Lies for Sex?

[alphaplaycpl 110]

Since so many of us swingers are in this for the "friends with benefits" perk, have any of you ever stretched the truth a bit to gain the interest of another couple?

 

If so, what is the most outrageous fib you have ever told?

 

Were you once in a band that gained 15 minutes of fame? Are you a custodian and described your work as the Director of Sanitation? Are you close personal friends with Madonna, and sure that you can get her to have coffee with me? Was it your original idea that launched the entire site of Ebay?

 

Just curious...

[rpu3 630]

No fibs or lies told by this gal at all. I am honest (probably to a fault) in my "regular" life and wouldn't consider being anything different in our swing life. Lying for sex just doesn't cut it, especially if you are trying to make friends of your swing partners. Eventually, even the most simple fib will catch up with you. I will lose trust and respect, which are difficult to rebuild, if I catch someone in a lie.

[Sweet_Candy 54]

Since so many of us swingers are in this for the "friends with benefits" perk,

 

We're not in this for the friends, we have enough of those in the vanilla world. We are here for the sex with benefits. Honesty is our approach it helps weed out the drama.

[pagan-lovers 15]

Very well put. What comes around goes around. We have chosen what few playmates we have had on a combination of attraction and personality. Lying seems to circumvent that process.

[Spoomonkey 421]

I tell people I'm hot...

 

But that always disintegrates quickly and I have to impress them with tricks.

 

Actually - we really do try to be as honest as possible with everyone we meet for the same reasons above. We love making friends in the lifestyle and have decided that in every part of life - if people don't like us for us, then it is best that we all be free to meet new folks.

[Additude 457]

I have to agree with the honesty thing....

 

I really did try to remember something that was said that may have been a stretch of the truth...but couldn't.

[flkeyscouple 21]

Before registering for this site we were lurkers. Reading this thread made us comfortable using alias names on this and other sites. Something we felt we needed to do at the time.

 

Since then, when we start to correspond with someone we plan to meet, our first conversation tells them our real names. So far no one has freaked out about the fact that we've used alias names online.

 

I do remember our first visit to a nudist camp ground. I was SO panicky about being 'found out' that we talked about and planned our 'where are you from, what do you do' stories! We were sitting in the hot tub chatting with wonderful folks and found we were comfortable being ourselves - but we'd already started with 'the stories'. It was hard to keep the stories straight and we agreed we would NEVER do that again!! Talk about using energy to keep the story straight - when that same energy could have gone into some wonderful events!!

 

We look back on that now and really laugh about how panicked we were! (:surrender OK.. I admit it - it was ME, not Roger - he's NEVER panicked!!)

 

Sarah

[Beaverbumper 17]

We believe in sex and friendship and either of the two cannot be had with lies...and it really gets up set to meet a couple and then find out they didn't tell the truth...which brings us to think what else would they lie about.

[Alura 2,775]

Hell, the truth in my life has been unbelievable enough. No need to add enhancements that I'd have to remember to keep straight.

 

Mrs. Alura is so honest that she refuses even to wear a "prosthesis" to hide her missing boob.

 

Here in Oklahoma, what you see (or don't) is what you get (or not).

[Menage_a_Trois 182]

The Truth and Nothing but the truth...

 

We feel there is no reason to tell anything but the truth. Why would we lie to someone who may potentially become a good friend not just in the lifestyle but in vanilla life as well. We have been more than fortunate in the friendships we have made in the lifestyle.

[M and H 15]

alphaplaycpl said:

have any of you ever stretched the truth a bit to gain the interest of another couple?

 

I've stretched the truth a bit to (gently) LOSE the interest of another couple, and I've lied (by omission) to gain the interest of another couple (didn't tell them my age )

[havefuninsun 122]

I said I was an astronaut. No one believed me, tho.

[NJCouple 16]

We never lie, but we do avoid giving out certain information until we are comfortable. For instance, my husbands occupation requires some discretion. When we become friends with people, we are completely open and honest. Lies no, but keeping some parts of our life confidential, yes.

 

Sharon

[LFM2 1,482]

Hell, the truth in my life has been unbelievable enough. No need to add enhancements that I'd have to remember to keep straight.

Mr. Alura

 

We don't lie about anything. We're a WYSIWYG type of couple. I don't want to have to remember the lies. That's why we can't even go with fake names.

[good times 991]

I am with Mr. Alura here, often enough people have a hard time believing what I have actually done in my life. So, what would be the point in lying?

 

I suppose it would be technically possible for me to tell a lie, heck after you tell someone a couple of verifiable stories about jumping out of perfectly good airplanes or how you caught yourself on fire a few times, people would likely believe just about anything. In reality though, I suck as a liar, I would probably blow my lie within minutes because of my character flaw which manifests itself by whatever pops into my head shortly popping out of my mouth. So, I think I'll just stick with the truth, it is easier to keep straight in the future.

 

And besides, if you tell the woman you are hung like a horse, if she doesn't run away screaming at the thought of it, wouldn't it be pretty obvious once you dropped your pants?

[Funcpl647 15]

Nope. We don't lie - to adults, or potential playmates, or friends, etc. We do keep a lot of our life private (depending on the folks). When asked a point blank question we don't want to answer, we usually respond, "Why do you ask?" and then change the subject.

 

I did lie to my 16 year old daughter yesterday.

Looked her straight in the eye and said, "No, honey. You don't need to worry. We are NOT swingers."

 

Perhaps someday, when she's old enough, she'll forgive me. For lying.

[gatorvol64 216]

I have a real aversion to lying (long story) so no, we don't. But, if you aren't someone who likes me the way I am, I very seriously doubt you will be someone I can be around long enough to have sex with. And to be honest, it isn't worth lying for.

 

Vol

[Swing*8701 887]

Only a conflicted mind needs to lie. A mind at calm never is threatened by the truth.

[havefuninsun 122]

I might lie for a ho-ho.

 

I read/heard somewhere once that said "if you always tell the truth, you don't have to remember what you said."

 

How true is that?!?

[Dynamar 246]

Can't imagine why I'd lie when I'm so freaking fabulous!

[alphaplaycpl 110]

Thanks for the responses...Stuck with what to do...we really like a couple, but get the feeling that they are "inflating" themselves slightly...

 

The comments have been akin to when Al Gore claimed to have invented the internet. I can't prove they are fibs, but I can't prove they are truths either. Just builds a lack of trust.

 

I have to echo the sentiments of those who feel honesty is the best policy. What a perfectly horrible way to ruin (or put doubts to) a great thing.

[lovinher 505]

Inflating the truth is one thing. But is accentuating the positive a lie?

I haven't seen a profile that states things like:

"I have a slightly bulging belly"

"my boobs sag a bit"

"I'm going bald"

"I am on welfare and have no job"

I think most people accentuate the positive and omit the negative. That doesn't make it a lie.

[Spoomonkey 421]

good times said:

I suppose it would be technically possible for me to tell a lie, heck after you tell someone a couple of verifiable stories about jumping out of perfectly good airplanes or how you caught yourself on fire a few times, people would likely believe just about anything.

 

Having heard a few of these stories over appetizers and beer at a casino bar, I have to say that I would know if you were lying the minute you said you tried something and DIDN'T get hurt. Because that would be bullshit...

 

[Tybee Swing 286]

Since so many of us swingers are in this for the "friends with benefits" perk, have any of you ever stretched the truth a bit to gain the interest of another couple?

 

If so, what is the most outrageous fib you have ever told?

 

We don't lie, because of the fact that we do want to meet and get to know people. Lies always eventually unravel the closer you get to a person...so for the sincere who really want to meet and get familiar, what's the point of lying to gain favor? They'll only get to know the real you, anyway. We want to be liked for who we really are. If who we are isn't impressive enough for them, let 'em go!

 

Inflating the truth is one thing. But is accentuating the positive a lie?

...

I think most people accentuate the positive and omit the negative. That doesn't make it a lie.

 

Absolutely. Being positive is not a lie at all. Just like anything in life - like on a vanilla date or being interviewed for a job - it's expected that you focus on the positive, while keeping it truthful. People who focus on negatives sound like people with "issues", low self-esteem, no confidence. Who wants that?

 

Another angle on what people say to gain the interest of others: braggarts. They may or may not have all the property and objects they say they do or all the money they insinuate they have, but it's very obvious that they talk about it in order to gain favor. This is a HUGE turn-off to me. It's usually men who do this. It turned me off when I was single and dating. It still turns me off in swinging. Why should I care how much they own or what's in their bank account? Whether they're exaggerating or it's real, braggarts turn me off. I think they do it because they feel they themselves are not enough, and they're trying to "buy" attention and affection with their wealth (or appearance of it).

[good times 991]

Spoomonkey said:

Having heard a few of these stories over appetizers and beer at a casino bar, I have to say that I would know if you were lying the minute you said you tried something and DIDN'T get hurt. Because that would be bullshit...

 

Yea, I guess if one were to review my life, I have in fact, established that dubious trend.

 

Hey, did I ever tell you the one about how I got a black eye during a swinging play session. I am never doing MFM again, to damned dangerous.

[freekynme 15]

Mr GT tell us all how you got a black eye during a swinging session. Only thing that comes to my mind is swinging balls or tits are dangerous lol.

[gatorvol64 216]

good times said:

Yea, I guess if one were to review my life, I have in fact, established that dubious trend.

 

Hey, did I ever tell you the one about how I got a black eye during a swinging play session. I am never doing MFM again, to damned dangerous.

 

Did you think we were going to let this just slide by? Details, details!

 

Vol

[ohhandahh 17]

Seems like a lie is like a woman wearing falsies to a swing party. The real thing is going to become obvious, or she has to fuck with her blouse on the whole night. Play with what you have.

[good times 991]

Alright, in retrospect it was kind of funny...odd, it seems like a lot of my adventures turn out that way.

 

Anyway, we were at the club in the public play room. I had my head between the womans legs when her boyfriend decided that it would be cool for her to give him a bj at the same time. As he was swinging his leg over her to get in the appropriate position, he kneed me hard in the right eye. Couldn't have hit my eye more square if he had been aiming for it. As soon as I came to, I continued on as if nothing had happened. Didn't mention it to anyone, yea, I am pretty tough.

 

The next morning when we were getting out of bed Mrs. GT says, "What have you got all over your eye?". I said, "beats me." and went and looked in the mirror. You guessed it I had a serious shinner. Funny thing is, it took me about 10 minutes to figure out where I had got it. When I told Mrs. GT what happened I almost thought I was going to lose her for a minute, it worked out ok though, I guess you can't literally "die" laughing, at least she survived it that time.

 

The funniest thing was that my vanilla friends kept asking me how I got the black eye. Turns out, in this case at least, the truth again works out just fine. When I said, "Well, you see, I was eating this girls pussy and her boyfriend kneed me in the eye." They all went, "Yea right, good one R" and dropped the subject.

[Spoomonkey 421]

good times said:

As soon as I came to, I continued on as if nothing had happened.

 

You know - if memory serves, you've hurt yourself a few times during sex... More casino stories as I recall.

 

Let's just say that if we ever decide to elect someone to go buy the Swinger's Board Lottery Ticket - it won't be you...

 

 

You're right, though. You are one tough SOB.

[gatorvol64 216]

OMG. I had to stop laughing just to be able to type how funny that is. I must say though, that your performance under fire is impressive!

 

Vol

[aahours1 16]

If you tell lies, it cums around and bits you in the BUTT. Be honest and willing to ask questions. If someone lies to you about one thing, what is to say they are not lying to you about ALL thinks. Meaning " being DD free etc". Not a chance. I know and I would think that anyone knows of people and couple that like bareback. So as I said before, anyone could be lying to impress. But choose your playmates carefully and use your gut feeling on people.

[WesternSwing 504]

alphaplaycpl said:

Since so many of us swingers are in this for the "friends with benefits" perk, have any of you ever stretched the truth a bit to gain the interest of another couple?

 

If so, what is the most outrageous fib you have ever told?

 

Were you once in a band that gained 15 minutes of fame? Are you a custodian and described your work as the Director of Sanitation? Are you close personal friends with Madonna, and sure that you can get her to have coffee with me? Was it your original idea that launched the entire site of Ebay?

 

Just curious...

 

Why fib? We don't need to get laid by others THAT bad to have to lie to make ourselves more attractive to them. I would hope that others don't do it to us either.

[AZ Dreaming 15]

good times said:

Alright, in retrospect it was kind of funny...odd, it seems like a lot of my adventures turn out that way.

 

Anyway, we were at the club in the public play room. I had my head between the woman's legs when her boyfriend decided that it would be cool for her to give him a bj at the same time. As he was swinging his leg over her to get in the appropriate position, he kneed me hard in the right eye. Couldn't have hit my eye more square if he had been aiming for it. As soon as I came to, I continued on as if nothing had happened. Didn't mention it to anyone, yea, I am pretty tough.

 

The next morning when we were getting out of bed Mrs. GT says, "What have you got all over your eye?". I said, "beats me." and went and looked in the mirror. You guessed it I had a serious shiner. Funny thing is, it took me about 10 minutes to figure out where I had got it. When I told Mrs. GT what happened I almost thought I was going to lose her for a minute, it worked out ok though, I guess you can't literally "die" laughing, at least she survived it that time.

 

The funniest thing was that my vanilla friends kept asking me how I got the black eye. Turns out, in this case at least, the truth again works out just fine. When I said, "Well, you see, I was eating this girls pussy and her boyfriend kneed me in the eye." They all went, "Yea right, good one R" and dropped the subject.

 

I don't know how I missed this great story!!! Good thing the kids are not home to ask me why I am laughing so hard!!!

 

What was the funniest to me is thinking about you telling your vanilla friends that story and the irritated looks on their faces cuz you won't tell them how you REALLY got the black eye!!!

[Tybee Swing 286]

The funniest thing was that my vanilla friends kept asking me how I got the black eye. Turns out, in this case at least, the truth again works out just fine. When I said, "Well, you see, I was eating this girls pussy and her boyfriend kneed me in the eye." They all went, "Yea right, good one R" and dropped the subject.

 

Hilarious!!!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I will occasionally lie about what I do.... or rather omit the truth. I have found that, for some, telling people I run a swinger site gives them the automatic belief that we are bed-post notching bed-hoppers that fuck anything that moves.

[jdavisauto 73]

Ok I will response to this one. I despise lies of any kind. Both me and my husband are totally honest with everyone when it come to playing around. Sometimes it just don't work out sometimes it does. We are not the ones that will fuck or get fuck by just anyone. I do play with some strangers in the chair room once in a while but on the most part I like to talk to a person before they place their dick in my pussy. If you feel like you have to lie to me to fuck me then you are not worth me fucking. That's just my point of view. I also feel the same about women, you don't have to lie to me to lick my pussy or for me to lick your pussy.

 

The lady half.

(I can get used to this).

[2inSanDiego4u 181]

JustAskJulie said:

I have found that, for some, telling people I run a swinger site gives them the automatic belief that we are bed-post notching bed-hoppers that fuck anything that moves.

 

Awww, now you've ruined it for us!

 

jdavisauto said:

Ok I will response to this one. I despise lies of any kind. Both me and my husband are totally honest with everyone when it come to playing around. Sometimes it just don't work out sometimes it does. We are not the ones that will fuck or get fuck by just anyone. I do play with some strangers in the chair room once in a while but on the most part I like to talk to a person before they place their dick in my pussy. If you feel like you have to lie to me to fuck me then you are not worth me fucking. That's just my point of view. I also feel the same about women, you don't have to lie to me to lick my pussy or for me to lick your pussy.

 

The lady half.

(I can get used to this).

 

Looks like you're taking over the account, Lady half! We despise lying as well. Sometimes we'll avoid certain topics with others (reverse TMI), but that is not considered lying, or is it?

[jdavisauto 73]

2insandiego4u said:

Looks like you're taking over the account, Lady half! We despise lying as well. Sometimes we'll avoid certain topics with others (reverse TMI), but that is not considered lying, or is it?

 

Looks as if I going to have to get her set up with her own account now, Damn I created a Swinger Board Post monster.

God I do love her with all my heart!

[bicuriocpl 90]

Well one time in porn camp.....

 

The only lie we ever tell is to our son as to where we met our new friends. And even that's more a half truth.

 

our life is complicated enough without having to try and keep track of what lies we tell who.

[it'sso 198]

I will occasionally lie about what I do.... or rather omit the truth. I have found that, for some, telling people I run a swinger site gives them the automatic belief that we are bed-post notching bed-hoppers that fuck anything that moves.

 

???? what would be wrong in that?

[RANDJ4FUN 15]

I don't have a reliable enough memory to be a good liar and my wife is too sweet to want to lie. Besides -- what is there to lie about?