The popularity of MFM among guys

[wanderswing 17]

After visiting the forums, and judging by the huge numbers of MFM scenes in porn, it definitely seems that lots of guys enjoy or even prefer MFM as much or sometimes even more than FMF. I've also heard of polls saying that 40-50% of guys fantasize about sharing their partner. I just wanted to hear people's thoughts on it.

[Taylor74 28]

I believe the turn-on is seeing one women being devoured by two men. She's completely out of control and at the mercy of two males. That's the turn on. At least for me it is...

[Spoomonkey 421]

MFM really is a lot of fun. I am not in the least bit bi, but I am very visual. Watching Mrs Spoo is incredible - and when the playmate is good, watching her in ecstasy is mind-blowing.

 

Besides that - I really like to please my wife. Being the center of attention is a fantasy for a lot of women - and the pleasure can be pretty much non-stop; from physical (more hands and body parts) to mental (the power of being able to handle/please two men).

 

She seems to feel the same about me though - as MFF (and even, lately, the MFFF) happen quite a bit for us, too

 

One of the great pleasures of swinging is giving - and we just happen to be a very generous couple

 

Spoomonkey

 

PS - Our preference, though, if definitely couples.

[SuAndBud 23]

We haven't experienced FMF (yet). But Bud is not bothered in the slightest as he is more concerned about Su not being left out (even for a moment) of the fun, so is happier when Su has plenty to occupy herself with. Su is bi curious but it's not the be all and end all to her as she loves to see and feel the cock/cocks that, if she could have just one wish, she would be on the other end of for a day.

 

It would be nice for both of us to share another couple one day.

[SuAndBud 23]

Taylor74.

 

Have to disagree. Su is so in control.

[VanHlebar 187]

She seems to feel the same about me though - as MFF (and even, lately, the MFFF) happen quite a bit for us, too

 

Bragger!!!!!

 

 

For me, I love to please woman and I love to see my wife pleased. Watching MrsVan be pleased for hours is extremely exciting. As Spoo said...I am not the least bit bi, but pleasing a lady for hours is way more fun to me than being pleased. I just seriously enjoy worshipping the female body for as long as the lady will let me. With another man's help, we can go for as long as possible. facelick

 

-Van

[gatorvol64 216]

For me, I love to please woman and I love to see my wife pleased. Watching MrsVan be pleased for hours is extremely exciting. As Spoo said...I am not the least bit bi, but pleasing a lady for hours is way more fun to me than being pleased. I just seriously enjoy worshipping the female body for as long as the lady will let me. With another man's help, we can go for as long as possible. facelick

 

-Van

 

Goodness, those exact words could have come out of the Gator's mouth! And I'm sure MrsVan appreciates it as much as I do.

 

Vol

[Guest MrsVan]

Goodness, those exact words could have come out of the Gator's mouth! And I'm sure MrsVan appreciates it as much as I do.

 

Vol

 

You have no idea how I appreciate it facelick I enjoy giving oral but also enjoy receiving and the more men to help please me the better

 

MrsVan

[rpu3 630]

After visiting the forums, and judging by the huge numbers of MFM scenes in porn, it definately seems that lots of guys enjoy or even prefer MFM as much or sometimes even more than FMF. I've also heard of polls saying that 40-50% of guys fantasize about sharing their partner. I just wanted to hear peoples thoughts on it.

 

 

Love 'em. I'm a good multi-tasker and like to stay busy. It's a lot of fun and a huge turn on for the spousal unit. No complaints from either one of us when the opportunity presents itself for that kind of fun.

[janda1 15]

Easy answer. I love to see J getting pleasure. She loves to suck and having two to work on is a treat for her -- plus all the rest. And she is very much in control!

 

J&A

[WesternSwing 504]

I've come to really like the MFM more than the FMF, because I love Mrs. WS being the center of attention. She deserves all the attention she gets. Seeing her in such bliss is a huge turn-on for me.

 

I have read that 40% of respondents to sex surveys list a threesome as their number one fantasy. From what I've also read, and experienced, I would have to say that for men it is a FMF fantasy. Being treated like a king, and as one married vanilla friend of ours put it: "I don't want another man mowing my grass." I think jealousy is the biggest reason these men want a FMF but not a MFM... at least not with their SO, but they'll have no problem being in a MFM with someone else's SO.

 

Mr. WS

[VanHlebar 187]

I have read that 40% of respondents to sex surveys list a threesome as their number one fantasy. From what I've also read, and experienced, I would have to say that for men it is a FMF fantasy. Being treated like a king, and as one married vanilla friend of ours put it: "I don't want another man mowing my grass." I think jealousy is the biggest reason these men want a FMF but not a MFM... at least not with their SO, but they'll have no problem being in a MFM with someone else's SO.

 

I would have to agree that I think most "vanilla" guys would love to be the male in a 3some, but not having some other guy in a 3some for their wife is a jealous thing.

 

For me, I don't make a very good male for a female 3some. I am way too much of a giver to just sit back and be taken care of. During a male 3some, I can conentrate 100% of my attention on my wife and really enjoy it. During a female 3some, I just have way too much to please and I can wear myself out.

 

-Van

[northindycpl 32]

I am not sure how Mr. Indy would reply to this, but I feel like he is so much more relaxed and happier during a MFM then a MFF. He really likes to watch too, and there is always so much to see! During a 4-some he is occupied with another wife, so his watching is somewhat limited.

 

MFF's have been fun too. Although, I am not as into them as much anymore.

[ItTakes3 19]

We've only done the FMF thing twice. One was great, one was okay, but we both prefer a MFM, and I'm straight.

 

My wife goes through various stages of sexual interest. There are times when all she wants is me, but at other times she gets really excited about a threesome. When she is in one of those moods, she also talks about having three men at one time, and I can't participate until she has taken all of them.

 

So far, our sexual interests have been pretty much compatible, even as they evolve.

[riswingcpl 16]

Mrs Riswing loves mmf, and even more so the couple of times we've done mmmf. She is totally in control, but gets very wild when the action heats up. I just love that look of ecstasy on her face when she has hands, tounges and lips all over her body. That "Oh God, I'm in heaven" look she shoots me is priceless!

 

Mr. Riswing

...who loves an ffm too, but those single ladies are sooooo hard to find!

[Guest RosieAnne]

The idea of MFM is exciting, but I'm not sure I can do it. I know it couldn't be at the same time, but how do you pace it so you don't get tired? What does yours do when you are with the other?

Hoping to get started.

[Thrax 384]

What does yours do when you are with the other?

RosieAnne,

You are one of several recent posters bringing up the issue of how the males cooperate in an MFM.

 

Sometimes the hubby/SO alternates with the other M. Sometimes he takes pics or videos. However, in my experience, and in reading the experiences of many who have posted on this Board, on most occasions the hubby/SO is very involved with the woman even while the other M is pleasuring her, although there is no purposeful contact between the guys. So, in my experience it has not been a tag-team performance -- hubby, then me, then hubby, etc. -- but more of a longterm interactive woman-pleasuring session.

 

Assuming there is no bi-activity between the two males, there are still a lot of MFM situations where both males are pleasuring the woman at the same time. I'll describe a few scenarios below...sort of graphically. M1 and M2 are the husband/SO and additional male, and the F is the woman. Note that the roles of the M1 and M2 are mostly interchangeable.

 

Scenarios:

1. F is prone on the bed/floor/massage table. M1 is at her head and M2 is between her legs. M1 massages her from the waist up and M2 from the waist down while she's on her back. Then she turns over and they repeat the process.

1. M1 performs oral on F while M2 kisses her, massages her breasts, strokes her torso, puts his cock in her mouth, etc. (It might even happen that while M1 is performing oral that M2 is massaging F's clit, for instance.)

1. M1 sits on the bed, spread-legged, with his back to the headboard. F sits between his legs with her legs open. M2 performs oral on F while M1 is caressing her boobs, kissing her, stroking her upper body, etc.

2. M1 is boinking F missionary style, but he's in the "push-up" position with his arms extended. This enables M2 more room for kissing or stroking F and also allows M2 more room to receive oral from F.

3. F is giving M1 a blowjob while M2 is doing her doggy-style.

4. No penetration, but F is in a sandwich. M1 is kissing her, caressing her breasts and nether regions, and M2 is rubbing her from behind. Standing, kneeling, or prone.

5. F holds onto both erections and alternates blowjobs. Both M1 and M2 can be standing, kneeling, or lying beside each other.

6. Anal/vaginal DP in various positions.

7. Double vaginal DP in various positions.

8. Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera

 

I'm sure you can think of some other situations...

 

So, before an encounter, the guys set limits in addition to the limits the MF set with the extra M. Obviously with the DP situations there will be contact between the males, no question. If one or both aren't comfortable with DP contact, then obviously DPs aren't an option for that MFM. Still, there are plenty of things two straight guys can do to pleasure the woman, although incidental contact will inevitably happen in an MFM if all three people are working things at the same time.

 

I'm sure you are imaginative enough to think of some other scenarios. (I can )

 

Thrax

P.S. If this is a threadjack, then Mods can feel free to start a new thread. As for me, I must now take a leisurely Wednesday evening bath...and cold shower...

[Spoomonkey 421]

For me, I don't make a very good male for a female 3some. I am way too much of a giver to just sit back and be taken care of.

 

Rookie :rollseyes

 

You know - it is possible to be in a MFF without "sitting back"

 

I am a giver as well and really can't enjoy myself if my playmates aren't having a good time. In fact, if I am having trouble finishing, I will stop and go down on my playmate. When she finishes - I am already just about there.

 

I really felt the same way when we first started, but having been in a few MFF and knowing that I couldn't just sit back, I have found out that it is guys like you and I, Mr. Van, that are the best suited for MFF - mostly because we are givers and can take our time (based on what you're saying here). You may be surprised that you are the kind of guy who can balance two women quite well.

 

Hell - at least its worth a try (and then another try... And then another...)

 

Spoomonkey

[riswingcpl 16]

The idea of MFM is exciting, but I'm not sure I can do it. I know it couldn't be at the same time, but how do you pace it so you don't get tired? What does yours do when you are with the other?

Hoping to get started.

 

 

Thrax gave you some great examples of how both guys can be involved at the same time. The couple of times that we did an mmmf, I would sit back every once in a while and just watch...enjoying her enjoying herself. In our case, mmf isn't ever a "tag-team" deal...everyone is involved...unless one takes a bathroom or beverage break while the others carry on.

 

Of course, when Mrs Riswing needs the potty or a drink, we all take a break

[pagan-lovers 15]

Hmmmm, been in several FMF and couples....never had a MFM but it sure sounds yummy!

 

I'll have to see what we can do about that.

[WesternSwing 504]

The idea of MFM is exciting, but I'm not sure I can do it. I know it couldn't be at the same time, but how do you pace it so you don't get tired? What does yours do when you are with the other?

Hoping to get started.

For us it has always been a very interactive experience. Sometimes I'll sit back for a moment and just watch, but for the most part I am involved on one part of her body or another. In one of the hottest MFM's I can remember with Mrs. WS I had a groin injury and couldn't fully participate so I was there for moral support. I paid attention to every square inch of her body he wasn't at the moment. I've never seen her cum so many times. It was erotic as hell.

 

The way I see it, a MFM is for her. It's her moment to be the center of attention and that is what I aim to make her, whether it is my wife or another woman. So I definitely won't just sit back and watch, then it is a M___FM, not a MFM.

 

Mr. WS

[JP51 40]

I love the MFM it give me time to enjoy the lady, not be rushed...she stay busy all the time which makes her special. I have done more MFM than FMF...and in fact until yesterday morning had really never had any real time with the FMF...what a great way to wake up and spend some time....but in the end I think MFM is great. It is nice to have a buddy to spell you and keep the lady on the edge and happy.

[Guest Love2try]

I can only talk for myself and why I prefear MFM with my wife. The sensation of giving one you love the ultimate pleassures, and even hold her and kiss her while she is receiving the attention of two men is just an heavenly sensation for me as well as for her. Although I think it has as well something to do with the feeling of being in control. because you are the one allowing this to happen, you to some degree are controling your partner, even if it is in a very good way.

 

After visiting the forums, and judging by the huge numbers of MFM scenes in porn, it definately seems that lots of guys enjoy or even prefer MFM as much or sometimes even more than FMF. I've also heard of polls saying that 40-50% of guys fantasize about sharing their partner. I just wanted to hear peoples thoughts on it.

[rpu99 44]

One aspect i enjoy in the MFM is getting to see my spouse in action. That is not something i get to see in the same way when we are alone together.

 

A second aspect is the multiple stimulation potential. Two men pleasing a woman simultaneously creates an effect that would be difficult, if not impossible to achieve by single male partner.

 

A third aspect is rooted in practicality: some women have a greater capacity for "pleasure" then most men. Why not exploit (perhaps maximize or utilize are better words than "exploit) this capacity/potential to its fullest. Don't get me wrong... although it would be less "practical", i would still do my utmost to exploit the pleasure potential in an FMF.

 

So, my personal preference in MFM is the men working together to please the woman simultaneously to achieve what might be conceived as a "multiplicative" effect. I think men taking turns would achieve more of an "additive" effect- not bad either, but not my preference.

 

mark

[SouthBond 18]

Double your pleasure, double your fun, my wife likes two men instead of just one. In the MFM situation she is the center of attraction and the star of the show. She knows that she has the power to make us do anything and she wants to do everything. She has taking care of two men at once down to an art form. The first time that we did a HWH, we call it husband-wife-husband because we only do long term married couples, my wife turned into the nymphomaniac that I had always dreamed about. I had never seen her as wet and totally released of any inhibitions. She went from being this well dressed executive very in control type to a wild sexual animal that couldn't get enough and wanted more and more. As far I am concerned, I enjoyed watching another man orally bring my wife to orgasm and hear her moaning in pleasure as he pumped her as hard as he could. And then we had to entertain the other wife. Thank God for Viagra. After that session, my wife bought a small magnetic sign and put it on the refrigerator. The sign says, Caution Men Working. Every time she looks at it she gets this big grin on her face, looks at me and smiles.

[plazmikgurl 19]

My guy and I tried it with his best friend and it was a disaster. Neither of them could get hard with the other there. Finally I got frustrated and called it off. But we were always more interested in FMF anyway.

[ShellyM 0]

I just seriously enjoy worshipping the female body for as long as the lady will let me.

-Van

 

WOW, can we clone you?

[daisy girl 34]

Just had our first MFM experience. It was fantastic.

[ShellyM 0]

I just seriously enjoy worshipping the female body for as long as the lady will let me.

 

That is wonderful! No wonder Mrs. Van is such a happy girl. Jay is the same way.