If he knows how to use it, what size penis would you prefer?

[h_guy 16]

If you could create a man, what size would you choose for his penis?

 

I don't want to hear "It's how you use it." Say the guy knows how to use it, would you rather he be using a 4,5,6,7,8 inch.

 

So be honest ladies, if you were creating the perfect man, and you had to choose a size what size would you choose?

[sexyshelby 19]

Hmmm...interesting.

 

For me, it's more about girth. I hate "skinny dicks". I have no idea what the ideal size would be, gotta be big enough for me to get a good grip, but not too big that it hurts to have sex.

 

As for length, I prefer average. Again, nothing too big that will hurt me.

[jedi6942 18]

The instant I saw this I knew it was posted by a male. Aside from the nature of the question itself the choices say nothing at all about girth. My wife will surely laugh when she sees it; but, will not bother to answer.

 

Funny, man.

[Fantasy_Partner 16]

Ditto.

 

I would prefer average length but...

 

Give me girth or it's like giving me nothing at all

[EmeraldCoast 16]

7 in and about as round as a coke can . Just joking... but girth sure makes the man for me

[4Beauty2C 17]

7-8" in length and girth at least up to 3" . Cannot have any smaller.

[Miss_Piggy 98]

I said about 6 inches. Any more than that and it won't fit very well anyway.

 

I do have to agree with the girth points above - but as I've mentioned in previous threads, even girth only really matters to me for the sake of hand jobs - aside from that it doesn't really matter to me.

 

I would like to point out, maybe the reason women usually answer the length question in the same way has to do with the fact that it's the truth - most of us really aren't that concerned with length. I'd be willing to bet that most women can't actually eyeball length very accurately anyway... making the question even more pointless.

[4Beauty2C 17]

Sometimes I can tell if a man is big enough for me. I go by the width of my hand. If you does not go at least 3-4 inches past the with of a 4" hand then he is not right for me.

[h_guy 16]

Interesting.

 

Does anyone prefer a different size, length or girth than their husband's cock? Would anybody be brave enough to admit that?

[EvilMJ 65]

I have had varying sizes and I have to admit for me I'm not too thrilled about being with a guy that is too small (though I would certainly never say anything to him). I like a little size, but don't ask me how much because I have never measured one Sometimes is is all about the angle too. It just kind of hits the right spot.

[TNT 1,155]

Different women do like different sizes...nothing wrong with that.

 

As for me...I like big dicks....so sue me

 

Would I refuse to have sex with a man that was not overly endowed? No.

 

I've been with small men and large men and even though I may enjoy a large dick...I've never been disappointed by a small one. Good sex really has nothing to do with dick size.

[Thrax 384]

Dammit! I was just acclimating myself to being average in length, now I have to worry about GIRTH, too? Sheeesh!

[valley 25]

Secretly I love 12"

 

6" on each of them

[TNT 1,155]

Secretly I love 12"

 

6" on each of them

 

Yep, that works too.

 

 

Teresa

[Thrax 384]

Secretly I love 12"

6" on each of them

So, then, I can meet you half way. 'Kay?

 

Just none of this "girth" stuff, please!

[HappyPeople 17]

I don't like it too big that it hurts or too small that it feels like a pinkey finger. Since I've been with my sweetheart for so long, I am "broke in" for him. I am happy with slight variations of him but if it's too far from my usual mark, it doesn't feel as good.

[intuition897 2,179]

Yup, I knew this was a poll by a guy, too. I have NO idea why guys get so hung up on the pissing contest of whose dick is longer than whose. What the hell am I supposed to do with the other 6 inches?? We're only built to stretch width-wise, not length-wise. Sorry, but if you're looking to impress a girl with any measurements, if she's impressed with size at all, it'll be girth. 6 - 7 inches in length is plenty.

[h_guy 16]

Us guys who are not swinging yet (but thinking about it) think about size as much as girls who worry about their breast size. But we are more interested in it because you get to see everybody's breast size. But us men never get to see other dicks and then I suppose if you start swinging you will think does the bigger ones feel better for my wife??? So that is why its such a big subject for men, because we know nothing about it.

 

So we should stop worrying about length (ah, that's great, that's out of the way) and replace it with girth

 

We should have a girth poll

[HappyPeople 17]

I wouldn't worry too much about it... Your wife has chosen you - mind, body, and soul so even though a sexual act may one day please her more physically, that's only a very small part of the picture. Chics and dicks come and go, but my honey is forever, my everything... and nothing is more fulfilling than that.

[Thrax 384]

We should have a girth poll

Naw, stop there, the length poll is fine...

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

Us guys who are not swinging yet (but thinking about it) think about size as much as girls who worry about their breast size. But we are more interested in it because you get to see everybodies breast size. But us men never get to see other dicks and then I suppose if you start swinging you will think does the bigger ones feel better for my wife??? So that is why its such a big subject for men, because we know nothing about it.

I think this makes perfect sense.

 

Women worry about the size of their breasts as often as men worry about their penis size. And even when a boob is big enough to fill a man's hand (let's say a nice C-cup), women usually want bigger boobs or a man may prefer a bigger breasted woman.

 

We could argue why have more breast than hands could handle, but there is more to it than just touch...just looking at them is exciting.

 

I think the same can be said for a big cock.

 

h guy, it's important you don't worry about the size of your penis, as Thrax is trying to point out, he doesn't want to feel any worse than he already does about himself, so please don't start a girth poll.

 

You men are too hard on yourselves.

 

LM

[sexyshelby 19]

I forgot to actually vote on my first post. So I voted now: for 6".

Anything bigger tends to hurt.

 

But I agree with Miss Piggy, I (and most others, male or female) have a hard time just eyeballing size.

 

~SS

[valley 25]

So, then, I can meet you half way. 'Kay?

 

Just none of this "girth" stuff, please!

 

 

Oh...that's what I thought they meant...is it length they mean?...oh goodness...I'll get out the yard stick.

 

Thrax...anything normal is normal. Normal is good.

 

In addition, Hguy states, as do many guys, the fear that another guy is going to be bigger and better than he himself is. It frightens the hell out of so many of them, that his wife might have a really good time. It is ok for him to screw the other lady (wish wish), like she's never had it before, but heaven help if his own wife happens to get the top of her head lifted off by good sex. The sooner men wake up to the fact it is NOT a competition, the more they will enjoy themselves.

 

Size is immaterial anyway.

[WesternSwing 504]

6" - 7" in length. More than that is just too much and it becomes a cervix banger unless he's careful. Girth is more important, but even to much there can be to much, especially with anal. Mr. WS is the perfect combination of both length and girth for both vaginal and anal.

 

Mrs. WS

[HappyPeople 17]

I noticed that no one has voted for a 4-5 inch weiner yet.

 

I dated a fellow with a 4 incher before... It was awful. Not only was he tiny but he also had erectile disfunction. I tried, I really did, but I just wasn't happy about it. Needless to say, the relationship didn't work out. It wasn't the wee weiner that caused me to want to end it either, it was his serious insecurities that sent me packing.

[Coupleinidaho 15]

I have to comment on the two posts quoted below (Mrs. here).

I wouldn't worry too much about it... Your wife has chosen you - mind, body, and soul so even though a sexual act may one day please her more physically, that's only a very small part of the picture.

I think this is a cop out. I garner to say that most men want to be the KING in bed with their wives, and that means that they're the ones that give her the most physical pleasure. Saying that a husband should be fine and dandy that his wife is getting off more physically with another guy is hogwash.

 

In addition, Hguy states, as do many guys, the fear that another guy is going to be bigger and better than he himself is. It frightens the hell out of so many of them, that his wife might have a really good time. It is ok for him to screw the other lady (wish wish), like she's never had it before, but heaven help if his own wife happens to get the top of her head lifted off by good sex. The sooner men wake up to the fact it is NOT a competition, the more they will enjoy themselves.

Your example is a bit off. You're comparing how this guy's wife is going to act with a bigger dick, to how this other woman is going to act with the husband. How would you feel if your husband said things to the other woman that he has never said to you, or for that matter, came harder with her than he does with you?

 

Men are programmed from birth to compete against other men, it's in their genes and society and the media scream it out every day. How is this subject any different? They had to compete to court us to become their wives from the other male admirers in the first place, what makes allowing his wife to sleep with another guy any different, a competition. Who's going to make her cum more, who is she going to say nasty things to like "fuck me with your big dick, etc." Is she going to act in a more aroused state with this other guy, do and say things that she has never done/said with/to her husband? I think most guys would be fine if their wives acted with other men in a similar or less enthusiastic way then they do with their husbands. It's when they see something that their wife has never done with them, that's what screws with their heads. Put the shoe on the other foot and see how you would feel.

 

As far as the penis size subject, let's be honest, men are again programmed from the get go that penis size is the one attribute that defines them as "men," other than their jobs/income. They see it everyday on television, here it in background conversations of women, and see it in porn. It is pounded into their skulls that "bigger is better." So in the end, you can't blame them for having these insecurities. Men can always refine their lovemaking technique, but they can do NOTHING about their penis size.

[valley 25]

Coupleinidaho, if the next time I have sex that is the best sex I have ever had, it would have been the umpteenth time. Whether it was with my husband, another guy or between the two of them. It doesn't matter. My husband is not going to feel threatened. It would not have happened if it hadn't been for him, but he is not going to complain if he was watching at the time.

 

I don't know how other couples are but my husband's wish is for me to have the best sex EVERY time. It doesn't work out that way, but it is far from the point of regretting another man made me go right off. I repeat...it is not a competition...there is a lot more to sex between us than the sex we have when a guy is with us. The intimacy, the fun, the tantalizing anticipation...we are usually highly aroused before we get into bed. Before we even go out to meet. Then after...the followup sex, perhaps, but the intimacy of sharing thoughts and feelings...maybe the size of the other guy might get mentioned, maybe not. So don't tell me all men are concerned and want to remain the King in his bedroom. When he faces reality, he will realize, like most swingers, there's more to love than sex. Tell him, show him, reassure there is only him in your heart and he will stop trying to compete.

 

As for doing things, with a strange guy, I haven't done before if it is within our limits, fine. That's called 'learning'. As for saying things,I am not going to be saying things I haven't already said to my husband. I certainly wouldn't say things that showed I did not respect my husband. He would not do that to me.

 

If your husband needs constant reassurance about your love, your trust, then that is normal. I am sure you want him to also reassure you. It is a very risky pastime we have chosen to pursue. I know for me, for us, it has been very worth it.

[HappyPeople 17]

I think this is a cop out. I garner to say that most men want to be the KING in bed with their wives, and that means that they're the ones that give her the most physical pleasure. Saying that a husband should be fine and dandy that his wife is getting off more physically with another guy is hogwash

 

I don't see it as a cop out... Granted, I don't know exactly what men want because I am a woman, but I do know that neither one of us seems concerned with the comparison between how we get off with other people. It's not really about other people since we consider swinging doing something together - who's thing is in sho's thing is just a thing.

 

Also, since we're both bi, that kind of insecurity would be destructive and not fun.

[In2curiosity 15]

I have to comment on the two posts quoted below (Mrs. here).

I think this is a cop out. I garner to say that most men want to be the KING in bed with their wives, and that means that they're the ones that give her the most physical pleasure. Saying that a husband should be fine and dandy that his wife is getting off more physically with another guy is hogwash.

 

Your example is a bit off. You're comparing how this guy's wife is going to act with a bigger dick, to how this other woman is going to act with the husband. How would you feel if your husband said things to the other woman that he has never said to you, or for that matter, came harder with her than he does with you?

 

Men are programmed from birth to compete against other men, it's in their genes and society and the media scream it out every day. How is this subject any different? They had to compete to court us to become their wives from the other male admirers in the first place, what makes allowing his wife to sleep with another guy any different, a competition. Who's going to make her cum more, who is she going to say nasty things to like "fuck me with your big dick, etc." Is she going to act in a more aroused state with this other guy, do and say things that she has never done/said with/to her husband? I think most guys would be fine if their wives acted with other men in a similar or less enthusiastic way then they do with their husbands. It's when they see something that their wife has never done with them, that's what screws with their heads. Put the shoe on the other foot and see how you would feel.

 

As far as the penis size subject, let's be honest, men are again programmed from the get go that penis size is the one attribute that defines them as "men," other than their jobs/income. They see it everyday on television, here it in background conversations of women, and see it in porn. It is pounded into their skulls that "bigger is better." So in the end, you can't blame them for having these insecurities. Men can always refine their lovemaking technique, but they can do NOTHING about their penis size.

 

We had a moment like this in our marriage but it didn't last very long. My husband saw my teenage son from my first marriage nude and realized that if the adage like father-like son is true than my EX must be part horse. He wanted to know if my EX was that big and wondered if it bothered me that I wasn't with "part horse" anymore. I told him the truth, yes he was big, yes we had great sex, but I left the marriage because he was an asshole.

 

Telling the OP that penis size isn't a bid deal isn't hogwash, I agree that it is natural to worry about it, but it is also important for the OP to hear from women that it isn't a big deal and that his wife is not going to care. If he can't get to a point where he believes this is true then he shouldn't be swinging because it will make both him and his wife miserable if they do. IMHO

[WesternSwing 504]

I garner to say that most men want to be the KING in bed with their wives, and that means that they're the ones that give her the most physical pleasure. Saying that a husband should be fine and dandy that his wife is getting off more physically with another guy is hogwash.

Yes, most men want to be king in bed with their wife, and if they are not sure that they are then maybe they need to reconsider swinging. I think every experienced swinging wife on this board would tell you that in the grand scheme of things her husband is the best sex she has. This is because really good sex happens between the ears as much as between the legs, and there is a trust, security, and love with your spouse that is not there with strangers. It is soul sex.

 

Also, as I mentioned in another thread about the recent sex poll at AskMen.com although 39% of vanilla men list a threesome as their number one sex fantasy, only 2% of men responding to the poll fantasize about their SO having sex with another man. This is simply because these guys can't get over themselves.

 

Your example is a bit off. You're comparing how this guy's wife is going to act with a bigger dick, to how this other woman is going to act with the husband. How would you feel if your husband said things to the other woman that he has never said to you, or for that matter, came harder with her than he does with you?

I can answer this from a man's point of view. I've seen Mrs. WS scream louder with another man (who has much more girth then I) then she ever has with me. She was embarrassed and was afraid she hurt my feelings. I thought it was hot. It was really cool to see her having that much fun, and having that much trust in me and our relationship that she could let go like that without worry. If I didn't give her that freedom then I'd just be selfish and insecure, and thus jealous. "In jealousy there is more self-love then love." On the ride home she couldn't stop thanking ME for the good time she had.

 

Men are programmed from birth to compete against other men, it's in their genes and society and the media scream it out every day. How is this subject any different? They had to compete to court us to become their wives from the other male admirers in the first place, what makes allowing his wife to sleep with another guy any different, a competition. Who's going to make her cum more, who is she going to say nasty things to like "fuck me with your big dick, etc." Is she going to act in a more aroused state with this other guy, do and say things that she has never done/said with/to her husband? I think most guys would be fine if their wives acted with other men in a similar or less enthusiastic way then they do with their husbands. It's when they see something that their wife has never done with them, that's what screws with their heads. Put the shoe on the other foot and see how you would feel.

Once again, if this is even a concern then he needs to reconsider swinging, or how they are going to swing. I've been in this situation, too. I watched Mrs. WS turn around from cowgirl to reverse cowgirl on the same guy as above without his dick ever leaving her pussy. Pretty impressive. She had never tried that with me. But we did it the next time we had sex. Was I jealous? No. Was I impressed? Yes. Was I proud that my wonderful wife blew this guy's mind? Yes.

 

This is just another example of how some guys can't get over their own macho bullshit. They can't get over themselves. They think their wife married them because they are the alpha-male with the big cock that makes her cum harder then she ever has. What insecure, macho BS. Unless a woman was a virgin when she married him chances are she had at least as good sex with someone else sometime in her life. I personally think this is the reason some men fear experienced women, they are insecure about her past lovers.

 

If a guy isn't prepared to accept the fact that his wife might really like having sex with someone else then he shouldn't be swinging. If he wants to be sure the throne in his little world is never threatened then he should never venture out of it. This is drama waiting to happen.

 

As far as the penis size subject, let's be honest, men are again programmed from the get go that penis size is the one attribute that defines them as "men," other than their jobs/income. They see it everyday on television, here it in background conversations of women, and see it in porn. It is pounded into their skulls that "bigger is better." So in the end, you can't blame them for having these insecurities. Men can always refine their lovemaking technique, but they can do NOTHING about their penis size.

No, you can't blame them for having these insecurities for just the reasons you list; but you can blame men for dwelling on them and not doing something to overcome them.

 

Mr. WS

[JacobSky 17]

Certainly with hindsight, one can see that adding an available option to select a "girth size" along with the length selection.

 

I can still see these types of questions as being valid.

 

Why is it so hard to get accurate answers. Well there are two major variables at play here.

 

1. Women have different vagina sizes.

 

2. A woman's preference for "the type of fit" or "amount of pressure" will very so much from woman to woman regardless of the size of her vagina.

 

A woman with a small vagina may enjoy feeling really full and tight while the next woman may have a large vagina and not enjoy a tight fit. The two could effectively prefer a similar size penis. Then the girl next door with a larger than average vagina prefers that "full feeling" making her a candidate for preferring a larger than average penis. So many variables come into play.

 

Regardless of that bull that I just wrote. This guy, and myself at times, is just trying to survey varying opinions.

 

Whew....I was getting carried away....I had to catch myself.

[JacobSky 17]

I noticed that no one has voted for a 4-5 inch weiner yet.

 

I dated a fellow with a 4 incher before... It was awful. Not only was he tiny but he also had erectile disfunction. I tried, I really did, but I just wasn't happy about it. Needless to say, the relationship didn't work out. It wasn't the wee weiner that caused me to want to end it either, it was his serious insecurities that sent me packing.

 

I can't blame the fella for feeling insecure. I feel the same way with a 6" x 5.25" around. 6.75" from the pubic bone

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

If he knows how to use it, it can really be any size. I've had guys with smaller dicks that were freakin awesome in bed. BUT, I'd still prefer it be at least a moderately good size and I think I've been spoiled to what are evidently larger size guys at around 6" with decent girth.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I asked Mrs two4you and her answer is: "If he knows how to use it, then it can be any size and I'll be happy. But if he doesn't know how to use it, then it better be big and wide".

 

**Lucky for me, I know how to use it well enough to keep her happy**

[km34 672]

I'm weird in that I don't really like too much girth. I mean, I don't want a pencil dick, but too thick and I lose some of the sensation that I love.

 

My preferred size: 6"ish.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

I selected 6" too, because that's in the average range for the US. However, if a guy just picks the positions that best suit his size, most of us aren't going to notice a few inches here or there, so long as his dick fits comfortably between "is it in?" and "get that thing away from me!". Girth is another matter and one that can't be disguised. I'm small and what goes into me has to be substantially smaller around than a soda can, particularly for oral. There, skinny is definitely better.