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By couplers
Hello, Petra here again with an update on our family situation, which currently consists of my husband, Clair, me, Red, our son Junior, our daughter Petunia (Clair's, mine and hubby's), along with Lora who is a lover to hubby, a sex partner for all of us, and sort of a permanent guest, like one of the family. I generally avoid talking about two things at work - houses and kids because people usually go on about them too much, but you folks here might be interested because of our poly/sexual situation.
Clair has been pushing the idea that we should get on with our personal lives instead of putting work first. She has pretty much already done that, devoting herself to Junior and Petunia over her career. Lora has been great with the children as well. Clair especially wants to have another child (she wants both of us to become pregnant at the same time again, like last time). I agree with her. I enjoy being a mom, especially being so bonded with Clair in all of this, and I have proven to my own satisfaction my competence at my "job". At first it was mostly skill, both technical and managerial, but now I am into the ranks where politics play much more into it. I'm good at it, but proving myself in that BS isn't satisfying.
One project we've been working on is getting a new house. Clair, hubby, the children and I (and Lora most of the time) currently live in a house that we bought when it was just David and I. The next place will need to have room for us, plus the future children we plan to have. We all agree that Red must be next to us, but not in the same house, in order to accommodate his working habits and situation. Especially since Red will be the father of my next child, he needs to be right next to us when his help is needed. We've looked at a number of places with and it comes down to either a place with "mother-in-law" quarters plus a garage for Red, or two adjacent properties (next to each other or back to back) that are the right sizes. That would be more of a pain to work out, buying two places and building a breezeway for Red (or digging a tunnel, as hubby suggests).
It is both thrilling and frightening to think about getting another home, however it may be configured, and having more children. But without a doubt, we're all in it for the long haul.
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By D&D
This exchange is interesting to me, for reasons I state below. I didn't want to derail that thread.
Quote Originally Posted by WesternSwing
"Although initially we were secretive, as we moved more into polyamorous relationships it was more difficult to keep things secret without excluding our other partners and making them feel terrible or unimportant. These days I don't broadcast my relationships, but I don't keep them secret, either. All my family know that I live with my partner and her husband and that I have another partner, also. Both my partners come to my office and visit and I go to lunch with both, sometimes at the same time. Coworkers either don't suspect anything, don't want to ask or don't care. All my partners and their families are welcome at my family's functions, also. It feels good to be "out" and just lived life as I want to.
From Drinnt:
THAT must be an amazing feeling! My wife and I are 6 months into what has become and exclusive polyamorous relationship. They have a family and kids and discretion is important to them. We have no kids and frankly would LOVE my family and friends to know so we could have our lovers around and involved in our extended "non secret" lives. Our family and friends KNOW about our lover couple but they think they are vanilla friends...maybe they suspect something but it's never discussed. I just think it would be an amazing feeling to be OUT with it. "
Over the last year I have become become close with a very fun and enjoyable woman. Started as a swinging but progressed past a sexual attraction very quickly. She and her longtime boyfriend and my wife have also become close friends, although not romantic. Together we are great friends and do a lot of vanilla stuff together. It's not a poly relationship between all four of us, my wife and he have no feelings beyond friendship for each other. Nothing is hidden between us adults, but we haven't shared anything with our kids. They have no kids, we have two. Frankly, it is difficult at times to keep up the facade that nothing is going between her and I. Teenagers are more perceptive than we think. My son, who is 18, knows we swing, but he doesn't know or at least hasn't let on that he knows about our poly relationship. Our 12 year old daughter knows nothing about swinging or anything beyond the fact that we have some close friends. However it is going to be difficult to keep from her long term. Sometimes my wife says we should come out and tell the kids whats going so we don't have to tip-toe around anything. Her take on this is colored her gay brother who is "out" to the siblings but not to his parents. It causes a lot of grief and stress explaining why he is 48 and never married. (his mother probably knows but they all prefer to ignore it.) She thinks he should just tell her. What experiences have you with coming out? What pitfalls to avoid? Should we just stay closeted and enjoy it for what it is?
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By imacougarlady
Female half of a poly couple here. My hubby of seven years and I have recently welcomed Angie (a 25 year old woman) into our marriage. We have a very busy household with our 2 small children (3 and 5 year old boys). Angie is now expecting my hubby's first child. We are all excited about her pregnancy. She is now 7 months and hubby is very excited for sure. How do others tell their existing children about the impending arrival??
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By JustAskJulie
"OOPS! We totally meant to pixelate your face, but we forgot"
The couple tried to sue the tv station after their daughter discovered the video online, showing her undisguised parents at a swinger club. The judge threw it out making the point that for them to sue the daughter would have to appear in court and testify to how distraught this made her, which would only leave her more distraught.
Teen girl discovers 'swinging' parents online - The Local
Embarrassed parents of girl, 15, who saw them swinging in sex club on TV programme win damages | Mail Online
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