Masturbating in front of others

[ShellyM 0]

Are ya'll comfortable with masturbating in front of others, namely your spouse/significant other?

 

I masturbate pretty often, less when we are having a "good" week lol. However, I just don't feel comfortable with masturbating in front of others, not even Jay. For me, getting to orgasm takes a lot of concentration, it's such an internal thing. In my mind I'm somewhere else. So for Jay to try and "help me" only distracts me. Plus, I have the habit of wanting to please those around me. If Jay or someone else is there I feel like I need to be "on", and need to please them.

 

I'm curious to know if there are others out there like me, who prefer to masturbate all alone.

[plazmikgurl 19]

I'll masturbate in front of my guy, but usually only if he just recieved oral, and I got all turned on(he usually doesn't want sex after oral). I don't think I would mind masturbating while watching, but I usually don't climax unless I'm in my head or watching porn.

[Menage_a_Trois 182]

For me I've been in the habit of doing it by myself for so long that I generally don't include anyone else. Not because I'm uncomfortable but more a case of like you said, it's more a matter of getting distracted thinking I need to be attending to them and their needs. I'm not good at things being a little about me, much less all about me. I can and have done it in front of and with others...just in my everyday life it's something I generally do on my own.

 

Don't know if that helped or not...

[good times 991]

Yes, we do masturbate together quite often.

 

Here's another related discussion.

Masturbating: How important is it to you?

[Couple_N_Ark 39]

We both masturbate in front of each other. Sometimes that might be all one or the other of us do. If we feel like doing it, and the other is not into it for whatever reason, we still enjoy ourselves, and the other usually enjoys watching.

 

Lisa will also masturbate in front of others when we are at on-premise clubs, and I would not have a problem with doing it also, but it is usually frowned upon by others at a club.

[flkeyscouple 21]

We masturbate together often. I don't have a problem getting distracted because normally he tells me a story while we masturbate. The story is normally a form of a fantasy that I've been having lately, and I get all 'into' that story. Often I will come first, then I take over telling the end of the story while he comes. It's one way for each of us to direct our fantasies (stories) in the direction that turns us each on. If I want to introduce something different into our lives (such as when I wanted to talk about MFM) I just direct the story that way. If he wants to introduce something new (FMFM for example) he directs the story that direction. That was how swinging was originally introduced into our already fulfilled sex life! (After voyeurism, exhibitionism, nude beaches - etc - it just keeps getting better!).

[ohash01 20]

I've done it semi-regularly with J., but I agree with Shelly...it's just SO tough to be used to doing it one way...then have someone there that you want to show off for "helping" and "coaching". Yikes. I get all distracted. I'm a TERRIBLE multi-tasker.

 

Now...I will tell you all a little secret...so shhhh! Ok - so it's not a secret...every swinger we talk to on a regular basis know this. I'm a tad-bit of an exhibitionist. If someone we know well (and we have to know them pretty well) asks me to masturbate on cam for them...I am ALL over that. It's a little different than doing it with J...since I can't hear or be touched by the people watching, so I can go about my merry little business and just ignore the IM's until I'm done.

[Chrishard 15]

My previous gf asked me to do it for her. She said she wanted to see me ejaculate. She hadn't seen a man do that and she almost jumped out of her skin when I came to fruition. I did it several more times for her when we were still together. It was fun, and I like to be watched anyway

 

Having a woman masturbate me is definitely more fun if she's into it, though.

[Guest bufferoo]

I LOVE to masturbate in front of others. It turns me on more than just about anything else. I really enjoy watching it too. Seeing someone pleasure themselves, especially if they pretend that no one can see them is such a turn on. To see them doing that, just giving themselves pleasure without putting on a show is just so natural and real.

 

I love to be able to give that same feeling to someone else. But it's funny...if am in bed before my wife (if she'd out) and I start to take care of myself, I'll feel embarrassed if she were to come in and "catch me", but if we are together and having a good time I have no qualms about just starting and giving her a good show.

 

Honestly one of my biggest fantasies (yet to be fulfilled) is to be part of a large group of people and have everyone masturbating while they watch each other. No physical contact though...just each person "doing" their own thing.

[Gladiola4u 16]

Honestly, I am one of the most terrible people on earth to masturbate in front of my hubby let alone somebody else. My hubby has to beg me to do it for him and one day I even filmed it for him so he can watch it and won't bug me anymore I just can't seem to think that it's okay to masturbate when hubby can help me with it, he knows what to do which is perfect.

 

I love to see hubby masturbate though and he will do it if I ask him.

[daisy girl 34]

I love watching partners masturbate in front of me. There is something so erotic about it. I also love giving them a show as well .

[wifes_sex_slave 16]

I enjoy maturating (not as much as the real thing) and I have no problems doing it in front of my wife. I have never masturbated in front of any other woman yet. But for me to watch a woman masturbate? Oh man! What a turn-on!!!

[ShellyM 0]

But for me to watch a woman masturbate? Oh man! What a turn-on!!!

 

Now, this is interesting....because Jay says that it is SO erotic to watch me masturbate! I'm like ewwwwww lol. Give me your opinion on this, I just didn't think there was much to see lol.

 

Just me, my hand and Tony Stewart lol.

[clutch 28]

Back in the early 1900's, sometimes upper crust women were treated by for "hysteria." (Note the similarity of "hysteria" to "hysterectomy.")

 

Often in medicine, even to this day, a resident expert doctor will give a demonstration to med students of a certain medical procedure or operation.

 

Well... old photo plates can be found of doctors treating women for this "hysteria" with the fully clothed woman lying on her back in a theater full of eager residents, leaning forward in their chairs.

 

The doctor is using instruments that look remarkably like modern dildos, except with a certain medical flair to them. The woman will be shown crying out (her hysteria, no doubt leaving her body.)

 

That, by the way, is one of my wife's fantasies, although I don't think Blue Cross, Blue Shield will cover such hysteria treatments anymore.

[ohcpl43952 16]

Watching anything to do with sex is a complete turn-on. I do it for her and she for me. Fortunately for us, we have verrrrrry few hang ups.

[havefuninsun 122]

I am an exhabitionist at heart ... I love to be watched. Now, saying that, I've been shyer around play partners ... not sure why. But with Mr. Fun ... god I love it. And I love to watch him too ...

[candk1 16]

We love to do it in front of each other. Actually there is something that turns me on about finding him doing it and watching when he does not know I am watching! He has a studio in the basement of the house (musician) and there are little windows that are between each of the separated rooms. I always tell him that when he is sitting in his chair in front of the computer watching porn, one day I will sneak down and watch him when he does not know. He is A-OK with that! (Of course I will be doing the same for myself!).

[WildMiCouple 325]

We'll do it for one another every so often. I'll usually start her off with her magic wand and bring her to a couple orgasms. I'm pretty hard at that point and let her use the wand and give herself a couple more O's as I stroke and finish on her tits. Or we'll do a variation where she'll stroke me off as I continue bringing her to orgasm with the wand. Only problem with that is I end up shooting all over her and the bed She's not too good of a multi-tasker aiming my cock as we both cum

[good times 991]

I have to say, I get really turned on watching a woman masturbate, in fact, female masturbation scenes are my favorite scenes in porn movies. But I have only had a couple of playmates in swinging who were comfortable doing it. Funny thing is, the ones who have done it, did it without me asking them to, or even knowing how much it turned me on. Well, at least they didn't know before they did it, after they did it their would have been no way for me to hide my excitement.

[JP51 40]

of course we do...but my wife had a friend tell her she has never seen her husband do it...wonder how they manged to have 3 kids and never got to this point of comfort? She said she wanted to see it done. I told my wife, heck I'll do it...tell her to take out that pair of 44J's and game on

[clecouple 18]

We have no problem, no matter the situation with masturbating in front of each other. Sometimes, my wife wakes up in the morning (especially on the weekend) and starts touching herself quietly, thinking I'm not awake yet. But, most of the time I can feel some slight movement by her and I start thinking about her warm. wet pussy and her fingers stoking herself. I get a hard-on and eventually "wake-up" and start stroking myself as I watch her! I think there is nothing more sexier than watching my wife play herself! And she enjoys watching me too! Getting excited and hard when I watch her masturbate!

 

She also knows and has no problem with me masturbating when she has her period. We may even put in a porno or look at a magazine and she will stroke me!

 

Our philosophy is don't be offended if your spouse is pleasing his or herself, especially with you not there. It's just that it shouldn't replace regular sex between you guys, just another "option" or to try something different.

[looking2swing 17]

For me I've been in the habit of doing it by myself for so long that I generally don't include anyone else. Not because I'm uncomfortable but more a case of like you said, it's more a matter of getting distracted thinking I need to be attending to them and their needs.

 

I like to be able to concentrate on me and not worry about anyone else. With my natural need to please my husband, I get too distracted wondering if he like it or not. I don't think that anything is wrong with not masturbating in front of him. However, he LOVES to masturbate in front of me!

[ShellyM 0]

I just get distracted. Yesterday I was fooling around, and here he comes. The man always knows when I'm up to something. He was trying to please me, but my masturbation time is my "me" time. With an office, a husband and 3 crazy children I rarely, rarely get ME time outside of the shower or the restroom. I'm like the pied piper, where I go there is a line of kiddos not far lol. Anyways, I really prize my personal me time, because I have just so little of it. I just worry that he will be offended or think that I don't WANT him there, when its not like that at all. That's just the time when it is just me and my thoughts.

 

Oh, and Tony Stewart. Kind of.

[Wife Watcher 20]

My wife and I both masturbate in front of each other but I do more than her. Most of the time she talks about fucking guys or getting her pussy eaten by a girl while I jack off. That's what lead us to think about swinging.

 

My wife masturbates with an 8 1/2 dildo that we call Juan. LOL I love to see it fill up her cunt.

 

I have masturbated in front of her brother while we were trucking together. He watched and enjoyed it and I have watched him masturbate as well.

[Cpl2share 147]

I (Mr Cpl) have no problem with it, but if there is a woman (preferably Mrs. Cpl) available to watch, I would rather have her doing the playing. If I am going to do myself, what is the point of having a woman around. I find it a real turn on when Mrs. Cpl does touch herself in any way, but once again: She doesn't see any sense in jilling off if I am there with a tongue, she much prefers that to any finger or toy anyway.

[prettylady 221]

I have never done it for anyone but Dog. But it was incredible. I knew he was there but I was not performing for him. He sat there and watched and I did my thing for me and he reaped the benefits. Having Dog just sit there completely turned on by watching me was...I can't really explain it. If you do it, just do it for yourself and let your SO enjoy watching you enjoy yourself. That is what they want, just to see you enjoy yourself. If it is that much of a distraction, have them sit at the end of the bed or on a chair or something were they are not right there in your immediate sight.

[Randies' 16]

Now, this is interesting....because Jay says that it is SO erotic to watch me masturbate! I'm like ewwwwww lol. Give me your opinion on this, I just didn't think there was much to see lol.

 

Just me, my hand and Tony Stewart lol.

 

ShellyM, Let me say that Jay is not only correct in his definition of erotic, but he is also very lucky if you will do that for him. There is no bigger turn on that I can think of than to watch a female masturbate. We (men) love/need to see your reaction to the things being done down there. The more reaction you have, the more the turn-on for us!!!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I seem to have no trouble doing it in front of my spouse. I only once put on this show, at her request. Figured she was simply curious. If she had asked a second time, I would suspected weirdness. I think that masturbation is, by definition, private. But you would never know judging from the live Webcam stuff you can see at AFF. You click on a profile that says "couple" and what you see is some buffalo pulling his pud. Displaying yourself like that to the entire world is definitely weird.

 

I'm reminded of the Woody Allen movie when the character played by Shelly Duval asks him how he became so good at lovemaking. His answer was, "I practice a lot on my own."

[hotcpl4unfla 19]

The wife and I do it all the time, and we have done it with the other couple we play with. The girls whip out the toys, the guys grab a handful, and we all just watch each other get off. Sometimes it's too tough to sit back and watch - a hand gets thrown in now and then on someone else's parts....but it's all good.

 

It was my wife's idea to try it one night, and it was very erotic watching her get herself off. According to her, she had only masturbated 3-4 times as a young girl growing up. I don't think I can count as high as all the times I have choked the chicken. She is now a masturbation addict- she can't seem to get enough...and neither can I.

[Tia Vampire 167]

I find masturbating in front of my fiance a turn-on. We sometimes do it in front of each other. I don't think I would feel comfortable doing it in front of strangers though.

[Semod 15]

We do it all the time. Have for most of our marriage. FemSemod was happy that I do because her ex didn't so she didn't feel comfortable having him know that she did. If she plays with herself without me, she always makes sure to tell me. There have been times where mutual masturbation is our choice of sex for that session. If I'm horny and she's not, she'll bring me some tissue, kiss me good night and turn over and go to sleep. Sometimes she'll cuddle up to me and run her hand all over my body while I stroke.

 

Where I do have a problem, not because I'm shy, but I never know what to do, is when we're partying with another couple and the girls want to play alone for a while. I'd kind of like to stroke myself while watching but I never know what the other guy thinks about it. I usually just watch to see what the other guy's doing and follow along. There's been times where I'm betting the other guy is waiting for me to lead and neither one of us does anything but just watch. Frustrating

[curiousswingers 17]

Well hubby is always wanting me to do it, which I do not mind, it is just I have a hard time getting "there" because I am trying to please him and doing the things I know he wants to see instead of what I want. I LOVE to watch him though!!

[perkygl 26]

We have both masturbated for each other..it is a turn-on for me to do it in front of him. I have also done it a couple times at a club we belong to.

[cubnamy1995 124]

Well, Amy is quite indifferent about me masturbating in front of her. It doesn't do anything for her. I, on the other hand, like so many guys here, love to watch her masturbate, but it is a very rare treat.

 

Her reasoning, which makes sense, is that when she masturbates, that is her time to just be to herself, and she doesn't like to share that with anybody. Hard to argue with that.

[redeye69 8]

P likes to watch me masturbate and she loves it when I cum on her breasts. Me, I like to watch too but she's a little too shy most of the time but we are working on it.

[pervgeeks 119]

I love it. Once I'm in a sexual situation (be it my husband or anyone else I'm comfortable with), I love being watched. I'll love watching others too. It's hard for me to be the watcher though. I get so horned out. I want to jump in and help the other person!

[FlaPlaya561 48]

I have done that before in the past. Very XXXciting

[sexcupid 809]

For me, masturbation is 'alone' time. No one knows how to push my buttons better (or faster) than I do. OTOH, I have found that while I can bring myself off 10 or 15 times a day...those are in no way as intense as an orgasm given by a partner (manually or orally). I'll take one of those any day.

 

If we are having a mutual masturbation session, that is ok sometimes. He doesn't try to direct or request any particular actions...but it can still be distracting and I won't get there. But, like the other night, if I am playing with myself and giving him a blow job.... mmmmmm....sometimes it hits like a Mack truck, and I know he enjoys watching it.

 

Because I know he likes watching it, there have been a few times when I'll break out a toy just a few minutes before I know he will come wandering into the bedroom...but that is for his benefit of watching a little show for a minute before joining me in bed.

 

On the flip side of that, I don't particularly get a warm and fuzzy feeling if I come in the bedroom and find him watching porn and taking care of things. I don't know how to explain it.

 

I don't like feeling like I've 'caught' him doing something....this isn't him putting on a show for me, it's him getting in some private time. Is it really that hard to take a minute and say you need to be left alone for a bit?

[ShellyM 0]

Yes, right now Jay and I love masturbating together. Very erotic.

I also love doing it alone too, it is ME time.

[jennifer_w_dfw 17]

Yes, sometimes if the week has been long, we both masturbate in front of each other, or with a movie. We have even done it with another couple just to relieve some stress. Nothing wrong with it. Its always good.

[WesternSwing 504]

Yes, right now Jay and I love masturbating together. Very erotic.

I also love doing it alone too, its ME time.

Then you've come a long way since your original post! Woohoo! Good for you.

[ShellyM 0]

You have NOOOOO earthly idea!

 

As a matter of fact.....I came home with the flu (I actually do have the flu lol) and the 3 yr old was taking his nap...so I called Jay up at his office and masturbated over the phone. Poor Jay had to sneak behind a cabinet. Let's just say he ain't touching that cabinet for a while. Man, that's ewwww!!

LOL

[celtic239 297]

Back in the early 1900's, sometimes upper crust women were treated by for "hysteria." (Note the similarity of "hysteria" to "hysterectomy.")

 

Often in medicine, even to this day, a resident expert doctor will give a demonstration to to med students of a certain medical procedure or operation.

 

Well... old photo plates can be found of doctors treating women for this "hysteria" with the fully clothed woman lying on her back in a theater full of eager residents, leaning forward in their chairs.

 

The doctor is using instruments that look remarkably like modern dildos, except with a certain medical flair to them. The woman will be shown crying out (her hysteria, no doubt leaving her body.)

 

That, by the way, is one of my wife's fantasies, although I don't think Blue Cross, Blue Shield will cover such hysteria treatments anymore.

 

clutch - I understand that the medical profession during the 19th century, usually associated with Victorian England, made the connection between sex and mental health. They found, through trial and error, that bringing a woman who was suffering from certain mental problems like depression and mild forms of hysteria, to climax, did in fact ease many of the symptoms associated with those diseases. What was happening was that the brain releases several neuro-chemicals during orgasm that have a natural opiate like effect that would temporarily change the woman's brain chemistry.

 

The treatment was, from what I read, professional so the reason for the woman being fully clothed was to protect her sense of modesty. In fact when electrical appliances were first being invented one of them was a vibrator that was used by the medical profession. The medical professionals found that the vibrators were a time saver in that they could get the women to climax and get the therapeutic "calming state of mind".

[autumn528 16]

I'm an exhibitionist and a vouyer, so I enjoy watching myself masturbate....No, really we both love to watch each other do it, especially if we're watching porn...

[racewalker 15]

Love to watch women masturbate, so sexy.

[undercovercpl 29]

Both of us think it is the hottest thing for either of us to masturbate in front of others. At a party or just with each other. Masturbation is very hot.

[SFl_Bi_Couple 37]

My wife loves to masturbate and loves to do it in front of me and others and why not? My god, you are having sex with another person...at that stage what difference does it make if he/she sees you masturbate?

 

It all goes back to "if it feels good, do it".

[ShellyM 0]

My wife loves to masturbate and loves to do it in front of me and others and why not? My god, you are having sex with another person...at that stage what difference does it make if he/she sees you masturbate?

 

It all goes back to "if it feels good, do it".

 

You know though, some people (yes, swingers) are shocked to see you do this. I was in the middle of play with a gentleman, and I was pretty ummm, my motors were revved let's just say. He was doing something, I think putting the condom on. So hell, I have fingers and know what to do with them lol. He just looked down with a face of shock, I don't think he had ever seen a woman feeling herself up before. LOL.

[DanBridget 15]

It depends on us, we have our own time, but it really turns me to see Bridget play with herself. Just depends on our moods.

[sexcupid 809]

He just looked down with a face of shock, I don't think he had ever seen a woman feeling herself up before. LOL.

 

you would think most of them would be: