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  1. 1. How do you feel about Screamers/ Loud Sex

    • I am a screamer/loud or my partner is a screamer/loud
      86
    • We have a quiet household
      33
    • I think the noise is there for drama
      39
    • I think the noise is real.
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I was listening to swingercast again and I don't remember if it was the hosts or someone they were talking to that said they felt like people who made a lot of noise when they were cumming (screamers) were typically faking it... adding the noise in for drama, basically. And I believe something was said to the point that noisy guys are cheesy. Maybe not those exact words.

 

So I want to know, what your opinion is about screamers (and those who are just plain noisy in bed). Are you? If so, is it real? or are you adding it for drama? Are you noisier or quieter at a club (or with others in the room) than you are when it's just the two of you?

 

And how do you feel about others that are noisy? Does it interrupt your groove? Do you feel like they are just putting on a show?

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So I want to know, what your opinion is about screamers (and those who are just plain noisy in bed). Are you? If so, is it real? or are you adding it for drama? Are you noisier or quieter at a club (or with others in the room) than you are when it's just the two of you?

 

And how do you feel about others that are noisy? Does it interrupt your groove? Do you feel like they are just putting on a show?

 

I don't think I scream, in the traditional sense, but I am vocal when it's myself and my husband, and can be loud on occasion. It isn't to add drama, that's just how I am/we are together. It certainly isn't fake.

 

I am quieter in a club situation or if there are others in our home/vacation rentals, etc., to the point that my husband does feel the need to check to make sure all is well.

 

Noise is one thing, but out right screaming/yelling/really loud noises in a group/club situation tends to distract me.

 

Rebecca

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Sorry about that I screwed up the poll the first time, so I went back and fixed it to allow for multiple options as I had originally meant to.

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We're not silent by any means but neither do we "scream". What's that all about?

 

If we were in company and heard OTT noises, we'd both collapse into fits of giggles.

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I'm very loud . . . I wouldn't say a screamer but LOUD. It is not fake at all. It's just how I am. I have never been to a club but I imagine I might be a bit more quiet but it would be a struggle. We've had sex in the same room as another couple and I was just as loud as I am at home. I'm only quiet when we have guests or are staying the night at another person's house. Sometimes to remain that quiet hubby has to place his hand over my mouth or I have to bite him.

 

One couple we were with said I have the porn star sounds down. I took it as a compliment. It's nothing I practice or even conciously do. It's just who I am.

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OTT?

 

I guess a lot comes down to what your definition of screaming is... which is why I added "loud" to the poll. I would put someone in the category of screamer if the noises they are making could wake someone in the next room.

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When we are alone, the noise is more natural. But in our own house, while our kids are sleeping we tend to be much quieter. I don't think either of us would be considered screamers though. But we enjoy not having to be quiet the whole time.

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I am one of those screamers, and I must say,I cannot help it, If the situation is right,It just cums out.At home hubby knows when to cover my face, with a pillow or a body part,to muffle the noise. Sometimes I am louder trhan others. I bet alot of you will say Bull to me, But I feel unless I hold back, (which is not the point of good sex), It is going to happen at times. If I bother you with it,OH well Sorry. Calif

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I used to think it was fake, I have even 'caught' a few fakers at clubs who were fully dressed, in cubbies who were moaning and screaming.

 

Since I found a new button for myself and scream to high heaven when it get pushed, I know at least some screams can be very, very real.

 

So I have to vote, sometimes it's there for drama, other times it is real. Sometimes I'm quiet and other times I scream loud enough to generate complaints if we lived in an apt.

So do I pick all the options? LOL

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I was at a club a few years ago with a single lady, and we were in one of the play rooms getting it on ... when we heard some other lady in the orgy room that sounded like a banshee in heat. I mean she was SCREAMING. You could hear her all over the club. People stopped what they were doing to go check it out.

 

I love a noisy woman as much as the next guy, but if it's liable to bring the cops to the door to look for a rape victim, I say it's overkill.

 

Besides. Shouldn't there be a degree of consideration for others?

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I can get noisy but never screaming. For me it is mostly a throaty moan that I just can't help once the orgasm starts.

 

I do have a hard time believing that someone can't actually control a scream and it just does seem overly dramatic. Like someone else said if I heard someone screaming like that I would a) call police as I would think she needed help or b) fall down laughing.

 

:):lol::confused:

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I guess I'm noisy, or so Mrs. WS and my partners have said and teased me about on occasion, and I guess I really don't realize how noisy I am or they wouldn't razz me about it. :D For me, it is totally an unconcious response. I am just very vocal. Of course, I talk allot too, so there you have it. :lol:

 

I like noisy women, plain and simple. I like to know I'm having some kind of effect on her. When a woman is silent I wonder if anything I'm doing is right. :confused: I've had partners who've said they had incredibly great sex with me (and I guess they have because they've come back for more), but I had no freaking idea they were having any fun at all. It's kind of a hit to the ole' male ego, you know? Surrender

 

Mr. WS

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For me, alot will depend on the situation and how the orgasm is, but yes I am very loud. Screamer? Not sure about that, but I have to be careful when family or friends come to visit. I also have had some nice notes under the door from listeners who have stayed next to us at some hotels and only 1 complaint.

 

This may sound odd, but sometimes the louder I get, and stronger the orgasm will be. (Or is it the other way around?)

 

Hubby is usually very quiet, BUT he is excellent at sex talk which always gets me going.

 

Renee

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I am very rarely loud. Every once in a while there will be that certain spot and I will shout a 4 letter word, but most of the time I'm quiet. I can cum and not make a peep...actually...I'm usually breathless and speechless at the point of cumming, so I usually make no noise. Maybe a little squeak.

 

I've been in the same house with screamers...nice for fantasizing, but other than that...*meh* Just unneccessary. I remember when I was in college and living with a couple guys. One of them brought a screamer home. I had to work at 6am. I threw her shoes off the balcony to show how I felt about being kept awake...then I got into it with my roommate the next day about how RUDE that was.

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Maybe it's because I'm an introvert, but I tend to be on the less vocal side: some grunts, moans, and maybe the occasional mmmmmm...mmmmmm....MMMMMMMMMMMM. :rolleyes: Actually, since I can be very quiet, I sometimes am a little more vocal just to let a woman know I AM enjoying myself.

 

I've been with a few very, VERY quiet women, and had to learn to read the twitches, squeaks, and involuntary muscle and other body reactions (flushing, wetness) and hope for the best. ;) I prefer the women who are vocal to a POINT. If the moans and groans are combined with a reasonable amount of the aforementioned involuntary as well as voluntary (hips rising, boink-speed increasing, face contorting, etc.) reactions then that seems realistic to me.

 

Screamers, or women that are overly-dramatic? Reminds me of porn and takes me out of the moment actually. (I start to think, "Yeah, I've had my moments, but am I THAT good?") Hey, but it won't stop me. If she's having a good time, or pretending to have a good time, then I'm MORE than happy to carry on! :hahaha:

 

Thrax

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We both tend to be rather quiet. Some noise, but generally not too loud. If it gets even somewhat loud, it's because someone is doing a really, really good job!

 

Many years back, the woman I went to a swing club with (on a regular basis), had a friend that would often tag along. She had a very noticeable accent in everyday conversation. Quite often, she was the 5th wheel, when two couples would get together. But she'd move around, lending a hand where needed, and act as cheerleader. She would do commentary on what was going on, loud. The hotter the action, the louder her soundtrack. Plus, she sounded just like your typical porno soundtrack. The weird(er) thing, when she did that, no accent. When she got excited, it was soundtrack alternated with moaning and screaming. One night we were in a corner room, that is inside a large open play room usually packed with couples playing. The private room had an open transom over the door. It was a good night for her. The rest of us were too busy laughing hysterically at her antics. When we came out, everyone gave us a standing ovation.

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You guys are familiar with screamers, right? The first time I was with my wife there was all kinds of noise and I'm not sure it was handled right.

 

Apparently she had never been with a screamer before. Daddy makes a little noise in the sack.

 

Nah, I'm just rattling off some Ron White comedy and yes, I know, I butchered it.

 

Neither Disco or I are especially noisey in sexual scenarios. The closest we come to that is when Disco orgasms, she gives a bit of an UHHH!!! or something to that extent.

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I'm loud. I don't scream, but I yell, I moan, etc. I assure you it's not faking. In times where I've had to be quiet, I find that it's not as good. I'm not sure whether it's because I'm concentrating on being quiet so much that I can't focus on how it feels, or whether it's like in sports--grunting makes you hit harder--where the moans, etc actually add to the orgasm. We've played with quiet couples, and quite frankly, it wasn't as much fun because we thought that they weren't having a good time with us.

 

Pepper

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I'm loud, but not a screamer. I'm more along the lines of dirty talk & primal sounds. I don't like the sound of high pitch loud women, those are the only ones that annoy me.

 

Oh, & it's not fake. I'm very sensitive in my canal & usually coming just about the whole time.

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I have overheard dramatic screamers and I have wanted to stuff a sock in it.

Then again, I am 'vocally appreciative'. Always have been:) I think this is one of those situations that is only annoying or suspect if you arent the source of the noise.

I *try* to be quiet if the situation demands that I be more discrete and I agree with the poster that said something along the lines of it not being 'as good'. For me, I am so distracted by the idea that I *have* to be quiet that I cant focus on having a good time. The distractions really suck.

I get very frustrated with partners that dont make even a peep. I am not looking for a constant uninterupted stream of chatter, but a grunt to let me know they arent dead is always a plus!

 

I just really dont like anyone stuck on 'repeat'.

(Oh yeah, Daddy! Do me, Daddy! Do me, Daddy! Fuck me! Fuck me! Fuck me! Fuck me! Harder! Harder! Harder! Harder! Harder!)

Uggg.

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I am noisey -- I think I "squeal" more than scream ... and sometimes I start swearing, sometimes I start praying ("OH MY GOD!!" to "Jesus Christ!!") ... and I don't even know I'm doing it sometimes. Like someone said above, with kids at home, I have to muffle but it's very hard to ... I've tried holding my breath to keep quiet (quasi works) and breathe through what I'd normally vocalize (but Mr. Fun has pointed out that my breathing can be as loud as other noises -- hahaha). Mr. Fun is more subtle and I love to hear his moans and groans. It's a release. I think with other folks, though, I'm more quiet ...

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The only time Laurie and I get loud is when there's prudish people to shock. :D

We went on a camping trip with some friends in our pre-swing days. One of the couples along was a bf/gf couple. The topic of sex came up and the girl made some mean, nasty and prudish comments. Shortly after we all retired to our tents. Laurie and I deliberately "turned up the volume" just to freak her out. She was so freaked out by it she dumped her boyfriend the next day when the trip was over. She said he hung out with a bunch of perverts.

Her boyfriend ended up marrying Laurie's sister and later said the best thing we ever did for him was scaring the frigid little shrew away. :D

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A screamer is a turn off for me. It than seems like it's fake or an act. A moan or " oh my God" every once in a while is fine. I'm into involuntary movements, that's more real to me. the stomach muscles jumping, the toes curling,the grabbing of the pillows or covers, and most of all and my favorite, the slobbing of the mouth. :D

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My wife and I are not "screamers" but we moan alot. If the kids are home she will cover her face with a pillow. It is a turn on for me to hear her moan as loud as she does..whether she is masturbating or we are having sex. It turns her on for me to moan or talk dirty to her while having sex. Quite a few other couples we know that are married complain their men don't say anything during sex, just wham bam. I " think" that is something they like to hear from what my wife says. Of course she told them what we do during sex and a few of them ask in details what we do.

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I am a screamer!! I don't know about anyone else, but I am a real screamer.There's no way for me to fake that with my dh. We've been together to long for him to not know when it's real or fake. Don't get me wrong I don't scream all the time, but when he got me in that bed going crazy.........Oh my gosh, it's like I'm having an all over body orgasm.

 

Also I love to hear my bed bang against my wall. That makes me crazy, and I cum much harder. LOL!!

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If I am in a situation where I absolutely have to be quiet, I can be semi-quiet but your going to hear some pretty weird squeaks and grunts as well as see some terrible facial expressions.

 

With either of us, there are typically lots of long deep moans, sometimes some yelling, and often some sexually induced turrets. I (Mr.) have also noticed that the long deeps breaths associated with moaning can also keep me right on the edge of an orgasm or even in the peek for a long time…which causes more moaning…which keeps me in the climax…which causes more moaning…

 

As far as hearing others- Not only is it nice for my ego to hear a woman have a good time with me, it also helps me gauge if where I am at with her…a little to the left…a little to the right…harder…slower…deeper…etc. It’s nice to get the feedback and continue to do the things that cause the happy noises.

 

Mr.

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I don't scream...but I do get vocal...and its not for drama but because I am just a verbal kinda guy. When something feels that good I just have to tell somebody! I've been with those who scream, those who make no noise at all and those, that like me, get vocal in the throes of orgasm. Its nice to know that I really made her feel good and sometimes a little verbal communication like "Don't stop, oh God, don't stop!" will really give me a second head of steam and I have to exclaim "Oh God, that's good...mmmmmmmmmmm thats good!" when I get to that magic point.

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Guilty... but not all the time. I have control over it, but I don't make it more than it is. When I try to be quiet, I lose focus and I have trouble finishing (welcum to my college years in the dorms). I like to be loud, it's the exhibitionist in me, but a time and a place and it should be like punctuation to a perfect sentence. I also love to be choked... that usually shushes me up.

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:cool:

 

I LOVE verbally responsive lovers - as long as they are genuine and I/other can tell that they are!

 

Screamers, moaners, criers are wonderful!

 

I myself - as a man- am told that I am a "growler".......

 

Thanks for the poll!

 

Keith in CT

 

CT_MWM@Hotmail.com

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After the conversation at our dinner table last night I felt like I had to respond to this thread. I've always considered myself mildly vocal in bed. Not loud or a screamer by any means. Unfortunatly this must not be the case. Bewteen please pass the peas and how was your day my fourteen year old son politely requested that "dad and I keep things down at night." He said we keep waking him up. :eek: With his bedroom three doors down I guess I must be very loud. I had no idea. The problem is I'm not sure how to tone it down. I guess we could try duct tape. So I guess I'm a screamer....... Surrender

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I would consider myself moderately loud, LOL although maybe we should check out a decible machine. I may be as loud as Ted Nugent on a hunting day...

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We're not too noisy. We've gotten used to making love with the kids awake in the next room. It's a challenge to not even make the bed squeak. It's an old antique wooden bed.

But when the kids aren't home, or if we're on a trip without the kids, then my sweetie can get quite noisy. Once or twice, she has forgotten to be quiet at home and the youngest came running in the room asking if mommy's all right! So we learned to be quiet most of the time.

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After the conversation at our dinner table last night I felt like I had to respond to this thread. I've always considered myself mildly vocal in bed. Not loud or a screamer by any means. Unfortunatly this must not be the case. Bewteen please pass the peas and how was your day my fourteen year old son politely requested that "dad and I keep things down at night." He said we keep waking him up. :eek: With his bedroom three doors down I guess I must be very loud. I had no idea. The problem is I'm not sure how to tone it down. I guess we could try duct tape. So I guess I'm a screamer....... Surrender

 

 

I can thouroughly sympathize. The same thing happened to me (not the exact words). I didn't realize I was quite that loud either. Now the hubby just teases the boys with it because they do not like to think we have sex. If I have to concentrate on being quite, then I can't be concentrating on the good stuff. :8-0::

 

Vol

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To come back and answer my own question. I can get loud in bed at times, and noise amongst others when we are with another couple or at a club can be quite a turn on at times. However, there are times where it sounds staged and then it becomes a turn off. Examples: When girls start talking to each other like they are in a porno... "oh yeah stroke him like that" and it's not just what they say but how they say it. I'd call it "porno voice" or something. And the same goes with the screamers... there are times where it goes from 'that's sexy' to 'there's no way that's real'.

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I'm a screamer... no faking here. the hard part is restraining myself when a kid's at home or we're in a hotel room. Although last weekend the neighbouring room didn't seem to mind... and we had two screamers in the room! I find that my orgasms are much more intense when I can let loose and scream.

 

I only pray when I cum- but boy oh boy, I make up for it then. and the men seem to like have their efforts so vocally appreciated.

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I was listening to swingercast again and I don't remember if it was the hosts or someone they were talking to that said they felt like people who made a lot of noise when they were cumming (screamers) were typically faking it... adding the noise in for drama, basically. And I believe something was said to the point that noise guys are cheesy. Maybe not those exact words.

 

So I want to know, what your opinion is about screamers (and those who are just plain noisy in bed). Are you? If so, is it real? or are you adding it for drama? Are you noisier or quieter at a club (or with others in the room) than you are when it's just the two of you?

 

And how do you feel about others that are noisy? Does it interrupt your groove? Do you feel like they are just putting on a show?

 

I haven't been with a real screamer but my current I think could be one She really fights holding the sounds in I hope to get her past that point one of these days.

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New member here, and my wife and I are only in the talking stages when it comes to swinging. However she is very vocal when excited, she says her body reacts to stimulation more than most peoples do. All I know is I enjoy the sounds she makes.

 

I am not loud, but still vocal. I feel it helps my enjoyment of the situation.

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We are not screamers but some noises or moans do mean something is happening right. Although there was that one time or more this summer when the windows were open wide. :blush: Good verbal skills are just as needed as good oral skills.

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Enthusiastic vocals are alright, but out right screaming is just annoying to me.

I am chatty, soft moans, and a few giggles.

But screaming is best left for ring side or the football stands.

Your friend,

Prettylady:kissface:

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I love a noisy girl =) noise turns me on like mad lol but screaming is uncalled for and just gets me out of the moment. but hearing others get into it and dirty talk each other is all I need to cum lol.

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Screaming is a bit much, but it's awesome to hear your partner moan or groan loudly. It a sure sign that you're doing the right thing! I think its different for everyone some can't help themselves, some fake it.Burton.

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I'm pretty much with everyone else. Screaming is a bit over the edge. Is it really necessary? Does it really need to be vocalized that much? Yeah, sex is good, it feels amazing, but I've never screamed. I'm a moaner, but screaming is best left for horror movies and hockey games.

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I'm loud.

 

Enough so that if I'm really going, people down the hall can say "oh, yeah that must be X", lol.

 

No one seems to mind as it is not me faking. I am much quieter at a club with lots of people though because I have been told by some male halves of couples that my being loud intimidates some females. When it is just me and my fav partner for example, well, then no holds barred >:)

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I never cared one way or the other as long as we were both having a good time, until: We had to stay with the in laws for a while and then along came the kids. We learned to keep our antics quiet and have grown comfortable with that. I can tell when Mrs. Cpl cums by, well, there are several ways that I know. She knows when I cum, well you get the picture. Noise is just that, noise, give us a response that can't be (or is very difficult) to fake.

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I like getting some feedback, and moans, sighs, and vocalizing what one is feeling is a turn-on, but when it gets to the point of being overly loud or shrill, then It quickly turns into a turn-off for me. And, no matter what it is, if it is a performance instead of being sincere, then that's a total turn-off.

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We are generally quiet. I mean, not silence but conversational level sounds and words. The difference is DP. Hubby says I get much louder, more of a screamer with DP.

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