What is the monetary cost of swinging for you?

[northindycpl 32]

It seems Mr. Indy and I have been going out a lot more than usual and it is getting expensive.

 

Example:

(Saturday night)

Drinks $22.00

Dinner $85.00

Liquor/mixes/wine for club $68.00

Door Fees $50

Hotel room $125.00

Breakfast $22.00

 

Saturday evening cost us $342.00 not to mention the gas for the SUV that we drive was probably another $25.

 

That is what we spent last Saturday. We have gone out every Saturday in March and spent approximately the same amount. (give or take a hotel room)

We don't play everytime we go out, and we don't get a room every time we go out. But I have begun to see it really add up.

 

Mr. Indy and I had a thought about renting a 2 bedroom apartment for the year, and split it among our group. We could all sorta be the renters of it. We could share the expense, etc.. We have some very, very nice ones in great little buildings for about $400 per month, including basic utilities. What more would we need put food and I am sure I have enough furniture in my basement to fill it.

 

Has anyone ever thought of this, or tried this before? Has it worked? Is it a bad/good idea?

 

Should I just forget about it and chaulk it up to the cost of swinging?

[BiDrywallChick 18]

actually, we have done this before. We rented a small loft at the beach when we were in NC and split the rent with people that we knew would use the place. We did come out cheaper in the long run. For us it was a double bonus because as long as no one was already making use of it, we could also use it for more vanilla activities as well. Just be sure that it will be a financial bonus not burden in the long run.

[Vespertine 31]

 

Saturday evening cost us $342.00 not to mention the gas for the SUV that we drive was probably another $25.

 

That is what we spent last Saturday. We have gone out every Saturday in March and spent approximately the same amount.

 

If you're spending about $350. each Saturday night, you might want to think of renting a $400. appartment regardless if anyone chips in or not. You'll be saving about $1100. a month by doing so.

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

The cost is why we like having a local club where our only expense is a 6 pack, and club fees. If we meet a couple or single, the club has rooms so no hotel. Also, we strive to make friends not just have one time hits so at that point we have our friends to our house for dinner, drinks and whatever happens

 

Our biggest expense I guess comes from the internet meetings since you have to meet for drinks and/or dinner and usually more than once but other than that we try to go the way I mentioned above to eliminate some of the bigger more costly lifestyle expenses.

 

If you have a group of trusted friends I don't see why the apartment idea wouldn't work. I would just suggest really thinking it through and try to cover all the "what if's" before jumping into it.

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Vespertine 31]

Also, we strive to make friends not just have one time hits so at that point we have our friends to our house for dinner, drinks and whatever happens

That doesn't work out too well for those of us with young children at home.

 

I envy you, Spoomonkeys!

[BiDrywallChick 18]

That doesn't work out too well for those of us with young children at home.

 

I envy you, Spoomonkeys!

 

 

lol yup yup! We dont bring people to the house for that very reason. We have only 1 couple that we would ever have at the house. That is because we have known each other for 9 years almost. The kids know them as aunt and uncle. I wish they lived closer... damn military

[DBL D 120]

Well our boat (see "Hole In The Water") costs us $350.00/mo., whether we use it or not. If we take it out and burn fuel it's more than that.

 

northindycpl: maybe you should atart entertaining in your car.

 

Maybe there's a swinging couple who'd like to become partners in ownership of a boat.

 

But then again...There would always the scheduling of the craft. Well, maybe we'll just have to "use" it more often. facelick

 

Male D

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

You'll still end up going out to dinner before the club - however, you may save on drinks beforehand and breakfast in the morning. You may want to think about cheaper dinner options too. But even just based on getting a room a couple of nights a month, if you split it with another couple or two it would be worth it... and it could be a lot of fun if you all got up and did breakfast togetehr at the apt on Sunday morning.

 

When I lived in MI, we had some friends we stayed with whenever we went to Detroit for a party or club (often the parties were at their place). We'd always stay there and all go out for breakfast saturday morning, but even if we'd stayed in, there was just always something fun about those Saturday morning brunches with a group of friends.

 

Basically, it could add a whole new level of fun to your weekends, and you would have it around for any other times you wanted to play if you prefer not to play at home.

 

But, really, if it's just about saving $$ I think that you could probably find other ways to cut your swinging budget.

 

Does your club hold bottles for you? (IE. can you leave your bottles of alchohol there for use the next time you go?), or do you basically have to buy fresh liquor every weekend (since most of us dont like carrying open containers around in our cars). I know some clubs do this and some don't.

[JnCC 24]

It seems Mr. Indy and I have been going out a lot more than usual and it is getting expensive.

 

Example:

(Saturday night)

Drinks $22.00

Dinner $85.00

Liquor/mixes/wine for club $68.00

Door Fees $50

Hotel room $125.00

Breakfast $22.00

 

Saturday evening cost us $342.00 not to mention the gas for the SUV that we drive was probably another $25.

Well, drinks, dinner, and breakfast ($129) are all the cost of getting laid (if you're single) or taking your wife out for a night on the town (if you're married).

 

$125 for a hotel room seems kinda pricey. I typically pay a weekend rate between $60-80 and get some pretty decent rooms. Of course, the real answer is to attend clubs that will let you stay overnight.

 

As for liquor, if you're drinking up $68.00 worth of it in one evening, you don't need to pay for a hotel room or door fees. You're going to be spending most the evening wherever you happen to be when the booze hits you, most likely in the john...

[Botcpl 15]

It costs $ to have a good time.

 

Ms Botcpl and I can easily go through $ 80-100 for dinner & drinks for just the two of us.

 

Second homes, like boats, are only worth it if you use them. Out here, a one bedroom apartment would run about $850/mo or more. The nice things about boats is you can move your apartment around.

 

P

[northindycpl 32]

Does your club hold bottles for you? (IE. can you leave your bottles of alchohol there for use the next time you go?), or do you basically have to buy fresh liquor every weekend (since most of us dont like carrying open containers around in our cars). I know some clubs do this and some don't.

 

I wish they did! Clubs around here to my knowledge will not. In addition, my father-in-law (lives with us full time) is a recovering alcoholic and I don't bring booze into our house any more.

 

We end up donating what we don't drink to other couples, or throw it out at the end of the night. Ususally we get a bottle of wine and vodka/tonic or gin/tonic. I guess we could drink cheaper?

 

If we had water anywhere nearby, the boat Idea is good one!

 

I will keep looking into it!

[TNT 1,155]

No matter what kind of hobby it is, it can get expensive.

 

Ted and I used to spend a LOT of money traveling 2+ hours to the closest club around, it always entailed getting a hotel room and the food, gas, club fees, etc...We now only make it to the club a few times a year and spend most of our out-time at the local socials. Even with the socials being close enough that no room is required, it still gets expensive.

 

Unless we are meeting someome for dinner before the social, we will usually eat at home, then the only expense we have is our drinks for the night and the entry fee, which makes our night out less than about 60 bucks...if we are planning on playing the cost of a hotel room is added into that.

 

The room cost is what gets us the most as with children still living at home, can't bring people here, not to mention we live approximately an hour from both of the towns that the socials are held in and not many people would want to drive an hour after a night of partying to the boonies for some play.

 

If we had a permanent room somewhere we would get to play a lot more than we do now and have looked into different options. Our latest idea has been a camper and we have looked into getting one and setting it up permanently at one of the local camp grounds. The cost of the camper payment per month and camp ground fees would be cheaper than the cost of a room two nights a month. We still have made no decisions, but then again we're in no big hurry to either.

 

If you get creative you can find ways to cut costs and still have a wonderful time.

 

Teresa

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Ya know, I really want an RV and I think it could be the perfect answer to this....

[VegasLee 1,486]

An RV works perfect. We have a couple that is are good friends and they take their RV and travel all over the U.S. to swing clubs. If you get one Julie you can park it in my driveway.

 

Dinner $85 plus $22 in drinks plus another $68 for club drinks?

 

Laura and I go out to nice restraunts here in Vegas. Nice Mexican dinner with drinks, $28 total for the two of us. Nice prime rib dinner with drinks less then $40 for the two of us.

 

She drinks, I don't. We each have our place in all this. (I do the driving) Even what we take to the club costs about $20 for her and that lasts a few nights and she drinks nice rum.

[northindycpl 32]

Maybe I should buy cheaper wine? I have to say that it doesn't seem like we actually have that much booze, but when you look at what we spent, wow.

 

The $22 for the drinks before dinner was for my martini and a beer for the MR. Does that price seem too high to you guys?

 

I would love to do the RV thing. We have thought about renting one with another couple and traveling across the country going to clubs, and seeing the sites.

 

When the kids get older I guess.

[Spoomonkey 421]

The $22 for the drinks before dinner was for my martini and a beer for the MR. Does that price seem too high to you guys?

 

Wow...

 

And I crap my pants if I miss happy hour...

 

 

I see beers for up to four bucks and mixed drinks around 5-6... Either way - that's only ten bucks for a round...

 

People are going to pay what they are comfortable with, but for us, we enjoy Appleby's, Logan's and even Smokey Bones. Good food that doesn't cost an arm and a leg. We ate at Tony Roma's this weekend and it was a little higher than we are used to - and the food sucked... And not in a good way - more like a disinterested truck stop hooker with three teeth and a gut full of sleeping pills...

 

There are some great places - and even then, eating out is always kind of expensive. For us, though, we tell people flat out that we don't have the money or the desire to impress them - and then we suggest something more budget friendly.

 

But - there is nothing wrong at all with spending 22 bucks for drinks if you can afford it - like the restaurant - and want to do it. Enjoying yourself is what this is all about, right?

 

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

Ms Botcpl and I can easily go through $ 80-100 for dinner & drinks for just the two of us.

 

 

 

Wow!!! I hate to say it but either you guys live where there are no nice inexpensive restaurants or we are just really cheap.

 

I think the most expensive meal w/drinks we've had out for the two of us is about $50 and that's if we throw caution to the wind and get appetizers and a couple of drinks (beer for him and smirnoff etc. for me) We usually like places like Logan's steak house or Texas Roadhouse or On the Boarder for mexican.

 

When we go to the club it's free beer for Mr Spoo (he makes it on his weekend job so that's the least they can do ) although even when we buy it beer isn't that much and a 6 pack of smirnoff on sale is less then $10 so our drinking at the club is less than $20 maybe even $15.

 

I guess the bottom line is if you can afford it great, if not I think there are always ways to cut back. Choose a different type of drink, restaurant, etc. This should be fun not financially stressful.

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

We've got a get-to-know-you-and-see-if-we-click meeting set up for Sunday with a new couple.

 

We're meeting at Perkins.

 

I'm indulging in the $5.95 big breakfast special: 3 pancakes, 2 sausage links, hash browns, and 2 eggs - scrambled. Mr LM will have the same.

 

LM

[northindycpl 32]

We've got a get-to-know-you-and-see-if-we-click meeting set up for Sunday with a new couple.

 

We're meeting at Perkins.

 

I'm indulging in the $5.95 big breakfast special: 3 pancakes, 2 sausage links, hash browns, and 2 eggs - scrambled. Mr LM will have the same.

 

LM

 

 

You rock, LM! What a great idea!

[newgentry 17]

$22 for one round of drinks?? Yeah that seems VERY high to me.

[Botcpl 15]

It costs $ to have a good time.

 

Ms Botcpl and I can easily go through $ 80-100 for dinner & drinks for just the two of us.

 

P

 

Well, it is a nice place. That is basically what it costs, this is a jazz club so we're paying for more than the food. We could go to "Tommy's" (A hamburger place out here), but the candles keep getting blown out in the dinning room "the patio". I can feed the four of us for $20, but it ain't so romantic.

 

Drinks at hotels are very expensive, drinks at our yacht club are more realistic , $3.50 for well drinks, $4.50 for a Martini., $2.00 for draft beer, but the patio overlooking the marina is free.

 

P

[eager4more 15]

In articles/shows about swinging (ok, the more positive ones) they make a point to say that the swingers are solid middle class people, and then toss out some examples of their interviewee's professions, like "even doctors and bankers do it!" But don't they most often go to clubs to find these people, where the fees are ~$80 - $100 for the on premise clubs in big cities? Who else can afford that? And it takes a certain amount of money to be able to attend conventions and stuff. We have friends who go to clubs almost every weekend (off-premise, still expensive but not as much) and those who only go for special occasions. I think swinging is the same as most hobbies - the sky's the limit on how much you can spend, but as Mrs. Spoomoney said,

 

"I guess the bottom line is if you can afford it great, if not I think there are always ways to cut back. Choose a different type of drink, restaurant, etc. This should be fun not financially stressful."

[Vespertine 31]

It costs $ to have a good time.

 

Ms Botcpl and I can easily go through $ 80-100 for dinner & drinks for just the two of us.

Dito

 

That's about the normal price for us when we go out around here.

 

I think it's a matter of location.

[sensuality 2]

It all boils down to living within your means.

 

:rolleyes:Over the course of this last year and a half, I have bought a new outfit/shoes/and/or lingerie every month when we go out,I have now gotten to the point where I can rotate outfits.:lol:That can cost anywhere from $75-$150 or more.I figure by next year, I'll have to get some more things! However, I always buy new thongs for the occasion! facelick

Yes, it can/does get expensive.We usually pay $90-$125 for our room,then $10-$100 to get into whatever club of choice for that night.But, then the drinks are included at on-premise clubs so that takes care of that. Hmm. I'd say we spend about $3-400.00 when we go out for everything, but it's just one Saturday a month and we have so much fun.Right now, that's all we can swing due to babysitter issues, who knows what we'd spend if we had more time!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I think it is a matter of what you can afford. Some can barely afford to go to a club once a month (let alone go out to dinner first or get a hotel afterwards), while others can afford to go out every weekend and pay out a couple hundred for each outting.

 

At the same time, I've seen couples who really can't afford it but they have made swinging so much of a priority that they will forfeit other things that should be a higher priority in order to pay for it.

[C4CIN 18]

We meet at clubs and house parties most of the time- the membership is already there and the places we go serve dinner... No hotel needed then since we always go home (not empty nesters)... We find the cost to be what we spend for non swinging activities then... Love the breakfast idea!

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

How much will you pay for sex?

 

Since we began swinging a couple years ago it has turned out that we've always played on the first meet when we met a compatible couple. We've played with only a few couples and never expected to play on first meeting; it just happened that way.

 

Nearly everyone we've met lives 2 hours away. This means $50+ in gas, 1/2 hotel cost ($60+), drinks, maybe some dinner, club/bar entrance fees. It's always been fun and we have felt it was worth the money for a first meet that turned into swinging.

 

A few months ago Mr LM and I decided that we'd try not playing on the first meet, to see if that has some advantage. Reasons: On one occasion we probably wouldn't have played had we went home and took time to discuss some things that transpired during the meet, and with another couple we later found out that they felt things moved too fast (even though we've all continued to see each other) and so we wonder if more couples would prefer to wait until the second meet. The downside to this is cost.

 

We are traveling this weekend to meet a new couple and I just realized that if we wait until a second meet to swing (presuming we'll all want to swing) we will end up spending $300 to have sex! Our swing costs double with this wait-until-the-second-date approach. That's a lot of moolah for us.

 

The thought of this has put a damper on my outlook on swinging. It puts pressure on us to swing on the first meet, to have a hotel lined up when (if it turns out we're not compatible) we would prefer to drive home instead of staying overnight and incurring the cost of a hotel room that won't get used for swinging.

 

There are many reasons why we more often meet people out of town, but I won't go into those. Also, even if we are ready to jump in bed at this first meet, the other couple may prefer to wait, which still means big $$$ to play.

 

My questions: Do you take the cost of swinging into consideration when choosing playmates? How much influence does cost have? Do/Would the costs of swinging keep you from participating in the lifestyle?

 

LM

[DGrey 28]

We always keep the costs in mind. We are unable to entertain in our home even when we have outside babysitting for our daughter. We share a 3 family house with family and the walls are very thin. Kind of puts a damper on things.

 

Our first night out in the scene we were invited to a house party so there was no cost there except for the bar tab from the meet and greet. We don't frequent clubs so we don't incur those types of costs either.

 

We have a couple with whom we are close and most of the time, end up at their house. We recently met with a couple who were a little farther out that we'd normally travel but they had already extended the invitation to stay regardless of how the night progressed. It progressed just fine and breakfast the next morning was wonderful.

 

I couldn't see spending $300 to have sex though. We prefer to set up meetings with people who live close and can entertain because we can't. If we're invited into someone's home we always bring something and will pick up the bar/dinner tab though (assuming they let us).

 

E

[bear_and_babe 68]

Cost is one of the factors in our decision to keep our swing activities at swing clubs. I know a lot of people knock clubs, but we have found that it is more cost effective for us. If we go on a Friday night the cost is under $50. We tried the "one-on-one" dating and just got tired of getting stood up and all the hassle to set up a time and place to meet. And when we go to a club, even if we don't play Bear and I have a good time dancing, playing pool, hanging out in the hot tub and just being together. I know not everyone is into clubs or even have a club close by. I guess we are lucky that it only takes us 15 min. to get to ours.

[good times 991]

Well, if we have to travel real far then we have found that we just need to play multiple times in order to spread the cost out over several sex sessions. Therefore, the cost per sex session is lower than if we traveled a long way and only had sex once.

 

Seriously, we don't have to travel as far and spend as much as you do so it ends up working out to about the same cost as any other "night on the town" would cost for us. So it hasn't been much of a consideration so far.

[graygo98 148]

We haven't ever really thought much about the cost, except to marvel sometimes that you can have so much fun for often not that much money! God, dinner at a nice restaurant costs way more than a night at a club, and doesn't blow your hair back anywhere near the same.

 

But, then, we don't rack up the types of expenses LM was talking about. Not so much because of the money, though. We tend to avoid people from out of town because travelling seems to up the ante a lot, at least in our minds. If we and/or they are driving four hours or so to meet then it seems like the pressure to play would be there. We prefer to just get to know people on the first meet, with no pressure, no obligation.

 

Lucky we live in a pretty big town, I guess.

[EvilMJ 65]

How true LM, it can get pricey.

 

We like to go to the club - or hotel in this case, a room is probably $75.00, then there is babysitter that can be another $35-50.00. If you are drinking that can get costly, even if we bring drinks say $30.00. Did I mention the price of gas and a new outfit. The dance is $20.00. Wait even with those fees alone that's close to $150.00. It can costly but $300.00...umm..sorry never...I can't afford that at all.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

We have a couple with whom we are close and most of the time, end up at their house. We recently met with a couple who were a little farther out that we'd normally travel but they had already extended the invitation to stay regardless of how the night progressed. It progressed just fine and breakfast the next morning was wonderful.

This sounds like our dream! Finding couples within 45 minutes of us - who, like us, don't have children at home - would allow us to trade off playing in each other's homes.

 

Once we feel we will continue a relationship with a couple we are happy to invite them to our home to play, however we never do this on a first play.

 

I know not everyone is into clubs or even have a club close by. I guess we are lucky that it only takes us 15 min. to get to ours.

We only have a couple off-premise clubs that meet at a hotel once a month. With that there is still the cost of a hotel room. Also, when arranging a first meet with a couple from an ad site, trying to arrange to meet on that one date of the month the club meets has been difficult, and it's not usually the environment most couples would like to start with, including ourselves. We save the clubs for a night when Mr LM and I want to discover new people and say hello to other friends in the lifestyle whom we already know.

 

If we and/or they are driving four hours or so to meet then it seems like the pressure to play would be there.

Travel does place pressure on the meet, no matter how much both couples dislike pressure, it's there.

 

 

In our case we have been willing to travel because we have a very difficult time finding swingers either near our age or those open to meeting people our age - we're both in our fifties. Even though we are fit, attractive, and full of life, it does narrow the playing field considerably.

 

LM

[Tybee Swing 286]

[My questions: Do you take the cost of swinging into consideration when choosing playmates? How much influence does cost have? Do/Would the costs of swinging keep you from participating in the lifestyle?

 

The cost doesn't affect us participating overall, but it does affect how often we are able to!

 

There are no on-premise clubs anywhere near us. When we did go, it was the most expensive lifestyle thing we've done so far due to the distance, hotel, etc. etc. It was a big weekend hotel event. If we had a local club, I can see how this would be a great solution monetarily.

 

We meet and play with local couples. However, we've yet to be invited to anyone's home. We can't play at our home, due to family and discretion. I think many couples are in the same boat. By the time we eat out, have drinks, pay for a hotel and all of that, we are easily set back $150 or so -- and this is for local friends.

 

We've got medical bills and just won't strain the family budget, or put our play costs onto credit card debt, so we limit it due to cost.

[2jersey 16]

We can better rationalize the costs when we consider swinging as a form of entertainment – and an occasional substitute for our other entertainment options. Drinks and dancing, dinner and a movie, a ball game with peanuts and cracker jacks – they all entail costs. And we are conserving on some of these other entertainment costs by allocating part of our scarce entertainment time to swinging. So the incremental costs are not great.

 

Your secondary point is well taken, LM. Swinging is especially costly when you determine that you won’t play on the first date – double the costs, more-or-less. We decided at one point that we would try to screen partners pretty thoroughly before agreeing to meet, and we would decide in advance (by mutual agreement) whether play was even an option on the fist meet. As LM has alluded, there are pitfalls associated with rushing to play which are less easily rationalized than the added financial costs of having two meetings.

 

Unfortunately, the cost of two meetings in our NYC suburb are much higher than the $300 ($150 X 2) mentioned by LM (our hotel rooms run about $200, babysitters get $12 per hour and Martinis are $10 a pop, etc...). Fortunately, however, we don’t get too many opportunities to meet compatible people (or is that unfortunate?)

[NandTfromCA 84]

We can better rationalize the costs when we consider swinging as a form of entertainment...

Dito

 

We have talked about this and it's interesting when you add up everything...hotels, dinners, Hedo Trip, sexy clothes that will probably only be worn in a swing scene...

 

fuel in the car= $10

dinner= $60

1/2 of a hotel room= $75

spinning, pulsating, waterproof "toy"= $120

industrial sized container of lube= $20

sex with new found friends= PRICELESS!!!

(surprised nobody beet me to that)

[fun4Ds 1,098]

for us we have some close friends to play with ,dinner at their house and vice versa so thats cost effecient and fun. if we go out we dont figure on the date being expencive because we would have spent the dough any how, if they dont show or play its still an evening of fun, usally $100. bucks in gas ,drinks or clubs/. now what we have found is our favorite of all times group/club. its byb.50.00 for cabawabo or rum. 20 to get in and 10.00 for a very nice room with a private whirlpool/ bath. usally 15 couples and one hell of a nice place.just havent been fortunate to meet dynamar yet.

 

oops forgot to add in new shoes mrs.fun always needs new shoes

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

How much will you pay for sex?

 

My questions: Do you take the cost of swinging into consideration when choosing playmates? How much influence does cost have? Do/Would the costs of swinging keep you from participating in the lifestyle?

LM

 

 

LM, I'm sorry to say we don't have the same dilemma as you but we have considered the cost of swinging as it applies to our situations.

 

We belong to a local club (2 now ) which depending on the cost of the annual membership and weekend fees to get in can get a little pricey by themselves. The one we recently joined was twice the cost of our regular one which is why it has take a year to check it out.

 

At the club we have played on the first night of meeting someone if the chemistry is there. It's a little different because there isn't the pressure of hotels and hours of driving to meet a second time. So if we play it's just because everyone wants too.

 

We don't have people to our house until we have met them at least once (on line - then dinner or drinks) or met and/or played at the club. Ideally we are looking to have local friends that we can do things with and have the benefit of playing occasionally, that way we wouldn't even need to do the club we could just get together at each others houses.

 

In final answer to your question the money is a big consideration for us. As I indicated with the club fees plus we take our own alcohol. This is probably the cheapest route for us but add the extras in like meeting people off SLS for dinner and or drinks etc. and over a years time it can all really add up. I don't think it would keep us from participating in the lifestyle (unless we just really fell on hard times or something ) but it does make us think very carefully about how may times we go to the club and where we want to meet someone for dinner (taco bell anyone? )

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Thrax 384]

taco bell anyone?

Ummmmm...I have several bags of Doritos (Nacho, spicy nacho, and cool ranch) and a variety of diet/regular caf/decaf soft drinks in a cooler...and I'll cover the gas money...

 

That would be in ADDITION to Taco Bell...

 

Yeah, I know, I'm the high roller and I'm en fuego!

 

Ouchie.

 

Thrax

[WildMiCouple 325]

For us, the money doesn't really play into the decision for us. We feel pretty fortunate in that respect. It's more about spending an evening/night together away from home.

 

Visiting the dances about once a month costs around $150 for room and drinks as we usually eat something lite at home before we leave. Seems we choose to play about half the time with others. So like you, LM, it costs us about the $300 for sex with others . Jeez......thanks for making me think about the sex for money....kinda cheapens it errrr you know what I mean

 

But I prefer to look at it as I'm going to enjoy some great everytime. Tammy and I always fuck that night after the dance and the morning before we leave the hotel. And about half the time there is another hottie or two thrown in. That's not always the case with two teenage girls at home.

 

Brett

[curious24 17]

I'll admit I didn't take the time to read all the replies but I did want to say that $300 is a bit much. Maybe it will work better if you talk to the couple you are going to meet about this before you meet? Maybe they have the same concerns as you do about cost?

 

Also, maybe you could look at it from a different point of view and say that you are having a weekend away to do other things. I know there has to be things to do other than to meet up for sex. Like shop, sight see, and other things to do where ever you might go to meet people. This way even if you don't play on the first meeting at let you had a nice weekend away and I'm sure you and your partner will have some fun. So in the end not all is lost.

 

Just my .02

[WesternSwing 504]

We really don't take the cost of swinging into consideration since we don't travel to play with people. Usually we'd incur costs like dinner or a club whether we were going out alone or with another couple. So these are costs directly related to swinging, but to going out in general. But, I can say that we do go out more then we ever used to and have rung-up quite a bill at restaurants, clubs, and bars in the past couple of years!

 

Mr. WS

[LICouple4u 15]

We have been lucky lately - we've only had to meet in a no tell motel once - we picked up the cost, the other couple will pick it up the next time we do that

 

In our case, it seems Grandma is absolutely loving having our kids spend the night and would do it every weekend if we let her! She was actually upset that we had no plans this weekend.

 

What she doesn't know is that we're spending the weekend doing some heavy duty cleaning so that we CAN start to host in our home, since the kids aren't here. We do live in a two-family home, but the others aren't related to us, so we don't really care. The gal upstairs is a single mom and we hear her with her boyfriends, so tough noogies lol.

 

We do have an on-premises club in our area, but we prefer private play without the worries of who else is there, having to fend off disrespectful people, etc. We have met some fantastic people there, had a little play, but then bring it to a private setting.

 

We only play with local couples. We're on Long Island, which is that thing that stick out on the map east of New York City . We have 3 clubs around here, without having to go into NYC. We prefer not to travel too far so we don't have that long drive home after a hot session - sometimes driving 10 miles home is tough enough

[meandher2go 17]

Thats a small price to pay for the kinda fun it brings. We have spent that and more on a good time with friends and would do it again in a heartbeat..

[Couple_N_Ark 39]

A very interesting question. In our case we prefer to go to an on premise club, the closest of which is 300 miles away.

 

Whenever we go we try to go so we can attend the club 3 nights, Thurs, Fri, & Sat. By the time you figure the costs involved we spend in excess of $1000.00 each time we go (2 or 3 times a year).....Gas, Food, Hotel, Club membership & nightly fees, spending money, new outfit or two, etc.

 

While we both have fun, Lisa by far gets more "action" out of the trip. The club we go to has what is called "hot wives night" on Thursdays, so she has alot of choices when it comes to single men, and you don't have to worry about them not showing up.

 

We'll normally hook up with a couple on Friday and Saturday Nights, but it is not uncommon for Lisa to have fun with an single man or two each night we are there.

 

If you really want to look at it like this I guess you could say we're paying a pretty good chunk of money to allow other men to have sex with Lisa.

 

Not complaining at all...as I said we both get tons of enjoyment out of everything that happens.

[Tybee Swing 286]

We Tybees have been working together today on our financial plans for the coming new year and working out a budget spreadsheet for 2008. We're making plans to pay off debt aggressively and save more, too. By putting everything on paper in great detail like we did, we both agree that swinging the way we do costs too much for us. We're going to revise how/when/where and how often we swing. We have big financial plans and goals, and blowing this much money on swinging doesn't fit in with our plans.

 

There are no clubs here...we either have to travel (very expensive) to other cities & pay club memberships/entry fees, or we have to date other couples (wine & dine, get hotel room) which is also very expensive. Then there are the sexy clothes, more money spent on grooming, sex toys, website memberships, club memberships & entry fees, house party "donations" - the list of potential expenses in swinging goes on and on.

 

Out of curiosity...

 

Does the subject of the costs of swinging come up at your household?

 

Do you spend more on Lifestyle-related expenses than you'd like to spend?

 

What do the costs run for you on a monthly basis? (Please include your style & frequency of swinging.)

 

Would you/do you alter the way you swing, or the frequency, to suit your budget?

 

I'm very interested to hear other people's take on this!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

To paraphrase the comic artist, Gilbert Shelton, times of sex and no money will get you through better than times of money and no sex.

 

The way we see it, swinging is a wash. If we were not out at a swingers' club or out with a swinging couple, we would be out having dinner at an often-even-more-expensive restaurant or theater.

[socolais 696]

We swing about once a month or so, usually a private house party or we'll get together with another couple at their house. We'll bring snacks and usually a hostess gift. We don't count the costs of grooming, toys or clothes in the swinging category. We haven't been to any of the local clubs yet. Swinging doesn't have to be any more expensive than one would want it. We didn't "choose" the low budget path, it just kind of happened to be the path of least resistance and meets our preferences very well.

 

And yes, I do "manage" any leisure activity to stay within budget (or reevaluate the budget).

[fun4Ds 1,098]

we are tight wads most of the time, we use coupons and discounts on just about everything we can. we have however rented a suite 2-3 times a year while we are in Indy @ 250.00 per night. seems steep but we just like a comfortable place to stay while there. sometimes we are joined by friends after the club.its close,convenient and comfortable. we hope to get down there for new years, pay our yearly dues at the clubs we frequent. and then look at the upcoming budget.

 

that may change once we calculate and save up for the next swingersboard meet up.not sure if that is GA. or WA. we hope to use some regular vacation time and do what we want to do, plus meet everyone again.

 

I'm going to throw out a number here and i may be wrong because Mrs.fun is the main accountant but 2,500 to 3,000 bucks per year is surly close.

 

what can i say the kids are grown, this is our time.

 

 

update: wife says more:eek:

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

Tybee...we are at an advantage compared to you. We have 3 clubs local to our area and don't "have" to travel or get hotels. The clubs range in price, clientèle and decor. We have been to two and taken the advice of friends to not bother with the other and have narrowed it down to the one that is probably middle of the road. The annual dues and nightly fees aren't bad and we bring our own drinks which we'd have at home whether we were swingers or not.

 

Does the subject of the costs of swinging come up at your household?

Yes it does just depending on the time of year, what kind of year we're having and how much the kids are costing us

 

Do you spend more on Lifestyle-related expenses than you'd like to spend?

 

Would you/do you alter the way you swing, or the frequency, to suit your budget?

 

I don't think so. We like to go out, dance, and have dinner or drinks with friends, so we'd be going out and doing something so why not make it something we really enjoy. When we have an over run of family or "vanilla" friend things going on then the club nights may slow down or take a back seat but that doesn't happen that often.

 

What do the costs run for you on a monthly basis? (Please include your style & frequency of swinging.)

If we make it to the club say twice a month (average) then I'd say $100 a month or less. That includes club fees and alcohol. I already have enough clothes and unless I just see something that I have to have there isn't much expense there. We are not big "toy" people so that isn't an issue financially for us either.

 

Mrs Spoomonkey