Just got back from our first swing club!

[Sybert99 15]

This has the potential to be a longish story, but it's the kind of information I was looking for earlier this week so I hope this post will prove useful to someone else.

 

My wife and I recently attended an R-Rated erotic "show" that had some nudity and a bit of audience participation. We were both nervous as hell prior to attending the show, but once we were there we had an absolute blast! We felt... liberated. Like our moral blinders had been removed and we could suddenly see life more clearly.

 

Because of that experience I asked my wife several weeks ago if we could attend a swinger's club in September for my birthday. I was about 98% sure she would flat out refuse (she was raised in a strict religious household and until recently she has been a bit of a prude when it comes to sex). But to my great surprise she said she would "think about it".

 

Then, last weekend, while a little buzzed on MaiTais, she announced that she didn't want to wait until September and so we made plans to go to the club tonight! (That revelation had my jaw on the floor for about four days.)

 

All last week I was alternately thrilled and mortified. My wife, on the other hand, had work and other things on her mind and never even gave the club a second thought. That is, until we were walking up the front steps earlier tonight; then it suddenly hit her. She practically shouted:

 

"OH MY GOD! WHAT ON EARTH ARE WE DOING HERE???"

 

She thought about turning around but after a minute or so she calmed down and we went through the orientation without incident. The other couples were a mixed group of mostly normal looking people. All ages and sizes. My wife and I both felt pretty comfortable.

 

Every couple at the orientation decided to join the club, so we all sat down in the dining area as the regular members began to show up. We were doing great until a large-chested woman walked past us wearing a fishnet-inspired outfit that... well... she might as well have been naked. My wife gasped and I gawked. These people were *hardcore* swingers. We were afraid to go near them.

 

As luck would have it, when we picked up our dinner at the buffet line and returned to our table we found the hardcore swingers already seated there. We began to talk and naturally, we discovered that these two were actually really nice and a pleasure to be around!

 

After dinner things started to heat up at the club. It was a beautiful night so my wife and I sat on the patio to watch the stars. Before long, a naked man walked by in an [open] robe and another couple on the patio near us started to kiss and get frisky. My wife was getting a little turned on and she suggested that we should go find one of the outdoor mattresses. I told her I wanted to walk around "upstairs" first, so we could watch other people play for a minute. To my surprise, she readily agreed.

 

There was a sign on the door that said "no street clothes allowed". We both took off our shirts (my wife stayed in her bra) and headed up. It was like being in a 360 degree porno movie! There were naked people everywhere, having sex. I found it interesting that of the 20 to 30 couples we saw upstairs, almost all of them were engaged in some form of intercourse. I expected to see more oral play.

 

It was packed, d humid from the pool,so we headed back downstairs, past some naked people getting frisky in a hot tub. After a few minutes we found a nice mattress in the garden and we used it to make love under the stars. (One of my wife's fantasies!) Other people walked past, but fortunately no one tried to join us. We're not ready for that yet.

 

Afterwards, we took another trip around the play areas and then we headed home. All in all, we had a FANTASTIC time and we both look forward to doing it again. (We may never want to swap partners, but that's okay! It was fun being in such a sexually charged atmosphere around a bunch of very open-minded people. That's enough for us! At least for now.)

[Mr. Truelove 81]

Glad to hear it was such a positive experience. It encourages the rest of us that have yet to take the plunge.

[She_n_Jaybee 15]

That's the kind of post that we need to see more. A great first experience, well written and ending on a positive note.

 

We have talked with quite a few people that are terrified of swing clubs. They want to step into the lifestyle, but many have gotten the wrong impression about swing clubs. I'm certain there are some bad ones, but there are also so many good clubs. So many hold the belief they will be immediately grabbed and thrown down on the nearest available surface for sex by everyone in a swing club. Either that, or constantly groped, or hounded by groups that will try to drag them off to bed as soon as their partner gets up to visit the bathroom. The reality is completely the opposite. Most of the people at the clubs are very polite and considerate. Just last night, we had 2 couples join us after we had just about worn ourselves out. They lended a few hands to help She over the edge just one more time, then they moved over to an adjacent couch to complete their swap. We continued to wind down, and finally She headed to the ladies room while I caught my breath. While I was getting dressed, 1 person from each couple expressed concern they had run us off, or upset us. I explained that we were just worn out, and we definitely had enjoyed their participation.

 

Geeze, and I started out to say "Great post".

[MetroMike 15]

This sounds a lot like the first experience my wife and I had. We were really surprised at how friendly people were. In our case the club was "Couples Only".

 

We once visited a club that allowed single males in, and they were really annoying! Very persistent and unable to "get a clue" that we were not interested. Some other couples stepped in and flat out told them to leave us alone. We haven't had any experiences like that at our favorite "Couples Only" club.

[funGRcouple 15]

I want to know where this club is. My wife and i have gone to a couple of clubs and LOVE the lifestyle.

[intuition897 2,179]

This one just went in my favorites folder! GREAT post, Sybert! Congrats.

[JandGsexfest 15]

Could someone please post names of some good clubs or at least some cities?

[MetroMike 15]

Could someone please post names of some good clubs or at least some cities?

 

 

Shenanigans, just outside of Indianapolis.

[She_n_Jaybee 15]

Could someone please post names of some good clubs or at least some cities?

 

The closest we've been to your area is Louisville, KY. Bluegrass Secrets Social Club. We had a great time, but the overall vibe of the club wasn't to our taste. A few of their rules set wrong with us (no watching, you're here to play with others, so you better play. And, beyond this point, no one has to ask before they touch you, and in this room, you are required to play with someone other than your partner). We have also heard (no absolute confirmations though) if one of the owners is interested in you, then you either play with them, or you are no longer welcome there. Wouldn't even mention rumor, but we've heard it from 4 completely seperate, unsolicited sources. Have talked to at least that many people who love the place .

 

We've also been to clubs in Evansville, Anderson and Ft. Wayne, Indiana. Give all a big thumbs up. Check the clubs listing on here for more specific info.

[Sybert99 15]

The club we attended (unfortunately, I'm not supposed to say the name without permission) is very female-centric -- something my wife *really* appreciated. There is a beautiful lodge-type facility with a lighted dance floor, a lobby, a swimming pool, several hot tubs, etc. Then, if you walk down a hallway, there is a spiral staircase that leads up to the "play" areas.

 

They have several rules about the play areas:

 

1. No single men are allowed. Period. A guy can't even go up and retrieve his wife -- he would need to have a woman escort him upstairs.

 

2. No street clothes are allowed upstairs. You don't have to be naked, but you can't be dressed the way you came to the club.

 

3. No cell phones are allowed. Period. At first I thought this was due to potential distractions with ringing phones, but the bigger concern is camera phones. They don't want even a HINT that someone is taking a picture.

 

4. My memory is a little fuzzy from sensory overload, but as I recall the play areas were along the outer edges of a large room. There were private cubicle spaces enclosed with curtains in the center of the room, so you had to pretty much walk in a single file line around the "circle". I was sort of hoping that there would be a couch or someplace for us to sit and watch for a few minutes, but no such luck.

 

My mind started wandering today at work and I suddenly began to laugh out loud because it hit me that the play areas were like an x-rated haunted house: I was scared. I was following my wife along a single file path in a dark room. There were little alcoves with frightening sights. There was a lot of moaning and a few screams. And every time we walked around a corner there was a new shock: a threesome! Around the next corner: doggy style! Around the next corner, an exhausted zombie-looking couple cuddling and rubbing each other!

 

Anyway, we feel very fortunate to have such a beautiful facility so close to us. My wife and I had sex on a mattress in the gardens, under the stars, surrounded by towering pine trees, near a gurgling fountain. (With two other couples having sex right next to each other on a mattress about 40 yards away.) How awesome is that?

 

I typed up my "afterthoughts" message right after we returned from the club. I was very tired, and a little buzzed on wine and the excitement of everything that happened. Here are some additional comments:

 

A) The next day, my wife said, "Remember when we first went upstairs and there was a woman having sex with about three different guys? I'm not sure I could ever do that." I told her (truthfully) that I was happy just to share some time with *her* and that I wasn't even thinking about us ever going upstairs. Having said that, it struck me that *she* was apparently thinking about it. Interesting... ;-)

 

B) I saw a number of older and heavyweight people at the club, but upstairs it seemed to mostly be the younger, fit, attractive people having sex. Maybe the red light was clouding my judgement a bit. It tended to make everyone look tan and beautiful.

 

C) It almost felt like we saw two different groups of people. There was the group eating dinner and dancing. They were happy, laughing, and super friendly. Then there was the group upstairs playing. They were moaning, screaming, and intense. (Not that those are bad things. ;-) )

[Tia Vampire 167]

We just visited our first swing club too and we found it quite pleasent. We are looking forward to going again. It was the not knowing the truth about these types of clubs that kept us away. In our case, we have four children and a place like this is a good get away so we can have good sex. When the chilren are home, we just don't do it or we just do quickies so that the children don't hear (boring). I wish I would have known about these sort of places sooner.

[BradAndJanet 70]

Tia Vampire said:

...we have four children and a place like this is a good get away so we can have good sex. When the chilren are home, we just don't do it or we just do quickies so that the children don't hear (boring). ...

We don't have four, just two, but boy do we know what you mean! J's real shy around the kids and it's nice to get away somewhere sexy and fun.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Hey folks, don't forget to head over to the club listings and post reviews of the clubs that you've visited. It goes a long way to help others make their decisions and keeping it all in one area specific to each club helps people find exactly what they are looking for.

[sysy1959 15]

This is just what I need to hear for me to take the big leap into swinging. It is so comforting to know they will allow you to have sex with just your mate instead of being groped by a full of strangers!!

[HubbyFromNY 15]

Wow what a great post it seems to match my situtaion exactly in particular I too believe my wife would 98% refuse however I so want to try it. There is hope

 

Thanx