The condom broke...

[dviousangel 15]

Okay, I'm totally freaking out and need to talk.

 

Some of you may remember me. I've been on here off and on a few times. Well, since my last post, hubby and I have had quite a few experiences with a couple we both are very much into. Up until Saturday night, we had all only played with each other as in oral, hands, fingers, etc. Saturday night we decided to take it all the way. Me and the other guy were going at it when I heard the words that changed everything...the condom broke. My husband had just finished with his wife and they got up and left the room. The husband and I got a new condom and finished. When we walked into the living room, his wife is freaking out, crying, totally upset. Not to mention that I am freaking out because condoms are the only form of birth control I use. Nothing to back it up. Except the fact that the condoms contain spermicide.

 

So now I am totally worried, the wife is totally worried, and I'm sure the guys have to be too. He didn't cum inside me or anything but we all know how dangerous precum can be. I feel lost. I don't know what to do. What I do know is that my hubby and I won't be going that far with swinging again. Playing is one thing but I can't deal with the possible ramifications of things like this happening.

 

Does anyone have any positive words or stories to share? Anything that may set my mind at ease somewhat?

[Estaque 15]

Sorry to hear about your dilemma. This happened to an acquaintance of ours several years back, and she did in fact get pregnant from her swing partner. She was freaking out at first sort of like you are now, but she eventually grew to accept the fact that she was going to have an illegitimate child. Her husband wanted her to have an abortion but it was against her religious beliefs so she refused, and they ended up getting a divorce. Unfortunately a month after she ended up having a miscarriage. It was a traumatic experience all the way around.

[ANGEDKY(mr) 100]

Without getting into all the B.S. surrounding the topic something I may suggest for your consideration is emergency contraception (ie. "Morning after pill")

 

--just something for you to think about. Not sure of the availability, where

to go or any of that, I just know it exists

[sportsnut 15]

My wife and I used condoms for our birth control, but there were many many times we used the old Catholic withdrawl and she never got pregnant. Of course we did worry a little. Then when we wanted a child she got pregnant the first month, so it wasn't like she had trouble getting pregnant.

 

Worry but don't let it devour you. In our talks we have decided that we will assume it is my sperm that won the race to the egg. Don't ask don't tell kind of. Of course now neither of us have to worry about getting pregnant, me the vas, she the hyst.

 

What if there are medical complications down the road we would address them at that time if necessary.

 

Good luck and give each other a hug.

[AZ Dreaming 15]

Sorry to hear about your dilemma. This happened to an acquaintance of ours several years back, and she did in fact get pregnant from her swing partner. She was freaking out at first sort of like you are now, but she eventually grew to accept the fact that she was going to have an illegitimate child. Her husband wanted her to have an abortion but it was against her religious beliefs so she refused, and they ended up getting a divorce. Unfortunately a month after she ended up having a miscarriage. It was a traumatic experience all the way around.

 

 

I don't think this is what she was needed to hear Estaque!

 

I will send you a private message, Dviousangel.

[Chicup 42]

If the guy didn't finish, the odds of you getting pregnant are just about nill.

 

As a biologist I think the whole 'you can get pregnant from pre-cum' is not as possible as often stated. Its put there to discourage pulling out as a method of birth control since you can screw up the pull out very easily. So if the condom broke almost all of the pre-cum would have been inside the condom anyways, and again the odds of getting pregnant from pre-cum are just about nothing.

 

Pre-cum itself doesn't contain sperm, so first the guy would have had to have ejaculated prior to playing with you recently. If that didn't happen you are 100% in the clear. Even if he did, if he peed, the odds of viable sperm are much reduced, again, lowering chances. Finally even if he did and he didn't its still not very high.

 

So while its possible , relax a bit. Oh and Estaque has been trolling a lot lately, and is pretty much proven himself to be just a jagoff, so I wouldn't take his story at face value, odds are he just posted that to freak you out.

[Pepper & Drew 384]

First, don't freak out. Think. Are you ovulating? If you are ovulating, there WAS spermicide, so between the fact that he hadn't actually come and the spermicide, I'd say chances were fairly slim of a pregnancy. Because of the failure rate with condoms, among other things, we use another form of birth control along with condoms.

 

If your worry was more about STD's, do you think that they're high risk? If you're unsure, go for a STD screen. Be proactive.

 

I'm curious to know whether the wife's freakout prompted yours, since you said that you and play-hubby got another condom and finished. And, are you sure that she freaked out over the condom? If they're newbies like you, she may have just been freaking out over full-swap, not the condom.

 

In swinging, there are risks involved. Minimizing the risks is the best way to prevent freakouts. If you don't think swinging is worth the risks, I don't blame you. I wouldn't swing either.

 

Pepper

[ShellyM 0]

You should try to relax girl, because whats been done is done. Hopefully you know when aunt flo should get here, so if you are late then you can go ahead and take a pregnancy test. BUT please learn from this experience. You live and you learn, mistakes are made. If you and your husband are active you need to be on something like the pill or depo injections. Best of luck to you. Don't freak though.

[EvilMJ 65]

I have had the very same experience as you. We were going at it when he says "oh shit", condom was ripped. I also am not on birth control.

 

It freaked me out, but I am glad to say that things worked out. I know what you are going through. The best thing to do is figure out when you ovulate, and if you are afraid of any STD's then you can get tested at some point.

 

It did make me think twice about swinging but we did decide to continue. Perhaps you should back up a condom wtih other birth control methods as well.

 

Good luck

[dviousangel 15]

Hey guys. I appreciate all the replies. I need all the positive reinforcement I can get.

 

About the getting pregnant from precum thing. This couple have a 16 month old child that she got pregnant with before they even had sex. It was from them messing around only and the fact that his penis touched her vagina with no actual penetration. This is why her and I are freaking out so much.

 

I do believe her freakout was from both the full swap and the condom breaking. Her and I feel the same way, we just don't want to deal with the what ifs of full swap. Playing is still very much okay. This was everyone's first time for full swap except her hubby, who was in the lifestyle previously.

 

It's not STD's I'm worried about, it's pregnancy. That night, after they fell asleep, hubby and I had a long talk about everything. I was crying, upset, feeling horrible, and my wonderful hubby is sitting there telling me that he loves me more than anything in this world and if I were to end up pregnant, he wouldn't care, it would still be our baby. This man definitely has his head on straight and is the most wonderful individual I have ever met. I just don't want another baby period (we have 2 kids), with or without him. Before we went to sleep that night, we had sex without a condom. He pulled out but I just needed to feel him after that. Do you guys know what I mean?

 

So with all that said, I have no idea if I was ovulating. My last period started on July 4th and this happened on Saturday night/sunday morning around 3 am.

 

I just want to be able to stop thinking about it.

[ShellyM 0]

I have had the very same experience as you. We were going at it when he says "oh shit", condom was ripped. I also am not on birth control.

 

It freaked me out, but I am glad to say that things worked out. I know what you are going through. The best thing to do is figure out when you ovulate, and if you are afraid of any STD's then you can get tested at some point.

 

It did make me think twice about swinging but we did decide to continue. Perhaps you should back up a condom wtih other birth control methods as well.

 

Good luck

 

As I was reading your post, and I am very glad things worked out for you, I wondered...does anyone know of the highest quality condoms out there now? Of course, I know latex. But this is definately a hazard I didn't think about until today, and it has me a little concerned to be honest.

[ShellyM 0]

my wonderful hubby is sitting there telling me that he loves me more than anything in this world and if I were to end up pregnant, he wouldn't care, it would still be our baby. This man definitely has his head on straight and is the most wonderful individual I have ever met. I just don't want another baby period (we have 2 kids), with or without him. Before we went to sleep that night, we had sex without a condom. He pulled out but I just needed to feel him after that. Do you guys know what I mean?

 

It sounds like you are a lucky woman indeed to have such a good man. Relax, and see if aunt flo is late. I have always been told to wait 2 weeks past when you were due before testing, but I think with today's tests you don't have to do that. Talk to your ob about the morning after pill if you are really worried. These things happen sometimes unfortunately. Just try to relax and stay calm.

[EvilMJ 65]

As I was reading your post, and I am very glad things worked out for you, I wondered...does anyone know of the highest quality condoms out there now? Of course, I know latex. But this is definately a hazard I didn't think about until today, and it has me a little concerned to be honest.

 

Sadly I thought they were good quality condoms. I think the problem was that ew had been giong at it for quite a long time we were at it and the damned thing got worn out. I don't think they are made for marathon sex. .

 

I am happy to report that is the one and only time that has ever happened to me.

[Lawguy 15]

Hey guys. I appreciate all the replies. I need all the positive reinforcement I can get.

 

About the getting pregnant from precum thing. This couple have a 16 month old child that she got pregnant with before they even had sex. It was from them messing around only and the fact that his penis touched her vagina with no actual penetration. This is why her and I are freaking out so much.

 

I do believe her freakout was from both the full swap and the condom breaking. Her and I feel the same way, we just don't want to deal with the what ifs of full swap. Playing is still very much okay. This was everyone's first time for full swap except her hubby, who was in the lifestyle previously.

 

It's not STD's I'm worried about, it's pregnancy. That night, after they fell asleep, hubby and I had a long talk about everything. I was crying, upset, feeling horrible, and my wonderful hubby is sitting there telling me that he loves me more than anything in this world and if I were to end up pregnant, he wouldn't care, it would still be our baby. This man definitely has his head on straight and is the most wonderful individual I have ever met. I just don't want another baby period (we have 2 kids), with or without him. Before we went to sleep that night, we had sex without a condom. He pulled out but I just needed to feel him after that. Do you guys know what I mean?

 

So with all that said, I have no idea if I was ovulating. My last period started on July 4th and this happened on Saturday night/sunday morning around 3 am.

 

I just want to be able to stop thinking about it.

 

I'm with the biologist on this one. Your friend who got pregnant without penetration--possible, but still in her case, I bet her partner had an orgasm and thus sperm found itself inside of her vagina. It was not pre-cum, I bet. Even with an orgasm (which didn't happen in your case), there's a general 3% chance of pregnancy. Higher, if you are ovulating and much lower, if you are not. I reaaaly think that you are taking it far too seriously, but again I am a man so I guess I can be viewed as insensitive on this matter. But, again, your odds of pregnancy--where he did not cum inside of you--are nil.

 

Lawguy

[curious24 17]

Sorry to hear about your dilemma. This happened to an acquaintance of ours several years back, and she did in fact get pregnant from her swing partner. She was freaking out at first sort of like you are now, but she eventually grew to accept the fact that she was going to have an illegitimate child. Her husband wanted her to have an abortion but it was against her religious beliefs so she refused, and they ended up getting a divorce. Unfortunately a month after she ended up having a miscarriage. It was a traumatic experience all the way around.

It just seems odd to me that she was against abortion because of religious beliefs but yet she was swinging. Just odd to me.

 

But this whole issue with the condom breaking. Yep I'm living through it all right now. I can totally relate.

[LFM2 1,482]

About the getting pregnant from precum thing. This couple have a 16 month old child that she got pregnant with before they even had sex. It was from them messing around only and the fact that his penis touched her vagina with no actual penetration. This is why her and I are freaking out so much.

 

Please, take a few deep breaths. I know that there is sperm in precum, but the chances of getting pregnant that way is very rare. Plus, the couple would have to be HIGHLY fertile. Just because it happens once doesn't mean it will happen again.

 

It's not STD's I'm worried about, it's pregnancy.

 

I hear ya. Mr. LFM and I have discussed this, and even though we will being do full swap, we will won't play without condoms. Since I am also older, I am doing the depo shots as pills are just not an option.

 

So with all that said, I have no idea if I was ovulating. My last period started on July 4th and this happened on Saturday night/sunday morning around 3 am.

 

Well, it mostly depending on your cycle. Are your periods regular? Irregular? I'm counting this is 19 days past when your period started. If you are on a 28 day cycle, the fertile time would have been five or six days prior.

 

A woman will ovulate about 14 days before her period is to begin. In terms of conception, fertility depends on three factors: a healthy egg, healthy sperm, and favorable cervical mucus. A woman ovulates once a cycle. The egg lives twelve to twenty-four hours and then disintegrates if not fertilized. A woman can become pregnant from unprotected intercourse up to five days before ovulation.

 

The way I'm counting, if you were on a 28 day cycle, it doesn't seem like much of a possibility. The window for getting pregnant is very narrow and your situation doesn't really "red light" me. He didn't cum in you for one, and the time of the month wasn't quite right.

 

I don't want this to alarm you, but only give some facts. I really do hope the best for you. Please use a pregnancy test if you're still unsure and also, let us know how you're doing.

 

((HUGS))

[djjwp 129]

Before we went to sleep that night, we had sex without a condom. He pulled out but I just needed to feel him after that. Do you guys know what I mean?

 

Is it me or unless hubby is sniped, does this sould like a bad idea? Now you may be PG from hubby even if your swap partner didn't do it. :rollseyes

 

We look at it this way, If the wife got PG, we would just raise the child. My step dad was the greatest man I have known and he never had a child of his own. Blood does not make you a parent. If something comes of it, love the child and each other. It would be an oppertunity to do the right thing.

 

 

BTW, this thread started in April, where do things stand now?

[WesternSwing 504]

Everything I've always read about pre-cum has said that it contains little to no sperm unless the male has had an orgasm very recenlty and hasn't urinated to flush-out the urethra. So I would say the chances are very small that you would get pregnant.

 

Mr. WS

[dviousangel 15]

djjwp, I joined the boards in April, this thread was started yesterday. And yes, me having sex with hubby without a condom was not the best choice. But after feeling another man inside me condomless when it broke, who wasn't my husband, even though it was for only a second, made me NEED to feel my own husband skin against skin. Dumb idea yes, but something I really needed all the same. Some of you out there can understand this I'm sure.

 

curious24, you said you are going through this right now too. What's going on with you?

 

LFM2, My cycle is pretty much a regular 28 day cycle. Since I'm not on birth control it varies a few days here and there but for the most part it's regular.

 

I'm trying not to dwell on this and let it consume me but it's very hard. According to my calculations, I should be starting around the 1st of August.

 

And just to clarify why I'm not on birth control. I have tried almost every pill known to man and can't take them because of the hormones they contain. When I take BC that contains any kind of hormones, ALL my sex drive goes away. That only leaves me with a few choices. Condoms, diaphram, IUD. There is only one IUD that doesn't contain hormones but there are many other side effects from it. I think I do need to get a diaphram though. My gyno and I have been through all these options and have tried so many things. I wish I could just be on the pill and not worry about it.

[djjwp 129]

djjwp, I joined the boards in April, this thread was started yesterday.

 

Ok, I'm a guy and can't read... :rollseyes .

 

I hope things go OK. We have had conversations about this as my wife is not on BC and I'm fixed. Explaining that to family would be a tough one. I have just decided that I would deal with it and take what comes our way. I was raised by my step dad and he was the greatest man I have known. I call him my dad and my real father who died when I was 12 "my father" He was never in my life. Relationships make parents, not a blood test is the way I look at it.

 

Good luck

[BBVixen23 16]

Angel~

 

If you run a 28 day cycle and you started on the 4th, it looks to me like your most fertile days were the 18th-20th. Close call, but if I had to bet money on it, I'd bet against your being pregnant.

 

Thank you for starting this thread though...Mr. Vixen & I have been so worried about catching an STD that I don't even think we thought about birth control. My factory is closed if you know what I mean so we havn't had to think about it in over a decade...

 

So after I read this thread....I said to hubby...wow...what would we do if your condom broke?

 

He said....."Ummmm thanks, I WAS excited...."

 

Don't mean to make light of the conversation. It was just a funny moment between us.

 

Seriously, if his condom broke, we'd face it like we have any other challenge in our marriage...with honesty and integrity.

 

I can see why one would feel ok with swinging but not with abortion. Personally I'm a choice girl myself, but one could argue that pregnancy involves a life that isn't your own.

 

In any event...Good Luck to you both ( I think I saw two posters who are now in this situation). Whatever happens, keeping open and honest about how you are feeling and considering all involved will be the best key.

[twohots4u2 188]

Understand that folks seem to want to make you feel good, but the fact is that we know a gal who got pregnant during an MFM with her hubby and another guy, and neither of their condoms broke. The guys fingered her a long time while they were playing with her and getting her hot. But, they both put condoms on before they penetrated her or even got their dicks near her pussy. In fact, both guys came afterwards by her hand, not while they were in her. They think that the other guy must have cum while he was fingering her and the sperm got in her vagina from his finger.

 

Oh, precum does have sperm in it. A number of years ago I looked at mine under a microscope and there they were, swiming along. Of course, they were not numerous like in my cum, but it only takes one....

 

Our recommendation is that you should have visited your OB and gotten a prescription to the morning after pill (Plan B®). You need to take it within 72 hours for it to be effective. It prevents pregnancy mainly by stopping the release of an egg from the ovary, and may also prevent the fertilization of an egg (the uniting of sperm with the egg). Plan B® may also work by preventing it from attaching to the uterus (womb).

 

It is not RU-486 (the abortion pill) and should not be taken after 72 hours or if you think you are pregnant.

 

In the future we would recommend that you use contraceptive sponge, film, or foam as a backup to having the guy wear a condom. Just put it in before you get started playing. That way you are still protected from getting pregnant if the condoms breaks, or if somehow sperm finds its way into your vagina, like our friend.

[LICouple4u 15]

I've had an IUD since 99 when our last child was born. I have the one with no hormone and the only side effect is more cramping and a heavier flow. *I* think it's the best birth control out there - kind of a 'set it and forget it' type of thing

 

Recently I started on the Pill so I could regulate the damn thing. Ironically years ago when I took it I was the meanest bitch in the world who had NO sex drive. Now, it's actually made me incredibly horny! Hubby sure likes this pill lol

 

Now that it's August 2nd, did Aunt Flo arrive?

[daisy girl 34]

As other posters have said...the morning after pill is available for those broken condom situations. I am on the pill and we always use condoms with playmates, but perhaps I will get a prescription...just in case . I also would like an updte on this story...how did things turn out?

[dviousangel 15]

Well, today it has been 30 days since the first day of my last period. I still have not started. I took a test 2 days ago and it was negative but I'm wondering if it wasn't too early. I'm very depressed about it and can't stop thinking about it. I'm crampy and have had a headache for a week now, just none of the normal discharge or aunt flo. Yes, still freaking out.

[prettylady 221]

That could be why you haven't started, stress will bugger you up.

 

Relax, go see the doctor.

[MoonLightKiss 28]

Well, today it has been 30 days since the first day of my last period. I still have not started. I took a test 2 days ago and it was negative but I'm wondering if it wasn't too early. I'm very depressed about it and can't stop thinking about it. I'm crampy and have had a headache for a week now, just none of the normal discharge or aunt flo. Yes, still freaking out.

 

I understand you freaking out, but in all honesty like prettylady said this could be the reason you have not started yet. The one and only time I was ever late and was not pregnant, was because I thought I might be and was really stressing out over an illness in the family. I took a test, came back negative, started that night. I still laugh over the timing.

 

As far as the test, I think, (and only think, double check this information) that it will test the first day of your missed period. So if you were just one day late, I believe that it should have shown up. However, its been several years since I have taken one that you might want to read the directions that came with your test. It should tell you on those. Also, First Response is supposed to tell you even earlier than other standard tests. It was two days before Aunt Flo was due that I tested to find out I was pregnant with my second child.

 

All in all, I would recommend relaxing, which is easier said than done. You and your SO are in this together. We are all aware of the risks in this lifestyle just as you and your SO are. I am sure since your relationship is strong enough for swinging that it is also strong enough to weather this situation. I won't lie and say it will be the easiest thing you two will deal with, but at least you will deal with it together. So, relax, have faith, and trust in your partner. All will work out as it should. And keep us posted...we are all in this with you as well.

[dviousangel 15]

Again, thank you all for the all of the kind words. Believe me, I appreciate them all. As for the test I took, it was a First Response and I took it on day 28, which I'm not on an exact schedule since I'm not on birth control but I figured it would have shown if I was pregnant. But since I haven't started yet, I don't know.

 

Plus, hubby and I were messing around Sunday afternoon and he was fingering me. Nothing any more rough than usual. When he pulled his fingers out, I was bleeding, which I haven't done in a loooong time from that. I pretty much bled a little all day, and then barely spotted two times the next day. I've bled before from him going too deep but I haven't in a very long time. And when I did bleed, it was only for a few minutes and stopped.

 

So as you can see, it's a combination of alot of things that has got me really worried. I wish I could relax but you all know that it's easier said than done. Sorry I didn't fill you all in on all these details earlier but I had to wait til the kids went to bed.

[ANGEDKY(mr) 100]

If you are thinking about taking a test again at some point, I saw an advert this week about one that claims to be able to detect earlier (something like 5 days before missed period) May give it some thought.

 

I see it was the same name as the one you indicated, not sure what you bought or whats in your local stores. This may be a more sensitive option. (keep in mind I am just a guy and haven't stayed at a Holiday Inn in over a year)

 

Good luck

[curious24 17]

Believe me still do tests to make sure b/c I know it's rare but happens that woman are still regular but pregnant. So just make sure.

[dviousangel 15]

I tested again this morning and it was still negative, then this afternoon, guess what??? I STARTED!! Yippee!!! Yes, I'm very happy. Thanks to everyone for the advice and thoughts.

[LFM2 1,482]

I STARTED!! Yippee!!!

 

YAY!! I was really hoping all those years of nursing school and working in OB/GYN didn't cloud my thinking!!

 

It's a damn scary thing though, isn't it?

[MoonLightKiss 28]

Congratulations dviousangel!!!!!!! So glad to hear it worked out for you. I know you are breathing easier now, so again congrats.

[dviousangel 15]

Thank you guys so much. And yes, I think that's one of the most scary situations I have ever been with. Just to think of the ramifications of being pregnant by someone other than my husband, even though he was totally accepting, is just too much. To think of how it had the potential to ruin so many relationships such as the other couple, having to pretend to our children and families, and so on and so on.

 

I am just totally grateful that it worked out the way it did. My shoulders haven't felt this light in 2 weeks.

[love_droids 15]

My husband and I have always used withdrawl and never had a problem with precum. Only one child, when planned. Don't worry yourself. You'll know the answer in a couple of weeks and if your feeling overwhelmed pay the fifty bucks for a blood test. The worst case is really disease, not a sweet baby.

[lovedoctor 15]

3 monophasic birthcontrol pills are essentially what the morning after pill is. Probably a good idea to keep "a" pack of pills on hand for just such occurences.

 

In the meantime, worry will do no one any good. Go get a blood pregnancy test if you are really in a hurry to find out - a quantatative HCG would be positive sooner than a urine pregnancy test. Talk to your doctor.

[dviousangel 15]

I tested again this morning and it was still negative, then this afternoon, guess what??? I STARTED!! Yippee!!! Yes, I'm very happy. Thanks to everyone for the advice and thoughts.

 

Thanks to love_droids and lovedoctor. Didn't know if you'd seen this post above yours or not but it all worked out great, no pregnancy. Thanks for the advice though.

[ShellyM 0]

Thank you guys so much. And yes, I think that's one of the most scary situations I have ever been with. Just to think of the ramifications of being pregnant by someone other than my husband, even though he was totally accepting, is just too much. To think of how it had the potential to ruin so many relationships such as the other couple, having to pretend to our children and families, and so on and so on.

 

I am just totally grateful that it worked out the way it did. My shoulders haven't felt this light in 2 weeks.

 

I'm so happy for you girl...remember, you live and learn from this.

[dviousangel 15]

Oh my gosh, you have no idea ShellyM. lol! I was so relieved that day when I started, it was unreal. I'm just glad it all worked out the way it did. After that happened it really made me think. I don't know if full swap is for me or not. For many reasons actually but possible pregnany is definitely one of the main ones. I guess we'll just have to wait and see how life plays out. I do know that I would make sure I had some kind of backup if I ever decided to do it again.

 

Thanks!

[TerryforSex 14]

The Condom BROKE..... relax it happened ..

Nothing you can do now but..have sex again Without him wearing one.

 

Plenty of sperm inside the vaginal canla fromthat broken condom

so why not just enjoy the time having sex and enjoy him cumming inside you.

 

You cant worry about spilled sperm...so enjoy....

 

Yes you have to wait for that time of the month...but inthe mean time enjoy some natural sex.

[undercovercpl 29]

I second this. Also did he come in you? If so be worried, if not think about this. Have you gotten pregnant every time you have ever has unprotected sex and he didn't pull out. The answer is no. Didi you get knocked up in highschool? Probably not.

Another point is that if you are going to be in the lifestyle you should be responsible about it. Get an IUD, the pill or something. I mean come on you are HAVING LOTS OF SEX, get real about it. My wife can't take the pill or the shot, so a MONTH before we ever swung she got an IUD because we THOUGHT IT THROUGH!!!! Come on people grow up.

 

 

Without getting into all the B.S. surrounding the topic something I may suggest for your consideration is emergency contraception (ie. "Morning after pill")

 

--just something for you to think about. Not sure of the availability, where

to go or any of that, I just know it exists

[ShellyM 0]

Well, I mean of COURSE anytime a man releases ejaculate into your body and you are not on any form of BCP you can get pregnant. Yep, thats a fact. This is why until Jay is neutered () we do not play with ladys that are on no form of BCP. I was surprised honestly that there are ladies out here in the lifestyle on no form of birth control. However, I would not panic. Would I do the day after pill? Yes, probably. Would I freak out? Nah. Just take it as a live and learn opportunity. In my opinion if you are here and not on BCP you are really putting yourself in a possible situation. This is also something that the other couple should be made privy to. We were recently talking to a couple and learned that she is not on any bcp and is actually trying to conceive with her husband. We said once Jay has recovered from his V and is given the go ahead by his urologist thats okay, but until then we aren't going to play with them. I think it ticked them off because they haven't spoken to us since; oh well, thats a decision that we made.

[safireblues 106]

I also tried every form of pill on the market and they all killed my sex drive, and I want to try to conceive with my husband soon.

 

FYI--been doing my own little private experiment on pre-cum for the last 6 years, using only the withdrawal method with my husband as birth control. Never gotten pregnant. Now, I only use it with him because we're married and want a child, so if I get pregnant it's ok. But it still hasn't happened.

 

I also did a full swap with only a condom for BC and was terrified of pregnancy, so I will not be trying that again until I have a good back up method (hoping to get a non-hormonal IUD after I have a baby)

[ShellyM 0]

Personally girl if I were as concerned with the very possibility of pregnancy from another man and you are not on bcp I would just take a break. Once you have your baby(s) and are on a form of bc that you feel comfortable with than return; we aren't going anywhere lol. Well, unless Mr. Spoo starts dating Kate Beckinsale, then he and Mrs. Spoo will be in Los Angeles. LOL.