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  1. 1. Do you take/allow pics to be taken during playtime?

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If we are comfortable with it and the person(s), we'll consider photos. It's completely situationally driven for us, it isn't a straight yes or no answer.

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I only allow pics with my face to be taken by one set of friends. Otherwise, I don't mind, but to insure my face isn't in them, I take and/or edit them. That's for my peace of mind. I don't want one of my grandchildren to be surfing "swingerpics.com or maturecouples.com" or something and see me. :eek:

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We usually take them, yes. Faces aren't always in (most of the time though), but I am also super anal about security. I have a seperate external hard drive that is encrypted w/ military grade encryption. Without a loooong password... its just an expensive door stop :-)

Since we aren't that much into porn, we enjoy looking at our sex ploits :-)

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I voted 'no', but if it were with our camera and we could edit our faces out (along with our playmates if they so wished) we could/would allow it. Or if we trusted the playmate to edit out the faces - and not keep one set with faces... I am really paranoid about what COULD be done with photos. So really, yes or no doesn't apply.

 

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I didn't answer, because I don't know. I'd lean towards "no" though, but with the right friends and the appropriate trust level, I think it would be very cool.

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At first, we were totally against it. However, now we support it but without faces or any distinguishing characteristics shown.

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I have always done a lot of photography so it was quite natural for us to want to take pics of our swinging activities.

 

Almost all of our swinging has been done with a very close male friend. I have shot pics and video of him with my wife, and he has shot pics and video of me and my wife. And when we started MFM swinging with him, it was only natural that we did video of it.

 

While we don't want the pics or video posted on the web, we have given him copies of all the pics and video. We have also told him he can show the pics and video to anyone he wants to. Since he is in most of the videos, we know he will be selective in who he shows them to.

 

He has shown the video to a guy we also know, and we are fine with that. In fact the thought of someone else watching the video turns both my wife and me on.

 

In fact, we have toyed with the idea of having this other guy take video of some of our MFM swinging with our friend. Both my wife and I are cool with the idea. We just haven't been able to arrange a time yet.

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Yes we take pictures and video as long as the others are in agreement.

We just had a mfm and i made a nice Video clip and sent it to him as a thank you for the great time and hope to do it again

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I did a search and didn't find anything about this.

 

Do you take/allow pics during playtime with friends?

 

Photos are fun, I have taken them during play dates. As long as you respect the others wishes about privacy.

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Why not, it makes the play more colorfull...some moments are great to remember, and sometimes is great to see the action from "outside"

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At first we did not allow pictures. Now we enjoy having pictures and videos made during our Play Time. We especially like watching videos of us with our friends.

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If we are comfortable with the playmates, than yes. We take pics too. We swap pics. Than we both have blackmail material. :hahaha:

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We are usually the ones taking and keeping the pictures and videos. Most of the people we play with do not mind. My current B/F loves the idea but we do not post them in public. we have sent him many of them with a promise he will not post them on show-their-wives-in-compromising-situations.com!

 

That said, we have had people say no. Maybe we are a do as we say, not as we do couple? :(

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As other have said, it depends on how comfortable we are with who we are with and what the situation is. That being said, we have yet to be comfortable enough with anyone to allow pictures after our clothes are off, so I chose "no".

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Just my personal opinion and I stress MY OPINION! This is not a judgement of anyone here.

 

I would not allow pictures or video of myself. It would make me feel cheap.

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It definately depends for us. I wish there had been a "sometimes" option. Another F we play with and I are both REALLY into grown-up "dress-up". We're talking hair, make-up, crazy accessories, to the nines, dress up. And sometimes the results are definately not to be forgotten, so we'll snap some pictures. We usually don't do actual play-pictures. I just don't dig seeing myself rolling around sweaty and naked. However, I LOVE blow-job pics. I always have this naughty look in my eye.

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Personally, we don't have a problem with photos...porn with us in it is much more exciting to us than pics of strangers getting down! However, it's also not something we pout about if others say 'no'. One thing that we don't like is those who like to play 'Director'...""Hold her ankle behind your ear while he does a handstand..." :nono:

 

What we do with others who don't mind photos is that we leave the digi-cam on the nightstand and whoever feels like snapping a pic does (Fellas, some of the pix that the ladies shoot are seriously hot! :EG: ) Later, as a prelude to the end of the evening we pop the camera's card into the 'puter and everyone reviews the pix. After we have deleted those that the ladies deem 'unflattering', I burn the rest onto a disc for them to take home. We have even, when asked, blurred out faces, tattoos etc. out prior to saving. As with most aspects of the Lifestyle...it's all about respect.

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We've experimented with it a little bit and we like both the photo session and reviewing the pics later. No swing yet, just the two of us - so this may not qualify as "play pics".

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We genuinely enjoy taking pictures of our playtime. In fact, we wish we could find more playmates who felt the same way.

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We love pictures too! We don't really mind about faces so much. We've talked about entering a few contris to one of those voyeur websites.

 

Got some really hot girl/girl stuff with them all decked out in their goth gear (fishnets, school-girl skirts, etc.)

 

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We're in the "sometimes" category. I think we've taken pictures with two couples so far. The trust level definitely has to be there, as well as Mutual Assured Destruction (MAD, for those of us old enough to remember that term).

 

When I was single, I never, ever allowed boyfriends to take pictures of me nude. I just figured that eventually we'd break up, and even if I had pictures of them nude, everyone knows it's worse for a woman to be exposed like that. I'm naturally paranoid as well.

 

When we first started playing, I felt the same way. Didn't see the point of pictures. But then I turned 40... and was in good shape for about five minutes... and started thinking that I'd like to have a reminder of the good fun we were having, especially while we are both happy with our bodies.

 

Mr. Fuse and I have been evolving in several ways, and taking pictures during playtime is now occasionally part of the fun. Personally I'd rather be in the moment most of the time. But I like looking at the pictures too...even though porn leaves both of us flat. Porn actually makes me laugh because it's so fake.

 

During a threesome we had a few weeks ago with the female half of a couple we're close to, we set up the camera to automatically take one picture every minute. Although it was still a distraction, it worked well and no one had to play photographer. Later in the play, I got up and grabbed the camera for some different angles. However, when the husband was over for an MFM the next week, I didn't even want to think about a camera in the room, because I didn't want anything taking away from the experience.

 

The main reason we've started allowing it is that as we've gotten older and getting a little bit more acclimated to swinging, we care less if people find out than we used to. When it comes down to it, it's a little like metering what you write in an email or say in a voice mail... if it would be catastrophic to have it broadcast, then the answer should be not to do it.

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I'm camera shy with my clothes ON, but it doesn't seem to bother me as much if I'm . . . distracted. So yeah, with the right people/situation we're okay with it.

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It definitely depends on our relationship. We have taken them and have posted some on our blog. I personally love them and would love to have more!!

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There's nothing hotter than watching your own partner be the star in a homemade porn. I like to relive the moment over and over.

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I voted yes. What we do is we take the pictures and then burn them to CD on the spot using a laptop that we bring with us. We usually only do this with playmates we trust.

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I think I might come from a different side of the coin than most. I spent several years in front of the camera for an amateur site and played with many other couples who were also swingers/ amateur web girl/couples. There were several that I met that started off as swingers and then as they got more and more involved with their websites it all became about the pictures. They would play with you ONLY if you were ok with pictures (and the pictures being posted). It definately takes a little something away from the fun of it when you get to that point.

 

If someone was only willing to play with a camera my answer would be a definate NO. At this point I also have to take my hubby into consideration and how he feels about it and how pictures being found might affect his (or even my vanilla) career were they to be seen. So that said, the only way I would allow picture to be taken is if I really knew the other people involved and knew that those pictures were going to stay between us and them.

 

Keep in mind that the person who TAKES the picture owns the rights to them. However, they still need to have a signed release from anyone in those pictures in order to use them on a website (or in any way make money off of them). That doesn't mean that many don't post them anyway... and sites like wifepost or others that are free, may be a different issue altogether.

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We have allowed a few men to take photos of me (female half) giving oral or showing penetration as long as my face is obscured. Together, we have enjoyed some of the wife posting sites and have thought about posting some of our own but haven't yet done it.

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We love to take pictures and videos of our encounters. It is a lot of fun and hot to look at and watch later. Even post on other sites. She loves to show off and it shows in her pics and vids. So if likes it I will shoot it

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We have taken pics but only just the two of us. I enjoy looking at them, it is a huge turn on for me. We haven't shared them with anyone. I delete most and edit them so Tina couldn't be identified.

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As we've grown into our lifestyle niche, we've found that B is an exhibitionist and I am a voyeur. Most of our encounters have involved pictures, however this has never been a criterion for us to meet or play with anyone. Somewhere along the way B became a Southern Charm. Once our not so secret was found out, guys thought if they were willing to allow us to post the pictures then that guaranteed something, so we decided to keep the two aspects of our lives separate. I love to take pictures. I'll ask if they are comfortable with the idea, if not, there is no disappointment just more involvement. If they want on the site they have to ask and most back out after learning about the releases.

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Though the poll is closed, we would vote No.

 

We have been asked this request by a few we have played with and always politely declined. For us, it is a big issue of trust and no matter how much one feels comfortable with a couple now, no one can predict the future especially in a changing dynamic like the LS. There have been many we have enjoyed being with who never-the-less have drifted away or vanished. We can't help think of the consequences of if we allowed pics to be taken and the uncertainty of once we have no direct control over them. Not to mention if someone flakes out over some drama real or not, which can come sometimes out of nowhere in the LS. Just not worth the risk. We'll stick with the photos in our mind of past encounters...sometimes they are more exciting :).

 

Besides, we've taken photos and videos of ourselves before and upon repeated viewing there is the "Do I really look like that?" factor that makes it anticlimactic.

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Mmmm, I was able to vote in the poll. I voted no, but we have at times done pics and videos with trusted friends.

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I voted no. I don't want any potentially compromising pictures of me out there, and it is totally not a turn-on for me. The Mr does like a few, but he respects my feelings on this. Not sure if this new legislation in Canada will cramp anyone's style (I sure don't have a problem with it!) Cyberbullying legislation to target spread of intimate images - Nova Scotia - CBC News

 

I often wonder when I see group sex shots posted if the consent of everyone was obtained ahead of time. It especially bothers me when single male profiles have clearly identifiable faces of women in their pics. (usually giving blowjobs, of course) It is, in fact, one of the criteria I use to winnow out undesirables.

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Since we started playing in the mid 80s, we have taken still photos and videos of us playing with one particular couple. They split up in the late 90s but we have continued playing with the husband who has been our best friend and the one who seduced us into swinging in the first place. We still enjoy all the videos we have taken and he, with our permission, has even shown to some of his friends. It has never been a problem with us and since we have been very open nudists for 40 years, the thought of other people seeing nude pictures of us is not something we worry about.

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I often wonder when I see group sex shots posted if the consent of everyone was obtained ahead of time. It especially bothers me when single male profiles have clearly identifiable faces of women in their pics. (usually giving blowjobs, of course) It is, in fact, one of the criteria I use to winnow out undesirables.

 

Good point. I always wonder, too, and it definitely has me thinking not positive things about the person's judgment and discretion.

 

M. has a photo of my back on his phone, but he's stylized the image so much that it's unrecognizable. Even that was a stretch for me, because I don't want any photos taken of me that I wouldn't want my children to see.

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I have come across many couples and single bi guys that want pics of play sessions for their profile. The pics are taken with their phone so no one else will be able to have extra pics or have pics without permission.

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Personally, I wouldn't mind as long as there is a mutual agreement and understanding in what manner the pics would be used. Now if the Mrs says no, then it would just be no pics!!

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This is what I love about this board. As seminewbies we have yet to think of, much less talk about, many things that might come up in our play experiences, and this board provides an opportunity to have a heads up on topics to discuss before we are actually in the thick of things.

 

As for the original question, I would say no. For someone to possess pics of me in that manner, it would require a huge amount of trust because I would be too paranoid about them sharing the pics without my consent. And unfortunately, from what I have seen, the law doesn't protect a situation where you consent to let someone take pics of you and they share them without your knowledge.

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Yes. The couple I play with, we take photos. Took some on Saturday. Maybe I will post a few.

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We will do pics as long as we feel comfortable with the other couple not sharing them. Of course once they leave your possession you don't know what will happen so you have to be prepared for the consequences!

 

We have taken pics and put them on an SD card for the other couple.

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During our second time playing with our new playmate SK, he mentioned it was fine if I took pictures and I hadn't even brought up the subject. He and our long-term playmate Bill are good friends and, with our permission, Bill has shown him some the pictures and videos I have taken of my wife and Bill playing. So he seems to want some pics too which is fine with me. While my wife and I don't necessarily want our pictures and videos posted on the internet, it would not be a disaster if it happened and we are fine with Bill or SK showing them to their friends.

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As a couple we have made the decision to tread lightly when it comes to pics or videos during playtime. As many have shared it depends entirely on the specific situation. Though when the mood strikes we have happily assisted in taking steamy pics for our playmates! ;)

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We are real newbs, but the one time we have played, it was G/G with a couple we met online. The first night the ladies started playing on the sofa and there were no pics or videos, it wasn't completely expected (i.e. we met for drinks, went to their place, and late in the evening after a bottle of wine and fun talking, the other woman asked my wife if she could kiss her - Nikki said absolutely and one thing led to another!)

 

For the second (and last - due to us moving :( ) date, we knew what was going to happen, the ladies changed int0 nighties, went into the bedroom, and my wife had asked her if they minded if we captured it on video if we gave them a copy. We were surprised when they said no problem at all, as they, like us, were very much into discretion. I videoed it and gave them a nicely edited video of the action. We still are VERY glad we have the video to remind us of that incredible evening!

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