Are Swinging Wives Just Sluts?

[Swinging Couple 15]

Don't mean to offend, it's a serious question! We are a swinging couple and I can have no bigger thrill then watching my own wife being fucked by another man. It is always amazing. When she first started, she was relatively shy, now she is game and makes herself available! She would think nothing to having three or four guys in a night! She has changed into a real slut!

 

Thinking about it, I would say any woman who is happy to let guys touch her up and fuck her while her husband looks on, must really be a slut. They are showing no respect to their husbands or their marriage vows.

 

I even encourage mine to dress like one. I'll buy her the shortest of skirts and lowest tops to show her off like a whore!

 

Any thoughts?

[highlander 21]

Actually, I would argue that a woman that honors her husband's request to have sex with another man is showing respect for her husband. The real question of disrespect comes in when a woman has sex with a man her husband doesn't want her too--or declines to show hospitality towards a guest or friend.

 

Originally posted by Swinging Couple:

I would say any woman who is happy to let guys touch her up and fuck her while her husband looks on, must really be a slut. They are showing no respect to their husbands or their marriage vows.

 

As far as the "marriage vows"--I think that line of "forsaking all others" was something invented by St. Paul the misogynist hypocrite.

 

There are quite a few traditional cultures--including ones that are extremely "male dominated"(i.e. Eskimos or the Masai of Africa) in which it is considered utterly honorable and appropriate for a woman to have sex with a man other than her husband under some circumstances(i.e. usually when her husband specifically tells her to).

[AllieGirlCincy 15]

Well, I don't know about Eskimos, but I do know that my husband really, really (really!) loves watching me with other men (and women too!). At first I was a little shy about it, but it's now a huge turn-on for me as well. Plus, I've realized that I like to see him with other women. The turn on (for us) is watching our partner receive and give pleasure. That's why same room play is so important to us, and why we shy away from separate room play.

 

I don't consider myself a slut though. LOL But sometimes I guess it's fun to feel like one. (Does that make any sense?)

[OhioCouple 40]

Originally posted by Swinging Couple:

Don't mean to offend, it's a serious question! We are a swinging couple and I can have no bigger thrill then watching my own wife being fucked by another man. It is always amazing. When she first started, she was relatively shy, now she is game and makes herself available! She would think nothing to having three or four guys in a night! She has changed into a real slut!

 

Thinking about it, I would say any woman who is happy to let guys touch her up and fuck her while her husband looks on, must really be a slut. They are showing no respect to their husbands or their marriage vows.

 

I even encourage mine to dress like one. I'll buy her the shortest of skirts and lowest tops to show her off like a whore!

 

Any thoughts?

 

First off the language you are using is totally inappropriate for asking a question, not to mention how you refer to your wife. For example, instead of using the word "fuck" you could have said sex. Secondly for the words slut or whore, you could have said something to the effect of "my wife has become overly sexually uninhibited." At least a mature adult would think before they post. Most people do not resort to that sort of language unless they are thoroughly ticked off.

 

That said, I began as being very shy, but once I began to express my sexuality I became more open to multiple sexual experiences, and yes all in one evening. My husband would never refer to me in those terms and he enjoys what we both do together as a couple. We both enjoy viewing each other in the throes of passion with another. No Jealousy, No Guilt, No Name Calling.

 

I feel sorry for your wife and your marriage. It is obvious that this lifestyle is not for you.

[OhioCouple 40]

Originally posted by AllieGirlCincy:

I don't consider myself a slut though. LOL But sometimes I guess it's fun to feel like one. (Does that make any sense?)

 

It makes perfect sense. I love to dress sexy and be flirty and sensual. The word slut tho never enters my mind. The definition of a slut taken directly out of Webster's Dictionary is:

 

"Slut ~ a dirty, untidy woman "

 

I am not dirty, nor untidy...but I do fall under the category of woman.

 

The definition straight out of the same dictionary for whore is:

 

"Whore" ~ harlot or prostitute. To have unlawful sexual intercourse.

 

I don't represent any of those definitions nor do I participate in such.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I have to agree with several points made by those who have responded to the original post.

 

The fact that my husband enjoys watching me with other guys and I enjoy having sex with other guys in front of him is showing respect for him. Even though we do play separately occasionally, I would much rather play with him there because I respect him and know how much he enjoys seeing it and want him to enjoy it with me.

 

As for the word slut. Some women enjoy that term, but that doesn't mean it should be applied to all swinging women or even to most. The fact that a woman enjoys sex with men other than her husband in no way means that she is a slut.

 

Most would agree that a "SLUT" would have little care as to who she was actually playing with. Most equate a "slut" or a "whore" to a paid hooker who doesn't care who it is. Most swinging women I know, no matter how much they enjoy sex still are picky about who they play with and would never let just any guy grab them, much less have sex with them.

[Fox n Hound 16]

Hey Swinging Couple, which one of you two gets off on the way you talk about your partner? Surely that is the only reason for referring to her in the ways you did in your post, unless you are just trying to get people annoyed.

 

Shame on you!!!

[dave_susie2001 15]

Reminds me of an old joke.....

 

A whore will fuck anybody.

 

A slut will fuck anybody...except you!

[mehim 16]

My husband would never refer to me in those terms and he enjoys what we both do together as a couple. We both enjoy viewing each other in the throes of passion with another. No Jealousy, No Guilt, No Name Calling.

 

I never would consider myself a slut or whore. I hate name calling and just because we are all oversexed doesn't mean we are bad. We enjoy sex and I think to express ourself to the fullest just makes us better with our spouses.

[imsnowman 34]

Swinging Couple,

If this isn't just a troll, try reading "The Ethical Slut". It will answer your questions.

[Quin 17]

Someone should do a web search on this, maybe there's been a study done which can provide facts and hard numbers on if a swinging wife is a slut. And maybe there's been a study done on women who like dirty talk during sex and/or what of husbands who refer to their wives as sluts/whores outside of the bedroom.

[K2 15]

I find the original question offensive as well.

[sportync 20]

The male half of a couple that we once swapped with used words like "slut" and "whore" as terms of endearment. At first, I was offended, until I became aware that this was a type of foreplay between him and his wife. Regardless, I still felt uncomfortable, as the terms were addressed to both his wife and mine..."God, you two are sexy little whores". My wife wasn't particularly offended, because she understood the context, but the bottom line is we've had no repeat performances with that particular couple, and his attitude toward the women had a great deal to do with that decision.