Does penis size really matter?

[EggPlantKing 30]

Me and my wife have been talking about our exes and all the things we have done with them. I discovered that I am the smallest (Penis Size) one way or another that she has ever been with sexually. I understand that most women will say when confronted face to face that size isn't that big of an issue. There are a thousand different metaphors for the length and width "It's not the size of the wand, Its the magic in it." " It's not the size of the boat is if you can keep it in port till all the passengers have gotten off."

 

I need a female's perspective, does size count? I measured and discovered I am 6 inch long and 3 inches around is this small or normal.

[prettylady 221]

Normal? Have you seen a penis lately, I really don't think there is anything normal about a penis. Oh don't get me wrong I love penis, my bf Dog happens to be attached to my favorite penis.

 

Some women like a big penis, I know there is one on the board who will say size matters to her. I for one don't like a large penis, I am after all a small woman inside.

 

To big a penis I hurt inside for days. Where our friend (I really wish I could remember her name) Likely loves the feeling of a guy "bottoming out".

What matters is not "the size of the boat". What matters is do you please your woman.

 

Was penis size an issue when you hooked up? not likely, it was perhaps your eyes, your smile, or even your sense of humor. For me it was Dogs chest and abs, superficial? Well Ya, but it lead to a wonderful relationship with a wonderful guy.

 

My G spot is not buried 7" inside of me. Dog can reach it with his fingers part way inserted. Soooo, having said that would I be better stimulated by "superdick the 9" shlong" Or "Joe Average" with his 6". I never asked Dog how big he is. No he is not my biggest, but he is the only one who could make me orgasm with intercourse.

 

OK, so Ya size matters. Different size penis' work better with different women. But the bread and butter here is. Does my man please me. I can honestly say YES he does. Even his voice can bring me to an orgasm if we havent seen each other in awhile. If we are seeing each other often it still drives me wild. Don't forget his hands, and oh god that tounge.

 

I hope I have lifted you spirits a bit. Or a least, not confused you. I have a tendency to ramble.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

Eggplantking, I know you looking for some reasurance from women and im a guy, but I had to put my 2 cents in because yes we are the same size and it really did used to bother me.

 

I've learned to accept who i am and my size, and believe me sex has gotten so much better with out the size hang up. I've been there, trust me I know. Yes mrs.Fun has had bigger, both sizes (length and girth) and she prefers a little more on the girth side. Does it bother me? Maybe when I was younger and a little less understanding but certainly not now. Why? Because I'm the guy she loves and wants to share her life with and I totally trust her with that. Yeah, I've been at the clubs and had the bigger guys around and it is not threatening. Why? (because it is sexual, not marital). Mrs.Fun really appreciates my feelings with that. Why do the women at clubs and get-togethers pick me over the bigger men? Well they certainly appreciate me not having the hangups about myself for one.

 

 I mean would you want mrs. Eggplantking to be so worried about the other women in the world. Or who (you) have been with, with bigger boobs, shorter, taller, prettier or tighter? I wouldn't think so. You would want her to have some confidence in herself sexually that she is the one you want to spend your life with, right?

If size is a problem with you, I can relate, and I hope you deal with it, and find a way to feel comfortable about your average size, you're not alone. If mrs.Fun and I were at a club or get-together and mr. 9x5 was standing there she would be eyes wide open but she would probably lean a little more your way. Your confidence would win over.

As for myself I just don't measure people or myself with a ruler. There is a lot more to sex and life than that.

[LFM2 1,482]

EggPlantKing said:

I need a female's perspective, does size count? I measured and discovered I am 6 inch long and 3 inches around is this small or normal.

 

I'm still trying to find out why men have such a hangup over this.

 

There is nothing more sexy that a man who's confident in who he is and what he wants. I've always thought that the biggest sex organ is between your ears. It's not what hangs between your legs. I'd much rather have a man who is 6 inches (my husband is your size, also.) who loves sex and loves to participate than one who is 9 inches and thinks that his cock is king and we are to worship it while he lies there and does nothing. (This would describe my ex)

 

As Pretty lady said, the G-Spot is only about 3 inches up inside the vagina, and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that you don't need a bigger guy to satisfy. I LOVE sex with my husband. He is the PERFECT size and the PERFECT lover. Please, be comfortable in who you are and what you have and quit worrying.

[Spoomonkey 421]

EggPlantKing said:

Me and my wife... I discovered that I am the smallest (Penis Size) one way or another that she has ever been with sexually.

 

Dude...

 

Even with the least "equipment" you wound up with her. There must be some truth to all of those metaphors, eh?

 

[NandTfromCA 84]

T is about the same size you are and I have to tell him to go easy sometimes.

 

There are advantages to being with a guy who is average, or even on the small side. I like being pounded sometimes but it hurts too much when a “big” guy does it, whereas a guy who is not as big can really give it to me. Also, I can't see myself having anal sex with anyone bigger than T.

 

I like variety but if I had to choose one cock size, it would be yours

 

~Mrs

[VCee3 15]

dude, I'm 6.5" and I haven't had any trouble yet satisfying the women I've been with.

 

When I look down at the feller I don't consider it small, I consider it average just like my height, weight, shoe size or whatever.

 

it's easy to say "don't worry about it" but they've seen bigger and they've seen smaller, just in the same way you have with breasts. Believe me, I can have just as much (if not more) fun with a flat chested woman than I can with one with huge boobs.

[EggPlantKing 30]

I think I may have asked this in the wrong context. I am not unsure about myself sexually and I know how to find all the right places (My wife's quote not mine ). I just wanted to know if I was average or small. I have never had the problem with pleasing a woman with what I have. If my wife had been happy wife the others she had been with she wouldn't be with me. Thank God her other lovers never took the time to help her reach the "Plateau of Pleasure" that I strive to help her achieve.

 

The hype about size I think is bolstered by the inner fear of not being good enough in most men or the medias necessity in blowing things out of proportion ( Quite literally in this case .). I just wanted to get the definitive answer to my size question by a group small enough to pole honesty and experienced enough to know the truth.

[PrairieFire 15]

Being a guy, I've looked to see how I rated (okay okay 6.75"x 5 ) and it sounds like 5" is the "average" for a male. So 5.25 is above average and you can consider yourself hung.

[LFM2 1,482]

I just wanted to know if I was average or small.

 

EPK, what do you think? What does your wife think? Your two opinions are the only ones that matter.

[scotnj 15]

I understand this issue, there are excercises that you can do to increase your length and girth but it takes a lot of time and dedication, there is a non commercial forum called thunders place that deals with this, it has lots of resources such as free instructional videos on how to perform these excercises.

[Guest Annaiis]

I need a females perspective does size count. I measured and discovered I am 6 inch long and 3 inches around is this small or normal.

Size has very little to do with being a great lover.

 

My best lover EVER - not my current partner - was quite small, and when he met me he had an inferiority complex about it because of negative feedback from his wife, who actively searched out large organs.

 

Loving his wife and wanting to please her despite her preference for larger organs - she was quite large herself - he had become an absolutely phenomenal cunnilinguist over his years of marriage, but sadly, despite his ability to satisfy her orally, she continued to belittle him about his size, and his inferiority complex remained.

 

As a close friend one of her large-organed playmates, I was invite to join them in a foursome FWB relationship and he was amazing!

 

He was the most passionate and yet sensitive man I've ever been with - he was a true "lover" - and combined with his skill in oral, not only was he regularly able to give me multiple orgasms orally - which no man before or SINCE has been able to do - but after four or five oral orgasms, he would enter me and though his organ WAS a bit smaller than most men I've been with, it was quite large enough, with my legs over his shoulders, to hit my G-spot, and we'd finish with a mind-blowing SIMULTANEOUS full-body orgasm - again, something that happens very infrequently to me.

Needless to say, he quickly lost his inferiority complex about the size of his member and about his ability as a lover in general.

 

A great lover is a great lover for many reasons, some of it's skill, some of it's a match in the size department, but to me, the most important things are passion and sensitivity.

[Guest Annaiis]

Oh --- My first response was to your question

EggPlantKing said:

... does size count?

 

If all you wanted to know was

EggPlantKing said:

... I am 6 inch long and 3 inches around is this small or normal.

 

At 6" long you are pretty much average in length, and at 3" around you are smaller than average in circumference.

 

Here are three polls that answer that question...

 

Penis size poll

Penis girth!

How do you measure your penis and how long is it by that method?

[EggPlantKing 30]

My wife just told me I may have mispoke I gave the wrong measurements I thought girth was one side of the penis to the other. So I guess the right measurements would be 6 inches long and 6 in circumference. Does that change it?

[ShellyM 0]

Me and my wife have been talking about our exes and all the things we have done with them. I discovered that I am the smallest (Penis Size) one way or another that she has ever been with sexually. I understand that most women will say when confronted face to face that size isn't that big of an issue. There are a thousand different metaphors for the length and width "It's not the size of the wand, Its the magic in it." " It's not the size of the boat is if you can keep it in port till all the passengers have gotten off."

I need a females perspective does size count. I measured and discovered I am 6 inch long and 3 inches around is this small or normal.

 

I can only speak for myself, but I think most women think like I do. I just have never looked at a man and thought "I wonder if he has a 10" dick" lol, I swear I haven't! There are women who say they are looking for hung men, but I just don't understand why. There is only so much of a penis a vagina can hold, and the rest is wasted space lol. I don't, seriously.

[MetroMike 15]

My wife just told me I may have mispoke I gave the wrong measurements I thought girth was one side of the penis to the other. So I guess the right measurements would be 6 inches long and 6 in circumference. Does that change it?

 

Dude, a 6 in. girth is HUGE, and a 6 in. length is average. With your girth, I think most women would be very happy. You have absolutely nothing to worry about. Well, nothing to worry about as long as you know how to use it.

[EggPlantKing 30]

This is the EggPlantQueen. I have to say yes he does know how to use it and then some. I have never had a satisfying sexual relationship till i got with him and now I just can't complain and I think I would be foolish to try. That's all for now I am having trouble putting it into words all the things he can do for me.

 

My first post.

[Amanda69 24]

From Men's Health . com

 

2. What's the average length of an erect penis?

 

A. 6.21 inches

B. 5.95 inches

C. 8.01 inches

D. 12.2 inches

 

Answer: A. Ninety percent of men measure between 5 and 7 inches when erect, while the mean size of a flaccid penis is 3.89 inches. If you insist on measuring yourself: Press the ruler--er, yardstick--against your pubic bone, just above your penis.

[EggPlantKing 30]

Now when it says press against the pubic bone it changes things. I thought it was just from where the shaft meets the belly. Oh well at least I knwo I ma not you knwo like freakishly small. Thanks for all the replies. Mrs Eggplantking says thanks to she was having trouble trying to make me feel better when I just wanted to know if I ws average or small and didn't need the reasurance just the facts.

[jimnjan 16]

Oh yeah, I really want an 8" cock trying to penetrate through my cervix! That really turns me on!

 

Seriously, I can see a large penis as more of a problem (for me) than of a desire.

 

Size only matters with those that make it matter. For instance, some men don't care what cup size a woman is, a boob is a boob right? Great in all shapes and sizes right? They all have nipples ready to be sucked, and they all receive the pleasure from being sucked.

 

Now, some men have a hangup on "if I'm going to be with a girl, she's gotta have at least a C cup", that's the same thing as a girl saying "I'm only going to be with a guy who has at least X amount of inches".

 

For the rest of us, as long as it does the job, who cares? If I orgasm, it's big enough.

 

Jan

[EggPlantKing 30]

Thank you for all the replies. I am sort of flattered to know that so many wemon like the general size I am. I don't remember ever having so many people talk about my member in such a useful and flattering way. Makes me a little more willing to go to a club now that I know I wouldn't be a "Point and Giggle" attraction."

[jedi6942 18]

Point and giggle? No. That's closer to me, maybe. In order for 6 inches to be "average" there must be about as many less than "average" as there are that exceed the "average." You guessed it. Mine is less than four inches. No. it isn't very big around, either. Did I get cheated? I used to think so. No longer. (Pun intended.)

 

It was likely due to my complex about my size that I devoted myself so enthusiastically to becoming more accomplished at oral skills. Who knew that I would enjoy it so, so much?

 

Over time I have learned that loving what you do has an enormous impact on effectiveness; and popularity too.

 

Many years ago I will confess to thinking that large breast were better. Now I know that its all about the woman behind the breast and what a wonderful team they are together.

 

It's all about learning to be happy with what you have. After all, I've discovered others are happy with what I have!

[EggPlantKing 30]

Jedi6942 Thanks for the support and understanding. I am so glad I found a place people can share there experiances openly. I ws wondering if since you obviously have a technique with the oral stimulation could we so to speak compare notes cuase its has been my favorite part of the sexual experience in many cases. If not could you point me to a web site to get more info. I always am looking to get that 6th or 7th orgasm out of the experience. Thanks

[Rosleenlove 16]

Well I guess it all matters if you wine and dine you partner before sex....if you are in and out in a rush she will feel bad but if you set a picture session with a nice cocktail and some good nice words she want have a problem about you been small...

[couplers 4,614]

Despite all the threads about penis size, I don't think I've ever met a penis that itself cares about its size.

[TricianMike 772]

Normally I would say size doesn’t matter. Is the a difference between 5 1/2 or 6 1/2”? I don’t carry a ruler. I do notice a very large penis. How big I can’t say. More than two hands long and my hand barely wrapped around how do you not notice. Maybe I’m a masochist I needed to experience. I don’t understand how someone can say you can’t tell the difference. The circumference is the first thing you notice during sex and then you adjust. The length also can hurt if it’s too deep and too hard. For me it was a challenge that first time.

[couplers 4,614]

... The circumference is the first thing you notice during sex and then you adjust. The length also can hurt if it’s too deep and too hard. For me it was a challenge that first time.

Agree. What feels better for me is a larger circumference penis in my pussy and a longer, thin one in my bum.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

Here is what I've figured out as an average looking guy of average height and an average dick. First of all, I appeal to some women for whatever reason and to other, maybe not so much. Different people like different things. Second, regardless of my how large or small my dick is, or what someone else thinks about my dick, my dick is not going to be disappointed. Third, rather than give any thought to what someone might think of my dick, I put 110% effort into figuring out every possible thing I can do to exceed expectations. So far, that approach has never failed to result in holding someone's interest in having sex with me. I've concluded that more or less average size and above average effort matters more than just about anything else. I won't be the first choice for a size queen, but really, does it matter? Also, everyone has a list of preferences and no one person will fulfill all of those, so what people actually want is the best combination of trade offs.

 

Guys who worry about their dicks and women who worry about their breasts (or labia or whatever) are focussing on what is not all that important in the grand scheme of things. Focus on finding out what rocks your partner's world and just do it instead. The one thing anyone can do is pay more attention to a partner and become better at knowing what to do and when to do it.

[Numex 2,409]

My wife and I agree - we've never had a bad orgasm. Even mediocre sex is one of the best things in this world.

[lovefest04 697]

I try to focus on the things I can actually change. My dick, it's size, shape, and girth were decided long ago by a higher power (Science/Biology). What I can do is focus, as Ozzie stated, on my partners needs, wants and desires. What gets them off? How can I get them off? How can I help them feel sexy and attractive.

 

I certainly can focus and affect other areas that are very important. Like on being clean, nice, happy, in good shape, and presentable. All things that I actually have control over.

 

I find lots of different people, bodies and organs attractive. Big boobs, firm boobs, small boobs, big nipples, big clits, thick cocks, long cocks, big balls, tight balls etc etc. What I find is that all of these variations are and can be sexy and attractive IF the person is happy, feels sexy, and is comfortable with their individual parts.

 

After all, variety is the spice of life.

[Bluespruce1 706]

I totally agree. What turns me on most is the variety - it’s why I love the nude beach. I love seeing so many naked men of all shapes and sizes. Visually I have stated before that I really like the way a smaller penis looks. During sex I do like seeing a large erect cock and I like the way they feel in my hands or inside me. Most of my partners know how to really give our pleasure regardless of their size so it’s all good.

[Numex 2,409]

... What turns me on most is the variety ...

Sex with a different person is always a turn on.

[Napoleon 230]

Penis size does matter.

 

The tightness, lack of tightness(too loose), look, color tone, and smell of a woman's vagina matters also. I have came in contact with some unattractive vaginas, so unattractive I didn't proceed with sex after myself and the woman I was with cloths came off.

[xxx123 16]

What about after your wife has been with a much larger dick?

Does it make you feel awkward or bad about yourself the next time she sees you naked?

 

Has your wife said something that comforts you about this situation?

[enhancer 1,584]

We have figured out that size really matters to men! It would seem many of them are obsessed with dicks. Just take a look at the comments on dick pics on sites that allow them. Almost all of them are from other men.

 

Are some women size queens? Well sure, but are most? Honestly most women we know could care less about your penis. It is a lot lower on the list of what makes a guy attractive then most men realize.

[Guest]

From a woman’s perspective, I always thought size was more of an issue with men. To me, size didn’t seem to matter although a little thicker seemed to be a bit better. And more importantly, being a small girl, I though big would be painful. Then, after we became swingers, we had an MFM and the other guy turned out to have what my husband estimated was 9”. I mean, we saw the guy two days earlier, we were at a nudist place, and walking around he was on the tall side, maybe 6’4" but his equipment looked no bigger than other guys who were 6’ or 6’2”. But, when I started stroking and sucking, it just kept growing and growing and I became very fascinated by it, sucking it all the more. And when we had intercourse, I cautioned him several times to be gentle because it was so large, he was, it took him a while to work it in but once he did, it was simply wonderful. Afterwards, I was worried that perhaps I had been too demonstrative and my husband would be jealous. But, he was quite supportive, other than I’m periodically remined that size did matter to me.

[Bluespruce1 706]

It’s the endless thread - and I get it. I know that I certainly compare myself to the women my husband fucks. It can be exhausting so we constantly come back to the fact that we are in this purely for fun and sex. We want to be with other people - we want to experience new things. Last night watched my husband with a beautiful 30 year old with an immaculate body and a magic pussy that accepted three separate loads from him. At the same time, her very average husband drove me wild and carried me through several completely satisfying orgasms with his mouth and his beautifully shaped small penis. Earlier in the evening a regular partner spit roasted me with my husband and satisfied me with his 8” beast of a cock. Each was perfect, satisfying and gave me just what I needed - a horny guy who wanted to fuck me and make sure I was left tingling. Every woman I know that swings is content with a partner that is attractive, clean, well groomed and committed to her satisfaction.

[Kimasianwife 32]

I think size matters depending on the woman. I'm very tight so bigger ones I'm afraid of.

[Kimasianwife 32]

Ur a woman? I've never done it yet but u can handle 9in cock? How do u get to that point? That and my husband jealousy is to only thing stopping me

[hotguysingle 16]

I'm about 7 in and thicker than normal, but nothing to be afraid of with a good amount of lube

[Shore2Please 610]

This question is asked over and over again on here by men who want to be assured that they are normal. I like the answer some have given that only men worry and that women can’t tell the difference during sex unless the man is huge.

 

I don’t have the the biggest resumé of partners so this is my opinion right now. My opinion can change.

 

During physical sex I can’t tell the difference, no man has hurt me or made it painful. During foreplay is when I think a larger penis makes a difference. It could be psychological or not I enjoy a larger penis. I want to say when soft it doesn’t mean anything. I laughed when it was mentioned showers and growers and now I know it’s true.

 

When going to a nude beach I notice showers. How can’t you notice?

[Bluespruce1 706]

Sorry I missed this. It’s a complicated question as there are a few factors. I have had guys with very big cocks (more than 7”) or big toys forced on me before I was ready and it’s no fun. For me to really enjoy a big penis, it’s all about taking it slow. I need a lot of foreplay with lots of oral. I also like to be warmed up with a toy or another guy with a smaller cock. There are rare times where i’m just so wet and horned up I can go pretty quick. When he does begin to penetrate, i need it very slow so I can guide him until I can feel his balls. Once he’s all the way in I do the moving so I can make sure he’s hitting all the right spots. I usually cum pretty quick from all the extra stimulation. After I cum I loosen up and i’m all juicy so then he can pound away and get his nut off. As for jealousy, you might find that your partner really enjoys seeing you take an extreme cock as mine does.

[enhancer 1,584]

Sure would be nice if men would spend a little more time worrying about something they can do something about like the shape of the rest of their body instead of if their penis is big enough or not!

 

If you are in good shape, good looking and have a good attitude the size of your cock doesn’t matter. You will get some.

 

If you are in bad shape, ugly and have a shitty attitude a giant cock isn’t going to help you get some.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

xxx123 said:

What about after your wife has been with a much larger dick?

What about it?

 

Quote

Does it make you feel awkward or bad about yourself the next time she sees you naked?

No. Why should it?

 

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Has your wife said something that comforts you about this situation?

I would find it insulting to have someone think I needed comforting for that. I don't need anyone's approval for being who I am. Where sex is concerned. I work my ass off to figure out what my partner wants me to do and to do it. If I need any feedback on anything, it would be to tell how I could have done something better.

 

Look at it this way. Women have preferences. Some might be size queens and those women may want exactly what you don't have. There are other women who find a big dick uncomfortable. Other women may like different sizes for variety. Use what you have to do the very best you can do. Guys with big dicks have to do the same thing. The main difference is that if their wives want variety, the don't automatically assume their wives want a smaller dick and get all depressed abut it, even though what their wives want is no different that what your wife wants with a bigger dick - variety.

 

Sex isn't just about fucking with the biggest dick. It's about using what you have to the best you can use it, it's about being great giving oral sex, it's about being a great kisser, it's about reading your partner to anticipate what she wants, etc. It's about a whole lot of things and what matters is all of it. Be creative. Incorporate toys. Here's something you can do if you don't have a huge dick. Insert your fingers while you are having sex. That will provide a feeling of girth while having the ability to use your dexterity to do something girth alone can't do and may not make that possible to do.

[JessicaJamison 861]

On 8/6/2006 at 7:47 AM, EggPlantKing said:

Me and my wife have been talking about our exes and all the things we have done with them. I discovered that I am the smallest (Penis Size) one way or another that she has ever been with sexually. I understand that most women will say when confronted face to face that size isn't that big of an issue. There are a thousand different metaphors for the length and width "It's not the size of the wand, Its the magic in it." " It's not the size of the boat is if you can keep it in port till all the passengers have gotten off."

 

I need a female's perspective, does size count? I measured and discovered I am 6 inch long and 3 inches around is this small or normal.

You need to calm down im sure your dick is fine.  So here is the deal every woman has preferences the same as every man has preferences in boobs.  If a guy likes big boobs they probably wouldn't snub a woman with small boobs if they were really clicking right?  Same with women, I'm not gonna lie a big thick cock is fucking fun, but if I'm having some good chemistry with a guy, and I'm attracted to him and feeling cute and sexy, we are most definitely going to fuck, regardless of the size.  I've had big dicks average dicks and small dicks I've always had fun.