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In social anthropology and sociobiology, polyandry (Greek: poly many, andros man) means a female forming a stable sexual union with more than one male.

 

The form of polyandry in which two (or more) brothers marry the same woman is known as fraternal polyandry, and it is believed by many anthropologists to be the most frequently encountered form.

 

I'm surpised no one mentioned this before.. I know it is probably very uncommon since most swingers are a couple , but I thought it was interesting!

 

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Maybe that term applies to me. I'm married and I have two male lovers besides my husband and I'm about to take another.

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That is interesting since I have seen in even polyamorous relationships that the wife of the couple usually has a lot easier time of getting lovers then the husband (this is a whole other discussion). So, I've seen it very common for the relationship to be husband/wife/wife's male lover more then husband/wife/husband's female lover.

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I have no problem with that and the wife and I have discussed it from time to time. My only restriction was 'the bastards are going to marry you! someone is GOING to help out with the bills!' Seems most guys beat a hasty retreat when they find out that they're not just there for the booty. :lol::lol::lol:

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Sounds as though you have more than just your hands full, girl! :lol:;)

 

My wife has three semi-regular lovers and sometimes has difficulty with scheduling, but you seldom see her without an ear-to-ear smile.

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For almost 5 years I have seen a married lady with the full permission and cooperation of her husband. About a year into our relationship I introduced them to a single male friend of mine and he also sees her and we will occasionally have a mfm (with either her husband and myself or my friend) and we have had a couple mmmf. The guys are all straight and we are all good social friends as well.

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I like the term polyandry! I have a husband in NY and a boyfriend in Va. I travel for work and it makes sense to have a lover in each place. Both my husband and my boyfriend are fully aware of and supportive of my relationships and I couldn't be happier!

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This is a very interesting thread. I'm in a poly triad with two other ladies, but have always wondered how the opposite types of groupings, handle their relationships. What happens if the woman gets pregnant? What happens when, or if, she starts to get more emotionally involved with one of the BF' s than she is with her H? What if either a bf or her H get involved with other women? Geez , I could ask a lot of questions.:)

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This is a very interesting thread. I'm in a poly triad with two other ladies, but have always wondered how the opposite types of groupings, handle their relationships. What happens if the woman gets pregnant? What happens when, or if, she starts to get more emotionally involved with one of the BF' s than she is with her H? What if either a bf or her H get involved with other women? Geez , I could ask a lot of questions.:)

 

Pretty much just take your situation and flip the sexes around.

 

People are all different, they all have their own limits. Like you have mentioned in your poly you guys dont play with others. And if one of you did, the other 2 might not like it. Or they might. Really hard to know for sure until it happens.

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I have been in a poly F/M/M relationship for about 8 years now. We started swinging because I liked girls (I'm the F). I found swinging wasn't the best venue for me but we did have some fun. I just wasn't as interested in the guys tagging along. I'm not lesbian...just not one to want every guy out there.

 

It so happened I did have permission to take this acquaintence for 'a spin around the bedroom'. Long story short, there are now three of us. Like most f/m/m relationships, it is kind of like me having two monogamous relationships. Never a threesome.

 

We live under the same roof. My Co-husbands are close friends...and they are my best friends. I am legally married to one (12 years), the other is my husband (obviously) in lifestyle but not by law.

 

We have three family dynamics: one family knows all and accept and love is for being functional and happy, one we don't talk to let alone tell because they are BSC, the other we talk to but don't tell because they are very faithful Christian. People seem to be willing to perpetuate their own comfortable reality if you allow them...so outside the house, my second husband is a friend and roommate.

 

We are happy and all support each other. Our relationship seems to work because I have a pretty high energy level and with two husbands, nobody gets worn out on me and I have my emotional needs still met.

 

We have a pretty functional relationship. Each of us brings something that helps us all be pretty well rounded.

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Good for you ILLY. That's so nice to hear that it can work out.:)

 

I was the one, who tried swinging had some fun but the same as you didn't want every guy out there, so I had found my BF.

 

We have been together M/M/F for more then 2 years already. We live in separate places and we all have 4 kids of different ages. I don't see any way to explain his 15 y.o child why they moved in with us. I don't see myself hiding my lustful eyes when I look at him from everybody or him keeping his hands of me without my kids noticing it.

 

I am not even talking about our parents. Everybody would just freak out. I guess only my parents could possibly accept it as long as everybody is happy. Neither my hubby's or my BF's would. They(my men) are mortified just by idea of it.

 

It's very hard to juggle two relationship, full time job, 3 kids, all activities and obligations. They both are completely different personalities. Sometimes it feels like I live in two parallel worlds. Like almost surreal.

 

I wish I could all make it work some day.

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My wife is very open to this, she just hasn't met the right other guy. She had one boyfriend for about a year but he started seeing another girl and my wife and him broke up. The other she was with for about 6 months got super controlling.

 

My wife is "single" as she is looking for a boyfriend, she has a husband. She would like to have two husbands. Too often, her relationships are more about sex. She meets a guy, goes through a newly wed stage where she's head over heals and having sex at least daily with them, then is just seems to fade off. She met a guy the other week, and is going on her third date tonight, maybe they will have more than sex. The first date did end in sex. The second date didn't so maybe this one will be more. :)

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My BF (who feels like the best husband i have ever had) have been dicking around with swinging in the past year... but it isn't really working for us. It's like 'this bed is too soft, this bed is too square, this bed isn't just right'.

 

Iguess it takes more for me to want to mess around with someone... or I am just holding back too much.... but I want that chemistry and desire...so we've been with a few couples but most sexually, chemically, intellectually have not turned us on.

 

I had a semi lover who I would barely call a lover. Pete has had three lovers and now wants to go poly only... he hates condoms and does not feel fucking when he wears one.

 

Peter told me about poly 3 years ago when we met and it made sense to me... we ended up trying to swing because it felt less intense to me and Pete was so new to me that I grappled with sharing him in a love relationship.

 

We had considered the bareback friends thing but havent found compatible couples for us... it's a lot of damn work!! :lol:

we are still working on this...

 

I guess part of hard part is that we live a few hours away from each other and I drive there nearly each weekend (not a big deal as it's a nice drive)... we do intend on me moving down there and I have started looking for a job.

 

So this is where we are...

 

any feedback out there?

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twistedpretzels, the search can be long and hard to find just what you're looking for. You have high standards. That's not a bad thing, it's a GOOD thing, but it does mean it's going to take time to find just the right fit. It can be tricky, but it can be done. There are plenty of polyamorous triads, quads, and quints out there.

 

The Alternatives to Marriage Project might be of some interest to you.

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I have several guys that I play with every week. My husband is always there. He has a couple of girls he plays with also. We have a rule that the other partner is always present when we play. I also try to have at least two new guys each week for variety. I know it’s slutty to have different guys each week but I get bored if I have the same guys each week.

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I have several guys that I play with every week. My husband is always there. He has a couple of girls he plays with also. We have a rule that the other partner is always present when we play. I also try to have at least two new guys each week for variety. I know it’s slutty to have different guys each week but I get bored if I have the same guys each week.

 

You're not slutty dollbaby-- you're YOU and that's a great thing to be!!

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twistedpretzels, the search can be long and hard to find just what you're looking for. You have high standards. That's not a bad thing, it's a GOOD thing, but it does mean it's going to take time to find just the right fit. It can be tricky, but it can be done. There are plenty of polyamorous triads, quads, and quints out there.

 

The Alternatives to Marriage Project might be of some interest to you.

 

Thank you sooooooooooo much for the link! I will look at it early next week. I appreciate it very much.

 

Pete and I talked and we agreed up that I would be his primary... primate (lol). He had met a woman he was interested in (poly and bareback) and I was feeling threatened and crazed. He felt that when he got to the point where he was able to insert his wand into a woman I would freak. I am not against him fucking someone. Truthfully oral feels (or used to feel) more intimate to me in more ways (I mean, hey he's looking right into my junk!!! lol). Now, fucking has a new intimacy to me...petey pie got me up to speed. lol... :blush:

 

My freaking came (heh heh) more from me living a bit away and concerned that I would be hearing "no need to come down this weekend doll face, new gf and I and will be spending the weekend together..." Can you hear my groan in interspace????? ahhhhhhhhhhh!

 

I am just so terribly desirous of him and in some ways I feel I need just to let go but we have so much fun together on ALL levels. So we talked and talked and I cried a bit but not nearly like I would have expected. Pete is so gentle and kind and awesome. "we're not fighting jilly, we are discussing...."

 

So we came up with the 'primary' thingie and he also figured out at this point he wouldn't have all that much time for another gf with his intense job schedule and the things he needs to get done for himself (you know, food shopping, cleaning and all that fun stuff). He will discuss the potential arrangement with his new friend and see what she thinks of it. He is doubtful that she would want to be a secondary and a once a weeker/bi weekly but I feel she'd be silly if she said 'no'. But that's just me.

 

One thing Pete did say to me that made lots of sense is that within our relationship "he just didn't want to feel 'trapped' like he did in his previous marriage". And really, who does?

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