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Would you swing with a co-worker (and their spouse if applicable)?  

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  1. 1. Would you swing with a co-worker (and their spouse if applicable)?

    • YES!
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    • No
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    • HELL NO!
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    • Maybe if they were in a different location
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    • Already have
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    • Haven't yet, but others know I/we swing
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I'm curious as to how many of us have learned THE HARD WAY that it's not a good idea to swing with co-workers. And also, if there are folks here who don't think it's a bad idea, why do you feel that way (have you swung with a co-worker and had it turn out well or have you not done so yet to see the outcome?).

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Although I don't have any experience with swinging with someone you work with, I think it would be the same as dating someone you work with.

 

It's just not a good idea because if things go wrong, it can get awkward VERY fast.

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Although we've no experience of such intimacy with co-wrokers, we're with the others on this subject. At best, it sounds like a recipe for uncomfortable times. At worst, it's potentially disasterous.

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I don't think it would be a good idea no matter where you worked. You never know what they are going to say and who they talk to. It could always slip. And then you have to deal with those feelings of uncomfortable afterwards. Way too complicated for us.

 

Dawn

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it's bad enough if a friendship goes sour at least you can choose not to see that person.

 

And I think that is bad enough after a few hard lessons and a few lost friendships.

 

Now I make friends among swingers rather than make swingers of friends...

 

Don't do it, Don't do it... Don't do it.

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We have and it has turned out fine and still continues to be okay. But we didn't contact the other couple through work. We met through a swing site and so happened after chatting that we found out that my hubby and his wife worked at same place. We thought it through before proceeding any further with a relationship and everyone was fine with the situation and we have continued from there. Glad we did they are an awesome couple and we think the world of them. My hubby and her act the same as before us all getting together, so no one at works would be suspicious or start gossip and the such. I just feel really lucky because in most cases this sort of situation goes sour.

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We have had a similar experience to that described above by Wildflower. In fact we met two couples, one via an ad and one at a swing club, where it turned out that the woman worked at the same government department as Brian. We developed a good friendship and swinging relationship with both couples which lasted many years until they moved away from our area. From time to time Brian and one of the women attended the same conferences and it was accepted by Jo and the other woman's husband that while we would book two rooms only one bed would be slept in!

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My wife is in managment and I own my own company, it would be a lawsuit waiting to happen. Totally out of the question, but believe me we have seen a couple of tempting females.

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Reading this thread has made my belief all that much stronger that sex is raised to a level it shouldn't be. Yes it is intimate, but it isn't the Holy Grail. The fact that people would be more prone to cause problems after swinging with a co-worker suggests to me that we aren't taught about sex, or relationships in a mature manner.

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When you get bored, go to lexus-nexus, or just do a search for sexual harassment cases. You will find people being sued for everything from exposing themselves to a co-worker, to being sued for "winking" at a co-worker.

 

Don't forget who you folks are as members of the "swinging" community. Our viewpoint of human sexuality is extremely liberal- and NOT AT ALL mainstream.

 

What you may think of as harmless flirting, I have to deal with as a matter of civil law, i.e. a sexual harassment complaint.

 

What is all "rosy" today, quickly changes to crap tomorrow. So too can an at-work realtionship- and it frequently does. God, I can't even imagine an at work love triangle/rectangle :)

 

Be warned about work place situations. You don't want to be called in to the Human Resource Office and have to talk to me, or someone like me because of a sexual harssment allegation. It's invariably an ugly business regardless of the truth or falseness of the allegations.

 

Sorry to sound cynical and jaundiced, but I deal with this shit for a living- and shit it is.

 

Be careful.....

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We have to agree with N-n-S. As somebody who's actually had to investigate allegations of sexual harassment in the field, I can tell you it gets pretty ugly for everybody involved.

 

In my experience, your usual sexual harassment complaints falls into two categories: (not in any order ... also, I use "he" as a gender-neutral term)

 

1) Yes, we did have an sexual relationship, but we broke up and he keeps bringing it up / trying to get back with me.

 

2) No, we never had a sexual relationship, but he keeps trying to get me to go out with him.

 

It gets even worse if one of the actors is a supervisor or manager.

 

And I won't even get into "toxic workplace" allegations (but I'm sure Nymph an' Satyr knows what I'm talking about)

 

Long story short: Workplace romances are a bad idea. If things go sour, you can lose your job and get sued civilly. And, let's face it, our lifestyle isn't exactly in the majority, and you can bet that their lawyer will (1) make sure the jury is stacked with as many "unenlightened" (for lack of a better term) jurors as possible, and then (2) will play upon the fact that "the defendant is what they call themselves, a "swinger"! A wife swapper! Obviously, he does not hold the sacred bonds of matrimony seriously! So it was only a matter of time before he prayed upon my poor, innocent, defenseless, naive client..." ad infinitum.

 

Finally, what if your co-worker/lover has a slip of the tongue? (or intentionally tells people?). I'm sure that many of us work in sensitive occupations, and we really don't want the rest of our co-workers knowing about our private lives. Most of them probably wouldn't understand.

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I have to poke a hole in something that Chris&Amelia said about the dangers of workplace swinging. This is not an attempt to make them look foolish, but it is an addition to something they said.

 

And, let's face it, our lifestyle isn't exactly in the majority, and you can bet that their lawyer will (1) make sure the jury is stacked with as many "unenlightened" (for lack of a better term) jurors as possible,

 

The problem with this statement is that your lawyer also has the right to reject the "unenlightened members" the prosecutor tries to put on the jury. You know what else your lawyer has the right to do? Try to stack the jury with members that are at least open to the fact that adults can choose this lifestyle if they want to. I am not sure what amendment protects our right to "trial by jury of our peers", but we do have that right protected by the constitution. Those of you that are swinging with co-workers remember that so if you find yourself being sued for swinging you at least might get a fair trial. Again it was not my intent to try to put down Chris&Amelia, but this is the other side of the coin that they tossed into the ring.

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As far as a jury of our peers- that may be pretty hard to find. What do we comprise, maybe 3% of the population?

 

Now let's find members of that percentage that are willing to have their sexuality examined for jury duty.

 

Might be a tough boat to row :)

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Then why swing? Even with people that aren't co-workers. Problems could arise and you still might find yourself in court. Someone described a situation where a person is under investigation for sexual harassment over a Wink. If that is the case a couple that you used to swing with could cause problems if they wanted to. Whether you work with them or not.

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Sexual harassment is labor law. If I wink at my neighbor, that's not sexual harassment. Maybe stalking or something else though :D

 

And as far as the winking incident goes- just because a case has been filed doesn't mean that it will win. It generally takes more than a wink ;)

 

 

The rule of thumb here is that rules at work are very different than the rules of home. That's pretty obvious I think.

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Maybe the wink would have a hard time winning, but just the fact that a person would be investigated and maybe taken to court is trouble enough. Lawyers don't give refunds for winning a case that shouldn't have gone to court in the first place. You did say that winking at someone outside the work place could possibly be classified as stalking. If that is the case still you are going to court for something that has no place in court and lawyers don't give refunds. All I am trying to say is that this is a lifestyle where things can go terribly regardless if it is with a co-worker or not. To not acknowledge that seems to me to be burying ones head in the sand. The odds of being hit by lightning are usually better than winning the lottery. So statistically you are more likely to have something bad happen to you than something good. Since we can't read what is going on in someone else's head why tempt fate.

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Okay, point taken. Though tongue was in cheek over the "winking/stalking" jibe.

 

However, I submit that you suffer a greater risk of being hit by lightening under a tree in a thunderstorm than you do at home watching TV. Just as you suffer a greater risk of swinging with a co-worker than a non-co-worker.

 

I'm not doing it- but feel free to indulge :)

 

naughty A's quote, and Brit_Pair's endorsement of the following sentiment is where I'm at :)

 

Now I make friends among swingers rather than make swingers of friends.

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Its a shame our society will not allow a person to let a co-worker know he or she is sexually attractive without the worry of a big law suit. While even aware of the potential danger, I did once approach a co-worker with whom I had a nice platonic relationship. Fortunately she did not slap me in the face or sue me. She did, however, and after discussing with her husband, decline the invitation.

 

Still friends today.

 

Still a good fantasy.

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There is a guy at work whom several people know him and his wife swing. (Many guys wished they did also when they met his wife :D ). Although I don't believe they know about us I've often thought if swinging would be something to explore with them. Some of the challenges have certainly been weighed and so far we haven't gone any further with the idea. Thanks for the great information.

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We almost did and it went very sour. I introduced them, she worked with me, we knew him from previous swinging. When she found out about us she was shocked. She continued to see him, and even went on to marry him, but no action for us. She had to let the swinging idea soak in a little. I don't think she ever got over the idea of me being with her guy at one time. It's still in question if she has ever really agreed to swing. We no longer care. She no longer works with me, thank goodness, but I can't tell you how paranoid I was that she was going to tell everyone. We will NEVER look outside the lifestyle for couples again.

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We shared pleasures with a coworker and his wife for several years. Then she graduated from law school and got a great job offer in san diego and he got a nice promotion and transfer there from our company. We still get together now and then when we can, but not often enough. He is a also an engineer and we found we could talk to each other very comfortably about anything althuogh we are quite opposite in most aspects. He is a short bald muscular clean-shaven black guy from the 'hood and I'm a tall long-haired heavy bearded blue-eyed white guy from the sticks. But we do share a love of blues and heavy metal which we played on my boombox on our night shifts together and then started going to concerts and shows and clubs with our wives who are even more different than us guys.

 

But we got along famously and it didn't take long for us to go hot-tubbing together and then sharing pleasures in bed.

 

I think we had a solid friendship built before anything sexual came up, I really don't think I would go looking for a sexual relationship at work. But once you have a friendship that you feel is open enough to discuss sex, then I wouldn't let a work relationship exclude a personal relationship. Then again, we prefer to get to be friends first anyway (one reason we don't do swinger's clubs).

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Our first experience was with one of my coworkers and his wife. He and I were peers. It went well and we had several heated encounters, every weekend, for about two months.

This was over a year ago.

We were both promoted within that year.

We are still friends.

And we never talk about our experience from that time period.

We were adults about it and left the bedroom talk out of the boardroom.

I will never tell anyone about it and I am sure he will never do the same.

 

I was fortunate.

Would I ever do this again? NO

Do I recommend this to anyone? NO

Keep it separate.

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Ok. Question... there's one reply that says that you should not swing with a coworker because you don't know if he or she slips or intentionally tells others about it?

 

I agree. BUT doesn't ANYONE have the ability to slip? What difference relies between the coworker and some stranger? The stranger couple will know where you work what your name is and can blackmail you anyways? Don't they?

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Sure, a slip up is a possibility, no matter what...but there is a difference between a slip up and blackmail. If blackmail is a fear for you, then you should choose your partners in a more cautious manner. The comment about slip ups and co-workers is that in todays society, the very credible possibility of a co-worker that you have mixed it up with saying something inadvertantly to the wrong person (in this case, anyone else they might talk to at work is the wrong person), can cause detrimental harm to ones career and well-being. Those of us in the lifestyle know that there is a certain amount of trust established with another couple prior to the all-enveloping sharing of minds, bodies, and personal information. Keep these thoughts in mind prior to engaging in extra-curricular, extra societal activities with a co-worker.

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I was introduced to swinging by a coworker. We worked for a singing telegram company, so I'm sure you all know what happened a good percentage of the time.

 

That being said, I would never date anyone I work with again, let alone swing with a coworker. I flirted with six of the women at my old job, and was called on it by HR because the other two felt I was snubbing them. Think of what would have happened if I had actually swung with one of the women (she told me about a couple of swing sites) and someone found out. You can get in just as much trouble not making a sexual advance to one person as you can making one toward another. I know its childish, but thats human nature.

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The husband works for a local chain of adult video stores so the people he works with are very open-minded about sex. In fact, most of them know we are active swingers. Given that situation, it would seem that it wouldn't be a problem to swing with any of his co-workers. However, that's not going to happen because most of Greg's co-workers are actually gay!

 

On the other hand, the wife works at a local hospital. Her co-workers are quite conservative, so not only do we avoid playing with them, we don't even let them know we're swingers.

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You know it may just be me that sees it this way, but I would think that the recent Supreme Court ruling will make this thread a moot point. Except in the case of true harassment. Just my thoughts.

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that the recent Supreme Court ruling will make this thread a moot point.

 

a good point, but;

 

not to disagree Bill, this is after all a place to exchange info and ideas.

 

But laws, rules, government, policies are just not real world. In the real word things happen all the time that are just not fair and there's no one who steps up to the plate to be our champions...regardless of what's fair, right, or should be. Or perhaps I am the only one who life has been unfair to despite what laws are out there to protect me

 

in the case of what a person does, says, or who knows about them at work, any advice given by me would take the conservative road.

 

There could be a case's where involving work with personal life would work out just fine...even great...and in those situations, I'd say go for it.

 

I wrote recently in this thread that I had lost a ten year relationship with a much trusted friend, who was also affiliated with me at work. This is someone who I trusted and loved like a brother for all that time. Just yesterday, that situation turned ugly as a result of him sharing personal information with a client of mine. I have already suffered personal embarassment...and may lose my profitable client. Shit happens.

 

Motive is the issue here, and there are reasons for things to go terribly wrong.  Money, position, pecking order and so forth at work leaves lots of motive.

 

I say be careful, be safe...and be ready to own whatever decisions you make brings you.

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We have never played with anyone from work but we did have a client answer an ad one time. Imagine his surprize when we answered the door! Another time, we ran into a neighbor at an on-premise club! In both cases, everything worked out well!

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In both cases, everything worked out well!

 

That's good to know. I imagine red faces all around for the first few minutes!

 

It is a concern of ours as we venture into this. I imagine sooner or later there'll be that awkward moment for us.

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I'd probably only consider playing with colleagues if they were already swingers. However, I just don't think sex should be an element in the workplace: few people have the ability to communicate well enough to avoid misunderstandings as it stands now.

 

I work with a high number of Europeans and the attitude of sex is far more relaxed. This means my building is like a Soap Opera at times. Rumors of who is screwing who gets around faster than who is being fired. The fact I know intimate details of some of coworkers because I'm friends with their girlfriend of the moment makes it difficult at times.

 

Overall, I just think it's a bad idea. Heck, I think dating in the work place is a bad idea too.

 

-- Bunny

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Swinging with co-workers of mine (single males) is how we got into swinging. Only when we first started we didn't know that what we were doing was swinging.

 

I must add though the co-workers we swung with were MFMs and they were about to leave our location because they were being transfered to a different location.

 

They turned out fine. If they didn't we wouldn't be members of this board. :lol:

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I have to relate this to y'all...

 

Today I was talking to our sexy, sassy office manager about one of our other branch offices and she mentioned that her counterpart there has nice big 'uns and in fact has been featured in Maxim magazine.

 

She pulled up the pictures (PG rated) and we had a look at this vision of loveliness. As I was leaving, she was still looking and said, "Man that's a nice ass." Joking around, I asked, "So are you into girls?"

 

Her reply? "Only if they're into my husband." I looked her in the eye, smiled and said, "Sometime we'll have to talk."

 

I've had a feeling about them for a while and now I'm about ready to ask Mr. Alura's favorite question: "So, how do y'all feel about swinging?" I think the answer could be quite interesting. ;)

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This thread really struck a chord. At the present time, we live in a small town. There are three major employers and all are government related. We have been in this lifestyle for about 2 years, but have not played very much simply for the fact that my hubby doesn't want to run into playmates at work. He has always said, what if it didn't work out. He would have to see these people everyday.

 

I just don't think it is a very good idea to play with people from work because of the petty arguments and issues that can come up. Who knows what might affect that next promotion. Hopefully, once we move, it will be a lot different.

 

Bigger town, lots more employers. :kissface:

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It's early in the poll, but at this time, a resounding HELL NO is winning!! My answer may be different if I weren't the business owner.. so would I swing with an employee/co-worker - HELL NO !!

 

A better question for me would be... what would I do if I found that 2 of my employees were swinging with each other??

 

No idea... :nono:

V

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Work is work, I keep it separate from any other thing I do. This is no exception! So no is the definite answer. :nono:

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I've always thought it best to separate work from play, and try not to inter-mingle the two, ie. a fallout at either place could have serious reprocussions down the line. (This may fall under the don't shit where you work rule too!)

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I did it twice years ago.

 

My assistant manager and I went out on the town with the wives. It was really the first time either of us had spent any time at all with the other's wife.

 

He and his wife were a little older than us and probably much more experienced in this sort of thing. My wife and I had only one prior swinging experience a couple of years prior and she had been very apprehensive of doing anything again.

 

Anyway we bar-hopped, drank, and danced until it was quite late. Mostly dancing with each other's wife. I could tell that my wife was really enjoying herself with the man and I was seriously enjoying the other wife.

 

I was elated when my wife suggested going to our house and even more elated when the four of us wound up skinny dipping in our pool.

 

It wasn't long before the other wife suggested that she and I go back to the bedroom for some privacy. About the time she and I were in the middle of orally enjoying and exploring each other's naked bodies, my wife came in upset. Seems she sobered enough to have remorse and had stopped the other husband just prior, I suppose, to having intercourse.

 

Anyway, really bad ending to a really fun evening. The next Monday at work was really uncomfortable and it wasn't long before he found a reason to resign. Too bad, because he was a good assistant manager and she was a really neat lady too.

 

The second time was with a salesman who worked for me and a really good friend too. Same scenerio about bar-hopping, drinking, and dancing. We'd made some silly bets and one had the loser, his wife, to agree to giving a blow job. So, in the back seat of our car on the way back home she gave it to him.

 

The other bet was between the guys and the gals and the losers had to dance, nude, for the winners. The gals had lost that one. So when we got to our house the gals began to strip and dance. And, to my delight, my wife was in front of my friend and his wife was in front of me. At that time my wife and I had agreed to, if we did anything at all, only soft swing. So, after the dancing we enjoyed everything except intercourse with the other's spouses.

 

It was a little uncomfortable at work but I thought it was going to be OK. I didn't suggest doing it again and, even though I'd have loved too, didn't think we should.

 

Turns out that he called my wife several times wanting to have sex again. She just didn't really want to so that ended that. We remained friends and coworkers for years afterwards so I guess I'd have to say that this time it turned out reasonably well. I don't know how it might have been if my wife would have wanted to swing with them again but I sure would have liked to.

 

So, I guess my experience is one and one. I'd have to say that the 50/50 risk just wasn't worth the bad outcome of the one.

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I voted HELL NO, but I would say that if it came up that one of our co-workers (as in PEERS, not superiors or employees) was into the lifestyle - and I mean seriously into the lifestyle, had a very mature outlook, a few years experience, a sense of discretion, and a great marriage - we might consider it. But there's about a 0.001% chance that this would happen. Why? Because one thing we've learned is that people change, and circumstances change. People get promoted/demoted all the time, and somebody ends up working for their swing partner. People develop an inoperable tumour and suddenly they feel they must confess their sins before they die. They "get religious" and they feel they must strike a blow for "righteousness" by outing the people they used to play with. Extreme examples, but you get the idea. There are too many variables.

 

This is why we don't play with people we a) work with, b) live on the same street with, or c) even in the same TOWN with. Kingston is a much smaller world than you might think. It's population keeps on growing (we even have rush hour traffic now! :D ), but I've received emails from lots of single young guys wanting to play...then say that they're Queen's students. Uh...no way. Would we swing with someone who worked in a completely unrelated department at Queen's? Maybe...under the right circumstances. Would we swing with one of the students? Not a chance. I totally buy into Murphy's Law; as soon as we had sex with them, we'd find out the student had one or more classes within my department. :rollseyes I'm in a position that has access to students' marks, which suddenly puts me in a very awkward position with my employer. Not to mention legally. So. Student = no play. And I don't care if they SAY they're never taking a class in my department, that student is there a minimum of 4 years. Sorry, but I just don't trust anyone to hold themselves to a promise like that.

 

See? Way too complicated.

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Well, I'm not horribly secretive about my lifestyle, at work or otherwise. I don't go around announcing it to everyone, but if asked I'm very straight forward and honest. I could really give a rats petooty what people think :lol:.

 

For my wife and I, our very FIRST experience was with one of my coworkers. She was a bi-sexual female, and we had a fabulous threesome. An no, this didn't cause any work-related complications. Since then there have been several times where I've been interested in a coworker (and spouse, where applicable). I've even expressed this interest on occassion. Nothing ever came of it, but I never experienced any reprocussions for making my interest known, either (I guess I just have one of those non-threatening personalities :D).

 

So yes, I would (and have) swing with a coworker. However, if I were the business OWNER... I would only do it if it were someone whom I had known for quite sometime BEFORE they became an employee, and even then I would also prefer to have had a (good) SWINGING history with them.

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An odd scenario just came up for us. We arrived home from a kids christmas party tonight to find that someone had added us to their MSN. No problem there. :)

 

They also sent us an e-mail stating that they had seen our profile in a local swingers site and wondered if we would be interested. They inculded pics and asked us to let them know. Still,no problem (and yes,we are interested :D ).

 

Here's where things get a little more interesting. They live in a small town nearby that also happens to be a major operation point for the company I drive for. After taking a good look at the pics, I think (but am not positive) that I've seen him driving one of our trucks.This wouldn't bother us (could make next year's Christmas party more interesting). Just quite ironic, I think. :lol:

 

I'm curious. Has this happened to anyone here before? Any thoughts would be welcome.

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Oh, like finding out the neighbors, that my wife and I drool over, have an ad on SLS? Too bad for us neighbors are off limits. Not to mention he is a client at my work. Sigh..

 

Maybe I can quit and move... :D

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What a Relief!

 

We met this new couple for coffee last night. Nice,down to earth, attractive and not at all pushy. What more could you ask for. :D

 

Thankfully, while he has buisness ties to my employer, he doesn't work for the same company I do. He just looks like a few of the guys I work with. So that opens a few doors of opprotunity :cool: .

 

We're looking forward to our next meet. They are more experienced in the lifestyle than we are and are more than willing to take it easy and not scare us off. They even know where the swinger activities are in our area. Which is great,considering we didn't know there were any up here.

 

A big door seems to have opened for us. Now let's see where it leads to. ::P:

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My wife works for a very big company with an office here locally that employs thousands of people. Turns out that the husband of one couple we've played with works there on another floor, and there is another guy that she keeps seeing and always gives her a sly smile that she is sure we know through the Lifestyle, she just can't place him yet.

 

So, yah, it happens. I think the bigger the company the bigger the chance of it happening.

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There were a couple of people we considered, but now that we have put some thought into it. It would have not been the greatest idea. One of the people we considered was a bit dysfunctional and has a very big mouth. Thank goodness it never happened!

 

Oddly enough, there are a lot people who are willing to play where I work. The only is... it isn't swinging it is more like cheating. You work with these people on a daily basis and then you find people, husbands or wives, who are not happy in there relationship. So the next thing you know they are talking to you about messing around.

 

We as a couple don't necessarily hide our lifestyle, but we don't wear a shirt promoting it either. We keep an open mind with everyone we talk too! It just depends on whether we trust them or not.

 

Now the question is would we consider it, "Yes we would", with extreme caution.

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For whatever reason, the job tends to be a "horn-dog's dream". Officers, both male and female, usually end up engaged in some sort of affair. Unless it's an abuse of authority or involves officers who work together, I'm really in no position to object (at least formally).

 

I do not partake in the "perks of the job", which has ended up with me being labeled a "prude". If only they knew...

 

There has been this 23-year-old woman who has been trying her damnest to get into my pants, much to Amelia's amusement.

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      Hi out there. I’m married and in an evolving relationship. Last year I did a burlesque photo shoot for him as a gift. He loved the way it turned out but asked if I’d be willing to do something more risqué in the future. I got a reference from the original photographer (female) and told my husband the new photographer would be a male. Being the protective husband he is we both requested a meeting over a cup of coffee. We met which was great and made things all the more comfortable. I loved what I saw from his book and my husband did as well. 
       
      We had the shoot and the pictures came out great. He got really turned on by knowing another guy was doing the pictures. I was shocked. I asked him if he’d consider doing a couples shoot with me and he said he’d try but was reluctant. Pretty soon after he agreed and we were off again.
       
      Prior to the shoot my husband and the photographer talked about his career. My husband, who’s faithful, shocked me a bit with his envy and open talk about what the photographer experienced. I’m extremely open and joined in the conversation. Both of us felt like we were conversing with someone we really liked and knew a lot longer than we actually did. Unfortunately my husband had difficulties getting hard which is completely out of the ordinary. The photographer said it happened a lot and just to relax. 
       
      Surprisingly at my husband's request he asked for me to do a POV shoot the photographer showed us in his book. Basically it’s the photographer including himself in various ways while taking the pictures. As we started taking the pictures I liked being touched by the photographer even though it wasn’t active foreplay or sex. It really was strictly for the pictures themselves. During the pictures my husband quickly got hard and watched. Eventually the photographer asked him if he was going to get involved. The rest of the shoot went as we planned. Afterwards we all sat around and talked and went through the pictures.
       
      Some time passed again and we talked a lot about the fun we had with it. My husband admitted he liked watching the photographer touch me and if not for that he may have been to nervous to get hard. 

      I really want this to develop further but I’m apprehensive because it’s a major change in life obviously. I’m also not sure about how I feel about seeing him with someone else. When I say I’m not sure I mean most likely not. I don’t even really think he wants to. I almost feel like if I bring that up it will be too much too fast. Multiple times when having sex we’ve dirty talked about me doing another shoot and giving myself up. I’d feel more comfortable to actually do it than talk about it. 
       
      I feel like my husband has opened a door that I want to walk into. Am I reading it wrong? Is it best for me to just set something else up and let it work itself the way it will? Based on our interactions I have no doubt the photographer would be into it also. Would I be going to far given our relationship if I reached out to the him and told him how I feel, how my husband feels, and confirm he’d say yes? 
       
       
    • By TricianMike
      Michael and I continue to see a therapist both together and separately. Over the years we have both become more open to telling her what experiences and feelings we have with others and the reasons we enjoy others. I will never know what he tells her in his private sessions though I am very open in our joint meetings.

      We have told her that we post some of our experiences on a swingers site, it’s more me posting, Michael doesn’t post anymore. She asked if I embellish my posts because many post on sites about fantasies more than realities. I think I post real feelings as best as I can but I know what she means that posting has an excitement factor like reliving an event. Others will post something they wished they did almost as if they did it. 
      Michael and I were very hesitant to open up to our therapist our alternative lifestyle thoughts when we first met her. I opened up first in my private meetings and then only in a broad way with no specific acts. I didn’t think she would understand what we were doing or how she would judge me. Therapy was to take away my odd feelings which ended up adding to my thinking my actions were odd. Once getting over my fears of opening up my deep thoughts it has freed up anxiety of enjoying.

      I think I have a healthier outlook now that I have freed myself of worrying what others think and what a therapist thinks. Our joint sessions are now very freeing allowing me to express my feelings to Michael and understanding his feelings.

      How open are others? Do others discuss true feelings to a partner? Are you honest to a therapist? 
    • By uran_690101
      My wife and I are contemplating swinging. I really enjoy performing anilingus and cunilingus on my wife, and I would be willing to do both on other women. I am wondering if these practices are accepted within the swinging lifestyle.
    • By Rock n Tits
      My wife, Tits, worked for a medium-sized company. It had the owner/president, Vice President COO, General Manager, and Vice President of Sales, her boss, Nick. Recently a fifth person., the DOD Sales Manager, had left the company. I will let Tits what happened...
       
      Nick had put me in for the position.  When I got to work today, Nick called me into his office and said he told the management team wanted to interview me. They wanted to meet me tonight after work  at The Meeting Room. This was an upscale restaurant downtown in the tallest building in our little city. I was very excited because it was so swank!!

      Nick told me later to go home and get ready for tonight's interview. He told me to wear a white blouse and black slacks but to dress to impress. I got home, showered, trimmed, and picked out my clothes. I picked a purple pair of thong underwear along with a sheer camisole with no bra. I have DD tits and they looked great in my cammy. I picked out a white, but not too business, blouse but left the top three buttons undone for cleavage. The slacks were my best silk pants. Just long enough to be perfect with my heels.
       
      On my way to the restaurant I called my hubby to explain what was going on and I have a chance to get a management position that paid six figures. He was excited and told me I had earned this opportunity and to knock‘em dead!!!
       
      I arrived at the meeting room and was excited. We had never been here before and I was told it was very expensive. I walked through the door and was surprised that it was a very large bar and dining hall but upstairs there were five doors.
       
      Nick came from the bar and told me I looked great and told me we were meeting with the inner circle of upper management . They were Hal Greene, owner and President; Bill Whaley,VP; Randy Cline, Chief Operations Manger; Nick; and myself. Nick had been DOD Sales Manager for 10 years and I have been his assistant for seven years.
       
      After getting into the private room upstairs, the waiter brought in some sparkling water and a nice bottle of Dom on ice. After the waiter left and we settled in to the interview I was told this position was considered a management position and paid $80,000 a year plus bonuses. This position was level with Nick but I would work very closely with him until I learned the ropes.
       
      Hal then spoke up and told me I was the number one candidate and that the team felt very comfortable with me but had to be assured that I could move in step with the others. This was to show the non inner circle management and the other 153 employees that as a manager team we are are a solid wall and we move as one. Many of the deals we make are confidential and what happens here must stay here even from our family. "Can you do that Debbie (my real name)?" Hal asked. I told them I would do what ever it takes. "Fantastic," said Hal and they clapped. He said, "Get the waiter and let’s eat and drink!!"
       
      After a fantastic meal we opened the champagne and had many drinks. We soon got to business and started to discuss contracts. About a half an hour later the room seem to get warm. Hal stood first, checked the thermostat, and then removed his dress shirt and hung it on a chair, followed by Randy, Bill, and Nick. I sat for a minute, then stood and removed my blouse and hung it on chair, the management team moving as one. Bill said don’t call a repair guy, we are almost done. 15 minutes later Randy got up and removed his slacks and hung them on a chair. He was followed by the rest of the guys, so I stood up and followed suit. Looking at Nick I could tell he was nicely hung as were the others, but Hal was wearing briefs and it looked like he was hiding a squirrel in his shorts! I was sure they were looking at my g-string now wet!! They soon removed their undershirts and I my cammy and was now topless with very hard nipples and even more wet!!!!  
       
      After a few more drinks Hal stood up and removed his briefs and stood before me with a huge veiny cock. He took my hand and turned me around and pulled down my g-string and sat me down on his huge cock. The rest of the team gathered in front of me playing with huge tits and stroking themselves and cumming on my face tits and stomach!!! I came sooo hard when Hal suddenly exploded inside of me, it felt great!! A
       
      s I sat there Nick brought me a warm towel and help me clean up. After we got dressed the team clapped and welcomed me to the inner circle. Hal came over and told me I was to receive the sign on bonus of $2,500 cash tonight. And on my first check in my new position I will get another $2,500 and I will be getting a salary of $100,000 per year plus bonuses and a company credit card as I will be traveling a lot with the sales team.
       
       I told my hubby I was getting a $2,500 sign on bonus.… wait until he reads this 🙀.   Tits!!
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