Porn while playing - Yes or No?

[fun4Ds 1,098]

I was thinking of a time while recently playing with some friends. We were all in the bed messing around a bit and our friends had a porno on the tv. I noticed the other guy was looking at the screen a lot but I found it. well, kinda distracting. So I asked to turn off the t.v. and put on some music instead.

 

No biggy, but it just got me thinking. We could watch porn by ourselves and never did see the end of the movie before humpin' like wild. Do most people like porn while playing with others? Not in the foreplay, but while you're actually down to business. Or would you prefer music?

[BiloxiCouple 695]

We would prefer music in the play areas and if you need porn them put it in a common area or a room/area to itself. Pretty simple.

[lovedoctor 15]

Music

[Mr. Better Half 17]

Silence is golden! But if I had to choose, it would be music.

[The Fuse 1,012]

Definitely music. We were playing two weekends ago when our friends suggested some porn. I'm not opposed to porn, and thought what the hell, it might be fun. But once it was on and I looked at it a little, it just made me laugh. Does this happen to anyone else?

 

Later, Mr. Fuse told me my moaning was drowning out the porn anyway . I'd much rather watch him with the other lady facelick than watch porn on the TV. Silence is fine too, but music can add something to the atmosphere.

[Lovinlife59912 17]

Isn't the reason that your having sex in the same room/bed is so you can watch your partner enjoy him or herself? I would think porn at that point would take away from it.

 

Music is always nice to have in the background.

[havefuninsun 122]

Lovinlife59912 said:

Isn't the reason that your having sex in the same room/bed is so you can watch your partner enjoy him or herself?

 

LIVE Porn!!!

 

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Yes, LIVE Porn is where it's at. Good music is just gravy.

[BorisNatasha 63]

Have never had this happen when we are with friends (we stick to music or just the sounds of each other), but it's always on at the clubs we've been to. It's kinda like background static, I don't really notice it or pay attention to it. There's too much going on in the room to pay attention to the television.

[sexyshelby 19]

I agree, porn would just be a little distracting. It could be good to help start things off. Music is good... But, the live porn starring your SO...that would be best!

[Spoomonkey 421]

Who needs porn?

 

Music if we have to have something (seems kind of a natural when we play at home) but otherwise, nothing...

[intuition897 2,179]

Music. Definitely. I sometimes find even silence distracting, but music is really nice to have in the background. No heavy metal or rock; just ambient sounds. Enigma is good humpin' music.

[magnum 78]

I am OK with either, the couple I play with puts on a porn video when we are at their house, they came over to my place for our last play date and I put music on.

[Lovinlife59912 17]

Enigma is good humpin' music.

 

Intuition897 you have excellent taste in music I must say.

[cumhungrycouple 15]

I wouldn't even notice if there was porn on, too busy doing and watching my wife and others

 

Only exception if the camcorder was filming us all live and it was being played live. Like to show my best side to the camera

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

The only porn we like watching is what we see in the mirrors.

[Chicup 41]

I'm going to have to go against the grain here, but while not required, I've found a porn does tend to 'get the party' going and get everyone in the right fram of mind. Good porn with high production values of course

 

We then tend to get a kick out of how the porn tends to be tamer than whats going on in the room too.

[Darkane 18]

My idea of a good time:

 

1. Turn the porn on.

2. Turn the volume on the tv off.

3. Turn music on.

4. Take the clothes off.

5. Start having sex.

 

Simplicity is beautiful. heh.

 

Honestly, there could be a marching band going through my cranium while I was having sex and I wouldn't get distracted.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

Oh, we love a good quality porn, don't get us wrong. At times it is on when we club and me likey. But it just seemed like this guy was watching more of the tv than the pile we had going on. Mrs fun feels like hey, you gonna fuck or watch tv?

[davidnjoy 15]

We find that porn in the beginning can help get things started. Though by the time everything is in full swing it's just background noise and I will usually turn it off and switch to music. No set rules though, but that's what I find happens when we host. I do like the idea of turning the porn on without the sound and also turning on the music. I think I'll give that a try!

[Darkane 18]

fun4Ds said:

Oh, we love a good quality porn, don't get us wrong. At times it is on when we club and me likey. But it just seemed like this guy was watching more of the tv than the pile we had going on. Mrs fun feels like hey, you gonna fuck or watch tv?

 

Understandable. The porn is fun, but yeah, why fixate on the porn when you have the real deal right in front of you. lol

 

I love that you said "me likey" lol

 

davidnjoy, it really is better that way, just make sure the music fits the action.

[sereneiders 263]

I have to say I like porn, but anyway wouldn't mix it with swinging, at least not right in THAT moment nor right before that.

 

Unless being a product well devised for this sort of scenarios (which could exist but I didn't saw anything like this, except perhaps with true amateur home made movies, and perhaps European movies made in the 70's that are pretty much amateur like), today porn is grounded on models, both for the physical aspect the actors/actresses have, and for the activities they engage into, at last, they follow the lead of what society (most males) likes to watch and avoid what they dislike to watch (e.g. wearing condoms) and end up imposing a view of the sexuality that doesn't have to do with the real sexuality. This may trigger anxiety on the attendants to the meeting, beyond the proposed turn on: from competitive feelings to a reminder of insecurities (for example, about your body, not being the TV model, performance issues, and so). Even when not enough to ruin the night, this anxiety may make the experience less enjoyable to someone, and precisely because of the fear to admit insecurities (moreover if they doesn't know the other people involved), they may prefer not to tell and let the movie roll.

 

So, unless all the attendant knows well enough each other as to ensure they can deal with this eventual issues, I believe it's a bad idea. Or at least, something to think about when choosing to watch porn.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Music.  Not too loud either.  We've been to clubs where they had porn playing, and that was ok, but didn't really seem like anyone was paying attention to it either.  Sort of like the tv news on with the volume off at the doctor's office. It's there, but nobody really paying attention to it.

[enhancer 1,584]

We enjoy music on in the background when we are playing!  Big fans of electro industrial and big beat when it comes to play time for the upbeat tempo.  Don’t care if there is porn on in the background with the volume off.  We are going to be to occupied to notice anyways.

[Idahocouple6969 294]

We have a bluetooth speaker that we call our sex speaker. Mrs Idaho doesn't like porn. I'm good with either. 

[Anon321 521]

We don't care if porn is on or not.  But if it is on we will almost never be watching it as we are focused on what we are actually doing.

[let's do it again 414]

We both prefer music over porn anytime. I have been with women in a mfm that want mfm porn playing. I don't know if it is to give them a idea how to do certain positions or what. Give me some good fast paced funk or gangster rap to listen to, no country or love songs.

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

My wife and I attended a (now, unfortunately, closed) swinger club that in one of the common areas would always have porn playing via a projection camera onto a bare wall. Sort of a mood setter I guess. Outside of some physical flirtation, we never played in that room though.

 

When we've been playing outside of a swinger club, we've never had a TV on, nor had music on either. Just hasn't come up. If I had to choose, I'd say no to the TV 100%, and sort of ok with the music, depending on the music playing.

Very old resurrected thread. Good one though

[Numex 2,409]

On 4/5/2006 at 6:05 PM, havefuninsun said:

Yes, LIVE Porn is where it's at. Good music is just gravy.

What about live music? 

Edited May 7, 2023 by Numex

[SheernylonCpl 38]

On 4/11/2006 at 11:53 AM, Darkane said:

My idea of a good time:

 

1. Turn the porn on.

2. Turn the volume on the tv off.

3. Turn music on.

4. Take the clothes off.

5. Start having sex.

 

Simplicity is beautiful. heh.

 

Honestly, there could be a marching band going through my cranium while I was having sex and I wouldn't get distracted.

This is the order of things in our swing group too. The porn seems to get things motivated for all

[ConfusedHubby 118]

Occasional porn for the wife and I, but when we're having a lifestyle adventure, we'd much rather be present and focused on that...  If anything, make our own porn!

 

They play it at some of the parties we've been to, but it does nothing for me and it's pretty much there on general principal.

[couplers 4,614]

On 4/5/2006 at 4:21 AM, fun4Ds said:

put on some music instead.

 

No biggy

Music is ok, but No Biggy is not one of my favorite rappers.

[SheernylonCpl 38]

Another thing we do is that we put on a live sex show with two or three of us in middle of room to some music and let the others enjoy and relax and enjoy the view and then the gradually take part

[couplers 4,614]

On 6/16/2023 at 9:38 PM, SheernylonCpl said:

Another thing we do is that we put on a live sex show with two or three of us in middle of room to some music and let the others enjoy and relax and enjoy the view and then the gradually take part

Has it ever been where one of you is in the middle of the room putting on a sex show while the other is one of the spectators?  That would be hot.

[timmy7tid 0]

no

[timmy7tid 0]

In my experience, music is often a safe choice because it creates a mood without being distracting. The real key, though, is communication with everyone involved to make sure the atmosphere is comfortable and enjoyable. If exploring adult content is something you or your friends are interested in, websites like HDPorn.Video offer a wide variety of options. However, it's always a good idea to check in with everyone to see what they’re comfortable with during these moments.

[couplers 4,614]

On 4/11/2006 at 4:53 AM, Darkane said:

4. Take the clothes off.

5. Start having sex.

 

Simplicity is beautiful.

That's my routine, especially during the week.  I'm a busy woman, sometimes not even all the clothes come off.  It can be satisfying when I'm bent over, skirt thrown up (I don't wear underwear), hands underneath my shirt, dick inside.  Efficient. 

 

Only occasionally do I have the luxury of wallowing in sex.

 

 

Edited November 7 by couplers

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,383]

We generally swing with a group of 3 to 4 couples, and even though we're all seasoned swingers some folks find porn offensive so music it is.

 

Even when it's a mfm at home it's still music.  We sort of feel like if there are actual naked bodies within reach then nobody should be paying attention to porn anyway.

[PeterJ 940]

About 18 years ago, the first time I played with a particular couple (who I’m still friends with) I came to their house. They arranged their guest very nicely for the occasion and she was dressed provocatively.
 

We were making small talk and the husband asked if I wanted him to put on some porn. I politely declined, but in my head I was thinking "In a few minutes I’m going to have my cock in your wife’s pussy up to my balls. I really don’t need to watch video sex when she’s sitting next to me." (She was great and I enjoyed having her husband watch us.)

[couplers 4,614]

On 11/7/2024 at 2:39 PM, PeterJ said:

About 18 years ago, the first time I played with a particular couple (who I’m still friends with)

I'm curious, why did the sexual relationship among you end?

 

On 11/7/2024 at 2:39 PM, PeterJ said:

(She was great and I enjoyed having her husband watch us.)

Sounds perfect.  Did he ever take sloppy seconds?  How did that make you feel, alpha?  Did you like watching that?

 

And did you ever play with her alone?  When my husband or boyfriend played/plays without me watching, my imagination makes it as exciting as when I'm there.  If I were her husband, I would encourage occasional meet-ups between you two for my own perverted thrill. 

 

 

Edited November 9 by couplers

[AdamGunn2 393]

2 hours ago, couplers said:

When my husband or boyfriend played/plays without me watching, my imagination makes it as exciting as when I'm there.  If I were her husband, I would encourage occasional meet-ups between you two for my own perverted thrill. 

 

 

For me, it was different. I loved watching my wife play with another man. But when she soloed - not a frequent thing - I didn't particularly care. It didn't act as an aphrodisiac for me. I wanted to hear if she had a good time when she got home, but her description of what they'd done didn't do much for me. 

 

Perhaps it was because she was very experienced as a swinger/hotwife, and she had so many men - one more experience with a guy she'd been with before was a big so-what for me. (She only soloed with a new lover once, and that was a very strange, but understandable, circumstance. And even that didn't turn me on that much.)

[PeterJ 940]

3 hours ago, couplers said:

I'm curious, why did the sexual relationship among you end?

 

Sounds perfect.  Did he ever take sloppy seconds?  How did that make you feel, alpha?  Did you like watching that?

 

And did you ever play with her alone?  When my husband or boyfriend played/plays without me watching, my imagination makes it as exciting as when I'm there.  If I were her husband, I would encourage occasional meet-ups between you two for my own perverted thrill. 

 

 

It never was a big thing, Petra. Our sexual interludes were widely spaced temporally. Our friendship is based on other shared interests and is not particularly close, though they are lovely people. Nope, never any Alpha exultation. I’m not into power relationships; I like the feel of meeting my partners on equal ground. I enjoyed the exhibitionistic aspect of having him watch, but I would have preferred having him join as an active participant. 

 

I never played with her separately and he never did more than watch the two of us. He was firm about no fluid exchange, so I always wore a condom when we fucked. She gave excellent head, but we never took it to completion. Also a pity that he didn’t also fuck her bareback because she once told me his ejaculations were voluminous. I do love me some sloppy sex.😉

[couplers 4,614]

21 hours ago, AdamGunn2 said:

her description of what they'd done didn't do much for me. 

While we are different in our reaction, this I agree with.  Initially when David or Red played without me present, I pressed them for details with the hope that they would tell tales that would pain me with jealousy and excite me with the desire to prove my adequacy.  It was uniformly disappointing.  It was better for me to take what I did see with those who allowed me to watch then let my imagination extrapolate with them and others.

[couplers 4,614]

20 hours ago, PeterJ said:

I never played with her separately and he never did more than watch the two of us. He was firm about no fluid exchange, so I always wore a condom when we fucked. She gave excellent head, but we never took it to completion. Also a pity that he didn’t also fuck her bareback because she once told me his ejaculations were voluminous. I do love me some sloppy sex.😉

A story that started so well leaves me disappointed in evey aspect of its conclusion.  That is the difference between life and fiction.

 

As I said in my previous post, I will leave what actually happened to my imagination - the solo play where condoms were never used, the way she swallowed your ejaculate, the overly sloppy seconds MFMs...

 

 

Edited November 10 by couplers

[Numex 2,409]

On 11/9/2024 at 7:42 AM, AdamGunn2 said:

her description of what they'd done didn't do much for me. 

Daniela doesn't always go into details, but when she does she is usually trying to get me excited so she can have a round 2, and we do. Sort of reclaiming in reverse, showing that despite her other activities, I'm still the one, her husband, father of our child and what she's doing doesn't change that.

[Baconheads 431]

Back to the topic of porn during non monogamous sex...  I was with a hotwife one time, and the hubby left us alone to get better acquainted before the actual play began, and left a porn video on. My first response to her was, "I don't think we really need that..."  She agreed.  I was more into getting to know her before progressing to the next level. That next level is never a guarantee.  Always play your cards wisely no matter how good things are looking. (and things were looking very good at that point)

[couplers 4,614]

Michelin star restaurants don't have The Food Network playing on a TV to prepare their guests for the meal.

[Half MT 217]

On 11/13/2024 at 7:31 AM, couplers said:

Michelin star restaurants don't have The Food Network playing on a TV to prepare their guests for the meal.

There is house music before bands come on to the stage. 
Nice restaurants serve an Amuse-Bouche to amuse the mouth before serving the real meal. 

[couplers 4,614]

1 hour ago, Half MT said:

There is house music before bands come on to the stage. 
Nice restaurants serve an Amuse-Bouche to amuse the mouth before serving the real meal. 

Both those things are real, not a video. 

 

More interesting are real couples having real sex on display to amuse the mind before getting down to it yourself.