Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

[getnit2gethr 15]

From reading the boards it seems that every male swinger enjoys watching his wife have sex with other men. That part of swinging does nothing for me. Am I alone?

[Chicup 42]

There could be a lot of possible reasons for this, but the first that strikes me is just experiance in the lifestyle.

 

Its something I've come to enjoy more as we have gained experiance, it is not something I was all that into when we started.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

You're not alone.

 

Neither of us are into swinging to watch the other have sex with another person.

 

There seem to be few out there like us, we still have plenty of fun and many motivations for swinging.

 

LM

[carlos_pchot 16]

Hi there, you're not alone, there are tons of people that doesn't get turned on by it, mostly soft swingers and that's great also to enjoy, so don't feel so lonely about i hehehe

Take care

 

Carlos

[lovinher 505]

Everybody is weird and nobody is normal. Who draws the line where weird or normal stops or starts? Your OK just like everybody else. We are all weird!

[DBL D 120]

I love to see Fem D have a good time with the man she is borrowing. I love to see them together long enough to make sure things are going well, but other than that I don't really pay too much attention to her unless she gets involved with us. I love it when she starts to moan and I know that she might squirt on the guy!

 

Male D

[prettylady 221]

Everybody is weird and nobody is normal. Who draws the line where weird or normal stops or starts? Your OK just like everybody else. We are all weird!

 

Weird is what makes life so interesting.

embrace your weirdness.

I know it suits me very well.

what you like or dislike is entirely individual and makes you who you are.

Your friend,

Prettylady

[Mr. Truelove 81]

I don't "get off" on watching Mrs. Truelove having sex with men. Now, I do enjoy knowing that she is enjoying it. But it's more of a "yay I'm so happy for her." not a "I get so hot watching that...." kind of thing. It's not a turn off either. I can handle seeing it and being right next to them doing it. Even incident contact is okay. It just doesn't do it for me.

 

Watching her with a woman is something I have only seen in a very "soft" manner. But I do look forward to that experience to see if it is as big of a turn on as I think it'll be.

 

It would feel like something was missing if Mrs. Truelove wasn't part of the experience with me, so I still prefer same room and us playing together. But only because swinging is something "We" do together.

 

I didn't even like her going to the strip club with a girlfriend of hers partially because this lifestyle is something I want us to be doing together, every step of the way. A shared experience if you will.

 

So far it's been great.

 

Mr. Truelove

[Chicup 42]

The above has a good point.

 

I don't 'get off' watching my wife. I want her to have a good time and am happy when she does. I do 'get off' on watching her with another woman though

[Tia Vampire 167]

well after seeing what the guys wrote, i have to say it is the same for me (the female 1/2). i know my fiance wants us to be in the same room because of safety reasons, but the both of us don't like watching each other with others, but we do want to know each of us are enjoying ourselves.i may feel guilty at times, but it is for my own safety.

[Spoomonkey 421]

I "get off" watching Mrs Spoo; if by "get off" you mean I enjoy it. I don't sit there wanking like a monkey at the zoo (though, I guess it'd be excusable if I did ).

 

I have watched her a few times - just sat back and watched the entire thing - and it was great. In fact, we have a weekend coming up with a single male friend where that will be one of the fantasies to fulfill (again).

 

But - as Prettylady said - it is all individual. What you like is what you like. It doesn't make you weird (necessarily). I mean - it isn't weird like downloading granny porn or buttering down your house pets. Swinging is what YOU make it - and that can be applied to all of life in general, really. Enjoy - and don't worry about what others like, dislike or think.

 

Spoomonkey

[ohash01 20]

*Momentary thread jack*

 

I mean - it isn't weird like downloading granny porn or buttering down your house pets.

 

The first thing I thought when I read this was a joke someone told me a LONG time ago. "If buttered toast always lands butter side down, and a cat always lands on it's feet, what happens when you tie a piece of buttered toast to the back of a cat and throw it out the window?"

 

*Thread-jack complete*

J. does enjoy watching me with another man, but for him, it's less for the getting off on it and more on the fact that he love to see me enjoy myself. It brings him the warm-fuzzy kind of feeling...not the hot, sweaty kind of feeling. I've never quite had the...hmmm...patience? is maybe the right word...to sit back and just watch him with another female. I wanna be in on that.

[JTcamp05 9]

Sounds not weird at all......I would call it more of a preferance that anything. We will participate together , but do really prefer seperate rooms. For us its more of a relaxing experience than trying to please the crowd.... Cant say your weird though....

[WesternSwing 504]

I'm with Spoo in this camp. I am a voyeur, and Mrs. WS is my favorite pornstar. I love to see her in action. Now is it all there is to swinging for me... No, not on your life. But it is one of the aspects that really attracts me to it. I revel in her sexuality. I am in this as much for her pleasure as I am mine. It makes me feel good knowing that she is having a good time, and seeing it is even better. Sometimes I do just like to sit back and watch her. As a friend once said, "get me a bowl of popcorn and I'm all good".

 

Mr. WS

[good times 991]

I am with the people here that like it when I see Mrs. GT is having a great time, but can't really say I "Get off" on it or that it is a sexual turn-on to me to watch her have sex with someone else. Fact is, if I was not going to participate in any way except to watch, I would probably not even stay in the room unless their was absolutely nothing else I could be doing.

 

As far as watching two women together is concerned, that was a lot better as a fantasy for me than it was in reality. After seeing it so much at the clubs, it is now actually a turn-off for me.

[clutch 28]

Everybody is weird and nobody is normal. Who draws the line where weird or normal stops or starts? Your OK just like everybody else. We are all weird!

 

Right on! (Goll, am I really that '60's???) Recommend the movie "Kinsey." Great defining moment where everyone he polls asks, "Am I normal?"

 

We're all different, and we're all just fine.

[oc1234 435]

While I do enjoy watching my wife with another man, I really enjoy having sex with another woman while my wife is enjoying the other man.

[losingmymind 15]

We've never swung, I think my DH would freak if he saw me w/another guy. Well I know he would but for some reason he thinks it's hot that other guys want to fuck me. We have friends who swing & the guy has told DH that he wants me. I'm not interested in him but there are other guys I'd be interested in. I'd be totally turned on watching my DH fucking another woman or eating her pussy. That in itself would be an amazing turn on facelick

[roberthebruce 15]

you shouls think yourself lucky. my girlfriend is 29 years old with a great sexy body, big boobs and totally shaven pussy and i would love to watch her being banged senselessly by another guy with a huge long and thick cock "preferably black". if anybody has any suggestions to talk her into trying this i would love to hear from you.

[Spoomonkey 421]

if anybody has any suggestions to talk her into trying this i would love to hear from you.

 

Maybe you could use the "You bled with Wallace - now bleed with me" line...

 

It's pretty inspiring to all sorts of bravery...

 

 

Spoomonkey

[des1re06 200]

This one of the main reason we don't like seperate rooms. Of course she enjoys seeing me too facelick

 

Mr. D

[ackjae0 16]

Yes its weird if one does not get turned on , and would miss a chance to

 

see wife take a cock ...If not turned on then swing by yourself..

[prettylady 221]

Everybody is weird and nobody is normal. Who draws the line where weird or normal stops or starts? Your OK just like everybody else. We are all weird!

 

 

I PRETTYLADY will couragiously(?) dawn the morality police badge of honour and draw this line for all of you to follow with out question! *she says standing tall with hands on hips superperson cape flapping in the breeze*

Then we can all be equally weird.

 

Dog and I don't "focus" on each other when we are with another couple (speaking from my multitude of experiences :rollseyes ). But it is nice and a little kinky to look over and see the one you love look at his partner with eyes buldgeing out of his head because she did something "really cool" that he was not expecting. OK it was a little funny too.

 

I'm not sure it is a turn on for me, I just like it. AND I learnt something new. OK I still havn't quite figured out how to do it, but practice makes perfect

 

Your friend,

Prettylady

[prettylady 221]

Yes its weird if one does not get turned on , and would miss a chance to

 

see wife take a cock ...If not turned on then swing by yourself..

 

 

Not sure I agree with this one. Don't mean to pick on you ackjae0.

We are all different I am sure there are things that I like that turn me on that other equally weird people would not care for. Same going the other way. I don't think you can swing well on your own. I have never enjoyed going to the play ground as a kid to swing by myself, I most definalty don't want to go to my new playground and swing alone.

Your friend,

Prettylady