Your weirdest reason for saying "no"

[Spoomonkey 421]

We received a PM today from a single guy. There were a couple of reasons why we weren't compatible, but the biggest reason was probably a little weird.

 

He stated that he worked at the local video store. Normally, where a guy works isn't the first thing he puts in his PM, but in this case, he did - and to be honest, we rent there all the time...

 

We'd hate to think that renting would be awkward if we hooked up - or worse, if we didn't. I mean - are we going to suddenly stop getting coupons in the mail? Are the "rent two - get one free" deals going to suddenly cease? Will we ALWAYS get the DVD that has been dog chewed and left in the heat?

 

Swinging is fun, but the idea of ruining my peace of mind while renting a flick just isn't appealing.

 

So - what are the weirdest reasons you've ever said "no"?

 

Granted, any reason is a good reason. After all "no means no" regardless of why you say it. But how many "left field" no's do we have floating around out there?

 

Spoomonkey

[sexypairca 41]

My strangest reason would also be a lesson learned. I had met with a single guy after meeting on an online site and corresponding through chat/email. He seemed nice enough and we eventually met for coffee to see if we had a physical interest.

 

During the course of our conversation he mentioned the lack of security on most ad sites, how easy it was to hack and download pics. I got the impression that he was looking to tell me something so I let him continue despite the fact that I know very little about computers. He continued on with "I hope you won't be mad...", he had downloaded my pics from our profile onto his hard drive. I was quite furious even after he attempted to reasure me that he had no intention of doing anything with them, was just testing that site's security. Needless to say that was as good of a reason as any and I modified all our uploaded pics in the event of future theft.

 

Annette

[EmeraldCoast 16]

This may be off topic but still kinda related as being a wierd turn down. LMAO

 

I recieved an IM one day from a ladies screen name wanting me to prove I was real before we went further in the conversation. The way she wanted me to prove I was real was to provide her with a non nude g rated picture of me and my hubby together. I had NEVER in 10 years of being on the net (literally *wink*) had somebody ask me this question. It was always nude pictures please Well, since I was not prepared and didn't have a picture like she asked.... she proceeded to call me a fake. I tried to convince her by giving her my phone number to call and by telling her that I would turn on my webcam and everything. Still... she insisted I was a fake. I finally told her.. You live all the way in another state and we'll never hook up.... why are you so adamant about a non nude g-rated picture of us together? Are you planning to use it as yourself to someone else? GEESH!

 

WIERD, WIERD, WIERD! lol

 

*KK*

[tinker760 15]

I was chatting with a single male that we were interested in meeting. He asked me how many times I orgasm normally when having sex with my husband. I answered 2-3 times on average. The reply I got was "thats it!". Automatically a red flag went up and I thought he was making it a compitition and he wanted to be better than my husband. That is not what we are here for! I politely told him that I didn't think we were looking for the same thing. He responded back mad at us, saying how dare we judge him.

[sexyshelby 19]

sounds like you had a great reason to say no, tinker. Although that's definitely weird!

[2inVT 122]

OK, this is a weird reason to say no.

 

But the male half of the couple was an Elvis impersonator. That was his job.

 

I'm an Elvis fan, too, go figure.

 

*Disclaimer - this is not in any way meant to disparage Elvis impersonators.

[Spoomonkey 421]

But the male half of the couple was an Elvis impersonator.

 

 

I can't explain it - but I get it!

 

Spoomonkey

[EvilMJ 65]

Umm I guess my reason wasn't so weird as much as the situation.

 

There is 'couple' that wants to play with us. They aren't married, and I don't even think they date, but they do have a relatonship in that she is his submissive partner.

 

Everytime he sees me he tells me how attracted he is to me and how we should get together.

 

I guess for some reason a Dom from France who is old enough to be my father just isn't my thing. He is a nice guy, but anytime he brings his bag of toys to a party I get the willies...eek...I am just not into pain I guess.

[hilltop 16]

A couple of years ago I connected with a couple on SLS who didn't have a pic in their profile. Normally I don't do that but their profile was SO well written that I just had to respond.

 

After a few emails we exchanged G rated pics and OMG! The wife looked so similar to my niece that there was no way I could even think about being with them!

 

I'm not good at the "little white lie" thing so I told them truthfully why it wasn't going to work and they responded with great humor and understanding then after a couple of funny "uncle" emails from them we headed our separate ways.

[tracy1878 19]

we have played with a couple who became our friends and it seemed like all of the sudden my hubby was having trouble keeping it going. come to find out, i never noticed it but the woman looks alot like his mother... during a fit of passion she called something out, and it even sounded like his mom! now, theres not a chance in hell of him being able to play with her, and since he told me about it, i have trouble too! We keep putting them off, but one of these days i'm just going to have to come out and say it

[HappyPeople 17]

We had a couple contact us from an ad and instantly, they wanted telephone contact (two lines into the first online chat). We felt more comfortable having a little PG13 on line chat before picking up the phone and basically cold calling someone. They kept pushing and pushing for us to call right away and seemed to be getting angry with us for not wanting to do so. It felt creepy to have someone on the interweb try and set the pace so we told them not to contact us anymore.

[Spoomonkey 421]

I guess for some reason a Dom from France who is old enough to be my father just isn't my thing. He is a nice guy, but anytime he brings his bag of toys to a party I get the willies...eek...I am just not into pain I guess.

 

So let me get this straight...

 

We're NOT talking about Santa here...

 

 

Spoomonkey

[Chicup 42]

We had a couple contact us from an ad and instantly, they wanted telephone contact (two lines into the first online chat). We felt more comfortable having a little PG13 on line chat before picking up the phone and basically cold calling someone. They kept pushing and pushing for us to call right away and seemed to be getting angry with us for not wanting to do so. It felt creepy to have someone on the interweb try and set the pace so we told them not to contact us anymore.

 

While getting a comfort level is good, you will find a lot of experianced swingers are into a phone right away mode. As shy as we can be calling right away or getting a call, it normally works out better in the end.

 

After dealing with SO many fakes, you want to save yourself a dozen emails and chats to only find out his wife isn't really interested or knows about his 'swinging'.

[Pepper & Drew 384]

We, ok I, vetoed a chance to play with a single female because she looked like she could be related to me.

 

Another couple who we're friends with didn't want to play with a single female because she looked too much like the wife of the couple. It weirded her out because to her, he'd like her a little too much because the girl was a dead ringer for her.

 

Pepper

[EvilMJ 65]

So let me get this straight...

 

We're NOT talking about Santa here...

 

 

Spoomonkey

 

Oh my if it was Santa sure has gotten kinky over the years!!

[oncewere 84]

The Santa in the stories section might be called kinky but not whips and handcuffs kinky.

[Guest Pinmonkey]

Oh my if it was Santa sure has gotten kinky over the years!!

 

Hey if you only got to cum once a year, you'd want to make sure you got your kink on too, I'd guess.

[EvilMJ 65]

Hey if you only got to cum once a year, you'd want to make sure you got your kink on too, I'd guess.

 

Nope Pin...he was not Santa....he was scary. I didn't like the little gleam in his eye when he was showing off all the stuff he brought and looking at me...

 

All I could think was "you want to clip what where??!!!" no thanks Santa

[HappyPeople 17]

While getting a comfort level is good, you will find a lot of experianced swingers are into a phone right away mode. As shy as we can be calling right away or getting a call, it normally works out better in the end.

 

After dealing with SO many fakes, you want to save yourself a dozen emails and chats to only find out his wife isn't really interested or knows about his 'swinging'.

 

I see your point and we have exchanged numbers in the past after a small amount of chat.

 

For me, the two parts that made me uncomfortable were 1) giving our phone number to a stranger either directly or by caller ID - for all I know, it could be a creepy/dangerous guy rather than a real couple and 2) the way that they pushed... Just moments into the first contact, they were getting very aggressive and somewhat angry.

[Miss Sunshine 29]

The lady was very hairy, untrimmed, very cute but below was unappetizing

[Hot Raleigh Cpl 164]

A couple of weird situations, both years ago.

 

First incident: we played with a "couple" who turned out to be married, but not to each other. She wanted wild nasty sex but wouldn't do it with her husband, so she played with the guy she was with. After we played, she posted a thank you on a few websites, and used L's and my real names. We were aghast, and asked why she did that. She got belligerent and said if you didn't want us to use your real names, you should have told us fake names like everyone else uses. [bZZZZZ! looser buzzer goes off here] We didn't play with them again.

 

But it got weirder... Shortly after that, we were contacted for play by a guy who was posting on a bunch of websites. He turned out to be her husband, and he either knew or suspected she had played with us. We didn't know if he wanted to get even, kill us, or just have sex. Situation was way too weird; we declined his invitation. Later we learned from another source that he also wanted wild sex, but his wife wouldn't with him, so he sought it elsewhere. A case of a couple who should communicate with each other.

 

Second incident: a woman contacted us for play. She'd read and heard about L's adventures and aspired to be a hot slut like L (a mix of fantasy and heroine worship). The woman told us her husband was boring in bed, and that they were separated and awaiting a divorce. We played with her a couple of times. It turned out the woman wasn't separated and her husband found out all the stuff she'd been doing (with us and others), and they had a knock-down, drag-out fight over it. He left her, and she took up with a friend we played with sometimes. We did not play with her any more, because we didn't need that kind of drama.

 

But it got weirder.... A few months later, we learned from our friend that she had been arrested for attempted bank robbery! No kidding, you can't make this stuff up. On hearing that, we were glad to have severed the tie with her, and wished she didn't even have our email address.

 

Fortunately, incidents like these have been rare.

 

So far on this thread, though, the Elvis impersonator takes the cake ?

[spvcouple 123]

To some people this might be weird. We don't enjoy playing with people that have several tattoos or piercings in private places. Some folks find then very erotic, but it just isn't our cup of tea.

 

Small tasteful tattoos are okay, but some people go overboard as far as we are concerned.

[angelkin 1,326]

We were brand new and had been chatting with a couple that lived a couple hour away. In hindsight, we should have moved along quickly, but didn't...we chatted over a couple weeks and settled on a date to meet. We were doing the driving, they were planning to get a hotel room. We had previously seen pictures, but in person, she looked like someone hubby had met overseas. I don't know if it was cold feet on hubby's part or not, but we finished our drinks and told them this wasn't going to happen.

 

They were VERY upset and demanded an explanation, but then wouldn't accept the answer. They were also mad because they had already bought a 12 pack of beer and now we didn't want to party! RUN, RUN AWAY! A few times, the husband of the other couple tried to talk to me, to talk me into trying to met up again. We ended up blocking them on the website and yahoo messenger.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We were brand new and had been chatting with a couple that lived a couple hour away. In hindsight, we should have moved along quickly, but didn't...we chatted over a couple weeks and settled on a date to meet. We were doing the driving, they were planning to get a hotel room. We had previously seen pictures, but in person, she looked like someone hubby had met overseas. I don't know if it was cold feet on hubby's part or not, but we finished our drinks and told them this wasn't going to happen.

 

They were VERY upset and demanded an explanation, but then wouldn't accept the answer. They were also mad because they had already bought a 12 pack of beer and now we didn't want to party! RUN, RUN AWAY! A few times, the husband of the other couple tried to talk to me, to talk me into trying to met up again. We ended up blocking them on the website and yahoo messenger.

 

I hate it when I shell out $6 for a case of PBR and then the other couple cancels.... I mean really, that just means more beer for me!

[Guest sandraandalex]

This is simply a guess trying to find the rationale in irrational behavior. Yet, it's more than likely they thought they knew you. The g-rated photo would prove a point , yet not violate their internal moral limits of getting a nude photo. Odds are they did not know you at all and something about your profile simply struck them as familiar, even a state away. You are also correct, there was also a possibility that they were silly fishing for photos.

[noobwithboobs 22]

We get turned off instantly by people who want us to call them. We don't talk on the phone to each other, we just are not phone talkers, and I don't really feel like talking to strangers when I don't talk to my own husband. It's just a "thing"

 

I say no for alot of reasons that I can't even explain to my husband, I just look at people and think NO right away sometimes. But there is a town near us, that I automatically say no to anyone who lives there. The area has alot of "trashy" places, and I know it's wrong of me to assume everyone from there is like that, but I used to do this even when I was single and looking. If I met them somewhere else before I knew that's where they lived, I wouldn't mind, but seeing the town name in an ad turns me off right away. I'm weird LOL

[angelkin 1,326]

We don't do the phone thing either. If we haven't agreed to meet someone and they give us their phone number, it's a big turn off. We met a super respectful guy recently who asked if we wanted him number, that scored big points.

[sweet_tna 680]

Hrm . . . I can't really think of a weird reason why we've said no to someone. I guess we don't attract as many weirdos as I thought.

[let's do it again 416]

I don't know if you would call it weird, but we were meeting with a couple and the woman looked like a dude. It was when I was still married, on the way home we discussed " was that chick a dude".  Still don't know but wanted no part of it!

[couplers 4,718]

On 1/8/2006 at 6:35 PM, Spoomonkey said:

he worked at the local video store.

I had to look it up. Netflix was founded in 1997, and started streaming in 2007.

[SJBluebirds 195]

We have both "Why *they* said no", as well as "Why *we* said no" stories:

 

After seeing our face photos, the other woman quickly 'noped' on us because Mr Bluebird -- apparently -- looked exactly like the other woman's brother.  Mr Bluebird wasn't actually her brother, but she said the resemblance was too great to overlook.

 

The situation where We said 'no':  We met up with -- unbeknownst to us, as we hadn't met them before -- the parents of our Daughter's Significant Other:  We were going to meet them the following weekend for the first time when we helped our kids move-in together.  This wouldn't have been a problem, but we had never met them before, and while we were having an introductory chat over drinks, they let us know that they were quite "Open" about their involvement in the LS:  Their friends, family, and even kids knew they were swingers.

 

And if their kids knew, that meant our daughter's SO knew.  And -- by virtue of their relationship -- our own daughter would know about their activities.  And that was just *too close* for us to consider playing with them -- We're not 'out', and wanted to remain that way.