you as the big picture overall. If I think back about all the women I've slept with, I really can't remember much about little details like that. Another option if you just cannot stop focussing on your boobs and you think you would be happier if they looked different, is to have cosmetic surgery to achieve whatever it is you would like to achieve. You could always just wear lingerie to keep anyone from seeing what you don't like, but I think that would just lead to making you more unnecessarily self-conscious.

[couplers 4,614]

Bad boobs? I have hardly any boobs, but have found that men and women still like them. At least you have more to be creative with. Although breasts most of the time are seen as sexual attractions, they are there to feed babies, so boobs that have "nipples pointing south, more full at the bottom than at the top" are attractive because they look like they do what they were meant to.

[padoc 1,703]

If the boobs belong to your wife/partner and either of you think they need improvement, then just DO it. If (as I've said before) a woman shares her boobs with you it's a gift. Accept it as such and don't judge them.

 

@ Jane…please don't consider that again!!

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

People (especially women) are their own worst critics. Something that they find almost intolerable usually is something others don't even notice. Add into the mix that sexiness has NOTHING to do with physical appearance...it is something that is radiated from within (and usually starts with confidence) and the 'how' someone looks just really isn't that important. How they act, their personality, and treat others has a much greater importance to us.

 

Bad boobs, bacon, chocolate...ridiculousness!

[Idahocouple6969 294]

Bacon boobs? ? Sounds great to me. I too have gravity is not my friend boobs. I have found some nice pretty bras for large women and they give me confidence. I know I'm sexy in them. Comfort wise not so much. I'm one of those people that the minute I'm home and not in public shoes and bra come off.

We all were born loveing boobs. My husband and I have yet to "swing" planning an out of state club trip soon and can't wait to play with someone else's boobs besides my own.